I needed this message. Thank you Pastor Mike. My mother died when I was 9, she was an alcoholic. My brother in law sexually assaulted me in 2018 and no one in my family believed me, and it destroyed me. I haven’t talked to them since then, 5 years. I know I need to learn how to grieve, how to forgive them, how to be like Jesus and give grace and mercy. It’s so hard, but it’s nothing compared to what Christ has done for me.
I am sorry for you. Seek healing by any means...counseling, books, internet. Research narcissism...melanietoniaevans, Jill wise, Dr. Ramani and many others are good. You're abusers were abused too. If your inner self is healthy, the external environment must match...bad people will sense your health and run to target a more "needier for human love" person. Otherwise you repeat generational trauma...even when you say you won't, you will do the same but in a different way than your caregivers did to you. Satan wants you bitter so you destroy your life with bad relationships and destroy your children as he attacked your parents to destroy you. This is a spiritual battle. The best advice I could give is to be healthy physically, mentally [seek help] whether you think you need it or not, don't sleep with a person for a long time...get to know them well, marry Gods way without sex before wedding bc this is Satan's biggest weapon...he hates families. Trauma causes us to feel ugly so we destroy ourselves by any means. It causes us to find a person who is at first wonderful, the first one to give us "real attention" to confirm our inner child that we are finally worthy of love, approval and security...the person becomes our source of love which God should be...we make them an idol. We need to stay single in our younger years so God can teach us true love before we get in relationship and bring forth the next generation. God bless.
That happened to me to I was only 6 years old it was my fathers best friend, nobody believed me then my cousin I was scared ashamed I thought I was my fault very to deal with ty for sharing
PRAISE THE HEAVENLY FATHER FOR THIS MESSAGE!!!! This speaks VOLUMES about my life with my ex husband and how he is with me and I our kids. Praise God that I have peace that my walk with God is just that, mine. This m safe helped me make sense. My ex hates me and all I stand for are n Christ because it exposes him and his actions and his cheating and his behavior and his evilness.
I've experienced the way the Lord leveled me up and how it provoked others and I've also been the one provoked by others in my family leveling up as well. Grace. Mercy.
Same here! Praying for my adult siblings to come to Jesus! God has been doing things in their lives because of my constant prayers over the years ! Praise our Good God! He is promise keeper!
Amen and Hallelujah!!!!! Your prayers for your siblings are so powerful!! I was very deep into new age/metaphysics and my sister never gave up praying for me and 3 years ago I had an encounter with Jesus in my Living room!!! His presence filled the room and I fell to my knees and wept.. I gave Him my life that night and never looked back. No One is too far gone for God to save them!! 🥹🥳🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
TRUTH and FREEDOM is this sermon. AMEN and AMEN and AMEN. Thank you for being a God Gezzer,mighty Warrior,may he bless and protect you and your family as you walk his path.
Thank you Father God. Forgive me my magical/wishful thinking and waiting on another besides You Jesus Christ. Some Old grief Jesus Christ Holy Spirit Father God let it come and be lanced and healed by You alone 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✝️✝️✝️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
With conflict usually someone has to leave. Wow. This video pops up just 1.5 hours after I have a big fight (again) with my mom and I tell her she has to get out of my home. She has to leave. And this pastor is saying no one leaves, instead talk out openly everyone's feelings. Question: How? Without dissolving into a mess of blame. My mother blames me for her unhappiness in life. I blame her for bringing in and dumping it in mine. I've been her "therapist" for as long as I can remember. How do I let that go and let Jesus take it all and take over? What am I doing wrong?
No two situations are alike. Please don't feel you have to deal with your mother right now, do it later when she gets her own place. It's not dishonoring to have parents in separate living quarters. If your mother had lifelong resentment towards you, getting along will be difficult, you both definitely need family therapy to save your relationship. She needs to forgive you for being born, first.
Yes Step in faith but take a step. Always be loving and don't lay guilt on a person let God do that. I find in some situations you take an in between step. In my situation...it is not to divorce my husband right now but to rent a room for a month to see what God shows me....sometimes just a little separation for a time. This could be setting up the home so each has a bit more privacy....a little effort towards privacy goes a long way.
My sister told me that she hates me and that I never suppose to be there. She hurt me so much. She took my everything. And I always have the feeling that she so want me dead.
Amen my family needs prayer I'm always family encouraged thm I pray Im worki on my spiritual life with God but thy always hurting me becos I relise becos I walk with God's favor
Pastor Mike Signorelli I live in Suffolk County Long Island NY I have never been to your Church but I want you to know that “ I Love You “ ❤I tune in to your channel on You Tube. My niece in Austin Texas recently got saved, she says you are awesome! she tuned in also. 😀You are truly a man of God, you’re loved ❤and appreciated !
This is what gets me how does real parents abuse there own kids. I was taken away from my real parents because of being Born with cokcain and yet my adopted mom abused me and my adopted brother sexually abused me as well God as seen me thure a lot. I have forgiven them and myself for not saying anything but yet how do I love myself after being hurt and fear is holding me back. Elias
It's illegal to abuse children, physically, sexually,etc. it's an actual crime. Please get trauma therapy, for this abuse done to you. Forgiveness and reconciliation isn't the same thing. You could even file charges against them both,if you choose to.
So Pastor Mike, if one can not go back physically to their places of grief, how would you recommend doing the process of getting to the root of the problem(s) with the Holy Spirit? Do I need to physically write out the instances one by one, one per day perhaps or something and ask "God where were you?" Thank you for any advice you can give on this topic. This particular sermon was very important for me and I'm sure many others as well.
If you have a fantasy of dying, is it because you want to stay away from your parents,or because you want to be there with them, but they don't want you ?
Because I feel like she left me too soon and it's not all about my mother, my girlfriend passed away and I would rather be with her then here@@JulieSevelson-nb9nj
