Fifty Shades Freed as told by The Dom 

The Dom it doesn’t mater the book only should bind made to sell toilet paper

Plz read le new book. This is incredibly enjoyable as schadenfreude goes

Don't fret or stress, nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes. Take care of your health

Dom, I know these books make you angry. They make me angry too. But please don't yell, we all know it's not good for your health.

Dear Mr. Dom: I am wondering if E.L.James works are suitable for compost or do they need to be sent to sites containing spent nuclear reactor rods?

Nice!

Iw Le wow😅

Nice.

Hahahaha! This is the best thing ever.

Klasyk!

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I read a real life incident where after they were married the husband started demanding that his wife walk around naked ALL the time and she wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom with the door closed, ever. DEAR GOD

You know what's really upsetting? In Germany, the law only agrees with that since the 90s. Before that,there was no such thing as rape in marriage

@@karolam682 Well in countries which use Islamic Sharia law, there is STILL no rape in marriage AND a husband may beat any of his wives (up to 4) if she is not obedient. Saudi Arabia is an entire country of douche-bags who make Christian Grey seem mild and reasonable.

@@stvdagger8074 Don't you mean a country full of them with the law backing them up?

In the UK I'm pretty certain it only became illegal in 1991

@@karolam682 Rape in marriage is still legal when it comes to women raping men. Also, it was never legal to forcibly and violently fuck your wife, it was just covered under abuse charges. (Everything else covered by marital rape laws amounts to women being annoyed they have to fuck their husbands when they're not in the mood) This is because the point of marriage was to fuck and have kids, which is why impotence was considered a good reason to nullify a marriage contract. Besides that, a man marries a woman for sex, a woman marries a man for money. Women can file legal action against their husband if they don't financially support them. Also, you not giving them 600$ for shoes is considered financial abuse. Let that sink in.

I know he is so lame.

seriously won’t the ex sub make a better villain at least she brought a gun!

I mean, he is willing to resort to kidnapping, sexual quid pro quos and helicopter sabotage, and brutally beats Ana up right at the end. Grey did basically all of those things himself, sure, but to me, the only thing that separates them is 1) us being more familiar with Grey, and 2) as Dominic says in the review episodes following this one, Hyde’s honesty of purpose.

I agree! Have PTSD and ppl do devalue the word

@Molly Pop Yeah, kinda like people who use word "depression" to describe having a bad day. -_-

Boss move😂

Wow, what an icon

Okay that's just damn funny😹😹😹

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So The Dom’s full first name indicates a type of sub? The irony!

history came together to produce this. I love it.

How the turntables

Who let this woman write. How in god's good name is letting his woman write this crap. I'm sorry if I sound like a bitch, but how stupid you have to be too romanticized this kind of thing. Jesus, I'm just so cornered about this woman love life or something. Just why. It's just why

What the actual fuck.

*Rage Continues*

What the f*cking h*ll, holy mother of God. They published that?!?!!?

@@nxb7504 Seriously and the worst part is that both this series and that book could be amazing stories in the hands of an actually good author... and if listed as *horror/thriller* and not romance and plot slightly adjusted to reflect that. I can't even...

Nice.

I mean, it's true.

Dear Mako First of all, great English. Second of all, that is absolutely horrible to hear that you have gone through something that NO-ONE should ever have to go through and that is one of the worst crimes anyone can do to another human being. You are courageous to talk about what happened, silence only protects the criminals doing the horrible acts. I don't know you, but I wish you all the strength in the world and I wish there will be a day when you don't have to feel ashamed, because you shouldn't. Some people are evil and they do not ask permission to be that, that's why this world is such a dangerous place. Overall this whole 50 Shades of Bullshit is a horrible franchise and I hate it. The worst thing about is that it may give ideas to stupid people, who don't realize they are hurting themselves. I'm so glad that THE DOM decided to do these videos to educate people. He is indeed such a smart man.

