SHE IS BACK. “If He Wants To Split The Bill, WALK AWAY” - Therapist 

I love this story.

I like this. You found true love with the bartender. HomieSexual love. 😂. (I'm only teasing you man)

i never pay for women they are quuens they got it

What was so hard about running out to your car to retrieve your wallet?! It’s not that big of a deal.

What a legend!

Pearl Davis 😂

Ppl do have wisdom.

That's the real question we need to asking here

@@pit3bull360 cause they can afford to be and are much smarter than the rest of us lol

Dating coach is a red flag for a relationship

this is gold haha

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These schrodinger terms 😂

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He reads people at a collegiate level

That's what I said. I don't want to Owe the guy

"I know women who don’t feel safe UNLESS they pay for their own meal or coffee, because they don’t want to owe the guy." Yeah, I'm one of them.

this.

The original I pay "from a man" It comes as: I choose who to take home. So as one pay, one get to say no without feeling he is stealing money. Or something like that. You need to pay, because you are taking time and effort (supposedly girls takes effort to date). And in return you can say no without feeling conflicted. Modify to tell more: in other times, men used to earn money, woman not. So you invite a girl to offer the life style and a secure home, that if, she is chosen. Thats why, a man pay the bill, because he doesnt need to felt bad for make a woman dream about a future.

I noticed some women just default to that as a response to many things, and some of them are actually feeling unsafe and insecure quite often, but those are the types I’ve never liked and I’d stay away from them. Idk I’ve just always liked the ones who are confident in themselves and don’t need a man to be this and that for them. I swear some women just operate in a completely different frame of mind from each other, so fells know which is gonna be trouble.

The crazy part is how some of them can completely fabricate stories that never happened to make themselves the victim no matter what.

I have had similar situations like this but now I use that 3rd or so date as a test to see if she will split or pay for the check just to see if she is the one for me 😭

Lol just the beginning of your story is funny, drove 20 miles haha I can't rationally comprehend what some of you guys do to get a woman. lol I'm so glad monk mode came naturally to me. 😂

I am sorry you wasted your time and money.

That was really rude of her. I hope you’re able to still date without letting that one bad apple spoil your entire experience. My partner and I went 50/50 over dates and vacations all the time while dating at my insistence and I’ve never punished him for it 😅. Looks like you just avoided a shitty person 🧡

"Most romantic thing a man can do is the dishes" Until you start doing them on a regular basis

I agree. The man should do all the housework.

​@av4781 that's true, all women can do is have babies everything else men do better so it only makes sense since he would do it better than you.

@@av4781 If hes a stay at home dad yeah.

@@av4781 Apart from sex (or a child for which he'd be financially responsible for) what exactly can you offer a man? Empathy? Don't make me laugh...look up Briffault's Law, Hypergamy, Solipisism or Hedontics....

After reading this comment, your username makes sense. You're a good person :)

Either a woman like you, or I'm staying single. I have known my criteria for a while now.

I remember when my fiance started working before me while I was still in college. My masculinity was so fragile that I also didn’t want to go out much coz I was broke but she didn’t care, she wanted to go out with me and that’s all that mattered to her. It taught me a lot about myself and her. Now she’s my fiance because she’s of the woman she is. I now also have a job and I earn more than her but we still split the bills proportional to each persons earnings. So it’s not 50/50 but I also contribute to household chores and I’m the one that cooks so the chores are also split based on skill and effort needed. She likes to tidy up but when it’s time for a full on deep clean then it’s both hands on deck This dynamic really makes it feel like we are actually partners in this life thing and no one is burdening the other. She once was a victim to credit card fraud and suddenly had debt, that whole year I took up most of the bills so she could pay off the bank, then I also gave her my Christmas bonus to finally pay it off.

I tried to do the same with my ex but he decided to buy video games and spend money of silly things and just expected me to pay for all the meals… and many of these meals I would have to pay for us, his brother, and it friend.. of course there was an issue and it made me upset needless to say he messed up in other ways and we broke up but I found a man who is willing to meet me halfway or take turns; I’m happy that we were able to find good rational men to marry and I wish your marriage well and happy for years to come

Thought you'd say you're 40 and been married 20 years, the way you're so far removed from women today

I bet that hobo was awfully grateful too 💀

based and wholesome.

sheesh i wouldve fallen for you then and there

LMAO ... Too bad dudes or males don't realize when their own attitudes are off-putting. Good for you bro!

