Finally Telling the REAL Story: The Lawsuit Over My Amputation [CC] 

Yeah that was literally the dumbest shit I ever heard. Like do the people that ordered that not realize how stupid that is? I mean genuinely imagine some Ben and Greg had to go to this closed down restaurant and check the floor. Like did THEY not realize how stupid it was?

My boyfriend had a similar issue. He slipped on a wooden deck (on a boat) that hadn’t been cleaned and was covered in slippery algae, but the owner of the boat claimed that the deck was clean & safe. It was later announced to him that an official person would come inspect it so of course he got it cleaned right before they came and they agreed that there was no issue… the case is still going on and this was like 2.5 years ago (my boyfriend ended up needing 2 operations and a new hip and still can’t move properly)

@@Linda-lp2rq omg that's ridiculous! I'm so sorry to you and your boyfriend, I hope it gets resolved and he gets some justice soon, and gets well soon as well ❤️

@@Linda-lp2rq I hope your boyfriend had other witnesses or photos to prove that the deck had been cleaned AFTER his fall. I wish for your bf sake that they had never informed the boats owner that they were doing an inspection, because it’s highly unlikely his case would still be ongoing. I hope he recovers soon and gets the justice he deserves for the boat owners irresponsible attitude.

Yeah no shit right

Exactly! I had a simple incident, someone hit me in a parking lot...backed out of a spot into the side of my car. They initially said they had done it, accepted responsibility. My insurer told me their insurer had spoken with them and accepted responsibility. Then my insurer called me and said the other person had changed their story, no longer accepted responsibility. I was scheduled to have the other driver's insurer look at my damage. They no longer wanted me to bring it in, I asked if they didn't want to see the damage, because it was obvious that it was from their client if they looked at it (front passenger side door, straight in crush damage). Nope, no reason to look at it. Talked to my insurer about contesting it...they said I could but that I would have to file a claim and that if we lost my rates would likely increase. It was an old car so I didn't bother. It just really felt wrong that the other driver so blatantly lied, changed their story and no one cared. ...and that was just a minor few hundred dollar issue with an old car.

I feel like legally companies shouldn’t be able to recant being guilty unless they have additional evidence proving that smh

Like, if they initially refused but then reluctantly accepted later that would almost be more acceptable simply because i would understand the why. But the fact that they initially accepted responsibility but then tried to slink their way out of their obligations is such slimey bullshit.

Definitely.

@@mfawls9624 this is some bulllsh11t

The rich get richer, and the poor get screwed.

As a lawyer, let me say this is true, but one little misconception: it's usually not (only) about the lawyer you are paying it's about how much media coverage you get. Big companies will pay A LOT if you are noisy enough. They almost always settle it if they think you are a big enough treat to their image. The justice system is slow, and companies are aware of it. They will try to shut you up as soon as you sue them. Get your whole story straight, collect evidence, get names and witnesses, talk to a lawyer as fast as you can because they will try to dismiss your evidence if it's not collected properly.

Yup, the courts don’t want to deal with things that are not worth it to them. Laws are put in place to streamline the system aka you have to have money and or be owed 100k +

​@@sarahisatitagain How correct you are. Just look how McDonald's and their insurance and PR companies treated that poor old woman who was seriously injured by them selling a known dangerous product.

@@christopherjohns1566 which product? Their food or the toys?

Dontcha know you have to be an inspiration but also if you do anything without "looking" like you're in pain, you're faking it? 🙃

As someone with depression, autism and ADHD, so mental disabilities, i can empathise with the good days, bad days thing. And the slow startup to the day.

I am living that right now. Some days I can rake my leaves. But I usually can't walk for the next 3 days. Few see that because I don't leave the house. At a glance I may seem okay. Pain is a hard thing to prove.

Fix the gut (good naturopath), get into HBOT (hyperbaric 02 chamber), trauma therapy (always stuff in the family), and BELIEVE you will heal. You WILL and your and your bad days will be less. I know this a patient and a nurse helping people in your situation who are no longer in that situation. If you want it, it's YOURS

Been treated for chronic pain since 2000, and I can say, "I feel your pain" Just kidding, pain is subjective and no one can feel your pain 😢

Incredible that it’s allowed for an adult in authority to question and confront a child this way. Hope you’re doing well today 🙏🏻

Would love to see that logic reversed. How many people in the courtroom have a Jurist Doctorate (law degree) okay can not be that hard, how many of you passed the bar (state license exam) okay that is obviously not that bad. The true question is not how many made it, instead how many did not make it. Truly a testament of character all around. So sorry you have to go through this.

The abuse you supposedly suffered might've strengthened you and showed you who you don't want to be.Most teenagers rebel against their parents negatively and without purpose, your's perhaps wasn't from the court's report of you

Mary Wood Powerful comments. Clearly shows that you're determined to be whom you are. You're an impressive lady. Keep up making the difference where you turn. We know it's not easy...but it sure Tates great when you show the world whom they're getting... Blessings

I wasn't even allowed to go to the trial so I couldn't speak for the 15 years of abuse I went through from my dad, which I happen to still be going through but not quite as bad since I finally have a phone and could call the police at any given moment. If I had just been allowed to go they would've gotten another opinion besides my parent's obviously biased ones. I've had therapists tell me exactly what the lawyers told you, and it hurts. It really does. I'm so sorry you were told that. I'm glad your parents were found to be unfit and you're able to stay away from them.

