Fiancee Wants To Quit Job To Be A TRAD WIFE Because Of TIKTOK... Should I Cancel My Wedding? 

Country girl here. My family use to own pigs, and I remember my cousin had wanted to throw her baby shower at our house. Her boyfriend and his friend wanted to go see our pigs. So when they got over there, they both started throwing up from the smell of pig shit. City folks come down here thinking they could handle it. I lived the countryside most of my life, and when you're working with livestock, you have to have a strong stomach because theres a lot of things you gotta deal with. Such as cleaning the pins, dealing with open wounds, infections, hauling big ass bags of feed, etc. Plus, when it comes time to kill them, it takes a lot to prepare the meat... my least favorite part was cleaning the chitlings!!! So I dont know why these tiktok people think it's cute because It's not its a business.

I was a trad wife, then i became a trad single mother of 11 children, (the oldest being 15 and the youngest was 1, yes i had 11 chidren under the age of 15). I did everything from scratch... EVERYTHING, including sewing their clothes, crocheting hats and scarves and growing our own food because I couldn't afford the grocery store. Not only was it time consuming it was overwhelming. It was rewarding in hindsight, but many a night, I was standing at the clothes line at 3 am crying because I was so tired, so burnt out and so overwhelmed. My only saving grace was that I undewrstood that my life was 100% - 24/7 about my 11 children, not about tik tok, you tube or looking pretty. Not only did I not have time to put on makeup, I didn't even own any makeup. These so called "trad moms / wives" on tik tok don't have a fu----n clue... SMH

Why do people call nara smith a trad wife??? She is literally a successful model and still models while being a MoM! She makes her own money, shes the opposite of the ‘traditional wife’. All she has is a passion for cooking, and she dresses up whole doing it, which is part of the theatrics of social media.

No one, and especially not young children are going to be happy waiting for their cereal to be made from scratch in the morning, AFTER being asked “What would you like for breakfast?” Ridiculous.

If your SO is getting swayed by tiktok trends, RUUUUUUN!

Hey, I'm in Italy. No one. Repeat with me: NO ONE who is working does home made pasta. Grandma's, staying at home wives sometimes find time to make Homemade Pasta. It takes time. Now, my girlfriend owns a farm. And it's only her and her dad. Farm with vineyard, with a vegetable garden, and fields for crop. The only animals in the farm are about 10 chickens and a dozen big rabbits destined for the oven. They DO NOT sell any of their own grown vegetables and animals. Believe me it's a lot of work. No vacation, almost no weekends free to see friends or play games unless it's winter. And even then you have work to do. The phrase: WORK AT A FARM IS NEVER DONE is a fact!

Youre correct about the trend but Nara Smith is different. She’s an actual model. She works so this doesn’t apply to her. Her husband also bakes. So although she makes things from scratch, that family isn’t traditional.

I'm a trad wife, but when I started it was just called stay at home mom, and then i just learned about all the crap in everything we eat so i started making things like bread from scratch at home. But i think the difference is I grew up on a farm. With actual traditional parents and grandparents that I helped grow crops and tend to animals. When i was 14 i planted okra that grew taller than me, then my daddy went and cut it, and I had to cut it up, freeze it, and then i cooked fried okra for like two years off that one garden. I at 14 cooked full meals for a family of four and sometimes more families, so when i got married and moved away, i went through empty nest syndrome. It was weird. Now I'm the stay at home wife i never thought i would want to be, and i see all the things my daddy had me doing as a kid and teen was the better way of doing things. Like gardening, taking care of chickens, like canning, freezing, and dehydrating food. Damn in 2020 and 2021 when the supply chain was fucked, i was like "shit, i need to figure this shit out". I don't think ya'll realize a lot of this stuff is a reaction to instability in our countries. Am i making fucking cereal? No, but i can making cinnamon rolls, and I couldn't do that just few months ago.

She claims to want to become a trad wife to care for all his needs? Then him letting her know that's not what he wants should be the end of it.

As someone who grew up and lives in a Romanian village...these people have no idea what it means to grow your own food or take care of animals...

My mom was a trad wife. She was tired and resentful. She took it out on us in every way. Shouting, beating, with holding... It was tough for all of us.

It’s just scary how people latch on to these trends and let it be the basis of their whole life and personality…BBL culture, tik tok dances, TRAD wives, Red pill blue pill purple pill, clean girl aesthetic, mob wife aesthetic, gym culture… eating 1000grams of protein just to post your ass on instagram, only fans. And all the other shit that has been popular in the last 2 years.