I don’t care about traditional gender roles, I’m a 50/50 mfker…. It’s always the guy paying for a date or the guy asking the girl out i Oi b a date meaning “he has to pay”. Bunch of bollocks, it’s either a split bill or not…. There adults who work too

“We demand equality. We demand to make exactly as much money as men. We demand men pay for social interactions because they are the man.”

But but she needs her money for a safety net when she leaves!

Facts they really be making the same as you. Don’t let them act all helpless

Yes I make more than most guys who want to take me on a date. 😅 Exactly why I dont date broke men. I like men on my level.

@@GLoLChibs And men don't? 😂

Yes!!! this is what I used to do as well, parks and lakes are great because even if the date doesn't work out I can always enjoy the view.

Exactly. Something they overlooked in this discussion. For a male this is 1 of 20 dates before he meets anyone long term... Maybe even more. Use that money to work on yourself

I do libraries to talk. Going on lavish so called dates is foolish.

A first date shouldn't be expensive anyway. It's a first date, not a one year marriage anniversary.

This is ideal. First two or three dates should always be on the more casual end precisely for the reasons mentioned above. Then if it seems like it’ll be a longer term relationship then that’s why you get fancier

Ja die gesprekken zijn echt bat shit crazy om naar te luisteren

Ik betaal voor alles :p

I mean, they call it "Going Dutch" for a reason

@@Ebtihuszeggen ze dat echt 😂😂😂

​@@Ebtihus I like that

She must have been a really kind person to think that way

a woman like that is probably happily married by now lmao. too many wrinkles in that ones brain.

Is she still single?

She sounds like a beautiful person, bummer it didn't work out though.

Sucks it didn't work out but she sounds great

the real question is why are you going on a date with a streetwalker then have the audacity to throw shade here

​@@adriantbryanprobably similar to the reasons why so many women go on dates with men they dislike to the point where they need him to pay to make up the "massiveeee" burden it was to go out with him in the first place.

Because they are also skinwalkers ! You never know how a person is until later on ! @@adriantbryan

@@adriantbryanbecause sometimes we just want sex, without having to pay hundreds of $ to get to know an entitled woman who thinks her times worth more than mine

​@@adriantbryaneven streetwalkers are useful for sex

Go where equality and fairness is taught to children...JAPAN, Norway, Australia...

@@JUDALATION You're not going to find that in Japan. Men still have a ritual where the women serve them. When the guy is finished his dinner, he holds his bowl up and waits for the wife to take it, to either fill it up again.

still got married in this day? send your future self my *condolences*

And rightfully so. Men and males are pretty vain for the looks department, especially after old age or pregnancy.

@@leaellas8400 and rightfully so if we’re still expected to pay for everything as if we’re still in the 50s and inflation isn’t a thing. 👀

@@leaellas8400 Who hurt you?

@@mortvald she's not entirely wrong though.

@@saltycat662 I'll humor you, women and female are pretty vain too, even more so than men especially in their young age when they feel like they have all the attention in the world. Don't mean much though, not everyone is like that, so when you see that argument you just have to ask who hurt them? cause that's where this is coming from. ps: if I was a female I would respond by attacking you too, but hey i'm above that.

Yep

I don't think so. I think you've just heard of a bunch of bad relationships.

I think the culture breeds entitlement here in the US. I can only speak as a man. I have never dated a men, I will leave it up to the women to speak on male entitlement. But women in the US have so much entitlement, when they are dating, it's insane. Some will straight up tell a guy which restaurant he should take them 😮

@@avivastudios2311 that's a higher percentage

Stop saying 'people' and just say women

Gender roles are guidelines and not something to be bound by. Men can be flexible when it calls for it. Women want it a certain way because of course it all benefits them, meanwhile they don't stick to their end of the arbitrary bargain

Im similar bro. Not exactly 50/50 with everything but overall we do for each other. I cook and cleans the plates she will do the laundry and vacuum, I take the kids to school, she picks them up etc like you said it’s a give and take but equally and not tit for tat tho just fair. For most of our relationships I spent more money on her by choice and she would always offer to pay for stuff and I’d refuse unless she really insisted or I never had much money at the time. As you said it’s the little things we do for each other rather than just the material and monetary things that count. We are a team and team work makes the dream work, we been together for 12 years now and counting

Yeah me and ex used to go “50/50” on dates. I would pay for dinner, she would pay for the drinks at the bar afterwards. Or I pay for the movie, she buys dinner afterwards. Or one week I pay and the next she pays. It was never a discussion either, we just did it.