I agree with the first reply. Also, it mystified me as well that these books became so popular, but it encourages me that almost every comment I see on videos about this trilogy are condemning it. That gives me hope that at least the majority of people know it's trash that glorifies abuse, and that is NOT okay.

Sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing well.

Mako your English is impressive 😇

Kate Workman I’m a little confused by its popularity as well 😅 again like Twilight, I’ll try to learn from these mistakes

😂😂😂😂Bahahahahaha!

Artemis Wolf OOOOOH ROASTED!

both, definitely both.

Nice one!

Double entendre are fun.

You get him money and exposure while shitting on hers--win/win!

Only ten times?

But he has to read it/them.

KaminアGirl me, clicking on the next episode of lost in adaptation

More importantly its much faster and doesnt net "EL James" any money.

I Salute you! Well done

Omg, you killed two birds with one stone. Now you don't have to put up with your horrible aunt anymore!

My cousin did the same. I pointed out how the 50 Shades series is basically lady porn. If you don't like the idea of your boyfriend or spouse watching filth, then why would you read filth? She got hateful and blocked me too.

Wow what a bitch.

Aaaaaaaah family😋 It sucks but at least you tried💜

Yes yes yes a million times yes!

Dom corrected his mistake in the comment section

@@lukedeakin7124 Still it's a testament to the quality of these books that the first instinct is that the mistake was on E.L. James' part instead of on The Dom.

It's ashame that the author just didn't do anything research. For Pete's sake go on the internet. I do that a lot when I write stories

@kshamwhizzle Or asked one of MANY people like her agents, her editor, her twitter followers... it ain't hard. Frankly it's a shock Ana didn't get pregnant in the first book with how fast and loose EL was playing with the birth control pills.

y'know it'd funny, this was a mistake on Dom's behalf not James' BUT she does comepletely screw up how it works in one of the earlier books anyway, considering anna goes off it for 3 days and a doctor freaks out saying she's pregenant even though conception + it's effects on the body are only detectable on blood tests after at LEAST 2 weeks. something that a doctor would know. i was a nurse for *2 weeks* and i know that... (too stressful for me, give them more love next time you're in the hospital)

I can't have birth control for medically reasons, I am a minor, and I haven't even researched about it and I think I still know more than her

*How little E. L. James knows about anything in life, sex and relationships is TRULY astounding.

It gets even weirder when you consider that she is WELL into adulthood, is (presumably) sexually active, and has no children. Like... babe, the fuck?

LOL

What is laugh?

>:D

Update from the future he did several livestreams covering the book, a plot synopsis, a book review and an episode covering the short sequel. Lots more “fun” stuff to watch

And also a lot of charity which might be the only good thing to ever come out of anything connected to EL J. All credit to Dom of course for finding a way to do good even when dealing w something this ugly

@@alex_enbee How did I miss this comment? Funny as hell. The prophecy has been filled.

@@fenderr tbh mad respect - I find it very telling that when it comes to something he absolute Did Not Want To Do, what convinced him to do it wasn't the fact that _he_ could make money, but that a _charity_ could make money. Talk about using your platform for good.

Yeah, as someone with a psychology degree, EL Jerkoff has about as solid an understanding of psychology and professional ethics as she does of BDSM.

Yep, clearly E.L. James understand psychology as well, as she does writing

Yeah doctor patient cofidentiality was not considered, the only ones who ever could have gotten any info was christians parents and even then he doctor could only say so much.

The therapist is just there to excuse everything Christian does and give anna a peptalk so she goes along with it. I like to Think hes just a guy Christian pays to make his girls Compliant

Honestly, I'm not even a therapist in training but I've taken a few classes and even I know that shit don't fly. My professor was talking about ethics and posed the question: "If you find out your hypothetical client raped their now-adult child when that child was sixteen, what do you do?" The answer? Not a damn thing. Past abuse doesn't count as a reason to break confidentiality. If you can't even break it for THAT kind of scumbaggery, then breaking it for mommy issues is just frivolous gossip. The "psychologist" in these books is just some back-alley therapist operating without a license or something.