This is the next level of. "I want the wedding not the marriage

“And thoes animals are going to be better off, because they don’t have you” 😂😂😂

My mother is traditional wife, she has been physically emotionally abusive to me ever since I was a child. She also tried to murder me once by choking me. Remember just because a woman is a traditional wife doesn't mean she is a good woman. Women are defined to be good by their mindset and actions not by being modern/traditional I have learnt this lesson in life.

My friends and I did the trad wife thing. Some were stay home moms, some students, some worked, some with no kids, and some were a mixture. However, we did it as a village. Some helped babysit for others, some had gardens and/or fruit trees (all growing something different, some made bread, some could crochet/ sow/ knit, some made pasta, everyone did something to help and we just shared our things, helped with services including helping with boring cleaning. I don’t think we could’ve pulled it off without each other and help from other fam members occasionally. Quite often if someone works part time or they have a job that doesn’t pay much, both people working actually costs more bc daycare and other short cuts the family will make (eating out or buying mostly premade meals, paying for haircuts, and more) to make things easier would actually have more money if the person making less stayed home

Grown Woman letting tiktok dictate her life of all things

My wife is a traditional wife, we’ve been married for 15 yrs. I can assure you there is no way she’s making cereal from scratch. She is genuinely way too busy for that nonsense. She does occasionally make bread and tortillas though

When my kids were tiny and I got to stay home I loved keeping the house looking perfect and making everything from scratch and I am grateful no one put me down for it back then.

I have an old cookbook with bunch of old recipes from my grandmothers/great grandmothers time. It´s a lot of really SIMPLE and QUICK! potato based, flour based, grain/oats and beans based recipes. "Put it in the oven and let it cook/bake while you do something else" type of recipes. In an old traditional household a lot more than a cooking needed to be done, so if you spend half of your day just cooking, when did you do the other chores around the house? Not to mention all the garden, backyard and field work you did outside of the house too, some women even worked in factories. Of course, most of the things that required manual labor to do can be now done by a machine - washing laundry or dishes, vacuum cleaning,... And as soon those things were invented and became more financially available, people took advantage of that, because no one really wanted to do everything by hand. Children used to play outside with other children and/or helped with adult work when they were old enough, many had to "grow up" quickly to help raise their younger siblings, some went to school only in winter and helped in the field in summer....For all of those reasons, and many more, the "traditional wife" today is different than it was before.

Not discussing life goals and roles in the house before marriage often ends in tears.

This 'Trad Wife' trend used to be looked down on. I was a stay-at-home mom that took a lot of flack for not working. I was looked down on and described as lazy and unmotivated. I had 4 kids and child care has ALWAYS been expensive AF. And regardless of how much I worked, 85% of my paycheck would pay for child care. It was cheaper to stay home with the kids. Now 2 incomes are needed for maintaining a household, financially. I have respect for couples that can navigate life on one income but unless he makes 6 figures, it's not feasible in 2024.

My mom was a stay at home mom and she struggled heavily with depression. Her life revolved around us when we were children and it stole a lot of experiences from her and that’s not even including the fact that she was a teen parent. Glamorizing that lifestyle is frustrating to me because I grew up in a home where my mom was a “trad wife” and it wasn’t easy. We were fed and clothed of course but we didn’t get to do much cause we were living off of one income. I rarely even saw my dad cause he was in the military working all of the time or on deployment. Our home life was hell because of trauma and what not so maybe it’s different for others who didn’t have lots of trauma. Anyway, being a housewife is not easy unless your husband is rich and you have no kids. It’s easy to clean and cook for the household, I do it myself today but it’s so easy for me because I don’t have kids and the people I live with make decent money. At times I get depressed though because my entire being revolves around cleaning, yard work and cooking. I have no other aspirations to work towards so I’m stuck in a house all day scrubbing floors and doing the same mundane stuff every single day. It’s definitely a privilege to stay home and take care of the house but it can be extremely depressing especially when you have no life outside of home care.

Making real food from scratch for your family is the most important thing on earth! Just don’t expect it to look like a magazine clip! Traditional motherhood looks like a beautiful tragedy! If you can’t afford this life’ move and downsize! Accept the lifestyle he can afford you with grace and thankfulness!!