@@Owen-sx4jj maybe you need to pick better women or be the men that better women want. Me and the men in my family have women that hold to their roles in the relationship. How old are you that you haven’t experienced this?

@@brumtownmiller6130 oh no I'm good my guy. I'm just speaking what I see in this current landscape. I personally, do the same, it's not something we fight about see.

You definitely dodged a bullet. If a girl did that at your low point that is an indicator of her true character. Zero emotional intelligence.

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this is depressing. sorry it happened. i don't want be 'not like other girls' but i've never been this way on dates and feel there's a lot of women who aren't like this either.

And I thought evil would in dark places we wouldn't go. Even in safe places, we are never safe - especially in relationships

@@spacewhale4384 She could get one too.

sliding into the dms?

Love your video's my guy

It's cause they ain't Elon Musk rich and the women they choose are gold diggers

You should have well over a million subs given the content you create and show the double-standards that are inherent in Western women today!

Legend

yep. Now women want traditional roles but don't realize they're not traditional. They want to dress how they want and do whatever they want but still want their bills paid for. Absurd

Women ☕

Men are not traditional either! So what the fuck are you smoking?

THIS the real issue. I believe as a guy that yes you should the first date. However they pick and choose when they want traditional treatment when they are anything but traditional themselves 💀and on top of that the entitlement is absolutely disgusting

​@wardodoothey are the only ones that do matter

I guess i see that, but I always thought of an ick like it rubs you the wrong way but you cant say for certain yet. More like "this COULD be a red flag but idk if its a pattern"

@kinito992 yeah thats a good way to look at it, but the way I've seen it used has just made me think its a ridiculous thing

​@@kinito992 I think that's called a yellow flag

All the videos I've seen of the ick are men doing normal things like eating and going about their buisness. Crazy thing ia none of them are iIIegal tasks

Using the word ick is so corny

That custom was back from times where women couldn't own property. Let's leave that shit in thr past

2 days ago???

Entitled people are *DISGUSTING*

Your comment is also a bar.

@@Maithebanditposted from Patreon and then they release to public

Very well said.

Same. You show appreciation however possible.

yes

Childish. Just speak up😅

​@@Hardawayfits And do the same thing

@@Hardawayfits nah

Yeah, but also maybe don’t go on an expensive first date to begin with. Keep it casual with just drinks or coffee. It’s dumb that dinner is a standard for a lot of people

Why would you want to see your partner as a bank account us my question to women who do this

​@@Diamondr11BlueIt's a primitive "provider" mentality (man provides for tribe, village, etc.); but society has magnified it into "man drains bank account for proud village DNA dumpster"

I don't know why this isn't common sense

Depends on who ask to go on a date. Asking somebody out and then splitting a bill is just bad manners. Doesn't matter who that is, even with friends. If I ask my friend to go out for a coffee, I am paying. If I am asked out, I expect them to pay.

The question you posed is because women want this traditional aspect of a man while being independent. Doesn’t work.

That seems a sure fire method to filter any gentleman out of your life and open yourself to a variety of deadbeats

@@KrazyKat007Just say you don't believe in equality 😂

Respect :) hope you find someone who treats you well & makes you happy!

This reminds me of something a girl told me once when we were much younger. She tried to rekindle, now that some years have gone by, but I just didn't feel comfortable with someone thinking anything nice I do for them comes from a machiavellian place in the void where my heart should be. Did we miss out on something meaningful? Anyone's guess.

@@PainAmvs_ quiet woman!!! The men are conversing.

She going to destroy more women!

You're a diamond in the rough.

