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After Love - Mental Health - S1 E3 - The Black Love Doc After Show 

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In this episode of #BLAfterLove, the official aftershow of Black Love on OWN, the series co-creator and director Codie Elaine Oliver joins Anthony & Melanie and Tracci & Tony to continue the discussion around mental health in their relationships and how to spot - and address - red flags. These couples share their journeys through trauma, therapy, and how to help your partner when they're not sure they need it. Watch Black Love on Saturdays at 9/8c OWN in September & October.
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@fdoctor79
@fdoctor79 3 года назад
"I am going to COVER you and not CRUCIFY you." Whew, what a word!
@MsKISS6
@MsKISS6 3 года назад
Amen!
@prettyroyalqueen4823
@prettyroyalqueen4823 3 года назад
Yessss Lord! Well said! Amen! #maturityandwisdom
@pamelafleming3017
@pamelafleming3017 3 года назад
Society has always protrayed men as these masculine human beings that has to walk around showing their muscles at all time, we are human we have feelings and we are emotional and its Okay to express yourself, therapy good for the soul loving this video
@rebekahkingbello9560
@rebekahkingbello9560 3 года назад
Yes!!! Whole word
@striving1
@striving1 3 года назад
Wowsers!!!
@ZACH3RI
@ZACH3RI 3 года назад
This is GROWN folks level right here!!
@nicolehylton6564
@nicolehylton6564 3 года назад
Absolutely!!
@jimmieeyes
@jimmieeyes 3 года назад
Yes, I love it
@meetthetables6803
@meetthetables6803 3 года назад
Yes for sure, and it shows once again that marriage wasn’t made for immature people
@candygirlll7320
@candygirlll7320 3 года назад
Big Facts
@j9carson
@j9carson 3 года назад
This is honestly some of the best relationship insight I have ever heard - at 41 yrs old. Married for the second time (and finally feeling like I’m doing it right)
@chunky1012
@chunky1012 3 года назад
I'm a mental health professional and we need more discussions like this in our communities! 🖤🖤🖤
@sylvietapos807
@sylvietapos807 3 года назад
Amen!!!!
@weareyoungfamily5746
@weareyoungfamily5746 3 года назад
A must watch it doesn't get any realler than this! Hubby and i spoke explicitly about the myths about marriages we spoke the truth and nothing but the truth! Very hilarious too! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_jj-sdCSn78.html
@ecustoms8617
@ecustoms8617 3 года назад
I had a massive stroke last year, its been the biggest mental challenge challenge of my life, husband and children's lives. It took me a while to understand that it wasnt just me but that, my hubb and kids had a traumatic event in their lives too. Married 12yrs, together 18, & everything we know now is new and starting over. I'm learning how to function knowing that even tho im alive, it's like i died. My family misses and deals with parts of me that's no longer here ( mentally). Folks say that my personality is the same but no one feels the trauma & shift more than my hubb who is still choosing to stick by this new person he's getting to know all over again, with almost 20 yrs of life with the same person.. I know and love them all but i had to lean who this woman was and is, at the same time...this show has been helping me so much...
@thecuteshuttletransportati7025
@thecuteshuttletransportati7025 3 года назад
More so healing...
@KtotheB1218
@KtotheB1218 3 года назад
Exactly! I am too and so glad to see this topic being discussed on platforms.
@abc123gcb
@abc123gcb 3 года назад
Single, but I'm still here for the gems !
@itsviccc._
@itsviccc._ 3 года назад
Same girl lol it’s only right!
@taiharris5236
@taiharris5236 3 года назад
Learn on the bench before getting in the game.
@cassandracraig3708
@cassandracraig3708 3 года назад
You and i both
@denisebay5800
@denisebay5800 3 года назад
Same here and I learn a lot🙏🏽💯
@ThisizKena
@ThisizKena 3 года назад
Same sis..🤣🤣..we gon be ready doe..😏
@ebony0836
@ebony0836 3 года назад
Grown folks talking 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 No tiktoking here!!
