In 17 years I lived with him...I always knew that there were lots of things that we're right about him...I was naive and couldn't know what's going on as he seemed polite....very polite, humble, religiously,calm..the list just goes on...but with time that mask fell off for Best.,..and booom! His true Colors...and a real Person behind his Tightened Mask appeared! I dated, married and bore three kids....just with a Purely Covert Narcissist!!😭😭😭 Thank you brother Benjamin because through your teachings...I'm slowly recovering after I vermuse/ after I left last year 🙏 Jah bless you Eternally
@@catherinenaswa5028 Imagine the freedom of being out of a tight claws of a human demon. I wish to hear you story, I wish to share my story. Many people are not aware of narcissism and our society of pray it will get better, is not helping us at all.Narcissist is not curable
Left such after 11yrs...with 1son...am at peace...all my friends to him were bad,my bosses,the church...timing to be at home...yet he slept out of home for days....no money for anything....but I thank God I took that bold step ... God has healed me and my son was affected when he abused me in front him..called me names..my son would stand inbtwn us and tell him ...dont touch my mom...but today my son tells me mom God has been good to us and will continue blessing us....he is only 12yrs and he encourages me each day...
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 nothing else to add! You just described my ex-husband in this video. The relationship destroyed me. I am still recovering and I am deeply hurt in my soul. He was so insecure, envious, jealous and taking pictures of others men shoes and outfits when we go out. This man were a charming and nice man at the beginning, than he transformed to be the devil himself. I never wish this kind of man in anybody else’s life.
At some point I just feel people are much better alone than in these relationships... I want to take that risk of just being me by myself against this world. I came alone to this world and so will I leave.
If we can get at least five people like you.Africa would been on a different level.thanks zulu may God keep you to open eyes of more girls.I'm now 24yrs but I'm blessed to hear these words .much love from uganda
Preach deeper man of God actually I personally say that you alone in Africa deserve a special name You have done me well Benja mungu akubariki Sana Love from your neighborhood country Uganda
1. Controlling 2. Dual personality 3. Blackmail-silent treatment/no sorry 4. Stalking/spying 5. Emotional insensitivity/immaturity - basic things about 6. They are date young
Waw ! Listening to this and almost tearing up thinking about what a great man I have in my husband of 9 years ,who is the opposite of what's being described .
I'm so glad that you have taken your time to talk about these devil's ...most people don't know the pain these devil's cause... I am a victim of covert narcissistic abuse and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy...they invalidate your entire existence....
I am kind of alarmed that I actually dated two devils in the past without having known in the beginning. I am grateful for God`s grace upon my life that I walked away and am now in a loving relationship with a God fearing man.
Thanks Zulu now I know whom I have been dealing with I have gone through hell for 11 years as iam talking now IAM planning to quit for good my children have gone through a lot imagine abusing me Everytime in front of my kids
So true, I was working under this lady who was a narcissist and she did all sorts of things to torture me. Then afterwards, used the 'I'm an orphan card. And if you hurt an orphan God will fight you ' I was so stressed I even fainted in her office one day. Lord😱
This massage was meant for me because I've been experiencing all that was said by Zulu😱😢 I got pregnant when I was 23 then got married for 18yrs to the devil 😈but now I thank God that I'm free from him permanently
@@ntsakophuzi3209 true, Dr. Ramani has been a blessing to me the past year.....I could barely move, I started with crawling back to norm, I'm walking now, I believe I'll be running soon.
Wow benjamin thank you to warn younger women cause i have been in that trap in my marriage and you know them he was just like the way you are explaining i did not have peace he was frying me day to day i was in trouble all my life i left after 30years with deep scars that are still paining even today and he also tried to kill me many times god bless you for your teachings especially to young ladies who think they found love
I have been with a narcissist and trust I myself can't believe the things he would say and do to me thank God I grew up and left at 25 with my child that man cannot ask me to meet him somewhere I will not go
I was once a victim for six years in marriage i tried to stay to make marriage work but my friend these people never change i was crushed nearly to death but i thank God am now healing slowly my brother and sisters i you find yourself with a nascisit run for your life as early as possible
Oh my God .all u are saying is so true I been living with the devil it's self for almost two years I just left him I was dieing he is so evil glory be to God for serving me
Benjamin you hit the nail on the head.I've listened to you quite a number of times,your simply Awesome! Thank you for making yourself available for the Masters use,on earth and in heaven he shall reward You mightily.Greetings from Nigeria. Your highly loved.