Part of her leg cutoff that had already had part of it cutoff!

Don't hate lawyers, they're just there to make sure laws are followed. Hate the people who made laws so fucking stupid lawyers are required to argue shit like that.

@@thepinkestpigglet7529 they absolutely can not argue this.

I was in a Braum's in Andover KS a few weeks ago, almost fell on heavily greasy floor. The restaurant was filthy. I had never been there before...my hubby wanted the Aloha Burger he had seen advertised on TV. I called the KS Dept of Agriculrure, they are the ones that inspect restaurants. They sent an inspector THAT DAY. I haven't been back there...next time I go to Goodwill next door I'll pop in to see if anything has improved.

@@thepinkestpigglet7529 The lawyers shouldn't defend someone they know is guilty, and they shouldn't torment and bully someone they know is in the right. This is their moral obligations as humans, and they've failed. They get to go away and make their own species: Sleazy lawyers with no standards.

It was not made this way by mistake

I've always hated that saying. In my experience, the only people who use it are people who don't want to be inconvenienced by another person's suffering.

I feel like it only makes sense in some situations i can apply it to the shittiest moments of my lige but i still hate hearing the saying from others it’s basically “get over it”

This breaks my heart for her. It seemed she didn’t have a good lawyer who was actually fighting for her.

It's a ridiculous saying! Seriously - the 'makes you stronger' bit is entirely beside the point.. 'What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger' - you know what? I don’t WANT to be stronger, I didn't ask for this to make me stronger, I didn't ask for this at all! And most importantly - what didn’t kill me, JUST TRIED TO KILL ME. Why on earth should I be grateful for attempted murder??

I personally prefer: what doesn't kill you gives you trauma.

I can't count the number of times I've had to explain allergy does not mean "I don't want" to my coworkers. I am a cook (Currently at Applebee's for what it's worth). Allergic alert on an order means making it completely separate, with different equipment (When reasonable). I make sure to do this. I have a friend with a severe shellfish allergy and have seen what happens when things go wrong. It would also help if customers wouldn't use "I'm allergic to" as a substitute for "I don't want", or "Make a separate order just for me". Or "I'm blaming all my problems on the latest food fad".

@@christopherconard2831 So my mom gets really really sick when she eats gluten, but she is not Celiac. So when restaurants ask if she is Celiac, she often says yes because otherwise she can't really depend on restaurants being safe for her. I do get the frustration for people using the "I have an allergy" to really mean "I don't want", but there is a really large spectrum to the people who just "don't want"

@@Em-._.- that’s more than “don’t want to.” If it makes you sick, it’s totally reasonable to avoid it. That being said, I do get your point. A customer’s preference is important, but they’ve got to be honest about it being a preference. One shouldn’t pretend to have an allergy one doesn’t, as it negatively impacts folks with allergies and the prep is different, but not wanting to eat a certain food should be respected (within reason).

@@christopherconard2831 I know a Chris Conard from RI/Mass ....figure I would reach out just Incase you were that Chris lol

Vinessa Sanford Wow, incredible situations take place. And restaurant attacks of such caliber as your situation, actually happen more frequently than we care to acknowledge. In the territory where I live. I see it very often. I worked in the legal system and have a nose to smell these things. I'm glad you survived such an attack. Keep voicing these things. One day...it will stop 🛑 Blessings

Woah I didn't think about this angle.

This is why defense is something I never wanted to do as a lawyer.

@@Sam_on_RU-vid Defense would be the side helping her in this situation...

@@MrCODEmaster00 No. She filed the lawsuit. That makes her the plaintiff. There's nothing wrong with defense, but you have much less control over the quality of your case. You can't really choose whether or not to bring it. And I don't like that.

Mediators have a thing for denying that the victim's negative experiences actually happened

yes. That system sounds horrendous. How something of this matter would have been handled in Germany: The health insurance fronts the bills and then claims the amount from the defendent or his insurance. And if it comes to trial, the injured person would be a witness, not a party herself. And of course no party would ask for the childhood apart from maybe the necessary medical history.

@@hendrickziegler8487 yep. and judges would tell people to stop as soon as they would say "but NOW you can do this"

@@VampiressMiharu lmao someone mad

But we have the more lawyers than we can count. Does that count?

I'm sorry, we do? Our legal system sucks who the heck says it's the best out there -

It’s not you. You are not crazy. You did not deserve to be treated like that.

The mcdonald's coffee case was a nefarious masterwork of PR. The case turned from "elderly woman got severely burned by overheated coffee" to "lol look at dumb people and their dumb lawsuits". If someone is making fun of a plaintiff on behalf of a corporation, they need to take a good long look at the PR kool-aid they've swallowed.

She was burned a *LIFE THREATENINGLY* amount. 6% third degree burns and another 16%. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liebeck_v._McDonald%27s_Restaurants

@@kaylahall1219 Kendall Rae did a video on it, it's horrific how bad it was. People made it out that she was this horrible lady trying to get money from a big corporation but you're right, she almost died.