@Tommythefilmmaker
@Tommythefilmmaker 3 года назад
Lol, I love this comment :)
@anonnona6433
@anonnona6433 3 года назад
I know right!!!!...They have been through the school of Life. Loving their grown vibe and wisdom ✨ 🙌 🥰
@ValarieCole
@ValarieCole 3 года назад
💪🙏👍
@nomvulankoro2109
@nomvulankoro2109 3 года назад
None whatsoever.......children, get to bed.
@zeepickens2712
@zeepickens2712 3 года назад
@@Tommythefilmmaker *Me too! The best comment ever!* 💕
@sandyg.8318
@sandyg.8318 3 года назад
The lady with the glasses is sooo jazzy 😍
@motshidisimokwena262
@motshidisimokwena262 3 года назад
Oh she kills it...🤓
@oddestyk
@oddestyk 3 года назад
As a Licensed mental health therapist, I really appreciate that these conversations are taking place. More of this is needed. Being able to recognize triggers, the need for space and being transparent and open is so vital to relationships when dealing with mental illness. I love what is taking place here.
@kaiharmony
@kaiharmony 3 года назад
I didnt learn I got you until I met my wife. Wow ❤♥️ the work some of us black women put in to help heal our men is phenomenal
@patrice5311
@patrice5311 3 года назад
As a single woman hearing him say you're dealing with the little person along with the adult version and the persons in-between made me want to cry. I have showed up as the little girl in me and not understanding that she just wants to be loved. Now I feel like I can verbally express just that and not cry my way through it and looking crazy! Thank you for sharing
@chantillysutton
@chantillysutton 3 года назад
Awww hugs and positive vibes.. I feel everything you’ve said..💚
@zeepickens2712
@zeepickens2712 3 года назад
*@Pat Rice ✨💕🙌🏾💕✨!!*
@theamazingclarks
@theamazingclarks 2 года назад
That is wonderful! You cant do better until you know better. So happy this helped.
@MsMizz1
@MsMizz1 Год назад
That part got me. I felt seen. I didn’t know I needed that. I cried unexpectedly.
@reikomyles1495
@reikomyles1495 3 года назад
Mental health is an unspoken issue in the black community. We truly have to be openly honest, supportive and unashamed about the struggle with our significant other and or spouse. Life can hit us hard with trauma, how we handle it varies with each individual. Pray to God, get the medical help, meds, counseling whatever it takes to get the illness managed. Most important God is there every step of the way.
@blessingsbest6838
@blessingsbest6838 3 года назад
Well said!!
@mrsbdubc2174
@mrsbdubc2174 3 года назад
We're opened in my blk community.
@rozjewels
@rozjewels 3 года назад
This was absolutely the best discussion. My heart and soul needed to hear their story.
@reginadright2581
@reginadright2581 3 года назад
Likewise.
@FreedomofSpeech865
@FreedomofSpeech865 3 года назад
Same
@weareyoungfamily5746
@weareyoungfamily5746 3 года назад
A must watch it doesn't get any realler than this! Hubby and i spoke explicitly about the myths about marriages we spoke the truth and nothing but the truth! Very hilarious too! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_jj-sdCSn78.html
@corbinsmith2877
@corbinsmith2877 3 года назад
Me Too ❤️🙏🏾
@phlickster
@phlickster 3 года назад
WHAT? "We all have an inner world." YES! That right there.
@jlawrence7948
@jlawrence7948 3 года назад
"Don't fight to win, fight to grow". Much appreciation for this conversation. #BlackLove is growing and learning together on the daily. The best to you all looking for, being in and finding Love. God Bless.
@darricklorenzo3963
@darricklorenzo3963 3 года назад
Wow!! its so good to see US, black folks talking about mental health and how we as a younger generation of black men can learn and understand that its ok to be vulnerable and show real emotions with our queens because in the end they are going to love and hold us down until the final bell. Much respect to these beautiful couples for sharing their stories.
@StandupGirl-ym3ey
@StandupGirl-ym3ey 3 года назад
❤❤
@yvonnemiller1284
@yvonnemiller1284 3 года назад
The after show of Black Love, adds a necessary dimension and dynamic to the actual presentation. It has become a requirement in the evolution of the Black Love series. Thank you.
@bluetrue1152
@bluetrue1152 3 года назад
I’m a newlywed that just got married 2 weeks ago. This discussion is sooooo important. I am learning through them. Thanks for doing the “after show”, it adds a deeper layer of transparency!!!
