Finances in Marriage | Couch Conversations | S1 E4 

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I really like that idea. It’s like you need to be able to be on your own if you need to. People change

Completely love this idea. That’s what I’ll be doing if I ever get married.

This is how I'm gonna wanna do things this is how my parents did it.

Do you pay the household bills out of the joint account?

thank u!

yes,my man doesn't know anything about budgeting. drives me nuts with money. I'm in finance so I'm frugal

The how and when is not exactly straightforward. Sometimes the time is never right. And sometimes the how is also never right. I remember I tried so hard to edit what I was trying to say to my wife for a particular issue we were having, the original message was completely lost. She had to reconsider how she heard what I said eventually because what I had to say would have bothered her no matter how it was said or when. So yes I have to watch how and when I say what I say, but she has to consider how she's interpreting what's being said as well. It's a give and take.

Women can't handle truth.

This is by far the hardest thing in communicating with a gf/wife. Most of the time, we men are used to saying things "matter-of-factly", straight to the point. The editing tend to often erode the original message, and sometimes, it's never quite right. I think it's because men are typically more logical and women more emotional (before you crucify me, I don't mean that in a deregatory way, I mean they listen more with emotions, to try to get the feeling behind the message -- see, I'm already editing myself for the women in the audience here 😅). It goes the other way as well: we guys usually just want to hear what the problem is, and how we can solve it, tend to get confused/impatient when the problem is described through feelings and emotions (and sometimes, there isn't even anything to fix, we just need to listen, but that's not how our minds operate lol)

I am sorry you are feeling this way. I would like to encourage you today that despite your situation, God has a plan for your life. Give all your anxiety and worries to Him because He cares for you. 🙏🏼❤️

@@mrsb0215, thank you so much for taking the time to read my comment, and for responding. Thank you so much for encouraging me as well. I am trying to trust in God, and I am struggling with my faith. This is very painful for me. I am probably going to have to move in 6 weeks or so, and that adds to my anxiety as well, as I do not know where I will be going (yet).

@@sylvietapos807 You’re very welcome. I pray that your faith will be renewed and that this time will be an opportunity for you to draw closer to Him, for you to truly trust in the plans He has for you. Easier said than done of course but one thing I know for sure is that no matter what we are going through, God cares for us and He sees our cries. The word also tells us to cast our anxiety on Him because he cares for us. One step at a time. Call on His name in those moments of anxiety and worry. Meditate on His word and listen to worship songs to life you up. I’ve been in a rut these past few days but I made a conscious decision to just praise Him despite it all. To just call on His name knowing that He’s truly in control even when we don’t see it. I pray that you will receive clarity and peace about what’s next for you. I pray that despite it all, you would have a grateful spirit. As I pray for you on this, I’m ministering to myself as well. 🙏🏼❤️

@@mrsb0215, thank you again, so much! Thank you for your prayers as well, I appreciate them so much. Thank you for ministering to me, while you are also ministering to yourself. I have done that in the past, so I understand. I am so sorry that you have had a few challenging days. I will be praying for you, and praying that things will get better for you. I spent three hours this morning with God, and I will write in my gratitude journal this evening. It helps me to pray for others, I tend to intercede better for others, and press through for them, than I do for myself. I have unfortunately given too many days to the enemy, by worrying, being anxious, and beating up on myself. I am working on having a different attitude. 1-Praise God as you suggested, 2-continuing to be in His Word, and 3-listening to worship songs. Have you watched the video "The God Who sees?" I only watched it today, it is soooo good. It ministered to me. I watched it twice, and I was crying both times. Have a great evening! And thank you again for your time 💜🙏

@@sylvietapos807 You’re very welcome!! You are not alone. ❤️

I hear that!! I think that someone’s financial situation is really important. I have my own, and I’m not gonna have anyone Leach off of me or not be able to handle them self. I want someone that’s going to help contribute , not take away

@Connor Dusty Hickory I don't know if that's true for all couples

@AveolarD True, but many don’t discuss investing, saving, and planning for the unexpected. Also, discussing is one thing, follow through is everything.

Just subscribed after watching 2 episodes a few hours ago and I agree

True 😁😂😂🤩🤩🤩🤩

LOL!

Their problems are the same base on same energy.

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Facts😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅

Maybe because the table is far af. Ain't nobody tryna break their backs for some popcorn lol

I know riiiiiiight

AHAHA

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I would’ve been ignorant asf, eating a red delicious apple all in the mic 🤣🤣 kicked off the set 😂

THIS is a profound truth that I didn’t understand until recently! Parenthood preparation is KEY, it has a SIGNIFICANT financial impact on individuals.

Very well said. People always ask : when are you gonna have children, just throwing that question around. Anytime I’m around I take the floor and tell them: children are EXPENSIVE, let people have kids when that can and are ready to care for them while maintaining a balance.

😆😆You are so right, and I just remember aunt Vivi imitating Hilary asking for it. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Facts

I agree

I agree on having joint finances. I also think it's wise for a wife to have "just-in-case-$" or "what-if-$." 😬Hubby wake up 1 day and decide he doesn't want to be marry.

@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 I’ve heard so many people tell me to basically have money stashed. I know things happen (my parents had an ugly divorce) but I’m choosing to believe that when we said “I do” five years ago, it was forever. Our names are on all the accounts so we both have rights to it.

So what is joining finances? That sounds like u would be splitting things.

@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 should the man have some just in case money hidden too cuz it’s usually the women who file for divorce

Great point. My father taught us to always carry emergency cash when you are out.

@@lisacox3750 exactly! Some people weren’t taught that unfortunately

I never carry cash ever.

Yeah. I used to always have at least a small amount of cash but I’ve gotten away from it. Need to get back to that. Especially in these days and times

Nopee