“I want a farmmmmm!” 😊😊😊 the way Aba nailed this! 😂

My Dad's family has had a ranch in Colorado since 1876. My Grandma (born in 1913) raised 4 boys and when they were teens she went back to work as a teacher. She used to take eggs and milk "to town to trade". She had a garden and canned everything, butchered her own chickens, made 3 meals a day, made bread every Saturday and made my Grandpa breakfast every morning at 5, (There are no weekends on a ranch). When I was a kid in the 70's, she was still using an old school wringer-washer. I spent all my summers with her and it was a blessing! I learned so much from her! These women that say they want a farm have no idea what that really means

"I'm not gonna make the bread imma buy the bread" Realest shit I ever heard cuz in one day if just laundry and cooking dinner I be feeling like death

I grew up on what's called a "gentlman's farm", a few animals, a big garden. A tractor. Composting. It's a manageable option, but even that's a LOT of work. And only sustainable if you have a suitable home and income. And work ethic.

She loves the glamour of farming / trad life but don’t understand - a) the hard work it takes be a farmer / trad wife in rural areas of Bangladesh or Idaho, USA b) social media will never show you behind the scene I am just flabbergasted that folks have become this gullible

I dont understand the extremes in either direction on this. My husband and i are fortunate enough that i could stay home and look after the children full time until they both went to school. We definitely made some choices to live a very simple life for me to do so, but it was a really lovely time. I really, really loved being home looking after the house and kids full time. The year before our youngest went to school I updated my vocational skills and i returned to work part time and as the kids grow older I will work more hours. My life is definitely more about my kids and I am not a career minded person, but the extra income is really good for our family and the security of having a skilled job is very reassuring. If the need ever arose i can pivot very quickly into working full time, and nobody knows if or when their situation will drastically change. And the thing is, my job directly relates to the skills i practiced as a stay at home mother. I enjoy my job and the money is good for my family. I dont know why the concept of making caring for your home and family your main focus and having a stable job to support that ( as opposed to a career) is such a difficult concept to figure out.

You've got to pick and choose where the time goes. When my kids were little I had more time than money, so I did make most foods from scratch. Not clothing. I even made cereal - granola (it's easy, fast, and made in bulk). I used a bread maker to make my homemade bread. But I also had a spouse that participated in housework and childcare. I grew up with a stay at home mom and she stayed awake til 2 and 3 am many many nights cleaning sewing baking bread. We were not rich by any means. It was cheaper to make your stuff at home in the 80s. It's possible to be a stay at home parent doing all that home labor, but yeah, you're probably not gonna hand make cocopuffs.

My wife is a full-time mom to three (17, 8, and 1). We have machines to do all the manual stuff, she does grocery pickup so she doesn't need to walk around the store...and y'know what? That means more time with the kids, which is the goddamned point. She will make homemade bread every so often because 1) she enjoys it, and 2) it's infinitely better than anything in the store (crock bread - jalapeno cheddar is our favorite). I'm grateful I can work from home (full-time) so when she needs to do something I am here to help out. These influencers need to go away. I think the housewife/trad wife discrepancy was more about the negative connotation with housewives in the stupid shows of the same name. I don't think that was intentionally an issue, I think she was just speaking from her limited knowledge.

I'm a stay at home mom. I can assure you in real life most of the time I'm doing things like vacuuming and scrubbing toilets. But I do have time to make homemade goods yall really over estimate the time and energy it takes to make baked goods lol. I would never in my life make cereal from scratch that is excessive and ridiculous. Bread and pie though isn't that hard.

No shade to ya’ll, but I don’t think Nara Smith was the right example. She never claimed to be a “Trad Wife” (I hate that term and the fact that we name everything nowadays, btw), I think she truly just loves cooking and showcases that.

The fact making yeast takes 3-5 days from scratch. As an active mom I love making things from scratch myself but the reason why everyone loves my speciality cooking it’s because it’s rare I’m making things from scratch. Even though I prefer to. It takes time we don’t have and I just try to do it when I can on occasions. It hits different when you get the rare raw fresh baked/cooked food. Otherwise it’s frozen/ canned in water fruits and veggies if there’s no good quality on sale. Even, if I go to the farmers market. Also, getting certain fruits and veggies out of season is not going to taste as fresh so don’t do it. Unless you’re doing a preservative or fragmenting it.

Forget the whole tradwife thing: Just the mere fact that she's engaged, and has decided to make a huge life-altering decision based off of some heavily curated and romanticised tiktok videos, means she's not mature or grounded enough in reality to be in a marriage. As someone from a legal background, I can also tell you that women who just consume and don't have their own income are entitled a lot more money and resources in a divorce. Why? Because alinony laws which were initially intended to stop cheating men from leaving their old wives and family destitute will be used to compensate her for sacrificing her career to care for the family. With a divorce rate of over 50 percent in the west, a marriage to a woman like her is like taking a random guess as to which wire will difuse the bomb and which will cause it to blow up immediately.