Good for you!!! Show the world what you are capable of. Hopefully the guy who did this to you will burn in hell for it!

@@swanpride unfortunately, my ex only got 6 months probation for what he did :'( but I do think there's a special place in hell for him. But thank you darlin!! It's a tough situation to get out of, but definitely not romantic! Things are 100% better for me and I'm finally happy in my adult life.

Baby Doll I hope you’re doing better

wow! Just getting it confirmed by somone who went trough a abusive relationship, that gray is a abuser....wow!! But I am glad to read that you are doing better Baby Doll! to get out of something like this takes some guts. you can be proud if yourself!!

@Baby Doll The fact that you're willing to watch these videos despite them bringing up flashbacks for you is amazing enough, but adding onto the fact that you just shared your own story and experience with abuse, recounting your painful experiences for people to read? Truly, you are a champion! I am beyond relieved that you are in a happy, supportive and healthy relationship and in a good place in your life. I send you many well-wishes! You're awesome! Oh, and your fiancé sounds so lovely! And I hope there's a special place in Tartarus for your ex.

Thank you so so much for this.

I am so sirry i have been misusing the word. English isnt my first language, and i thought it was okay to use it like that. Thank you (and dom) for education me

Same. I also get triggered by certain things and I always feel uncomfortable to tell people because they think 'triggered' means getting mildly mad/upset.

Peeing after is more important in fact for avoiding UTIs

My brother thinks it's ok to bring me back to the sexual asult i went threw by saying things like it wasn't that bad,it never happend, mocking me about it like its a joke, and bringing up others sexual asult out of the blue when I'm not prepared for it basicly making me a emotional mess like I have flash backs of it i replay it over and over because of him and its every fucking family holiday People who purposely trigger people are fucked up and assholes So thank you for the actual trigger warning thank you for understanding Also their is a diffrance i can watch things hear things about rape but i need to prep my mind for it like what kind of mental state am i in right now will i be ok with this today

But he had a hard childhood. That makes everything ok.

I think it was Folding Ideas who said that.

@@JonasDAtlas Correct, Folding Ideas said that.

God, her poor husband...

Dom mentioned that he was mixing up James and Grey's names while recording

And also Christian's way to deal with him was to sink Link's company and putting all the people to unemplyment line. Really classy Chrissy-boy!

He deserves that self care

@@Soveliss74 stop hijacking

Sorry about that, some people ALWAYS think the ban hammer won't apply to them.

@@Dominic-Noble I know I already said it, but gods bless you, Dom.

in the same aspect anything could be a trigger. it depends on the person, what happen and where. like using public bathrooms, and sleeping at night is hard for me due to my abuse. I was abused in a school bathroom when i was in daycare. Maybe abused at night so i don't feel safe sleeping. yes people misuse it, but but what may be mundane to you, is a trigger for them.

It's been in Harry Potter, for goodness sake, how do people still not get this. (When fake-Moody demonstrates the unforgivable curses for the class; Neville really could have used a trigger warning.)

Normally I kinda go kek at trigger warnings because it's for shit that either isn't that bad, or would obviously be in something (your war novella does not need a blood and violence trigger warning, for example), but this book was genuinely horrifying.

@@brianmead7556 lots of things that "aren't bad" for you can be serious triggers for others.

@@brianmead7556 Anything can be a trigger; for example, if someone was eating an apple before they got assaulted/were in an accident/etc., the brain can associate the look/taste/smell/colour of an apple to the trauma, meaning interaction could take them back to the traumatic time (this process is "triggering", with an apple being the "trigger")

everyone who reads it and manages to keep most of their sanity is amazing... one person who I really love on tumblr has a blog about it... its basically just them ripping it to shreds and pointing out the fact about how crappy it is (if youtube has a word count i would break it trying to get across how bad these books are) and the much better story of ana being an alien noodle thing and a serial killer vs christian also being a serial killer with a tape worm that could have happened but didn't (I reread their blog when i need a laugh or find the various hotlines the blogger post along with the things about it...)

