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My exfiance was too lukewarm and double minded. The Lord said leave him alone but introduce him to my pastor/elder. Pastor is a true man of God. He's discipling my exfiance. I'm believing for reconciliation. God said it will happen but in the meantime I'm living for and serving the Lord. Full throttle!
Tell this to my dad's (rev minister) secretary who cheated with him on my mum. They were married for 30+ years. He doesn't see anything wrong with his actions and I don't know when he will change. He's cut me off cuz I said I don't want her at my wedding. Idk what is wrong with him. He still stands before a congregation to preach. I just need God to intervene 🙏🏽
Hi. I read your comment and I’m so sorry that your family is experiencing this pain. I will make a reminder to pray for you, your family, and repentance for your father, Tabby.
@@ginacompton7750 thank you Gina🥺🙏🏽💗. It's hard honestly cuz I don't have any friends to talk to apart from my partner. And we just went to see him for the dowry ceremony. My mum is the one I feel for the most so I try to stand up for her and comfort her.. It shall be well.
@@starrjohnson1327 yes because the divorce he asked for after we found out hasn't been signed yet. They're still in court.he's been dating the secretary since 2019/2020 when everything went down. But he just has so much pride he won't listen to anyone who tells him otherwise. I'm honestly tired of praying for him.
@@tabbygirl7487 hey sis, gosh so sorry you’re going through this. I have absolutely NO idea how it feels to go through something like this but just know God is STILL in control!! Keep praying for him, it’s a spiritual fight!! We’re praying too sis, the enemy has already lost!! Much love to you and your family!! God bless y’all❤️
From #1, most men I've come across are "disqualified." For a long time, I just didn't date altogether, because I got very tired of guys trying to push boundaries. It's such a turnoff. (And vice-versa: Contrary to what the world says, I think it's attractive when a man exhibits discipline in this realm.)
Stay away from a guy who pushes your emotional boundaries and gets upset , when you don't answer his intrusive questions, and is also controlling, this is coming from my most recent dating experience he's now blocked as he was trying to manipulate me in to a "friendship"!
So true! As soon as a guy asks me an inappropriate question of any type I am turned off. It shows both a lack of respect, and consideration, plus it shows he has a sense of entitlement.
Same thing happened with my last relationship too! there are some spirits behind these men! Also trying to scare women of God and people of God from even being ready to meet each other! Get whole in Christ and keep it pushing if they are a detriment to you!
The whole video I was mentally stating, "check, check, check, checkkkk". Lol!! So many of us don't realize that just because a man is in church, it doesn't mean he's in Christ. My grandmother always told us a dry devil being baptized is going in a dry devil and coming out a wet devil. 😂😂You really do have to try the spirit by the spirit when you are intentional about dating.
It makes me cringe when people who are not legally divorced yet are already dating someone. Even if it was their spouse that caused the marriage to end. Legally married is married. We can talk when you're divorced maybe.
This video was so helpful. I’ve definitely dated an emotionally unstable man and it was one of the most draining experiences of my adult life. I am happy that God brought me out if it.
You're totally correct brother! When you don't have yourself all the way together in all aspects of your life don't even bother looking for a spouse, until you iron out all the wrinkles in your shirt and you're absolutely ready to lead as a man then go and find the one in which suits the requirement to be your rib.
I am so thankful for people like you here on youtube that are using technology to advance the kingdom of God. I have no parents with me and i have raised myself in so many areas. People like you have helped me so much grow spiritually, despite the past mistakes. Better late than never. I have learned alot from christ followers here on youtube, they have encouraged me so much. I am greatful for you.
Some people wok up later when they were already unequally yoked .when you discover that you are yoked together with a wolf ,that you thought it was a sheep .
Also Tavares, if you ever did a discipleship kind of thing I would absolutely love to be part of your group. You’re a very good role model for what a Godly man should be. And I don’t believe we’re far off in age so you’re very relatable! God bless you and your family Tavares!
I think I might be a lazy man. I don't want to be. I'm not married, but I hate to think I'm a man that a woman should avoid. I lack motivation to do things. Perhaps it's depression. I have a job, and I work hard at my job but when I get home I don't care to do any more work at the house. Does that put me in that 2nd category? Any advice?
Thank you, for your Ministry in general, this message came right on time. Just yesterday, I was having a conversation with a guy who was trying to convince me that we should date, (we have known each other for a long time, he thought also this fact would make it easier for him to pursue me I guess) He claimed that, he saw no issue in the fact that he was not saved, he says, he believes in God and I should not be so picky since Christ sat with sinners etc. I told him, I was not going to compromise on dating a man who is not a Christian and my future husband had to already put God first. Me wanting a christian man was a non negotiable to me. He let it go and wished me the best and I wished him the best too. I just wanted to share my story, hope this helps a lady reading through the comments. Also, what you said about submission is true, a woman can't submit to a man who is not submitted to Christ, submission only works when the man is also submitted to a Higher power, which is Christ, otherwise, a woman should not even dare to date a man who is not walking with Christ. God bless you brother.