EXACTLY!!! finally someone gets it... like ain t no way i m gonna go at 8-10 PM on a first date at a restaraunt with a stranger, even if i m a woman i still gonna pay for my shit. i like coffee dates sm because they are safe (its day light, people are around and if sum happens to u there is someone who saw that) and they can be even productive and playfull, as i said especially on first dates with people idk. people nowadays are too entitled and comfortable with people they don t even know and thats prey for predators usually, and sadly.

maybe if she wants him to pay for dates when he gets married, her family can pay for the wedding and pay a dowry how bout that?

@@MusMasi lol, they’re not ready to have that discussion. Or that she be a virgin when we marry, if we’re going back to traditional roles?

@@tupactargaryen thats my point they want the best of both worlds, want a *Traditional* man while not being *traditional* women.

That's what always bugs me about this. If you really like someone, they enjoy your time and don't need to be paid for to hang out with you.

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It's really ingrained in men that our company alone isn't "enough". I don't think it should be like that, but it is. The way you did it is really good. It probably sounds stupid, but it's good to hear that it's enough that you're just there. But maybe it's not that stupid. I bet women like hearing things that are obvious like "you look good in that dress" instead of going "well she has a mirror and it's obvious, why should i have to say it?"

I wish more women had you're attitude. It's about showing that you care for the person, being a helpmate which shows you not only know how to recieve but also how to give. Respect to you.❤

I agree with what you came up with. If a man pays for me I would not follow that, next time, with offering to pay half because he has already started a pattern of being generous. I would say it's my turn. If he declined my offer and paid twice I would attend the third date knowing that it's definitely my turn to pay.

Well, it is.

@@rotimioyemade8179 - People should check out from social-media instead and live life by their own rules and standards; rather than those of completely unqualified (grifting) influencers.

Indeed. The problem we have is that most women live their lives in and on social media, which warps their expectations and ruins their personalities. The internet needs to be shut down.

Because it's being played out on social media. On social media there is usually only the side of the persdon with a problem unless the other party speaks up, which people love because they get to watch a shitshow argument play out. Then there are the over exagerations, out right lies, drama hunting, rage farming,. Don't let social media control how you see things, it's a wretched hive of scum and villainy. And don't give up, I found some one very special and "statistically" I'm not "marketable". I'm 50yrs old, single father of a preteen, divorced, drive a kia rio, rent a 2 bedroom apt, 20lbs overweight, make less than 60k ( not to dump on myself, I am pretty cool).

I think this is a good way of putting it. I think whenever dating starts to be talked about in a broad cultural sense, it's often portrayed differently than how it is in reality, on an individual level (this all depends; obviously there's overlap to some extent).

Im guessing you are on your 20's, people, especially on more age, known the stories. Literally men works outside and earn money, and girls don't own anything. So they where invited to a date, where a man pays for everything. That's him saying: If i choose you, you get a life and a house, and every protections i can give. In the contrary, I already pay for your time and effort. Good bye. In the bible exist another thing: Salomon king of everything, used to get girls throwing at him. IF he choses to take a girl on bed, he give the girl a home of their own. So girls where to sleep with a man who in kind repays with a "department" Now the story is different. So makes sense the change.

@@carlosemiralonso7997 Brother... We are in the year 2024 - WOMEN CAN WORK JOBS TOO.

@@kwasiahenkora6583 They can do a lot more stuff, but people in mind live as we are on the prehistoric times. If you ever go to a restaurant, remember to check how everyone perceive you. I gonna bet, they look couples but expect the man to pay. So even society is conditioned to believe certain stuff. On the public transport too, if there is a woman or a disable person they tend to get "especial treatment". I would say "princess like" treatment. Just beware, even if logic is correct, people and specially women dont go by it.

@@carlosemiralonso7997 This is true. I just wanted to point that out.

you seem to have no problem with her needing to feel that way. Men whine about relationships being transactional, but don't mind that women are 'expected' to give out goodies if man pays for the date. Men just don't do anything for women without expecting 'something' in return, it's a delayed prostitution and men in general don't mind. But then call women gold diggers because how dare we ask smth for sex. Just say you want everything for free, women work nowadays and all the crap you say.