You're right benjamin when talking about orphans. I had one i promised myself to help him to meet his goals.. but!! oooh my God... he was exactly like you are describing them. After a year all his characters shown up. I couldn't hold any more!!!. He started saying he will worship devil untill i return to him. My faith keeps me strong, now am happily chasing my goals. Thenks, you helped me saved myself
My ex used to cook for himself even after cooking to him, sometimes coming home late, from playing dat and pool , pheeew in public he used to smile alot but being home he's real devil We separated and now am happy tho am single
Sir Benjamin indeed you are God sent. In this era even though men and women have gained PHDs they lack knowledge, wisdom, insights and discretion. I acknowledge you are the Solomon of this generation 🇰🇪👏🤝💝
Benjamin you are talking to me,Lived with one for 10 years who put me through hell.My face paralyzed on the left side due to accumulated stress.Good thing is, we are now separated and am so happy and peaceful with my 2 lovely kids.I have gone through most of the things you mentioned
I was married to the devil himself the past 16 years was nothing but s horror life I was finished slowly spiritual and physical Only God saved me 2019 we got divorced I was left with nothing but God restored me again
This is a preaching that I think should be thought to youngsters in Churches as well...man!!!! I dealt with such a narcissistic relationship previously. It was a long distance relationship and the man called himself a pastor. I thank God I left that relationship.
What Benjamin is saying is true, I dated such a person for 3 months and my world turned upside down. I was emotionally, physically and financially hurt. I walked away 3 years ago and I have never looked back I thank God I had a awesome youth chaplain.
OMG, this is a perfect description of what i have been through just a few months ago. As per now, I'm going through alot of pain as a result of the whole thing.
Aki, this is so true, it has defined people in some previous relationships i walked away from. Thanks God i was able to detect. One of them gave me a codition that kama nataka hiyo relationship ieendelee nipate mimba, and i was not even officially introduced to his familym we even lived separatly.. Wa shidwe kabisa 😂😂
What of people who exhibit most of the signs you have discussed but fake emphathy, use a lot of emotional black mail, apologize very few times but with conditions?
His messages came to me at the very right time. There's one clip he named "Deny them response". That particular one really shot me back to existence. My spirit was almost broken.
Thanks Benjamin 😅😅 from today I have denounced mine Ex 🙌🙌🙌 everything you said is in him,we have been dating since 2017 but the reason I haven't moved in is because of this characters you have mentioned 🤔🤔,am like will this marriage work.but now I know what I could get into.Thanks for this am gone 🏃🏃🏃🏃no more hopes
You just say nothing but honest truth.wish ladies can follow this to avoid mashida zingine..am glad I've seen this before making a very bad decision that would have made me live a miserable life for how long I don't know
Zulu u have explained it very well n i now understood a lady i was dating n i left the relatioship five weeks ago .it wasnt easy easy fof me to leave i thought she was geting mad but zulu has made me understand her condition .but whatever i went through in that relationship i cant wish even my biggest enemy to go through
He got furious with me because I told him that my family was concerned about the amount of time we were spending on phone. I hadn't even picked a side, I just told him what they said and he snapped. Lol. Thank God for freedom.
Girl!!!! That's a real narcissist. Mine was the same way....he wanted us to be on phone all the time. He convinced me to share Facebook passwords then he would go and block all my guy friends and reject friend request from all guys. He even went on to block one of my spiritual fathers...dude was very unsecured and when I approached him he said that he had the right to do that. Imagine we were just dating and the man thought he had all the right over me and I wasn't respecting him. I thank God I left him
I'm crying. Because this has been my life since 2015. I didn't know I didn't notice. But in 2021 a choose to leave it even though we have a kid together. What I'm working now is my self esteem issue. Maybe you can help. My self esteem is greatly damaged
Hey suzzan i was married for eight years i had very low self esteem,I came out of that marriage and ten years down the line i have real improve my self esteem and taken care of my son
I left the marriage this year with a kid. All the properties we had i decided to let go of them.. Look at me now and my babyy.. Happy 🎊 He's jealous of how I have improved physically, emotionally and financially. Thanks to God
If you want to improve your self esteem start loving yourself. Personally I started taking care of myself with my baby like get my hair done, dressing nicely to my satisfaction, eating healthy and when kinda having relapse I make sure I litsen to my favourite music.