I thought it was a driver at the drive thru

@@zapacunotres59 Stella Liebeck was in the passenger seat of a parked car. Her grandson was the driver.

the fact that it wasn’t still slippery 3 years later, arguably proves that the issue was with the floor being greasy because it hadn’t been cleaned properly (and thus the restaurant’s responsibility), as opposed to being an issue with, like, the material of the floor.

Double likes for "poppycock"

i think contempt only applies in actual court not pre remediation

I'm a retired attorney and presenting bad evidence wouldn't be considered contempt. The condition of the floor 3 years later shouldn't be admissible, but it isn't contempt. (Questions of law are decided by the judge, questions of fact are decided by a jury. Every state has different standards on evidence. So is the floor analysis a question of law or fact?) Not showing up on your trial date without a good reason can get you charged with contempt or if a judge in a preliminary hearing (more costs) said certain evidence was inadmissible and you brought it anyway can cause a mistrial and a contempt charge. When I first started I worked with a team that did medical malpractice. My job was to do the research (before law school I worked in special ed and institutions) and explain to the lawyers and coach the doctors how not to sound like complete nerds. And Jo is right, in discovery they can get literally any evidence about you they choose. (Had a client and they wanted to know her sex history and a detailed list of every sexual partner she had ever had. We fought it but the judge allowed it). So court cases are extremely expensive. Jo didn't explain her settlement in detail, but general your lawyer is going to take 40% (that's the limit in my state) AFTER costs are paid first. So the longer you go without settling, the higher your costs go up and the less you'll get from the settlement. These slip and falls are very common. This is why supermarkets are very quick to clean up any spills. We had a client who slipped in a supermarket, cracked their skull and died. The standard for negligence is that the party knew or should have known of the dangerous condition. This is the instruction the jury will be given. She should have won her case as they should have known, but then comes the difficult part of proving damages. And in my state the other side can enter their offer of settlement to the judge and if the jury fails to award you more than that, then you lose. (And the jury is never told about that). So again, another reason to settle. I can see what the insurance company was doing arguing about the damage to her leg. Their attorneys have an ethical obligation to do this in representing their client. As in Jo's case, they take the position that her damages were not that severe and she is basically faking this to get more money. They will never say this to a jury. They will imply it over and over and hope that the jury will come to this conclusion. And juries will get bored very quickly when Jo would enter evidence about her damages with her doctor testifying. And the other side would be sure to drag this part out as long as possible. What do you think your chances of winning are now? Sometimes lawyers think of trials as like playing poker. How good are you at poker? How good are your cards? How good are you at bluffing? I hate poker. It's really sad to go to trial and lose knowing that your client will live with the injury forever. I quit the team and went into international law instead. Similar work, but now I explain the US legal system to foreign corporations.

​@@rabbit251 companies exploit their longer breath and less personal involvement in this and try to mentally grind their opponents down. Those practices are disgusting and i cannot understand why a lawyer didnt stop this

I hope the tire change went well and your journey is ever upward!

I noticed that too. What a fantastic sentence.

Oh god. I worked at McDonald's for 5.5 years, eventually becoming a department manager and good god the issues we have to deal with in that business are overwhelming and terrifying. So many moving parts, so many things going wrong every day, and relentless customers demanding the world while you struggle to right the ship all day long. I'm glad you quit. I'm glad I quit.

The world needs more people like you. Thank you.

@@TerenaTalk Thank you for your kind words 🙏

You’re a good person.

@@mariesabine2385 Thank you. Just a human concerned for others‘ health and safety.

Scott Williams That is totally an abuse of a human being. I went through a depo that lasted 3 days. (The last day 6hrs) I totally understand your predicament. They try to assassinate your character which becomes their main objective. The trial was set up about two years later. My attorney told me that we were losing the case. I fired him and I asked the judge just to allow my day in court. The studios lawyers argued this. But the judge gave me 4 months to prepare. I beat the high profile lawyer and won the case. Not for the real money, but I got something. I hate lawyer....

No questions. I know where you are coming from. Lawyers ?!$&@

I was essentially deposed (we don’t call it that in Australia) for a rape case where I was the victim. I had the whole office of lawyers who were meant to be on my side questioning everything I’d reported - his lawyer wasn’t even involved. They dismissed the case on a he said/she said basis, but had documentation of him saying if said no repeatedly and cried! 🤦🏼‍♀️

As a lawyer I can tell you guys are absolutely right. I fucking hate my job, I hate the hypocrisy of our oath about seeking justice while everyone knows it's not about justice, it's about money, ego, power. But you want to know what? Lawyers aren't the worst. Companies are the worst. Lawyers are just disgusting henchmen they use to achieve their means. The number of times I was told to do "whatever it takes" for someone to drop a case is just sick.

And,while dragging it all out forever, they are charging you hourly……

At this point, it's basically their job to be bastards. The other side is going to throw their worst at you, so you've got to play dirty right back or you'll never get any justice. It's abhorrent.

Yes, lawyers are bastards, but that's what the system requires of them. My neighbor is a lawyer, has been a good friend to me, is active in community charities, and is a very kindly man, who has been married to the same woman for 35 years. But in the court room, he would sell his mother to the Arabs.

There should be mandatory minimum prison time for lawyers and insurance company executives doing any of these dirty tricks. This should slowly cause this to go away over a few decades as the fear of jail changes the attitudes of new professionals in those industries.