@Dgivan09
@Dgivan09 3 года назад
A lot of people don’t realize nor care to acknowledge the residue they bring from past relationships. They physically move on but emotionally they are still caught up in the issues they never overcame with exes. It can be the simplest thing that triggers them to respond as if you are the ex. It’s so important to heal and show up whole and available mentally, physically and emotionally.
@adrenna1973
@adrenna1973 3 года назад
I've come to realize that while I can't show up completely healed, I can acknowledge what needs healing and continue to do the work personally. No longer do I hold my partner to heal what is mine. Its not his responsibilty. Simply knowing I have a safe and loving place to land when I'm having a difficult time means the world to me.
@vsims365
@vsims365 3 года назад
This is an excellent show...a lot of people (me) only saw dysfunctional love, but never the “Do the work & see the results” flip side of Love...I’m encouraging people to watch to get these different perspectives early on as some what of a guide through their own Love story...Thanks Codie 😊
@dldance4him
@dldance4him 3 года назад
Tonight's show was heavy but insightful. I appreciate the focus on mental health in a relationship.
@cherrybleuberry7924
@cherrybleuberry7924 3 года назад
What I love about this interview is how deep the couples went in their relationship and mentioned this. I also love the fact that they didn't make excuses and took/take a look at themselves because one of the hardest things in life is too look at yourself. I appreciate that a lot and is one of the biggest things in a relationship whether this is intimate or friendship wise. That's called being transparant, honest and vulnerable. GREAT INTERVIEW👍🏾
@charchar7897
@charchar7897 3 года назад
I Love Tracci, she was my hairdresser for years. She's always been a beautiful soul.
@nicolesmith7611
@nicolesmith7611 3 года назад
Thank you for talking about this, I finally signed up for therapy after hitting rock bottom. I could see that I was self sabatoging and run from a relationship at the first sign of disturbance. After almost losing my future husband, I ran to the first therapist available. My dismissivness came from my childhood.
@shaneen-youtube
@shaneen-youtube 3 года назад
This is truly Black Love! The level of depth/support/introspection these couples have for each other is inspiring. I have fought through mental health issues with a man for almost 1 year. He was in denial about the impact that his behavior had on me & our relationship/interactions. Multiple times he brushed off his behavior (snippyness, lack of empathy, callousness, surface conversations, lack of vulnerability) & told me to "get outta your head" or "quit tryna overanalyze everything". I was pushed away multiple times & i finally gave up the fight. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Ultimately I realized, you can't force someone to heal their traumas. They have to be ready & willing to do the work.
@chantillysutton
@chantillysutton 3 года назад
I just experienced this. So true. You have to heal and want to be heal and want to be healed💚
@chosen.eklektos
@chosen.eklektos 3 года назад
Anthony and Melanie are so real and transparent...not saying the others aren't...it just something special and rare about them every time you listen to them!!! Love seeing them on the show!!!
@hanniegaya7200
@hanniegaya7200 3 года назад
C.S. Cooper they are my absolute favourite couples... I wanna hear their children talk about them.
@chosen.eklektos
@chosen.eklektos 3 года назад
@@hanniegaya7200 Yaaaassss!!! That would be an awesome show!!!
@BridgettHart
@BridgettHart 3 года назад
Hannie Gaya I can tell you their children adore them.
@missfavoured
@missfavoured 3 года назад
I agree, and looked them up on RU-vid.
@stephanietaylor2351
@stephanietaylor2351 3 года назад
Black does not crack at all.. Beautiful people who are seeing themselves, healing themselves and loving themselves so that love between them can flourish!!!
@brandywarrior
@brandywarrior 3 года назад
Thank you for this. We (Black folks) NEED to hear this and discuss our issues. We NEED to hear how we heal together and separately. We NEED to hear the importance of peace, trust and intentionality of working to be better. 🙏🏿✊🏿✨🦋
@trevavaughn5
@trevavaughn5 3 года назад
Yes Brandy
@reikomyles1495
@reikomyles1495 3 года назад
Amen
@kayejohnson2356
@kayejohnson2356 2 года назад
Say Brandy, This is Soo true! We do need this, It has been sooo long over due , that we as a people , Not only needed to see and be witnesses to; but have WANTED to recognize for positiveness in a relationship between our Black Men / Woman, If it can be publized with other races , I say it's High time it's publized with (Black folk) I'm lefted in awe to be a witness of the beautiful honesty that our Black Men are Sharing and I'm loving it! Prior to one of the first ones I watched , And this wasn't couples, It was just an Black Men at the round table, and it was just one on the panel, Anyway this love , love, love 💕, Thank you soo much black couples, Peace ✌️🕊️ and blessings!!!!