Married people don't have advice

you're better off talking to someone on the market for dating advice over someone whose been off it for 7 years in a happy marriage

Advice from several married people: “Don’t get married” 😂

@@weinerglory u sure? Would you take sales advice from a lifelong car salesman who gets by, or the former salesman who retired 10 years ago because he was so successful?

@@_..-.._..-.._ if the lifelong car salesman is still to this day selling every other day, then absolutely i would take his advices, the market may not even be the same from what the guy who retired 10 years ago was used to, his information might be outdated, and perhaps, just perhaps he may have some advice that the guy who is still selling doesn't know, but the guy who is active is always a better source than someone who used to be active

Didn't you hear many women have had bad experiences with men who claim they forgot their wallet to be phony?

It's not necessarily even wise to take advice from married couples. Most of them seem to hate and resent each other, even if they've been married for decades. There wasn't a single happy or healthy marriage in my family except my parents'. Sure, those relatives didn't get divorced, but they didn't get along either, and they were quite vocal about how unhappy they were.

@@AngryReptileKeeper To that I must said: then dont take advice from "younger couples" but for successful happy couples.

Exactly 💯💯. You have become wise.

Most married folk are miserable and you should take their advice with a grain of salt too. I was given so much terrible advice from married folk, I'm glad I didn't listen to them. Misery loves company.

That's the dumbest shit, I've seen more miserable marriages that give out horrible advice than single people.

Are u guys kinda traditional or modern?

​@@CribbzBoidoesn't matter. She isn't cleaning my house or washing my clothes on the first date now is she. None of you people even know what traditional even is.

@@ashenlion805 i didn't say that was supposed to happen on first date. What do you define as traditional?

@@ashenlion805 Apparently neither do you. You have to date traditionally if you want a traditional partner. You can't suddenly expect it after you marry. That's not how it works.

Well it's also this: Let's say a man and a women go on 10 dates with different people The man has to pay for 10, while the woman dates for free. Why do we expect one gender to pay to play?

Men have every right to be cautious. I made the very same mistake a decade ago when I was in college. Real eye opener.

@@Ash_Wen-li exactly 🙌🏽

​@@Ash_Wen-lithose 10 dates are likely about $50/each so 10 dates drops $500 out of the guy's pocket and that could be in a month. The woman drops $50 on makeup for the same 10 dates.

@@Mrmghz1are you stupid? Make up is not a necessity and majority of times women do not use that much especially for a guy they know they are going to ghost after a date

To be fair, her book is worth reading. She warns young women to avoid the same mistakes she made in the past, and backs it up with a lot of studies made by psychologists and economists.

People who have failed often have more valuable advice than people who succeeded. If you succeed, you often don't know exactly why you succeeded, or in which ways you were closest to failure. When you fail, you typically know exactly why, when, where and how you failed.

Oh wow, that's all I needed to know about her lol. Now I'm not surprised about her hypocritical nature

Is that her book mr good enough? I might buy it aye, tho I disagree with some of her statements.. the book sounds pretty good

​@@ogbmtThat's cap. The road to success is paved with failures. People who succeeded learned from their mistakes and made progress. They are more likely to give you better advice. But you should always exercise critical thinking no matter what you hear or read.

It's not. I always payed for my own stuff the first few dates. She's being goofy.

Which is ironic because many women feel safer when they pay because then they feel like they don't owe the guy anything

Not safe as in danger but safe as in secure.

They don't like it when there is mansplaining but they then turn around and infantilize themselves?

Any bum can pay for 5 dollar Coffee how is that a Measure of Security ​@@devinetaemidgett4647

Its also a sign of respect and value. Someone who thinks of you as a free meal ticket will never respect you.

Good point actually🤔

Yeah, that's the whole point for people who seek relationship advice - you are not going to get everything you want, meaning "sacrifice". I don't know why western people find it this hard to understand this simple thing.

100% correct. I tried with a psychologist for YEARS and it was nothing but that- I am the problem, I need to change xyz, I dont do this that the next, but she is perfect, everything she does has some bs explanation. ALL of her peers in the field were similar, ALL had f'd relationships. I avoid ANY women in mental health fields bc they are all trained to treat ppl like problems to be solved, instead of people. This woman clearly is a nightmare in real life, good for nothing more than NSA.