Yeah I'm a woman and the 'I want a farm' woman annoy me. I homestead, I raise like 90% of the meat I eat and much of the produce. Whenever I mention *eating* what I grew from birth suddenly they get all squeamish. They don't want a farm they want to be a 'crazy-cat-lady' but with goats.

When my Nana, husband and Auntie move to Australia. She lived in a town where she lived on the outskirts in the middle of nowhere and it was hard to get stuff. Luckily she was a housewife and she used to cook everything from scratch. You couldn't get in your car and go down the shops. I asked her why she stopped doing these things. She said it was a lot of time and you are mostly run down all the time. She had four kids and she used to make it all breads, ginger ale, ice cream you name it she did it. When I grew up she was a plain old Nana that usually bought things from the shop. Unless it was dinner that was made from scratch. Breakfast was always toast or cereal. Lunch was always sandwiches and fruit with a cheeky snack. Simple stuff. My mom was a mixture of a housewife and a working wife which to me seems more insane and I have not heard much about these wifes. My mom would wake up super early to have a quick coffee start mountains of washing every single day. Hang all that out. Take care of the pets. Get us up as kids get us to Nana. Get herself to work 9 to 5. Get home. She never leaves any dishes on the sink doing them three to four times everyday, always swept the floor morning and night. My mom was a neat freak so it was constant housework and then Nana would bring us to her. She is still this way today and I'm worried that if she ever stops or gets sick she will have a mental breakdown. If you couldn't keep up to her standards, you were seen as messy and lazy. Plus she also took care of everything for my dad as in all the house bills because he was a full-time truck driver. Dad always had cooked meals, fresh clothes, mountains of fresh clothes, anything he needed she provided and when she hears that women don't look after their men she's like. How do you even get married? Why are you even together? What's the point? Why don't you look after him like he looks after you? People used to comment when they saw my dad's meals and say somebody loves you which he would smile. He had never in his whole life. Had a woman. Take good care of him. Women don't want to listen to the older women and how much it sucks. I mean you know how much it sucks but you don't want to hear the whole story from their mouths.

4:04 some houses are so big - you need 4 people vacuuming 24/7 just to keep it clean - alone.

She wants a farm while I can barely keep a houseplant alive, let alone have a farm.

“Trad” is attainable, but it’s harder than most think. And it’s not pretty or aesthetically pleasing like they show on social media. It’s 18+ hour days, dirty, always cleaning and doing chores. crunching finances, worrying about weather, frost and seed archiving (if you farm) and not to mention being very isolated sometimes. You are techincally still WORKING. Just not a a corporate 9-5. Some women and men love it, and all power to them. It’s a refreshing different way of life, back to the “old ways.” But those who just want an easy way out (and whom always had a cushy corporate life) is in for a rude awakening.

I'm not a tradwife, I do work part time because we have small children and don't want to pay ridiculous daycare prices. Now, it is super easy to make bread, the easiest in fact. You just weigh out two thing, throw them in the mixer and it will do the work. Then you cover it and put it away and it just proofs, all by itself. You come back and smooth it again or shape it, takes a minute, then cover it and it sits again. Once it's proofed enough you warm up the oven and throw it in. Then it just bakes, and tada! You got fresh bread. Actual work time is maybe 5 minutes. Most if the time is spent waiting. And some bread is cold proof, so it proofs at night when you sleep. Easy peasy. Also, if you spend most of day at home you are cleaning in-between doing things with kids. Also easy and it always stays clean. Do small loads of laundry every day and fold it while kids are getting ready for bed. It can be done. You don't have to be trad, you don't have to abandon your career and lose your relevant skills, and you can contribute to your household savings. Keep your family goals in mind and do what is best for your family

Maaaan. I came here for the comedy, but you guys keep me around with your insights and discussions. I don't think I've seen many other channels on youtube that tackle that balance so well.

I’m 34 yrs old with 3 sons. 12yr old, 16yr old and a 18yr old that moved out and made me a grandma now. She just turned 1.!! Again, I’m 34. I work full time 6:30am-3pm 40hrs a week and so does my man. We get home and my 2boys don’t spend time with us anymore bc they too cool lol. I have time to bake now. Never did when they were little. Now with my granddaughter I’m learning to make jello from scratch and looking into organic stuff but I didn’t even have time to think about that with my own. I breastfed only with my third but let me tell you it was a full time job with lots of overtime hours just to breastfeed and take care of older two. If you want to be a traditional woman go ahead. But do it for the right reasons. ❤

I don't have issue with tradwives-the ones that actually have to take on all the domestic duties-I have a problem with those who glamorize it and think this is something doable because you saw it on tiktok without reflecting upon how. Nara Smith was used an example; she does not refer to herself as a tradwife but falls into that niche because of what she's showcasing. But she can afford that lifestyle because she is a model and an influencer. She has the funds to have time to do this shit because she has other people to take on other domestic duties. Baking and cooking is a hobby and she showcases what she makes. People need to have a reality check.