In my naive opinion, it would be more logical for the insurance company to use the money paid to the lawyers to pay the medical bills of the injured person instead... But so many things don't make sense in life, why would insurance settlements make sense?

@@vvkouna They don't want to set the precedence. ☠️

@@vvkouna If an insurance company pays one claim, they have to pay all of them. So if other plaintiffs had come up with other lawsuits about falling on a slippery, dirty floor, and they had straight up accepted liability and responsibility and paid Jo's claim right away, they would have set a precedent and would have to pay all the other plaintiffs cases like that as well. Also, insurance companies have insurance companies that cover them and their employees, so when an insurance company has to accept responsibility and pay a claim, THEIR insurance rates that they have to pay, also go up. Their covering insurance company charges them more to cover them with every claim they pay. So say at first they're charged 5%, then after Jo's case they have to pay 10%, then after another fall case they have to pay 15%, another fall is 20%, and eventually their covering insurance decides that that company is too much of a liability and drops them. Having to deal with the US legal system is so degrading.

Yeah, for better or worse it's quite literally their job to do everything in their power to have their side win. There are rules for what that entails, but if your lawyer doesn't know them as thoroughly as the opposition, well... They wind up getting one over on you. We see them as dirty tricks when they go against our morals, but the fact of the matter is it's their job description to defend their client by any legal means. This starts getting wildly ugly when bigotry is involved, and even moreso when the judge is allowing it. :/ A judge worth shit would throw out spurious nonsense, however, many judges, just like many lawyers, ain't worth shit...

Yep! After my dad’s first heart attack he went to the hospital with chest pains, they told him he was fine and sent him home. A few days later he had a second heart attack. After his double bypass he complained of pain, they said he had a hernia in the scar, and took him into surgery just for there to be no hernia and no reason to bring him into surgery. He went to multiple lawyers that all told him, “Listen, you’re right. If this was any other hospital I’d take your case, but this hospital has amazing lawyers and it’s one of the top hospitals in our state. You’ll never win. Don’t waste your money on a lawsuit”

People do win in lawsuits. It's just one persons experience.

@@kaitlynmarra5874 Yes people do win lawsuit, but making a lawsuit drag out for muiltiple years and purposely degrading the person that is suing is a method used all the time to discouraged people from pursuing justice rather that be in criminal or civil cases.

@@marandam6019 that’s how u win lmao if they didn’t do that everyone would sue that shouldn’t be u don’t just get money for bs claims every case is different but people don’t deserve settlements because they feel they do

@@Kamdaddypurp69 I understand what you are saying. However, it hits different when you are facing a situation where negligence causes a year of pain and a reamputation and the one goal of the lawyers is to shut you down even though you have a valid right to be compensated like in Jo's case where clearly common sense say 1 +1=2. You are blessed to have never been in a situation like that or in a situation where negligence cause a death like with my mom. In her case I wanted to make the doctors and hospital aware of their failure. I wanted to sue them and was told we had a great case for medical negligence. I did not want money I wanted them to change 2 policies that contributed to her death. My dad declined to go through the very painful process Jo described above and I honored his wishes. That being said I know for a fact more people have died or have been seriously injured because of these two hospital policies. Has anyone else sued? Nope. Why you ask because of the process Jo described in this video. Will more people die because people don't want to go through that painful process? With certainly they have and they will.

this makes me so happy for the both of you. how lovely to see a husband speak so highly of his wife 🖤

Oops, they got divorced 💀

I think she feels bad about not taking it to trial tbh

Well, companies like McDonalds have put millions of dollars into campaigns to belittle people who sue them for their negligence. It's just like what happened to Stella Liebeck (the McDonald's coffee lady). Because of the campaign they ran to belittle her she is known to this day as the lady who sued McDonalds over a little spilt coffee, even though they served her boiling coffee which gave her 3rd degree burns on her legs and pelvis. What's worse is that McDonalds had known their coffee was too hot from years of burning people, but simply refused to change until it finally costed them.

@@J_1791 Yeah I feel the same, I would've pressed it just out of spite at that point after all the shit they pulled lol

Like saying "Oh I'm not taking money from a small business!" It's like geez... Take money from a small business it's okay. Small business has been put too much on a pedastal these days they can be bad too.

@@fieldy409 even so...it's not taking money from a small business. It's taking money from their insurance. That's what insurance is for. They're not people. They're not to be worried about. That is their job...to get sued to force them to pay out for their legal obligations.

Yeah catch 22... same for me i'm depressed because i have a fucked up foot and a lot of pain... but noo i need to understand what pain is and it's all in my head....

@@bllahblubb8072 Yup same here, been having migraines since October, have been signed off as medically non effective for work and when I spoke to my Dr about it last week the depression I was feeling because I can't do anything due to the migraines was dismissed. I was then asked if I had tried going for a run? To which I pointed to my medical records that state I can't run due to an issue with my knee and that even if I could I am having trouble walking without throwing up due to the migraines! They just don't give a shit!

oh boy do I know this one. I have "depression" as a diagnosis for pain on my medical records, except I'm not depressed, and NO ONE has ever offered me antidepressants. I've also been diagnosed fat, so that's always super fun. "Doctor, I have severe lower back pain!" and I'm supposed to lose the never-ending 5 lbs and it will go away. 50 lbs later, my lower back still hurts, but maybe it wouldn't if I 'just lost 5 lbs and cheered up' or something. (That last bit was sarcasm). I have yet to get past the wall-o-medical-prejudice to access diagnostic tests. My former BFF went through the accident/injury lawsuit, and was still buried under a pile of medical debt from what the lawyers didn't scarf up. Her mother got stuck with her bills after she passed away (super fair there, she was 32 and her debt should have died with her). Our medical-legal system is highly skewed in favor of the ultra wealthy.