The biggest take away was that he let it go, and so did you. As women, we sometimes can’t accept a guy actually leaving due to our standards; so we end up compromising thinking our standards were wrong, or just settling completely. I loved how you let him go. It’s comical to me when people use the excuse, “well Jesus hung out with sinners,”. Yea…but He didn’t sin with them. God bless you sister 🤍
@@kendrajanell That's so true, we compromise to keep someone because we believe the enemy's lie that our standards are too high and unrealistic, we compromise because we believe what is being offered is all we can get. But God is mighty, He is the great I AM, nothing is too big for Him. I trust God, not society's timelines and standards and I know that my Father will provide the Kingdom man His Kingdom daughter deserves. If not, I will continue doing His will, married or not because God's purpose is the MAIN THING. Marriage is just a plus😇 We press on🙏 Blessings sister🤗
Thank you for this. I been with someone 10 years who embodied a little bit of EVERYTHING you said. Obviously I had some growing and learning to do myself. I’m awake now tho. Looking forward to the one you’ve got planned for next week
Deep and really relatable. It's really a day to day challenge to avoid these qualities stated. Only God can help us to be upright. Not our own manly conscience.
Tavares this was really good to hear, I can say that I am not any of the types of men mentioned so that makes me feel good. I suppose I could be better at expressing how I feel to others and if something is ever bothering me. All glory to God for transforming to to be more like Jesus every single day!
I like this video but I find it to be extremely hard to meet these type of men . The ones that appear to be Godly are already married or in a relationship. Could you please make a video on good places to meet a Godly man? I don't want to meet a man at my home church unless he's visiting.
My experience is that the Lord will arrange your marriage in due time. Focus on being the best daughter of the Most High. Really learn the word. Get in healthy church/ fellowship.God is a matchmaker. Stop looking and free fall into the arms of God. Be steadfast and patient.
@@danilaroche1156 amen. That's actually exactly what I'm doing. I'm serving in the church and nurturing healthy/Godly friendships with people and spending tons of time praying and worshipping and reading God's word daily. I'm really just all about my father's business 🙏
We don’t have to look for a man… God brings the man who is supposed to be our husband to us, through whatever way that he wants. The problem is with us women not being patient and going out looking for a man… it takes us out of our feminine and we let our masculine take over… and that attracts feminine men… and they cannot lead a woman properly. Patience is a fruit of the spirit. Through prayer and supplication all is possible through God. We don’t have to be on the prowl. God bless.
happy to have come across your video... today makes a week, no contact. thank you God, asked to direct my steps. sin is expensive and I will not pay that with my feelings. Dear Future Husband🙏🏼. Hello from Austin Texas, tuning in while family/friends are watching Longhorn game downstairs. May God send me friends, brothers and sisters in Christ, not just praying for my future husband but also more God fearing friends. New Subscriber:)
Thank you so much for this video!! It's incredibly helpful and I'll definitely keep an eye out for these types of men when considering dating, much more marriage. As a woman, I can't wait for next week! I already know you're going to call me out but haha I'm looking forward to it. God bless!
Consider something please - what if your wife had been divorced before you married her? She kept her purity, was cheated on and abused by first husband. Didn’t seek the divorce, but didn’t feel safe to be alone with her ex. Ex denounced his faith, filed for divorce. She prayed and put out her fleece for God’s direction, and God rescued her from destruction. Would your wife right now be any less of the amazing, godly wife you currently thank God for? Many Christian single ladies haven’t kept their purity, yet brother, you are being a respecter of persons when you attribute more godliness automatically to someone simply because they aren’t divorced. You should be mature in Christ enough to realize you don’t know God’s will in other’s lives in such situations. You say in this video don’t date someone divorced because they should get back together. Speaking from personal experience it is possible to forgive your ex for adultery and even abuse, but impossible for you to ever feel safe with them again psychologically, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Brothers in Christ, why would you rule out special ladies in Christ based on your own assumptions of her divorce? If God has rescued her and set her free, who are you to shackle her to this past? It takes maturity to recognize a woman with value and the men who are mature enough have a blessed help meet in such Godly woman. Wanted to put this food for thought out here as too many in the church get it wrong and ascribe more worth and value based on labels where God’s standard is true, and far better. Man sees the outside (“divorced”) God sees the heart. ❤ Seek the Lord’s direction always
I would like to add one more to the list. A man who has no compassion, no pity, and no consideration for how a woman feels.this here is by far the worst kind. He will kick you into a ditch when you ve already fallen down, and there is nothing worse than that in a relationship.