I’m a SAHM we have four kids total. I got married at 22 now 28. We have three together but I’m raising his 11-year-old too any woman who thinks that being a “trad,” wife is gonna be much easier has lost her damn mind. I’m a navy vet and my job now is more work someways than being in the Navy was I wouldn’t trade it for me. It’s worth it. But I work very very hard and I do have a garden and I do grow some of the stuff that we eat, and I’m also in the suburbs. You can’t expect to be a wipe overnight leave your comfort zone, and then start farming without even knowing basics first. What ALOT of women are DELULU in this way it’s just different bc what they think they want and ACTUALLY putting in the work to do and teaching themselves isn’t as easy as they thing. I’ve NEVER 😂referring to myself as a tradwife lol but I’m huge on my faith. That’s why I do what I do but it hasn’t been without a cost. I’m usually the last one to go to sleep and my husband who’s also in the navy has been deployed every single year while I either pregnant or just had a baby. I’ve done it alone for a few years now pretty young and inexperienced in child rearing but shoot. I was created for this bc I KNOW I was when I worked still. 9-5 wasn’t for me and I often broke down. Just do t equate a different job with being easier. We ALLLLL have to work in life no MATTER what we do. I’ll also add I have no family where I live and although they visit a lot to come help etc when I say I’ve done it alone I really mean that. No ONE is coming to pat you on the back and hang up an award for you saying best stay at home mother and wife ever… so IF a woman is very set in her modern ways it’s going to be a nightmare for her at first bc she will not get that same validation she would get in the work world. I was like 25/6 maybe 🤔 when I came home but remember I was married young and pregnant the OLDER she is and stuck in her ways the harder this transition would be. I’m bold enough to be honest about it. Like I said most are delulu. Try out a garden balcony and making your own deodorant and toothpaste and come and tell me you StILL really want a slower old fashioned lifestyle. But don’t think it won’t be hard on your body sometimes. It IS worth it for me. But I’ve taught myself a lot prayed and fasted about how I can be better and had to have some hard talks w myself. If you aren’t ready for that then no sis it’s not for you. 😂also I hate that 50-60s clothing type style.

My FAVOURITE episode of Preach. He is PREACHING in the purest sense. His FURY at this nonsense is magic, he's not trying to be funny in this at all which makes him UNBELIEVABLY FUNNY to me.

The whole trad thing is nothing but influencers making money by selling glamorous fibs to people. Everytime I see a one of these trad videos, it is someone all dolled up with no kids doing none of the real house work and are just doing some hobbies that show they have way too much time on their hands.

It’s true… I’m a stay at home mom and a house wife while my husband works. I have a toddler and one on the way. I barely have enough time in the day to do all of the regular cooking and cleaning and laundry along with some basic home schooling of my toddler. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE being a trad mom/wife, I never wana go back to working for a company, but it’s work. it’s not that pretty, I ain’t making bread from scratch, I’m buying it at the store. Also I think that if you truly are trad, you aren’t filming yourself and putting it on social media. BECAUSE you’re too busy anyways! lol

12:50 'Yow Bun Dat' u do kno that mean to cheat on her rite? 😂😂🇹🇹🇯🇲

Trad wives aren't really trad wives because they are working. Their social media IS work. Plus, Nara Smith is a model.

I agree with you but Nara Smith is the exception. She is not a trad wife. Both her and her husband are models and work. She said she enjoys cooking and while she cooks her husband cleans up all of the dishes. They also order takeout and eat out as well. These women just like to selectively watch her videos, label her as a trad wife and then selectively skip over the video where she said there are months she doesn’t cook at all and how her husband doesn’t expect her to cook like this - she just loves cooking. She works in the home and out of the home and both parents split domestic and child care responsibilities. Lucky, her husband is on camera doing childcare and helping to make salad and desert. People have just labeled her as a trad wife. She has also said she does not cook like this every day and only does it once in a while - she usually meal preps for her family.