We have always lacked the wisdom to make life better

Look at some of the Mating Rituals of animals, Some even risk their lives to get a mate, spiders/preying mantis the female might eat the male, many mammals they get injured or even die fighting other males. Some Fish build massive stone nests to try and attract a mate, its not just Humans who make things really complicated and time/energy consuming.

Dumb. I can get to know you over a plate of chicken pesto.

The women and her patient in the video said why. Women would feel offended that he wasn't interested enough to buy her dinner. You can get to know someone almost any where. Women make assumptions about interest level based on where and how a man takes her on a first date. The women also said going to a park, hiking, walking the beach, etc makes her feel uneasy and predatory if you don't take her out for dinner first.

It's cultural. In Scandinavia is normal to split the bill or take turn paying. 🤷

The key is "I'm in a relationship ". Women expect "we're in a relationship behavior" on the first date

@@bos9824My boyfriend and I actually established this early on. It's incredibly easy to just communicate whether you're splitting the bill before even going on the date. Many men have done this before we went out together. It has nothing to do with "relationship behaviour", it has to do with communicating your wants and needs.

This anecdote needs more specificity to be useful. 'They" and "Alex" is too vague.

Omg your first paragraph is brilliant! I hadn't thought of it that way before!

Them actually being stingy might actually show that they are better equipped to be able to provide. Some people I know waste all their money on flash things to appear rich yet are heavily in debt keeping a roof over their heads.

Yeah, rationalizing things like that is lame. I also want to know a woman has realistic expectations and sees our potential relationship like a partnership where we’re doing things for the both of us and not just one person. I’m not trying to score a woman who is a prize object. Not to mention we’re definitely not supposed to be objectifying women now 😂

I would say knowing their profession is much better than using the first date to gauge their ability to provided

EXACTLY. i dont get why aba and preach were defending her in this video. Maybe im misunderstanding but they don't seem to see what she said as problematic in anyway, but i do: Maybe this is because I'm from a younger generation, but I took a really different tone from the therapist than the positive one you guys did, I have no respect for her at all...... That type of monetary chivalry comes from a time period and culture where women didn't work and men did, and more importantly, a couple could afford to live off of one wage. Things are different now. It is not a reasonable expectation amongst us poor folk for casual first dates to expect one party to pay for everything, man or woman - unless of course as you guys said its like a coffee. The fact that this therapist thinks its an "ick" inherently that a guy might want to split the bill i think is incredibly out of touch and makes her come across as an incredible conceited entitled and selfish bitch, and I'm honestly shocked she cares enough about people to be a therapist, because as someone intending to work in the same field, let me tell you some of the horror stories I've heard from mentors - people aren't doing well man. This is a ridiculous expectation. I agree with Aba that this is the type of thing i would want to and try to do whenever i could because i as an individual like being generous, but honestly id hope the person im dating has the same attitude, otherwise why would i want to be with them? Whatever happened to relationships being a team? Whatever happened to equality? Also, side tangent, I really hate it when people that are semi qualified in a field (like a therapist in psychology, a therapist/counsellor is a pretty easy degree to get and it doesn't require alot of scientific knowledge, its a much more hands on practical degree, ik bc im currently studying it) pretend that they know more about the science behind things than they do so that they can justify their own biases. In this instance, this therapist wants to justify her out of touch and unrealistic standard that men = bad and undateable if they don't pay for the first date regardless of the reason, so she goes on about some mumbo jumbo about the reason why women want this is because they are wired to want to feel protected. Ummmmm ok thats alot of hoops you've jumped through to get to that conclusion. How do you know that the physiological response that happens to a woman when a man pays for a coffee or a dinner is security? thats kinda dumb. Its just as if not more likely to be something along the lines of gratitude. Most people would like to have their meals paid for them, thats not just a woman thing, and by her presenting this dishonest analogy as to why women biologically want dinner to be paid for, she is setting up this rigid rulebook that all humans have to follow, which again is just absurd, and a toxic thing to promote, especially when she doesn't present any expectation on the woman's part for what she has to offer and how she should behave. Its incredibly one sided. She even admits in the start of the video men don't have many conditions. Soooo many instead of justifying your own bullshit with pseudo science you should take a look at yourself and reconsider whether or not as she said "10k conditions" women have, including this forced chilvary, is fair or reasonable. And SHE KNOWS IT ISN'T LOGICALLY. SHE KNOWS SHE IS BEING A BAD PERSON BY JUDGING PEOPLE FOR THIS. That's just insane. It'd be different if we lived in a world where this is economically viable for everyone. But it isnt. NOT BY A LONG SHOT. ahahaha rant over good video tho

That is a genius move to get a next date. 😂

Facts

Preach.