@brandywarrior
@brandywarrior 2 года назад
@@kayejohnson2356 amen and Amen!
@marjorie588
@marjorie588 3 года назад
This discussion is SOOOOOO important for singles and people in relationships. We need more of this!
@EboniSpice
@EboniSpice 3 года назад
Landmines!!!! I wasn't able to quite express this to someone but it's exactly how I felt!!!!
@ButterflyMs7
@ButterflyMs7 3 года назад
“I’m gonna cover you and not crucify you!” #powerful
@CurlsandThings
@CurlsandThings 3 года назад
She’s a good woman to have waited 30 minutes for him to come back.
@ygamltd8212
@ygamltd8212 3 года назад
She didnt have no money she didnt have a choice
@adelitenyamhanga7823
@adelitenyamhanga7823 3 года назад
I would have been popping off and pissed
@blessingsbest6838
@blessingsbest6838 3 года назад
She must have seen something different in him!
@C.Driggus
@C.Driggus 3 года назад
That was DEEP.........GLAD EVERYONE POURED OUT THER HEART❤
@goodtrouble841
@goodtrouble841 3 года назад
it doesn’t have anything to do with goodness. she was a self-aware woman who was emotionally intelligent enough to know he was experiencing an upset that had nothing to do with her. she simply held space for him while he worked thru it. ppl have done the same for me & i do the same for others.
@evelyntaylor9215
@evelyntaylor9215 3 года назад
These episodes are soooooo important and revealing of truth! I'm 60 starting to "TRY" again after being divorced 23 1/2 years! I have NO dating experience!!! Please continue with shows like this Because I'm getting dating tips, triggers about myself, and steps on what to avoid and pursue. ❤
@nicolemccray8095
@nicolemccray8095 3 года назад
I absolutely love Anthony and Melanie’s relationship. My therapist told me to look for examples of what I desire and seeing them gives me a visual reference of what I knew I desired , but couldn’t quite see. Scott Peck says “Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.” Melanie and Anthony went into a situation with the purpose of enjoying themselves and let their intuition guide them towards a relationship that gives them the space to evolve-together. Bless them. Btw I googled them and I will most definitely be signing up for that singles webinar they’re offering . Lol
@alisaben1
@alisaben1 3 года назад
I love when we openly and freely talk about our mental health it is so courageous, freeing and beautiful. First thing I ever had to do in my healing, was to deal with my " little". Our ancestors I hope are very proud we're slowly doing something different. #blacklovematters
@GoogleAccount00
@GoogleAccount00 3 года назад
This is the best video of them all! ❤️ (Mental health is abnormally ignored in the world of dating) What a treasure to hear this wisdom. I’m so grateful for what each of you shared. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CREATING THIS SHOW ✨ I’m back. I made my initial comment halfway through the video. The video just ended and it got even better. I’m in tears. I needed to hear this! ✨💗✨
@blessingsbest6838
@blessingsbest6838 3 года назад
I like Anthony and Melanie.... Anthony’s voice lovely! I agree with Melanie about intuition and spirit! I also believe in God and waiting. It’s all relative! I like the other couple too! Fashion & style on point. I like this discussion!!! ❣️❣️❣️....
@Coolvthemantheicon
@Coolvthemantheicon 3 года назад
Anthony and Melanie need there own show. When they speak I am at attention and my ears are glued to this video. OMG!!!!!!
@BridgettHart
@BridgettHart 3 года назад
Agreed!!
@chloeanderson9128
@chloeanderson9128 3 года назад
I thought it was just me. I realized that they were full grown from the show and this interview confirmed it!