I was a stay-at-home-mom for the first 10 years for my 2 kids. I was often burned out and exhausted, my children always looked good, stayed on a routine, learned to read and write years before their peers, learned to read music, i taught them cooking and cleaning early, i taught them money management, and it was all fun for us. Then when they were school aged i was on the PTO, now they are both currently in the Talented And Gifted programs at their schools. I am always beaming with pride when i think of them. I had no time to dress up and film myself. I was going to their appointments, their lessons, their needs were above mine. Meanwhile, I was a mess, i let my health go, i frequently felt burn-out but i did it all for my children and husband. I only took care of them that i got lost in the years. I had to sacrifice a lot from me not working but i worked very hard to do what i could with what i had to make sure they had every chance possible to reach their potential. People looked down on me as "just a mom" It kind of stung but i didnt care. I loved them tremendously and now i have two amazing well rounded smart teens. "Trad wife" is dangerous because women will think "i can do that" and when they see reality they will just become divorced and bitter.

Thanks for Professor Neil! Didn't know this guy. But I like his perspective.

It's just a new phase, and it will die down like everything else but the consequences of it won't.

Nara Smith never went online and said she want to be a trad wife or ever wanted to be one. People just went around and called her one. Now the difference. She likes cooking for her family and show her fans her recipes. That’s all.

B all your plants are dead LMAOOOO I feel called out You guys are so funny I love it

Yeah, that is a betty crock of s*it. I baked and made things from scratch when my son was a baby and toddler, however, it took days and I didn't put them on social media. I was going from the time I got up, then would sacrifice sleep to bake and try new things. As well as clean up before going to sleep. For example if I made bavarian creme handpies, I made the creme anglaise for bavarian cream, then another day I'd make the crust, then after it completely cooled the following day I'd put it all together. I did all the birthday cakes/desserts/decorating for my son and husband. That s*it took days, even weeks of planning in advance when I made things like the edible poker chips and cards by hand with what ingredients I had because there wasn't a ton of extra money to get fondant, etc. for my husband's poker cake. There is no whipping it up in 1 day, maybe for people that have all the expensive equipment, gadgets, etc, and aren't doing all of the "trad" or actual term housewife duties like the guy said. It's a show. There is a lot of s*it to do. Especially when you have a little one with reflux spitting up on every thing like I did, or wanted to throw his food all over the place before wanting to eat. Or a husband who has to have clean unwrinkled clothes for his job or 2 jobs and eats like a horse. The little fairytale bs is just that, bs unless they have a nanny and/or cleaner because the only time I could really do anything without interruptions was during my son's nap time and when he went to sleep. Other than that, I'd do a little here and there, but it was mostly spent with hands on time. Now my son has autism, but even then, young kids in general can't just be left to their own devices.

Okay, to be fair, though. Scrubbing the toilets and sweeping and mopping the floor, and vaccuming the carpet do not take that long. It's more about maintaining. Most places dont need toilet scrubbed or whole house mopped every day. It is mostly the bathroom and kitchen that requires daily maintenance clean.

Nara, the women who made cereal from scratch, never said she was a trad wife. In fact, she has a job working as a model and she just enjoys cooking.

1:40 looks like HELL😂 I would NEVER

I'm so happy that I came across this video. I went into a new company and I met my coworker who's 22. She mentions many times how she doesn't want to work and says proudly that she wants to be a housewife. Due to the fact also, that I live in Texas and in construction, housewives and farms are normal here and I thought (being that I'm not originally from TX) that maybe this was a thing but now that I've seen this video, it makes sense now. She is a single mom and misses a lot of days from work and yells literally, "I WANT TO BE A HOUSEWIFE!" In the most obnoxious Texan accent 😂

The “ I want a farm” 😂. My mom has said something like this several times and I always remind her of the reality of farming/homesteading

It’s hilarious how out of touch these influencers can be to normal people. But it’s more amazing that people actually try to follow the lives of these influencers, not understanding that most of the time, those influencers are just putting on a show. It’s a sad cycle.

i want to add on an aspect that wasn't really covered. retirement. a family with two incomes is going to retire earlier. but on one? imagine having to work an extra decade longer than you planned because your partner wants to change it up. Why do i have to be the one working into my 70's? how bout we work together, so we can retire young and still have some life left at the end of the hell that is labor?

My mom was mostly traditional as she would cook from scratch and bake from scratch. I definitely see what you mean. However, my mom did not usually work full time. She worked part time or worked hours at a live in job. When she came home though, my mom did primarily cook from scratch. This made it hard for her to have time to clean as much and my dad would give us those chores to do. Also, my mom also was a stay at home mom for awhile.

But a housewife also does everything in the home..... How tf you want to quit your job when you can't afford to? Your girl is being brainwashed by social media and thinks that's a strong argument. Leave.