@@zyonchaos1818 My migraines only got taken seriously by doctors when I almost died from one of them and had to get sent to the hospital. That's right, a migraine almost killed me. And I mean the migraine itself. Apparently I have a rare type of migraine disorder known as "hemiplegic migraines" which come with auras and can mimic strokes. Can also make you permanently disabled or cause death. Unfortunately there isn't a cure when the migraine happens. Edit: I have a lot of other health problems and apparently people think they're caused by my obesity however, I've been told by specialists, and I mean special specialists that are like, top 10 doctors in the country, that the medical conditions are the cause of my obesity. You read right. All my shitty autoimmune diseases are the cause of my obesity. I have like 15+ medical conditions. So, it makes a lot of sense.

The stuff that was done to me before 18 still affects me at 60.

:O Oh my God, that’s so awful!

I broke my femur bone clean in half around 4 years ago at around like 37 years old! I was in the middle of waiting to have surgery for a knee replacement at the time which never happened because once I broke my femur they did a hip replacement, which ended up dislocating. I left in an ambulance from there they sent me to three separate hospitals trying to put it back in place, ended up doing another full hip replacement which I never healed from! It ended up making me septic and got in my bloodstream and made me hallucinate! I was home alone with my daughters when I started seeing things, they were smart enough to call my mom which came over and called an ambulance then they took the hip replacement out and would not give me another one ended up spending 6 months between the hospital and a nursing home away from my kids, and having to learn to walk without a hip. They still refused to give me another hip replacement because they say it is too high risk so they referred me to Vanderbilt who wasn't in my network so they referred me to OrthoCarolina which is four and a half hours away from where I live so right now I am in the middle of waiting on having a ride out there so that I can see if all can actually live a normal life again! When I have to use a cart in the grocery store people stare because I know they think that I am too young and nothing is wrong with me because they can't see that I don't have a hip. Anyway, it was just kind of nice hearing stories similar to mine even though I hate that you guys had to go through similar situations! 💜 Wishing the best to all of you! 💕

@@kellywhitt9147 oh honey… this breaks my heart…

Exactly. Companies are out for one thing only. Profit, they absolutely do not give a fuck about people even in the face of brand loyalty.

Half the time they aren't even evaluating the problem at hand. Let's say, for example, you slip at work and injure your knee. Now your knee is unstable, and you have trouble balancing properly. You start walking with a cane to help with that. Now you go see the worker's comp doctor, who says that you don't need the cane because you can bear weight on the knee, so you're lying. The workers comp lawyers also get video of you mowing the lawn with a push mower, claiming "look! They can walk, so they're lying!" Meanwhile everyone is ignoring that your complaint wasn't that you can't walk, it was that you now have trouble keeping your balance. That you need something to lean on (perhaps, say, a lawn mower or a cane?) in order to catch yourself when you start to wobble. Their evidence says nothing about this, but they're still going to parade it out as if it wins their case. Thankfully, my example worked out in our favor. It was much more complicated than that, but in the end we got our bills paid for. But we were lucky. There are many instances where their tactics would have worked. It's despicable.

I'm assuming that episode is about the elderly woman that was seriously burned in the 90s. I still hear people joke about her and her money grabbing ways when she was SEVERELY injured and needed skin grafts and just wanted her medical bills paid. I really hate it here

@@_GreenSkies_ it is about that case. Her story is absolutely heartbreaking. The podcast is a really emphatic environment. They also deep dive into why the system works the way it does and how media coverage of these kinds of cases makes it even worse for victims.

@@EbayleyA Thanks for this! just listened it was really interesting.

Yes!! I love this podcast and this episode is so enlightening!

Why can't you recommend it though?

I gave up on the system after never seeing any justice for anything anyone has ever done to me. Personally I've never seen anyone held accountable for their actions unless it's over drugs or a rich person. I guess they get justice, us little people just have to hope karma gets them.

Especially since “likeability” is often tied to attractiveness or similarity to the beholder.

Right I would lose so fast 😭

Right? I know I’m “unlikeable” I give off a bad first impression. My partner teases me that I’m misunderstood because I’m articulate and speak fast with an obnoxious vocabulary which I get because know it alls are insufferable but I don’t think I’m smarter than anyone. I know this about me. It factored into my decision to sue last year. I still did but it sucks that you can be seriously hurt and still have to think about that.

This is one point where I think the UK civil legal system does a much better job. Civil cases here are tried by a judge, not a jury, so the legal facts tend to be more important than likeability, since judges are trained in law. My father had to sue after a motorcycle accident, and said that it was actually quite enjoyable to hear the judge have a go at the defendant's lawyers for trying to bring up ridiculous scenarios (like my father being partially responsible for the accident as if he has left for work five minutes later he wouldn't have been on the road for the car to hit him 😂).