@tamarawanjiku
@tamarawanjiku 3 года назад
I was taking notes .... Then came back n watched it with my man . He's grateful for this... Same goes for me ❤️❤️
@melanatedqueen
@melanatedqueen 3 года назад
Watched this with mine last night too & he is NOT keen on emotion talk let alone talk abt MH but he loved this.. I needed to watch it again so came back.
@tamarawanjiku
@tamarawanjiku 3 года назад
@@melanatedqueen 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💕yaaas queen. We have to recognize that men are also human, they deserve king treatment just as we deserve queen treatment. Mine takes time to open up especially if its in regards to "the social standards men are expected to have" but he makes sure to ask for hugs or just says he's not okay when somethings up n he doesn't want to go into details at that particular time but I'm grateful for the progress because in the beginning he used to go silent on me
@tamarawanjiku
@tamarawanjiku 3 года назад
@@melanatedqueen I'm glad they're back to posting Afterlove.
@melanatedqueen
@melanatedqueen 3 года назад
@@tamarawanjiku oh yes sis, we need to treat them well too honey! They too deserve that. I loved the landmines idea from Anthony & Melanie - allowing each other to handle somethings without the other nagging to hear the gory details. So your man is headed in the right direction. Mine wants to keep a front, I think because he runs a bunch of guys for work - runs a construction company, he used to think that is also who he needed to be with me. Now, (after maybe a year of screaming matchs) I knw he is not the guy he is with me with anyone else but me. He is gentle to the point I knw nobody else has ever seen tht side of him, impossible. He will message to say if he feels it's been forever and he hasn't been missed, he doesn't think twice. "Babe! so what, you just aren't missing me!?" When he needs reassurance he will say so. I think I am open book, but I am not verbal much when it comes to emotions either. After four years my thinking was; you have my house keys, your flat is emptier than a place which is vacant, I have to talk to you abt me leaving home for a week or two & moving across the country with work, we have been together for four years - I used to assume tht was enough for a guy, with zero need for me to say verbally I absolutely adore you. I too have learnt somethings. When he treats you like you are precious to him, only fair we return that favour and continue to learn where we might err. I adore tht man gosh, he is the only human being I have ever been with who I can miss and get physically sick. Like my tummy genuinely hurts, my blood pressure rises & I can't keep anything down kind.
@queenishutchins5348
@queenishutchins5348 3 года назад
These couples having an real conversation without drama. Love the show. ❤❤❤
@sergeantwilliams8185
@sergeantwilliams8185 3 года назад
Queenis Hutchins this is what I like. Real couples, coming together and discussing their issues without the drama, yelling or screaming.
@mikeskybrowser
@mikeskybrowser 3 года назад
Yeah this is the kind of representation I like to see.
@dineoportiamagoro3212
@dineoportiamagoro3212 3 года назад
@Queenis Hutchins This is black love not Love and hiphop. Lol...
@adrianalouisa4541
@adrianalouisa4541 3 года назад
This was a great eposide enjoyed the synergy between these couples...Codie such a flawless interviewer....so many nuggets in here....& these women are stylish 🥂💕
@summergirl1647
@summergirl1647 3 года назад
By far one, if not the BEST discussions ever!! So many gems and takeaways. I thank you sooooo much for this platform, I thank these couples for being so open, honest and down right vulnerable. I am so proud of my blacks brothers because it is rare to see bkack men exposing their insecurities, period and then to bare all for the world to see, BRAVO! I am literally in tears. I think I like the after show even better, it seems more personalable I LOVEEEEE Black Love!!💝
@Mbalz779
@Mbalz779 3 года назад
I love seeing black love, very enlightening. I appreciate you showing a positive and authentic light to black love ❤
@jeneleh8164
@jeneleh8164 3 года назад
Simply Amazing! Please continue to interview these 2 couples. We need to continue to hear from them. Interview is great as well. She asks great probing questions and gives them time to talk without interrupting them. Loving how one couple comes from spirituality and the other christianly, makes it easy for multiple people to relate regardless of their beliefs. BRAVO and WELL DONE to all involved!
@lisasims3970
@lisasims3970 3 года назад
Melanie looks so pretty and regal. I love her hair pulled back like that!