There ARE cleaning and “get UNready with me” content. Women doing your laundry, folding and putting clothes away. Making up their beds. Washing dishes/ putting in dishwasher. Meal prepping for the week. Cleaning their bathrooms/ toilets. Cleaning up their children’s playroom and toys. Organizing their sofa’s pillows. Wiping down their counters. The lighting a candle once they’re done cleaning. Then shower, do their skin routine and go to bed afterwards. There is a content for everything. You can find them especially on RU-vid. The algorithm it’s going to show you what she watched the most.

1:12 - "Those animals would be better off without you" 💀💀💀💀

Yall should do advice videos

I'm a 33yr American, but the modern day obsession with money is crazy! It wasn't this bad before social media took over. It's crazy!

Kids are hungry but you have them wait for hours for you to make cereal from scratch!!! How is that practical ??

The ammount of city people i know that say they want to have a farm is astounding. Im a city person myself and i do also want a farm. Im currently trying to work for others but most farms arent willing to hire anyone unless its for scraps because farming pays little to no money to the producers. So as of now im working for free in the closest farm to where i live. I get lots of experience but ultimatly the goals is to be payed. No one i know would be willing to do what it do. I also have my own micro farm at my grandparents it only just started producing and i still have lots to do for it to have "profit". All and all trad life is pretty trash and hard. Just wanted to add that most people piss me off when they talk about what i do like its easy work.

If I told my mom I wanted cereal as a kid, and she started making fruit loops with her fucking hands at 8am, I would just fucking move out. At 6 years old.

Simply avoid women who construct their identity from tiktok and instagram, seeing a woman mindlessly scroll through instagram or tiktok is such a huge turn off.

Nara enjoys cooking from scratch and often talks about it in her videos. It's not a bad thing to want to bake and cook from scratch. I also cook from scratch, but never thought to make my pasta or bread. However, recently I've been reading the ingredients listed on processed foods and it has encouraged me to try making my own. This is especially important for me because I've been dealing with stomach issues due to processed foods. I wish I had time to plant my vegetables, but unfortunately, I work two jobs and don't have enough time. I do believe it's possible to add to your lifestyle and it's healthier for sure. I think it's great that Nara is inspiring others to cook from scratch. 😊❤

Great video. Agree wholeheartedly. So in Nara Smith’s defense, she has really bad ekzema and I heard that some people with this condition cook from scratch because of the ingredients and food allergies and it helps them to control their breakouts a lot more. She has never labeled herself as a trad wife, it’s others putting labels onto her. She’s doing what works for her and her family and people have made a big deal out of it and turned it into a whole trend. This is definitely not realistic for everyone, but eczema breakouts are painful and if she has found something that helps, then I’m happy for her.

Y'all nailed it per usual.

These are 100% facts. My SiL is a housewife: SAHM of 3 kids under 9, homeschooling the older 2, very involved in her church. Most of her cooking is semi-homemade and her house wouldn’t pass a white glove test because she doesn’t have all day to spend cooking and cleaning, most of her day is spent on childcare. And no judgement, her kids are very well fed and cared for and she loves doing it. She’s living life on her terms and I wish her the best of luck with it. And she doesn’t judge me for being a working mom, which I have a feeling these “TikTok tradwife” women would do…

I’m a stay at mom in a normal relationship, I make my own bread but it’s because it’s cheaper because my husband has celiac disease so he can’t have regular bread I have to make gluten-free and if I buy a loaf of gluten-free bread it’s close to $10 so sometimes you can make time for things that are important, which in my house feeding my husband is important😂😂

From what I remember in the 50’s traditional trad wife stuff was out b/c mass consumerism and mass production of items and grocery stores became popular so barely anyone was making anything from scratch

I think the biggest "gotcha" you missed was that she asked her kids what they wanted for breakfast.... Do you honestly think kids would wait TWO HOURS to get breakfast?!?!?!?!?

Omg they way he said "YOU MADE BREAD!? GO BUY IT STUPEHD!" That fkn killed me lmao

The only problem with this video is the person on the video NEVER claimed to be a Trad wife, in fact is known she is actually a working model. The internet hated that women bcuse she make cereal and oreos from scratch. NEVER Claimed anything in her videos.

I agree with Aba bout people wanting farms etc. As its that easy. I am in the process of doing so that at least i am 50% where i produce most my food intake. You have to know what soil is in your property, what seasons and veggies are in season and whats best for your state. If you want fruits guess what you are not gonna get fruits within a month. I planted blueberries and this takes 2-3 yrs for establishing and getting it to fruit..apples, oranges, peaches lordt anywhere 5-10 yrs. My rasberries and blackberries 1 yr and a bit and thats with constant care and its hard work. Don't get me started with fishing and having chickens, ducks and goats!!!

