While it is good to have dating advice, I really steer clear of online dating. I prefer to meet someone in person and get to know them without the stress and games.
I would agree with both of you. the advantage of meeting somebody in person initially is that you really get to know somebody better and it is so much easier to hide things online. I guess over these past four years I’ve developed a system that really helps mitigate, the challenges of online dating. It’s not perfect, but it helps me determine fairly quickly if it’s a possible match or not.
Thanks for posting this video. Interesting and hot topic. First let me say that I’m happily married and I haven’t been on a dating site in probably 12-13 years so maybe my perspective is out of touch….I think people lose site of what “dating” really is. It’s about SHARING with and LISTENING TO other people. Dating is not about ‘finding a spouse’ or about having a ‘long term relationship’. Dating is a process, not an end result. One should enjoy the process. It’s not about all of these “rules” that Marco seems to have. (No offense intended). It’s about encountering other human beings honestly, being an active listener, being genuinely interested in their life experiences (especially Filipinas, because they ARE from a completely different culture with different life experiences), finding common ground and also appreciating their differences. All of these ‘check points’ and ‘rules’ that Marco seems to have makes the process uncomfortable and-to me at least-squeezes out the joy and interest in meeting and sharing with someone who has a totally different life experience. If you value and embrace people, your dating experience will be rewarding. If you do not, then it won’t. One other comment: When you date, you shouldn’t judge another person solely by their looks or how well they speak English. . In my mind, that’s shallow and short sighted. I guess I just try to look at the dating process more holistically and base my comments on my experiences as I legitimately love engaging people from different backgrounds. One of the reasons that my wife is so captivating to me is because she brings a completely different life experience to the table. Anyway, enough preaching. Thank you again…
Love this comment. I feel the same way about him and though I also never got to hang out with him in the lunch room either I did invite him to lunch today. If your in Cebu City you are welcome to join us
I really appreciate the comment, dear sir. Obviously one cannot please all the people all the time, and we all are very different. I definitely have the ability to irk people at times. But it is nice in the journey of life to come upon a person that you totally click with. John and I feel fortunate to have that type of friendship. As far as lunch today I unfortunately I’m not feeling very well so I need to lay low and heal. Thanks again for the positive thoughts.
Always love when you have Weng on. Couple questions... If the gal doesn't feel safe meeting me then why would she come at all? If she sees me as a threat having another gal with her would only put both in danger, right? If the gal isn't interested once we meet in person will she be honest enough (direct) to say she isn't interested, or would she be too polite to say something and then just not respond to later texts and such? In general. Everyone is different. Thanks.
I always love having Weng on too, and of course my friend Marco. With the gal, I think that especially for younger Filipinas its not that they think they are in physical danger, but its somewhat of an intimidating and overwhelming situation to meet a "foreigner" for the first time in particular. But even with Filipinos it seems they bring one or more to a first date at times. This doesn't normally happen in my experience, but occasional. And I'm not sure, but it wouldn't surprise me if it happens more in the province than the city--but certainly happens in the city too. Being direct isn't common here--not sure if correct, but I think it feels rude or impolite to be direct for many Filipinos. So I think she wouldn't be direct, but would politely be non-committal about meeting again or impolitely ghost you.
I would agree. I also know that she really takes care of herself and has a regular routine of working out and needing the right food. She also has four sons so that probably keeps her in shape also!
That is truly noble. I Guess the challenge is how do you truly get to know someone if you’re having problems with communication? But I do understand that I am not necessarily the norm. I have met plenty of expats over here who did exactly what you said. And learning a different languages always good for the soul. but again, the challenge is learning the new language to a fluent level. That takes a long long time, and it usually takes full emersion. So are you in relationship with a Filipina and are you learning her language?
Def not a red flag to not want to meet someone with a friend just sounds like a good way to spend more money on a first meet but yes in public absolutely
Hi Weng, Thx for sharing your tips from a Filipina’s point of view, on what to look for, in reading a “man’s” profile. If a Filipina wants to bring a friend to her first meeting with a guy, the friend becomes a “third wheel.” What do you think of my idea, of her bringing “two” friends? This way, the two friends can entertain each other, so my potential date and I, can focus on really getting to know each other, 😎😉👍🏼🥰?
Hey John, I made a joke about you and Marco on wengs channel today. Hoping i didnt offend either one of you guys. It was meant in fun. I was in your building with Delish Deli in it. I talked to you on phone but you were under the weather that day!!! That was 2 years ago in july!!!
Hi Mike, I remember you. You used to comment a lot more when my other channel was newer. I didn't hear the joke but I don't take myself too seriously so joke away :)
Weng and I have been friends for a couple years and we get along really well. Although I will admit that John is a much safer space than me. Possibly what you’re seeing is basically the interviewer John, who is asking the questions and he is facing both of us. But I always love when armchair psychologists can make such diagnosis from watching a video.
Actually Marco seems like a really cool dude. I wish my dad was cool like that. I bet he could pull even hotter babes than her if he wanted to and most probably has for sure. I really hope I will be in good health and good spirits at that age which Marco currently Is. Maybe like 54? Idk. I would be so blessed if that’s the case. We”ll see I guess, I’m 32 currently.
As soon as I saw the start of the video, I thought the same thing. As a videographer, I’m wondering how I should have set that up better. In the past, John has used two or three cameras for angles and that helps with this challenge.
I think its difficult to date Marco because he's a perfectionist and it's not how it used to be. For me you should know the person first and know your differences. Then if your differences not going to work both sides then decide if you want to work it out or stop. And please don't offer false promises.