@dineoportiamagoro3212
@dineoportiamagoro3212 3 года назад
It suits her and makes her look even younger
@edelkinuthia3615
@edelkinuthia3615 3 года назад
I just truly loved this session. The more I listen to these couples, I realize how fortunate I am as a single person. To be learning so much and to be enriched by their collective experiences. I have learnt from my parents being together, however, I have loved hearing from other black couples and how they have done life together as well as how do the continue to invest in their marriage and in their own individual growth.
@Shorty94565
@Shorty94565 3 года назад
I really enjoy hearing Tracy's husband saying she covered him. I really appreciate hearing couples be able to hold space for each other. In my next marriage I look forward to finding true partnership. It truly takes two people willing to do the emotional work. Thank you for sharing these gems.
@angelammathis8475
@angelammathis8475 3 года назад
I am very grateful for these episodes.. Black couples can talk about real issues...
@adrenna1973
@adrenna1973 3 года назад
The vunerabilty of this is everything. Its so refreshing to see couples talk about trauma from a place of healing versus judgement and shame. When people tell me they don't have disagreements, or don't want to talk about their past, I question it because I know how our past shapes us. There must be some self awareness and a degree of transparency in the beginning. Others always show us who they are. Its our duty to listen, feel and pay attention to what our spirit is conveying...first.
@divine2wear
@divine2wear 3 года назад
This is so good. Thank you for celebrating the beauty in the ups and downs. This is a needed and balanced narrative. Love has been idolized and romanticized for so long and it’s messing us up out here in these single streets. Lol. Thanks!
@OmazingFitness
@OmazingFitness 3 года назад
I felt all of this. So many gems. Black don’t crack. They look good.
@TiffanyBTV
@TiffanyBTV 3 года назад
This is the Pure Truth i love to see and hear from couples. I love to see real black love not that foolishness we see in the blogs. Like what’s real and what’s fake, what to expect and the hard truth in marriage. Thank you for allowing us to see Love in its True form 🙌🏾
@jay4341
@jay4341 3 года назад
These are the real OG’s of relationship. Love the conversation about mental health. This shouldn’t be a taboo topic in our community anymore.
@Skippy2k33
@Skippy2k33 3 года назад
These are some beautiful couples. They paint pictures of "REAL LOVE"! So many people look at love through rose colored lenses. This gives folks who are in relationships or those who want real relationships blueprints for success. "Words don't teach, examples do!" Thanks for being an example. Thanks for the takeaways.
@TheChizznut
@TheChizznut 3 года назад
That land mine description though! 👏🏾
@nicolebj2772
@nicolebj2772 3 года назад
I absolutely appreciate After Love! The couples are so transparent and genuine, and that is soooooooooo helpful! 🙌 We need this! 🙏
@hgfw9295
@hgfw9295 3 года назад
My partner is a menthal health care worker at hospitals etc.and I feel he needs my unconditional love but he doesn't show it. He just gives it. He is black and we strugle with comunity wispering in our ears "he is with you for money", "she is with you for fun" etc etc. Internal strugles external strugles and we trying to get thru life with open loving hearts is hard. These couples are amazing bc they are a prove you can be a safe place for eachother.
@tapinwithtiffany538
@tapinwithtiffany538 3 года назад
That's so GOOD- We all have at least 2 people, the little 8yr old & the adult Melanie.
@GEORGIOARCADE
@GEORGIOARCADE 3 года назад
These couples are relationship goals 😊. If we are being honest, after the honeymoon phase of the relationship; you get to know the real person. In those moments, you gotta be patient, willing to understand and comprehend needs. I also think that you have to see if their good outweigh their bad. The conversation about love languages and inner child healing should be normalized in relationships. Great video and great channel 💫
@Breanna12902
@Breanna12902 3 года назад
I’m glad that this show is talking about this, because for years it’s been said how black folks don’t do Couseling. Some don’t want to be considered as crazy, but why bring all of that baggage into a fresh relationship let alone bring your children into your trauma. If I need to be healed then I’m gonna work towards that while facing something I’ve been running from my whole life , and that is self. No more trauma over here . Okay let’s normalize more healthier relationships instead of toxicity ones.