He could become a King Among Men if he grew a great big bushy beard and started singing songs in Old Norse.

The fact that he meanwhile can be sensitive enough to give a real triggerwarning is impressive. The book sound like its written by lovecraft as horror story to drive people insane. Did Earl james work for a deep one?

Yep, youd be surpised to k ow that their initial break up lasted three days.

See nearly every Christmas Rom-com in existence. Besides the ones who a couple that are already married.

Also as someone with PTSD, I can't overstate how much I appreciate the Dom's stance on this whole tangle of issues.

genuine question; could people that "misuse" trigger, be accidentally indicating that they have an undiagnosed developmental disorder? or is it one of those words that has reasons for being used only with trauma?

svnhddbst I mean it’s possible, but that’s an undiagnosed trigger, and honestly if they are being treated they can find ways to eliminate triggers. I get triggered in the car from a car accident when I was 18, but I have driven across the country since my husband is in the military. With treatment I am able to handle it much easier

@@svnhddbst8968 Most of the people who misuse it are assholes who say "lol, y u triggered bro" when someone calls them out for being assholes.

@@svnhddbst8968 | That's a moot question. Like deathknight said, the misuse of the word 'triggered' isn't so much from people referring to themselves being 'triggered' (though that does happen occasionally), but by arseholes who insist that others are 'triggered' in order to stigmatise and de-legitimise them. Furthermore, the culture that's led to people occasionally using the word 'triggered' to describe their own mild offence was brought about by aforementioned arseholes misusing the word so much that some people have only heard the word being misused. The intense stigma that PTSD sufferers are now dealing with was brought about entirely by apathy and malice, not a genuine misunderstanding.

Watch the other 50 shades of @#$& reviews or the harry potter ones. You'll be obsessed.

@@ashhaz2180 the HP ones is how I ended up here and I never left. I only wish I could be a "patreon". He's brill.

@@kassard1 Yeeeessss$. Nice to meet another fan who wants to join the patron. Someday my friend someday.

So right. Firing shots in the air is definitely peak intelligent critique

Have you watched the Folding Ideas review of 50 shades. It’s also very enjoyable

Your husband is a smart man.

Men get sexually harassed too.

Every small act of charity works. You are doing the Lord's work.

Good on you! Although I, personally, would have burnt it in a furnace...

Yeah but if someone buys it from a charity shop at least that's not money going to the Author

@@soda_fairy True, but it's still some poor impressionable soul who clearly doesn't understand that this shit isn't sexy. Depriving them of the opportunity to get a copy of 50 Shades for a couple dollars is on par with making sure you don't leave the spare heroin lying out...

So I use to volunteer in a charity shop and a mother of a grown man bought him the three books so he could understand why his gf liked bdsm - I was so angry while serving her since these books are abuse not bdsm. - also I threw out any copies of the books that I could get away with since my boss liked the books since books was my section I would hide them and chuck them.

I'm really sorry you had to go through all that. I cannot imagine how humiliating it must have been - a slap in the face - to see these books in your aunt's home. I hope you're doing better now and getting the help that you might need. I sincerely hope that life treats you kindly. Stay strong, stay safe and take care.

Oh my god they do

this book shoudlve gotten wayyy more hate than twilight considering twilight is _mostly_ harmless wish fulfillment romance (badly written, but mostly harmless) and this is just... awful

@@idontneedaname318 Ehhhhhh I wouldnt say its mostly harmless either consider how it plays off assault in the 3rd book and many other things that I wouldnt want teenage girls to think are ok or normal. We already have to do too much work to unlearn so many things and Twilight does nothing to help.

Me too! And I'm not in a relationship, let alone married!