Equality for fair wage and being able to work and vote and have my own bank account, but I wanted to be treated like a woman, I want to be pampered

@hotheadlewis Well you have equal pay if you're willing to work as long as your male coworkers. You can get a job anywhere you want, you can also own property of any kind, and you've been able to vote since 1921. And yet despite demanding equality and then getting equality on every measurable metric you still demand to be given preferential treatment because you're a woman and somehow that means you are entitled and deserving of being made to feel special and like a princess. Women ☕️

@@Leaschronicle wage gap has been debunked many times overs, but it's always brought up when it's illegal to pay less based on gender. Men had to go to war for your right to vote, what's your selective service number? And yes you have a bank account now but who holds the majority of the debt today. Pampered is for traditional men and women, not for ungrateful with high expectations.

Yeah I think once you can fully be yourself on a date then that’s where you have taken a load of your back. Little things like Austin powers impressions, impersonating a Jamaican accent, etc hahahaha yo…. I can’t sweat enough on how cool that shit is.

Those are often the women who have mental issues like an avoidant personality. If you’re perpetually magnifying trivial things then you need help. Also a lot of women with trivial “icks” will overlook them if they think a man is attractive enough because often they’re excuses and don’t really matter.

When I was newly single, friends talked up their matches for me like "He's tall. He makes good money" I told them I was looking for smart, funny, and kind.' Been happily married for over 10 years now.

I can see see how Austin Powers thing could be a deal breaker on a first date if it wasn't a great date. People have different tastes in comedy.

Meanwhile they're walking red flags themselves.

I understand and agree with the message of this video, but I've also seen the same Rossman vid you're referencing and I felt the short hairs furl up on the back of my neck when she used "unsafe" to describe a lukewarm emotional disconnect. That word is so loaded and could have easily been substituted out for "insecure"

@@Toastergod44 A lot of the abusive relationships I have been around the abuser love bombed at the start, paid for everything, lied and misled to try and charm their way in, then once they were in, then the abuse really started. A dude paying for a date doesn't mean hes safe in anyway, sometimes the opposite, especially if hes lavishing gifts and attention well out of the norm.

@@MusMasiHow did he Abuse you?

@@chickenpotpie4045 I was not the one being abused, and I don't date or have sexual relations with men.

@@MusMasi Then explain some of the abuse you witnessed.

Less etiquette than a street walker.

That might be some cases , but i was more or less quoting what they said

this is def bars!!!!

@@Djinn2002 as far as I know street walkers are upfront with costs. Thats a sight better than this silly song and dance.

@MusMasi 🤣🤣 idk I've never hired one

It's called biology. There. Easy.b

​@@thegamingkitchen8429 not biology, just women entitlement.

you have to bring her a prey item to distract her so she doesn't devour you.

​@@dondiego1141 sorry the entitlement IS biological

​@thegamingkitchen8429, that's not biology. It's adaptive social conditioning. Paying for the date impresses upon the other person, commitment and reliability, as well as financial stability. All of which are traits that many find attractive regardless of their intent for accepting the date.

Hopefully he sued her

Do I just live in so cal or does 200k not sound like enough to afford a lambo? Unless you don’t have a house/ apartment

Thats an expensive tantrum, I hope he sued her and she had to pay and now has a record.

​@@Chelseaaa626lamb's are expensive but not that expensive

Yeah thats me. Ive even started calling them out mid date. I had a chick one time not say thank you ONCE when I paid the first two times (150$ dinner and 50$ wine). I told her it was her turn and she flipped out LOL.

My first date involved hide and seek, it was a playdate though

@@MusMasi we were in our mid 20s.

@@gimpinainteasy I am just making a tongue in cheek comment.

@@MusMasi I know. It was just me being amusing lol. More of a “grown people playing hide and seek for fun lol.