While I’m sure God is no fan of abuse, let’s not say what he hates more if it isn’t supported by scripture. We don’t use our sin “scale” to determine what’s big or little to God.
That’s right!!!! Because he will always like others and cheat. Lust is a spirit regardless if they in the church or not. You can see when a man has it and female too.
There are church men that are still married that justify flirting or claiming someone else is their next wife, because their current wife is a cheater. I have run into this more than once.
I always wondered does this apply to virgins only or non virgins always cuz that always been a tricky topic and something I constantly think about. Especially when it comes to fairness.
No way God would hurt divorce if you are married to a narci .no way you would get reconciliation with a murderer who is trying kill you .God hurts divorce if it was a Godly marriage .God would not like anyone being unequally yoked with you .
Wow; I seen myself in some of this as a woman; I need a better relationship with Christ; I adore the man, but; I am lead by others, and depression, and; I make some Of the worse mistakes ever. I see my need for Jesus so much. I also see my boyfriend; I am so weak when it comes to him; I love him, and he was brought up in the church, he drinks, and has a lustful heart as well as; I do; I want Christ to change me, but allow worldly problems to continue to get in my way. Trust; I love the Lord with all my heart; I need help to love myself first. I am a single mom, and what also hit me; I don’t have a husband to get my house in order; I must do that, and I don’t not meaning; I don’t want to, but it has to be depression that’s all; I know it to be. Well my boyfriend for almost 12 years left to help with his mother she had cancer, she passed away, now he is staying longer for his daughter, her grandma was her world, and he is going to stay until his grand daughter is born then come home. I don’t want to hurt him do to the things he just went through, he lost both parents a year apart. I love him, and am so week when it comes to him, but what you said reminds me of him except the Lazy part he is a hard worker, got hurt now is on Disability; I work, and take care of my two disabled adult children. I need to pray, and fast. I give thinks to God, and then take them back on my shoulders. I want to be in Heaven with my kids, and family when he comes back soon; I need Gods help so bad on so many things; I know he is there; I feel the Holy Spirit everyday; I just need to surrender my all to him, even in the mist of pain; I know he will be there for me; I just need to trust him. Help me, please with scriptures to help me with my problems. I am a good person; I am there for everyone to a fault; I don’t want to make anyone upset with me; I have not been perfect said some things; I should not have, but that was out of frustration, and not wanting to endure in others sin, and getting cursed out for it. I have been dealt a bad hand like most people; I need to learn to over come like they did through God, and Jesus by there side.
I pray for you Dear Rachelle. The Holy ghost equips you, he strengthens your inner man and quickens you to do his will. Every hurt and pain he heals, and causes you to make the right decisions and function properly. You are an overcomer in Christ Jesus. I speak peace over you and yours. God bless you dear. You are made whole in Jesus name. Amen!!
My only question in regards to divorce what if there is physical abuse in the marriage on either end? Since scripture says adultery is the only reason to divorce does that mean if the man or the woman is beating on their spouse or putting stuff in their foods or drinks or whatever that it's not ok to divorce that person?
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
The second part talking about where it says *worse than an unbeliever* has nothing to do with money, above this scripture it was talking against money. I have seen two homeless Lovers more content with there lives than two lovers who have jobs and money. I have been turned down by so many Christian women because I *cant* work due to disabilities. A Christian woman would not care if a person has a job or not or how much money you have or make.... she should Love you based on your salvation in Jesus Christ. Think about the scripture in revaluation... those who take the mark of the beast will not be able to buy sell or trade...... oh look this man can't provide financially now because he refused to take the mark. He can't work or make money... he's worse than an unbeliever now! Because he can't provide for his family financially.
Why should you screenshot a married man's text and send it to his spouse? Isn't there a more mature and Christian-like path to take? That would cause problems in his marriage I think, and could lead to separation.
Let me ask you a few questions what would you tell a woman who isn't saved or is saved but is dealing a husband who is beating on her and trying to kill her? Would you tell her to stay or leave? What would you tell a woman that was forced into marrying a man at a young age and she now is suicidal? Would you tell her to stay or leave? What would you tell a woman who was kidnapped and sex trafficked into a marriage? Would you tell a woman who left these situations to go back and remarry?
Not sure how we got on these types of questions, but I would tell no person to stay in an abusive situation. Didn’t think my videos gave that impression.
@@GodlyDating101 Nah your good. Just asking. I do want to add God did tell Hosea to go & marry a prostitute. She also was a cheater and he told him to go back and get her and love her like he loved Israel. But I just was asking because there are women who are forced into marriages they didn't ask for. Especially in different cultures. We want to use wisdom when speaking on this subject. God bless you and I enjoy your content.