_accurate_

Speaking as one such person, what an awesome comment. :)

As someone who has actual PTSD, my gratitude about this conversation is immense

I have PTSD as well and I deeply appreciate both oodlesofnoodles and The Dom for being so understanding. My mother refuses to understand that being in my personal space, especially right behind me, triggers flashbacks, to the point where I've had to go no-contact with her because she seems to almost do it deliberately these days so she can get offended by my reaction. Thank you for reminding me that there are good people out there who actually get it and care.

Sorrow I’m glad. I hope you get through whatever you’re going through even though I may not know you. Know that you have my support wherever you are

sending you love Tara.💙💜💖

Hang in there, Tara. There are more lovely people like Dom out there than we sometimes realize. It's just that there are a bunch of vocal assholes on the internet, which makes it a genuine relief to hear people express sentiments like the Dom's.

Brandon Roberts True

You know what the scariest thing is? Apparently, EL James has verbally attacked critics/criticism online for saying that these books exemplify an abusive relationship, and her "defense" is that them saying that "completely undermines what real abuse victims go through."

@@kateworkman921 That's rich coming from her, especially when she had a tantrum when a rape victim criticized her """"magnum opus"""""

@Brandon Roberts older mums are allowed be horny too

That or Anna is just a shitty selfish sanctomonious person in general, some people are just shitty by nature.

ελλιέ δυσών Anna is the actual worst along with Grey, they deserve each other. Bleh.

Unless they writes more.

@@apex2000 there are more tho, the first two but told by christian grey

Ugh, don't jinks it. They might remake the movies. Or movies based on anything else that poor excuse of a writer 'writes.'

apex2000 lol I hope not

@@bia3924 Dan is refusing to read or do any videos on the ones from Christian's perspective. His videos are also amazing and he actually hit on a point (and expanded on it) I made one of The Dom's videos like 9 months ago- Christian is the self-insert for E.L James, _not_ Ana. My speculation was that E.L James actually knows a lot about abuse, however, it's from the perspective of the abuser, not the victim. I'm not saying that E.L James is definitely an abuser herself... but with everything put together, my own personal belief is that she is. Which is absolutely terrifying.

Not only that. But misusing the safeword is one of the worst sins ever

Sadly, I had a coworker who read these books when they first came out. She tried to explain to me that it was a really interesting and respectful treatment because it gets into the "psychology" of why Christian likes "BDSM". The sad twit further claimed that it allowed her to give her husband some helpful hints for the bedroom. When I pointed out that it glorified abuse rather than in any way representing real BDSM, she fell right back into how it gets into the psychology of "poor" Christian's past and his current "needs". When I tried to explain to her that there's a serious, quantifiable difference between abuse and BDSM, her eyes glazed over a bit like she couldn't quite understand. When I then pointed out that she could get much more helpful, sexy, safe, and sensible tips for bedroom funtimes on the internet without reading abuse romance, she looked at me like I whipped out a couple copies of KFS Magazine in the break room. Apparently, reading bestselling novels with irresponsible portrayals of glorified abuse is waaaaay better than getting sane/safe/consensual advice online from actual practitioners and professionals. When she started avoiding me after that, I wasn't all that upset...

The worst part is that I have friends, (Christians) who thinks this is ok. They didn't even get shocked when a youth was reading the damn book in the damn church. This book is the embodiment of dirty kinky shit put on public. What's worst is like The Dom said in the first book: "my deepest fear is that someone will little to no knowledge to such topics who reads this gabarge precieves the acts in this book is ok and sexy could end up hurting someone" I'm paraphrasing but you get the idea

There is a manager where I work who LOVES the first book but has not had the time to read the other two. She does not see it for what it really is and yet she is telling ME what to do, and thinks she can dispense advice about my personal life since I have never been on a date in my life even though I am close to 30. This bothers me- no one who loves that book should be giving advice.

@@PlantaWho and to think that people were worried about Harry Potter back in the day. No this awful. Jo has said that no one has every thanked her for becoming a real life witch. This on the other hand, this kind of stuff is dangerous and very real.