It's no better in the US my wife's disability case lasted through three trials and eight and a half years and she was still denied until it went to Nationals

That’s awful, so sorry. I’m glad you’re mobile, but I’m sure it’s a daily decision to keep on keeping on.

Hope the NHS haven't booted you off the meds yet they kicked my mate off his Zomorph 50mg a day cold turkey and only gave him some codeine to replace it which didn't even touch the sides. Total clown show

Ditto. We had a Chinese Food takeout business in town whose floors were so greasy I slid across it when I went to pick up our order. Greasy floors, a temperature of 90° and 90% humidity made that floor an absolute hazard. I never went back. Six months later I saw the counter man walk out the door and do a one fingered nose blow onto the sidewalk. GROSS.

that sounds like a good rule of thumb

Ditto on "I don't want to support a business that hurts people, especially sweet people like you" & wish you would re-consider naming the restaurant. I hate to think I'm giving these jerks my money.

Toilets are also great places to check. If the places open to the public are filthy, the places not open to the public (kitchen) is not going to be any better...

P A

There's alot of systems that are purposely designed to be as difficult as possible. In theory it's justified by saying it weeds out those who aren't serious. In reality it makes it more difficult for people who are struggling to get what they need. A person attempting to play the system is more likely to have the patience and resources to see it through than someone who is struggling to get by.

Uhmm, you might want to check out her video “Phrases I Never Want To Hear Again”. Most people with a disability don’t enjoy being “reduced” to being someone’s inspiration for their every day problems - even if they mean well, which I’m sure you do.

@@alchemyofcolorandstyle Well fuck, she's a goddam content creator marketing her personality and story. She'll just have to deal with me being impressed by (and frankly kinda jealous of) her attitude.

Agreed!

if not the restaurant, the insurance company for sure. I'd not want to do business with a company that can admit fault and then recant and take someone to court like that.

I'm telling you right now that it's every single fast food restaurant everywhere. Someone used a grease mop to mop up a spilled drink or something in front of the counter. This happens constantly. When you're really unlucky it's an old person that falls (which the manager then gaslights the person who fell as saying that they were clumsy, and wet floor signs are usually left out all the time, even though it's Grease and not water). But most of the time it's someone young who manages to barely catch themselves. And the reason why the employee doesn't notice is because the back of the house is so covered in grease that you are slipping all of the time and simply get used to it. It is an absolute disaster, and why certain chain restaurants use carpeted floors that absorb the grease and look awful, but are much safer to walk on.

This type of negligence is maddening! I was recently in a restaurant that had the slipperiest floor I ever seen. It was a hallway that led to their bathrooms. It was so bad and I watched person after person make an employee aware while I ate. When my daughter suddenly asked to use the restroom I thought I lucky to at least have overheard and had a heads up. It took every bit of balance to keep myself and my daughter upright, there was no going around it. It was literally the whole hallway. And then the bathroom was also slippery. It was all so dangerous. I also went over to voice my concern to an employee that it was dangerous and someone is going to get hurt. I couldn’t in good conscience not also say something. The employee just said they were aware and that there was nothing they could do because it’s just the way that floor is…it was just always like that. I kid you not…that’s what he said. They are eventually going to cause someone to become seriously injured. I think they thought that since they had the slippery floor sign out that it wouldn’t be their fault.

Then they would sue her seeing as they didn’t admit fault. They just paid her money to shut up. And it worked.

That's exactly what I was thinking. All businesses have a responsibility to have a safe environment for customer. Small businesses shouldn't be treated as the true victim for having to pay medical bills.

Where people get hesitant to sue small businesses is that one bad lawsuit can shut them down. There is more of an emotional response to destroying Bill, who owns Bill's Burger Shack than going after a large corporation like McDonald's or Applebee's. Yes, I do agree they should pay for negligence. But small businesses have less of a buffer to eat the increased premium after paying out the deductible. This is why they often close after being sued.

@@christopherconard2831 they should close if they're unsafe

@@christopherconard2831 I understand the "you shouldn't sue if you can get compensated some other way". But she could not have been compensated some other way, so I do not understand her having to clarify further that the business is not small and could foot the bill. The same type of bill that can ruin a small business is the type of bill that can ruin a person, if a small business can't survive that bill financially, I have no reason to believe jo here could.

@@christopherconard2831 Then for that very reason, they should be even more careful than larger corporations about things like negligence, cleaning, and safety protocols.

I’ve been through that too. The backend medical notes. I only found out because I was trying to file for disability and my state required all the doctor’s notes. (I have a chronic disease so I was in multiple states trying to get help, and many many doctors). When I was reading them, I realized why I always had so much trouble getting help. I *presented* normal and not as described so all of the notes had buzz words like psychosomatic and “completely lucid.” I’m so sorry you were treated that way.

My cousin is a cop and did that. I know he doesn’t feel remorseful. The system sucks

@@lafq that is really sad to hear. I don’t know how anyone would be able to not feel remorse after hurting someone.