I think in a healthy relationship both you and your partner have to strive to make each other improve both financially and with personal growth. Its nice to see that you were with him when he was struggling financially and you helped him grow. He must be really lucky to find a person like you:D (sorry for my bad english)

which is funny because many abusers often love bomb at the start.

When she says that, she means "I don't feel provided for therefore not secure". Absolutely mental

@jerryjensen5700: Thats obviously not how She meant it.

"Not safe" could mean any number of things...... You're just strawmanning.

I mean men openly say they only spend on women who they see as worthy or serious. So its the perception.

Count yourself very lucky! I'm almost 30 & trying to find the right person has been a bit of a chore.

i’d feel so scammed if it happened on the second date too.

I wouldn't since technically it did happen to me but it was ice cream. (3 years togehter now) Since it's 5 dollar coffee, I couldn't care less im not about to trip about 5 dollars, but the splitting 5 dollars is wild. I think first dates at nice restaurants are stupid anyway. No one should be doing that, really, because more girls use guys for free dinners than guys going "I forgot my wallet" if we are being real.

I don't have Apple pay, and I don't know what Zelle is. I have a debit card and a credit card. If I forget them, then people are shit out of luck

Sounds like good communication should resolve this.

Some of us don't like every company having our financial information on record and don't use those things. The fewer companies storing your data, the lower the probability of having it stolen when those companies have a security breach.

Raise your standards ma’am this is not good

Not only does a man not take you out to a restaurant but you are still paying?? Please, this kind of pick me flex is not it, there are women getting wined and dined at the finest restaurants and walking away with the high caliber men that others dream of because they are NOT PICK MES.

@@mvp4lyfateverything It's not a pick me if they respect each other's time equally. She doesn't feel entitled to a man paying for her time under the assumption she's more valuable. And that's not the attitude that has high caliber men walking away.

I remember going on a date with a woman like this, she was an amazing person, didn’t work out between us, but I know whoever ends up marrying her is one lucky man, consideration for others is a beautiful thing, your type is rare

@@mvp4lyfateverythingstop keeping women single with delusional standards. She knows her worth and where she stands. Also bet you’re single, in a situation-ship, or you have men after you only for sex. Such a poor man’s mindset with an attitude of a street walker. And please delight us, WHO are these women you speak of who have been wined and dined? Are they married? Is their relationship or marriage loyal to each other? Who cares about the material goods when you can find someone who has more than enough to happily grow old with you with the essentials.

thing is they even pass on men they do find attractive and do like, which to me is kind of wild what more do you want? Cute enough, self sufficient, makes enough money to be comfortable, you like him,?

I don't know if it's the culture of where I'm from, but plenty of women are in love with their boyfriends and husbands even if they are not a stud or make 6 figures...

​@@cherryhazard8002and where is that? I'm sure there are plenty but I'm curious where you are personally seeing it

I bought the book and I'm almost finished with it and it's a pure gem

@@123SuperBeast I'm originally from Panama, so...latin american country.

Now you know what men go through. Pretty shitty, right??

​@@kgonepostlthey don't care about anyone's feelings except their own...and occasionally others with a vagina as well bro....thar argument is useless.

Huh? ​@@kgonepostl

Sounds like the average male experience to me …glad you learned from it

"And then everybody clapped"

"HOWEVER if you’re begging me to go on a date with you, I probably will expect you to pay, especially if I’m clearly hesitant." - Modern Women

@@bos9824 Yep. 👏

@@Al-Ghaibb Y’all are blatantly ignoring the part where I said I never assume the man is going to pay so I don’t go on dates unless I can afford to cover my cost of the date? Or the part where when I was in a relationship I would frequently treat my partner to nice dinners at fancy restaurants? Believe it or not, there are weird men out there that will beg and plead and bribe you to spend time with them. Typically I would not entertain that kind of behavior as I’d prefer to go on a date with someone that I’m genuinely interested in and just dish out the money. Hopefully I’ve explained myself a little better but for some reason I doubt it matters lol.

Why go on a date u not feeling lol

​@@momothunder9544free dinner when you're broke, lmao

put out on first date or you don't get a second one. thats my stance these days, and they paying half the bill

​@@anonymousone6075😂😂😂 ok incel