@@Katherine_The_Okay Ugh. I hate that. Just because you had a sucky childhood doesn't give you an excuse to be a horrible person! Look a sucky childhood can affect you...but by the time you hit adulthood you're responsible for your own actions. Sure it can affect your judgment but it doesn't excuse your behavior. And good for your for getting away from her it sounds she's delusional.

Advice that's applicable to all situations in life, stop what you're doing and read Discworld.

@@SorowFame *Is reading Discworld* After about five minutes *Stops what I'm doing to read Discworld* It's a vicious cycle, I tell you.

Honestly, same here. Aside from "triggering a mechanism" or people using it left and right to mean "someone might get offended", I didn't know it was a thing.

@@olivierdubreuil-gagnon2201 the line is very blurred there for getting seemingly unreaonably offended at something can just as much be rooted in a trauma as getting a panic attack for fear and anger are heavely linked. I usualy get very pissed if faced with a milder form of one of my triggers and that can turn into a panic attack in the blink of an eye. still does not mean one should overuse the word into meaninglessness

I can't believe EL James actually thinks mainframes are a mainstream thing these days.

Not only broke in he was very visibly armed and lets not forget all the evidence of sexaul assault and harrasment. How he got out on bail frankly is just fucking rediculous how the prosecutor didn't manage to covince the judge he was a dangerous flight risk is beyond any mortals knowledge.

ETA: well this one aged like good wine

Is it worth? I have been debating on doing it

@@Megatron_95 I think so. I have a long car drive to get home from college. And it's also nice to listen to books again since I don't have as much time anymore. It also helped with a book I had to read for one of my classes that started out kind of boring. I find it much easier to listen to since I can some other things while I listen.

@@ivyderemo8599 very well. Thanks

Fantastic! The only problem I have with it (and book series') is that I finish the book before I have a new credit to get the next one.

@@bethbarton1189 Same, but the Audible Originals help some. Though the book I had to read for my class was almost SIXTEEN hours long! That one lasted me awhile.

Yes! Completely agree! I'm so psyched for KH AND The Dom's work~

Storylover ... There’s a *FOURTH* book!?

4th?!

Wait what?! Theres a fourth one!?

Storylover There’s a fucking F O U R T H O U R T H Book?!??

@@pixieoftheopera technically it's just the first book again, only this time from Christian's POV. On one hand, it's even creepier than the other books. On the other... Christian's penis is apparently sentient and has Many Opinions about stuff. So yeah, it's terrible either way

I would actually force myself through the Books if that was the Ending.

@Ghost Yuki PLEASE, PLEASE say that's a joke!

@Ghost Yuki oh God please end this world right now! How the fuck did she get any publisher to green light her stupidity?!

I feel like the bulk of the fans were religious/repressed women who have high libidos, but feel so much shame from watching/reading [strict] pornography that the fact that this was sold as a "love story" means they weren't sinning as badly by enjoying it.

@@davidrozo766 Either she bullied her way in or discovered self publishing.

@Ghost Yuki Boycott this monstrosity!!! No more anything from E. L. James! Don't mention it, don't advertise it, don't buy it! She's already proven herself inept at the most basic of writing comprehension and THAT came from what she stole! NO! NO! NO!

Jami JoAnne Russell clearly not 😅

Plot meaning whatever just happened to shoot through EL james mind during her lunch-break.

Plot as in series of events, so bare minimum.

The plot is about how Grey locked up every sane person that would tell her how fucked up her relationship with her "husband" is.