@@ecueto395 In his mind “She’s just looking for a payday”

@@lafq I had so much in hospital bills and to this day I still have constant issues solely from the accident. Most people have lifelong issues from car accidents especially being t-boned by someone that didn’t stop at a red light cause they weren’t paying attention that I doubt it’s always just people being greedy like he assumes. That’s really sad that he sees it that way. 😔

It's definitely working against the little person and made to break them down even more, to lose money, their health and even life, disgusting to see.

Ugh well said. Another reason for free (at point of service) public healthcare. This shouldn’t be complicated. A fellow citizen is hurt in a way that medicine can help, so of course we should help. Worst care scenario, we never get seriously or gravely injured and we did the moral thing “for no reason.” Wtf America.

I am so grateful that I am German. I was born with a genetic disorder and am basically unable to do anything myself at 30. German health care is free.

It's not really free!, You pay higher taxes.

@@eilenekellogg7017 Eilene… everyone knows that. Your employer effectively “taxes” you for your healthcare plan. The US spends 17% of its GDP on healthcare. Sweden spends 12%.

Your parents are jerks! 😂

My sister would have been handing over all of her Halloween candy and Easter candy until I turned 21. :0D

@@tinydancer7426 To be fair, it wasn't really her fault. She was not dressing in the kitchen. I should have paid more attention.

@@erictaylor5462 Oh, ok. Darn, missed an opportunity for some free candy there. :0D Guess the moral of the story is, if you are on crutches in the kitchen, always keep an eye out for your sister's underwear. :0)

Yes, listening to this I'm thinking the pain must have been so intense. I can't begin to imagine.

We actually had a ton of frustration with that - because, in my opinion, the mediator who is paid to be impartial, did NOT appear to be that way. It felt rigged. There's a lot more to that story, but for what its worth, I really appreciate your validation on that. 💜

I fear a lot of that is due to ableism being so darn ingrained in society that it was simply not an issue he could properly engage with. (now if he were a properly trained and ethical mediator he wouldn't have behaved as ridiculous even if he didn't know this bit of lived experience for ca 20% of humanity, but alas)

@@FootlessJo I’m not sure what governing body he/she works under, but it might be worth it to file with the governing/certifying board… In my situation I’ve dealt with unethical attorneys/judges by referring them to the bar or board of judicial conduct (you have to write everything up by their respective rules of conduct, but it’s actually really easy to pull things apart in that context)… And you can always come back to it later - it’ll just set precedent for the next time someone goes through a similar situation 🤙

@Misz President Nixon Agreed. He may have been reacting to experiences in court when he caught someone exaggerating their injuries to get more money -- maybe -- but whatever the reason, he was not impartial. I'm sorry you had to go through it. It sounds way too much like what sexual assault victims too often experience in court -- although usually that comes from the defense attorney, NOT the judge.

As soon as I heard “retired judge” I thought “old school” and a few degrees off of morally right on the compass 😔 how infuriating

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How do you get in several different car accidents? And they were all Traumatic? The word we use in my community to describe your story is Fugazi. Because I live in an urban area and asked every single person around me how many they've been in (after showing your post) and the largest number was 3 over 27 years... ffs..

@@patrickasplund It's not your, or my place to define traumatic for someone else. Maybe it was public transit, maybe it was someone else driving, we don't know, and shouldn't dismiss someone based on our own experiences. (Or the experiences of people in our circles.)

@@patrickasplund It could have been driving for work, or as someone else mentioned, public transport, another driver, etc... or sheer bad luck. You have NO IDEA what someone else's experiences are. It's a little arrogant of you to assume your experience, and even the experiences of "every single person" around you, applies to every other person in the world. Most car accidents are traumatic - I've been in 2 within the space of 2 years. One in which I was the at-fault driver, according to insurance (it was an unfortunate circumstance, but it was my car that hit another), and one where I wasn't, and they were both horribly traumatic, I had nightmares for months after each. You should probably ask yourself why your immediate response to assume someone is lying about a traumatic incident, especially in the comment section of a youtube video that also deals with trauma. That says a hell of a lot about what kind of person you are (none of it favourable, I assure you.)

Several? Oh dear, how did you manage so much bad luck?!

Startled me a lot, and I'm American!

Omg yeah and with the context of the video! 😂 I could see how that could confuse lol

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@@allyrose6437 ed

This is even funnier bc of your username "Vabulous puns" indeed.

It really really sucks that she had to drop what she was totally entitled to

Maybe send a tip to Occupational Health and Safety. Pretty sure in my jurisdiction frequent water breaks are required for physical labour over certain temperatures.

@@jamesphillips2285 it's been a while since I worked there. About 2 years now. I'm still a bit irritated by it and I'm still paying the hospital for it. But since they do offer water/Gatorade, they are technically in the clear. They pressure you to continue working without a break, but they "insist that you take care of yourself while working". They walk a fine line, and unfortunately they can get away with it

Having done HR work in my former job, it is extremely common for bosses to find ways to get out of paying workers comp. Usually they also trash the employee and make them out to be idiots, when equipment and the like is not maintained, etc. saw a coworker who sustained a serious head injury that this happened to. Sometimes I wonder if filing a report with OSHA would be helpful or not.

Yep, another way That I heard of was that often when a Disabled person is Murdered the Murderer will often he given a Lighter Sentence then a person who Murdered a Able-bodied and Neurotypical (someone without any Mental Health conditions) person, even when all other factors are Eliminated.