Each there own! Being a good housewife is a skill!

Omg the gut punch… I want a farm too 😂😂😂

As a stay at home mom of three (out of necessity between health issues & cost of daycare) and I just can’t wrap my head around this trad wife bs. I barely have time for anything between a 12, 11 & 4 month and that’s with my mom’s help. I am constantly cleaning, cooking (or breastfeeding), and taking one of our kids to his special needs program three days a week. Guys this ain’t a dream (everything is wonderful) life. I am constantly tired and have breakdowns throughout the week. And this is with a supportive husband and mother. Sure I get the kids together and make brownies and things (and teach them How to cook) but that’s not every day. I also balance our extremely tight budget. I guess this is the new trend now huh.

When Aba googled the difference between trad wife and whatever and said there was no difference I knew what the difference was- children. Real traditional wives have children and that’s where there is no time left. Trad wives have social media instead. There’s nothing traditional about that.

Lmao Preach with your sassy comebacks 😂😂😂😂 just killed me

1:09 you can’t keep a fern alive and you want a farm? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

My wife is traditional not the trad wife thing. She does have a massive garden I built her, crochet & sew, makes decorations, cooks and cleans. I mean she's Caribbean and was raised by her grandmother who could do all those things. But your completely correct most of them are time fillers. She did sewing & crochet for a hobby until I earned enough for her to stay at home. The garden is a time filler, the crochet & decoration stuff went from time filler to small business because she had the time. Cooking and cleaning she primarily once she started staying at home as well. All was because she had time and wasn't as tired from working. It does save us money and fun to do especially from her standpoint. The trend stuff is mainly for views obviously but some people are like that based on culture and upbringing. I was shocked by just how man people in the city crochet and garden once she start joining groups for tips and tricks. Being Ethiopian and Haitian I'm sure y'all know women who do as well just not for views.

To be fair that woman stated it was a one off (to make a video) and not a daily thing. He's took it out of context to bash her.

Born and raised Southern woman here. I totally agree with y'all. Most of the women now that are under the social media influence have no idea what all it takes to be a so called "tradwife", stupid name. My husband and I used to talk about the possibility of me being a stay-at-home wife/mother one day, but never could see how it would be possible, then COVID happened and I got let go from my job. I am currently a full time start-at-home wife, but I do have a part-time job and am in school full time. I cook every to every other day and love baking, but I've definitely came up with hacks to get through the day and make it easier. Even if I didn't have those things, what most women fail to realize is being a stay-at-home wife/mother isn't for the weak. The shit ain't pretty, unless you're like my baby sister that married rich and has help so she can focus solely on cooking if that's her prerogative. I definitely didn't get dressed up like that on a regular as that mess looks straight silly when you're mopping and scrubbing a toilet. For those that want a farm, start with a small garden first. I can say first hand that it's labor intensive and you're often dirty and sweaty as fuck.

XD "Bitch, your plants are dead." The delivery on that!!

My dad is a obgyn, my mom was a professor that quit it all to raise 5 kids. Her daily life was waking early to cook for all of us, be on our ass to clean all day which no kid really does so she does all that too. Then takes us to school, picks us up from school then drove each of the 5 kids to a different city for Violin/piano/dance/wrestling whatever that kids hobby was. Then cook dinner and clean a larger than average house. And start it all again the next day. Not to mention the drama and stress of dealing with 5 kids school lives, girlfriends and bullying all that crap. She's the number 1 person to go to to get advice, dad is always gone.

That woman making cereal reminded me of the response i would have of that scenario played it and i was a kid: I'd probably throw a tantrum because we had to wait hours for cereal 😂 like, breakfast is over. Plus we have school, so who's gonna eat that cereal!?!?

3:51 I was ready for a preach tawbanawk or however it's spelled

"I'll take you out for dinner right after you do the dishes. Oops! You have to make dish washing soap first... from scratch!" 😂

Being a stay at home wife/mother takes sacrifices!! A lot of sacrifices. My husband and I didn't do fancy vacas, concerts, fancy cars and all the other stuff that folks clammer to. That was how we were able to pull it off with 1 income. I stuck to a strict budget and made sure there was money for any extras my husband wanted. Like I said we sacrificed A LOT to make it work. Most aren't willing to sacrifice creature comforts to do so. Our boys are grown and now we are enjoying our time together and reaping the rewards for it. 😁