Jami JoAnne Russell I thought that was the plot 🙄

That's pretty much what happens though, the mother just ODed if I remember right.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience in a relationship. I also was in a "relationship" with someone who treated me like their possession. It feels elating (and weird) to finally be with someone who 100% respects your boundaries!!

i hope people know that bdsm is a fetish and not like this bullshit abuse trainwreck

@@Flareontoast I'm sorry you went through a bad relationship as well. Yes it is weird being treated like a person after an abusive experience

@@maymay5600 I wish. I believe there are more people who know the different than not but I've personally seen people who don't. There have been people who know I have been both abused and take part in bdsm with my current partner and questioned why I left one for abuse and married the other. Even been told I'm not allowed to claim abuse from my former relationship since I take part in bdsm in this one. It's horrid.

oh sorry you had to go through that

Lorem_Keksum - Before replying to the second paragraph, I just want to mention that I hope you're doing well, and I'm sorry you had to go through such a negative experience. Your english is fine and completely understandable, by the way, so no worries there. I wouldn't have even considered that you weren't a native speaker, honestly. Oh... Oh geez, I... How are there people misconstruing the main character in You as a romantic lead? The show itself even has moments of outright telling you the relationship is not healthy for either one of them (and I can't recall anything really contradicting those points). The thing that sucks is that it seems like a lot of people mix up romantic actions with abusive ones because it IS nice to see someone who is devoted to that special someone in their life, and it IS attractive to see a character who will put effort into keeping a relationship alive, so the HOW part is overlooked. Devotion is cool, but not downright dependence and obsessive behavior. Effort to keep a relationship going is great, until their are no boundaries that won't be crossed to ensure they remain with you, no matter how twisted your methods. A lot of people like the characteristics that they can match up to a good love interest; devotion, intelligence, assertiveness, etc. and when they see these traits displayed it can be hard to separate that while these traits may be what they want in a man (or woman), they don't want the way these traits manifest. So especially if the character has a sad past, where it is more natural to feel protective and excuse behaviors, people can easily excuse all behaviors until they seem like a misguided but thoroughly romantic person worthy of being with. People want to believe that they ARE romantic, and they act the way they do for valid reasons, because it's always hard when you've built an emotional attachment to say someone is abusive rather than in need of someone loyal enough to stick it out. Don't know how clear my thoughts are, but I hope my point can be understood. I wish more people realized that traits that can be positive can be negative too, that someone's trauma doesn't excuse them abusing someone else, and that a lot of times, they don't find the character romantic. They either find the idea of what they could be romantic, or they find the dominance and persistence of the character admirable. Joe can be wish fulfillment in the regard that he finds a way to control so much in life and everyone wishes they could take the reigns more, but what he's DOING to achieve that control is, hopefully, not anything anyone would want in their life. People, please don't mistake the appeal of idealism (as in, the idealism of having more control in life, or more suitors, or whatever it is you want) for finding appeal in the reprehensible acts of any person, fictional or otherwise. If anyone did what Joe did in real life, it'd be terrifying. There's nothing romantic about it the moment you put yourself in Beck's shoes.

unwinged wren Don’t make the Dom suffer more.

Or 'The Mister'.

Well, as far as I know, Grey doesn't have a movie adaptation, so it wouldn't be relevant to his channel

I mean, despite being a perspective flip, Grey is pretty much exactly like the first book, so it'd actually be kinda redundant. There's no new insight offered whatsoever. Anna in 50 Shades: "Is he plying me with alcohol? I eye him suspiciously." Christian in Grey: "She eyes me suspiciously. She knows I'm plying her with alcohol."

@@elsie8757 Dan from Folding Ideas: NOPE! (throws Grey out a window, across the house, street, city, into a forest and into a river where it decays into unreadable pulp from the elements)

@Brandon Roberts Don't apologise, it's not your fault. It's hard to talk about but I know how much talking about it can help others. I only bring it up when it's relevant and in this case I felt like it was. People need to know the reality of living with PTSD, too many people use it as a punchline to too many jokes

Please feel hugged. And thumbs up for your boyfriend, seems he's an awesome guy that you totally deserved to find!

Get better friends

Hope you get the help and support you need. Your boyfriend seems to be a good person and I'm happy you found each other.

I admire your strength and wish you and your boyfriend nothing but peace and happiness for the rest of your life. You rock

You have a Great Teacher.