@MaxineShaw_84
@MaxineShaw_84 3 года назад
Okay, not only was this discussion full of amazing perspective, CODIE is a dream facilitator. Authentic, commanding, receptive, and gracious. #goals 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
@SH-mw1er
@SH-mw1er 3 года назад
I loved Traci and Tony back story and how they are so in tune with one another.
@joannapilgrim
@joannapilgrim 3 года назад
This fiancé is oh so appreciative of the gems in this show. Thank you so much for sharing
@gelilaeyasu898
@gelilaeyasu898 3 года назад
Being grown is actually working through that emotion.... understanding u were being defensive, emotional, whatever z feeling was... and grow from that.
@moca1992
@moca1992 3 года назад
I love the “passionate debate” ....Anthony. Growth and process, I agree with Tracci🌿Melanie on words don’t teach an example does. I believe both words and examples do.🌺 Codie, I am coming for this blouse and the last blouse you wore in the last episode they’re so cute.
@Blckbrry500
@Blckbrry500 3 года назад
This by far is my favorite after show!! Thank you Codie and Tommi Oliver❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165
@mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165 3 года назад
Listen I love the vulnerability of each couple, my goodness you don’t get this much often. I also love how their relationships compliment each other. This episode gets me so excited for my next relationship in that I’m actually looking forward for once with being vulnerable.
@shestampedit
@shestampedit 3 года назад
These are some beautiful people physically. I love looking at them. Then to hear them being so mature and on one accord. You can hear the love and consideration between them. I strive to grow to this at least by the time I am there age. They have taken care of themselves inside and out.
@kwynkaq
@kwynkaq 3 года назад
I love how the host comes prepared.
@feliciajackson4168
@feliciajackson4168 3 года назад
I'm divorced, but I'm learning so much and looking forward to a second time around❤😇
@Carrrnversations
@Carrrnversations 3 года назад
Thats so good. When he said he has to be in a relationship with Old Melanie and young Melanie
@smilergal89
@smilergal89 3 года назад
This is just brilliant. I just burst out crying thinking about my inner child. They deserved better and thankfully we can give ourselves better but we must do the work introspectively - single or partnered.
@littlebitobrandy4099
@littlebitobrandy4099 3 года назад
I literally just cried listening to this. I recently came out of a relationship with a mentally I'll person who is a youtuber that has video on love. Quite the contrast huh? Anyway, this panel touched on so many of the issues I saw with him and I tried hard to keep love for him but it was one sided. Long story short, he used me for an experiment. He knew things were going to end before they began. I like the question the host asked about knowing when it is too much. Mental health is so real and rarely considered when choosing a partner. I don't fear love I fear an unstable and selfish mindset in other people.
@mamym3823
@mamym3823 3 года назад
The level of wisdom on this episode is unbelievable! Thank you for sharing and giving us advice and tips to grow at our own pace 🖤🖤🖤🖤
@TheDstinfrared34
@TheDstinfrared34 3 года назад
This was so therapeutic! I really enjoy these After Love video's. And I'm so thankful for all of the couple's being so vulnerable and transparent. This is so needed within the Black Community. 💛💛💛💛💛💛
@lashawnc7216
@lashawnc7216 3 года назад
I love this show!!! It's a whole vibe, period!!!!
@musicartlover963
@musicartlover963 3 года назад
Melanie, has gone through some stuff with Anthony.....she loves him so much
@nicoleh.6352
@nicoleh.6352 3 года назад
Definitely.... yet she still able to smile when speaking about him...
@IsabelleEwelanNdemba
@IsabelleEwelanNdemba 3 года назад
I love their story
@MJ-hd7nr
@MJ-hd7nr 3 года назад
Totally agree with this comment. Another way to look at it is, Anthony experienced a lot in life that was traumatizing. Thank God he has someone to love him through it!🥰
@sheilagreene8875
@sheilagreene8875 3 года назад
To see 30 yrs of marriage & every episode I've watched of those 2, they are STILL very affectionate!! That is extremely beautiful to see!!
@neliswajokweni5872
@neliswajokweni5872 3 года назад
It's alot.
@michellemarie2590
@michellemarie2590 3 года назад
Love you Codie Elaine, you’re so confident being you!