@@lucyla9947 it's true and its generally by family/caregivers. Anytime it appears in media also there is never any mention of who was murdered but making right and reasonable what the murderer did. Recently the excuse has been "over worker/underpaid/ stressed by the pandemic." If you are interested look for the website for disability day of mourning that we as disabled mark as a day of remembrance for such cases.

@@DesMowadeng yeah, I've already heard about that site, honestly the whole thing is just like why? Why pretend like the Murder of a Disabled person isn't a big deal, even sympathize with the Killer, when if someone did that regarding a non disabled victim it would be seen as a horrible thing to do or say?

@@DesMowadeng if anything people should care more about the Murder of Disabled people as they are some of the Most vulnerable people on the Planet (Alongside Children, the Elderly, and Pregnant people) so we should put more effort into protecting them, as let's be honest if a person goes to shoot you a Amputee will have a harder problem getting out of that situation than an Able-bodied person, and a Mentally Disabled person may struggle to understand the severity of the situation, or even just become unable to do anything do to conditions such as Anxiety.

@@lucyla9947 because those with disabilities are seen as less than and as things that should be hidden and forgotten. We also must realize these people who are murdered at the hands of care givers/parents the reason for the glorification is because the disabled person is deemed a burden. This is less likely to be the situation for someone who's developed a disability tragically or over time and more likely to be a person born with the disability such as limb loss/difference, birth defects such as my disability which is Spina bifida, more server froms of cerebral palsy, down down syndrome, or more severe forms of autism.

Lol that's not actual gaslighting. Try learning what it really is

@@liveandletlive9333 I understand what gaslighting is. He was acting like her real pain and difficulty getting a prosthetic was just normal difficulties, not caused by the fall. Try not being a dick.

@@liveandletlive9333 lmao what a username.

@@liveandletlive9333 Here’s a definition for you taken directly from the American psychological Association (APA): “Gaslighting is a form of manipulation. It is an insidious and sometimes covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality.” In layman‘s terms (bc I doubt you understood all the big words) Gaslighting is any attempt to piss on someone’s leg and tell them it’s raining. So you tell me Is trying to explain to an amputee the intricacies of amputation when they already know not in anyway and attempt to get them to question their competency or understanding of the current situation? Sounds to me that Maybe you’re the one that doesn’t do well with definitions love. 💀

@@dominiqueg1639 here here well said.

what moral high ground is there to be gained by letting others be ignorant about the horribleness of people? virtuousity doesn’t exist in a vacuum

@@paradoxica424 The issue here is not the moral high ground. The take away here is when you treat people poorly, there are consequences.

I don't have it but I know 3 people who suffer from it. So many people don't want to believe it exists. Just like endometriosis.

@@lorifiedler13 It's the same thing with interstitial cystitis, which is more painful than anything else I've experienced. Yet I can't get help 😵

@@HiKingMargo But, according to medical professionals, of all genders, women don't experience pain or are lying about it for drugs. It's 2022. How much longer will women have to wait before we are believed when it comes to our bodies.?

@@HiKingMargo no joke! IC is HORRIBLE pain! Right under the pain of brain swelling where I thought I was going to die and above the pain of multiple pelvic surgeries. The things that have helped me the most is a 100% organic diet with nothing acidic or bitter in the least bit. Sure it's expensive, sure it's bland. But better than burning out the sciatic nerve and peeing blood. Also smoking marijuana helps me with the pain. Not eating it though and no vaping cuz that irritates it too. Best of luck to you!

@@lorifiedler13 Considering the disproportionate funding for men versus women studies, I'd say it's going to be a while.

That's 90% of our legal system actually

That is what I was thinking during her comment.

Well room for all sorts of biases and isms negative affectly victims there

Trial by jury is a really fucked up system

You spoke so well telling all the issues with the law suit. I just want you and your hubby to enjoy your lives!! Youvhave been through too much already. Prayers and Peace

Do not post anything to social media for the next three years? If that's really the standard then we're going to have a lot of people reading this comment and going wackjob nutso on people instead of taking them to court. I suggest you clarify.

My son was crossing the street when hit by a car his lawyer also told him not to go social media

@@DrewNorthup I feel like it's more don't post anything regarding the Incident, you can can still post your normal stuff, just don't post about the Incident until the Lawsuit is finished.

@@lucyla9947 Did you watch the video?

Me too! I’m so scared of this. What do you use other than crutches?

@@prisayisrike7910 I used a chair and knee scooter after my amputation. As well as a walker. I want 4 points of contact at all times! 😂

Thank Goodness Your baby is Ok! I hope y'all are doing well! I am terrified of this kind of thing!

@@kal.august.yippee yes thank you. I was like 7months! I know myself well enough now to not even attempt crutches knowing I can fall on 2 feet lol

It's incredible how much money flow into the american systems and yet basic healthcare aren't even covered and anybody can go bankrupt just because of an accident (and accidents are frequent as hell in the United States! Especially with their cars infrastructures!) Nobody should be left in total pain and completely disabled because they can't afford a surgery, especially in the "best country in the world", as they pretend it to be! As a canadian I know how helpful a public healthcare system can be.

Thank you so much 💜

My only fear would be if the at company went out of business