@laceliabradley6448
@laceliabradley6448 3 года назад
God, I’m asking You to please cover me when you bless me with MY husband. This is making me have hope. Sick of being SINGLE
@maxinejafta
@maxinejafta 3 года назад
I am not sure if its the topics covered this season but I love how real, practical and deep these couples are. It's like these stories are not rushed. I feel like I'm receiving so much more.
@JM-qg9bo
@JM-qg9bo 3 года назад
I love the dynamic that Melanie and Anthony have. They truly are connected, and work for them. I thoroughly enjoy listening to them elaborate on their connection, their love, just them as individuals and how they came together.
@bigdezol
@bigdezol 3 года назад
It's the reminding all of us to do the inner work before, during, and even after a relationship for me. This was 30 minutes well-spent. 🖤
@zee7130
@zee7130 3 года назад
The afterlove interviews are the best. Great testimonies. Thanks for being transparent. Mental health is a serious issue that’s not addressed sufficiently in the black community.
@TheMissdgwim
@TheMissdgwim 3 года назад
The vulnerability and transparency here is so RICH!! Thanks for doing these after love episodes.
@winblessed1357
@winblessed1357 3 года назад
Wow this right here 💯💪🏾thank you for those couples for being transparent and open to sharing 🙏
@SimplisticallyDigital
@SimplisticallyDigital 3 года назад
This was great. The best of the couples. Especially the maturity, transparency, and life experiences. They kept it real.
@HeavyontheChai
@HeavyontheChai 3 года назад
Excellent information from experience.
@woniwa
@woniwa 3 года назад
This is definitely the one I have learnt from the most. Brilliant job. Thank you for being open to share🙏🏾
@justRandiE
@justRandiE 3 года назад
Codie, I thank you and your husband for highlighting each and every couple over the past 4 seasons. Each season I have a favorite, but this season has given us soo much. Thank you for bringing these discussions into my bedroom. #BlackLoveDoc .... 🖤
@TheGClass
@TheGClass 3 года назад
Thank you so much for these episodes!!! I adore both of these couples and I’m definitely taking notes!!
@sher-sherb8655
@sher-sherb8655 3 года назад
Wonderful topic, fantastic couples! Was so happy to see more of Anthony and Melanie! Can’t wait to watch the whole season.
@Kedia12
@Kedia12 3 года назад
Omg these conversations are soooo real. Finding the right one to go through these differences with is verrrry important.
@Godslight1970s
@Godslight1970s 3 года назад
That was an absolute mature, open, honest and fantastic discussion!! I love the after show just as much as I love the show 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@thatgirljo2119
@thatgirljo2119 3 года назад
THE BEST DIALOGUE I have seen a while...thank you for this!
@HK-hc4bx
@HK-hc4bx 3 года назад
I do not have the words to adequately articulate how MUCH I appreciate this program and, more specifically, this episode. Ya’ll fed my spirit today! 🖤🖤🖤
@sandrabraziel8271
@sandrabraziel8271 3 года назад
Awesome conversation! I love that they each offered insight about themselves, but didn't take too much time to communicate the issues and advice. They allowed each other to talk. Great job! This was very informative.
@marynichols3206
@marynichols3206 3 года назад
I’m not sure why I’m sharing this but i promise to see this type of love between two people makes me so full of joy to the point I’m crying just watching this, and although I don’t have this with a natural man this gives me so much hope and faith to believe true love still exist. Thank you for sharing this.
@joyh.729
@joyh.729 3 года назад
I’ve watched a lot of these episodes & hands-down this is my favorite one. I love how the one man spoke about him loving the ‘little girl’ that shows up in his wife. Lots of really great points throughout this episode! Thank you all!🌟🌟
@fatimataylor4011
@fatimataylor4011 3 года назад
This was POWERFUL! Much needed! Thank you for the transparency and the deep dive! Keep doing what you're doing! Please do this again with other couples. These 2 couples were perfect for the topic rollout. God bless this precious work!
@joliadore4121
@joliadore4121 3 года назад
Thank you for this!!! God bless y’all for being so transparent and speaking on things that need to addressed. I really needed to hear this.
@nony0587
@nony0587 3 года назад
This has been one of the best sessions!
@christophersiaplay4595
@christophersiaplay4595 3 года назад
One of the best I’ve seen !! So many gems
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