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Flipping the Switch on Ability | Cole Sydnor & Charisma Jamison | TEDxYouth@RVA 

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As humans, we all have ties to certain aspects of our identity. In this talk, you will hear of the traumatic injury which changed Cole’s life forever and his journey to find a new sense of self. It was not until he “flipped the switch on ability” that he learned how to truly love himself and learn to be loved. Along with Charisma, his partner, they acknowledge that the challenges of a interabled couple are many; instead of being scared away, they embrace them. This heartfelt talk will change the way you think about love. Since the start of their relationship Cole & Charisma gotten a lot of questions about how they make things work as not only an interracial couple, but an interabled one as well. There are certainly differences, and despite them they have a great time, all the time! They started Roll with Cole & Charisma, a video series on RU-vid, to bring people into their lives, their relationship, to answer some questions about how they navigate the world with some of the behind-the-scenes stuff people typically don't see, and hopefully raise awareness surrounding accessibility and dating in a wheelchair. They’re all about positivity, inclusion, and keeping a great attitude no matter your circumstances. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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Комментарии : 584   
@faebalina7786
@faebalina7786 4 года назад
he didnt choose that life but she did .... thats extra respectable
@sephorasephora7647
@sephorasephora7647 4 года назад
I wish the best because your deserve it. Your love for each other is so pure. Nowadays, it is not easy to find this real chemistry in relationships, people are so interested and shallow. You are stronger together!!!
@iLitAfuseiCantStop
@iLitAfuseiCantStop 4 года назад
They have a RU-vid channel that's amazing! It's actually one of my favorites. So if you liked this & was inspired you should check out Roll WIth Cole & Charisma!
@rbsarr5521
@rbsarr5521 3 года назад
Love and faith!
@jbyanx
@jbyanx 3 года назад
That's boundless love !
@Songs-lr4wt
@Songs-lr4wt 3 года назад
So well said.... she choose to be in
@coleandcharisma
@coleandcharisma 4 года назад
Thank you for sharing! We love TedX and are thankful for the opportunity to share our story and message! ❤️
@catherineroberts1969
@catherineroberts1969 4 года назад
Hi Cole and Charisma you ted talk open my eyes to strive to be more thankful Love you both and thamks
@ms_mommy3689
@ms_mommy3689 4 года назад
So proud of you Cole and Charisma! Awesome job. 👍👍♡
@trish1765
@trish1765 4 года назад
Beautiful couple! Never give up. Love is a powerful force.
@pameladoris6848
@pameladoris6848 4 года назад
I would love for you two beautiful inspiring people to write a book about your life together, followed by a movie. You are so inspiring Cole & Charisma, I love you both 😊
@ThisIsWheelLife
@ThisIsWheelLife 4 года назад
YOU BOTH DID SUCH AN AMAZING JOB!!!! ❤️
@jennj3452
@jennj3452 4 года назад
Everybody keeps saying what a lucky guy... but could you imagine having a guy look at you the way he looks at her!! They both are lucky to have found each other!
@dottymamwacha2482
@dottymamwacha2482 3 года назад
They truly love each other
@melodyfanor1481
@melodyfanor1481 Год назад
My thoughts exactly. They're both lucky
@childofthemighty1341
@childofthemighty1341 4 года назад
He is in love...the way he is looking at her
@cakes4494
@cakes4494 4 года назад
I want a relationship where we look at eachother like Cole and Charisma look at eachother.
@HollySeamans
@HollySeamans 3 года назад
Watch their channel! It’s adorable how he gazes
@AA-yb6jw
@AA-yb6jw 3 года назад
I think so too
@kristin7938
@kristin7938 4 года назад
I follow these beautiful people on RU-vid and when I saw they did a ted talk I was psyched to watch it. They didn’t disappoint. I’m kind of a groupie now.
@Yukia76
@Yukia76 4 года назад
Me too
@BeeChance
@BeeChance 4 года назад
Me three!!
@ruberthablackman3949
@ruberthablackman3949 4 года назад
Me four
@cupidsiza
@cupidsiza 4 года назад
You and me both 👏
@Akilahh
@Akilahh 4 года назад
A shameless one at that 😊
@olivia251
@olivia251 4 года назад
Charisma is absolutely stunning ... so beautiful inside and out. She is so sweet. Cole is cute, adorable, really genuine, and has a big heart. You guys make me happy :')
@dwe2a
@dwe2a 4 года назад
His story telling and stage presence is magnificent. You could literally visualize what was happening based on the vivid descriptions he gave. What an angel she is to have chosen this life. To give up so much to honor, love and take care of someone who will likely need most of your time, every day, for the rest of your life. That is a soul worthy of praise. May God completely heal your body and complete your miracle. I pray that those who want to, will soon be able to walk again.
@Ayyeliki
@Ayyeliki 3 года назад
God WILL heal, if not in this life, then **more importantly, in the afterlife. I’m a mom of a C5/6 quad, injured at age 15....These two souls are both going straight to heaven!
@ashantiigallery8746
@ashantiigallery8746 3 года назад
Amen
@ngozidiachi
@ngozidiachi 10 месяцев назад
Amen
@shaniquejoe5108
@shaniquejoe5108 4 года назад
Go cole!!! Idk how well you practiced or wrote it down but it felt so natural granted you've told this story a hundred times but this was a different view for me to see. Definitely one of my favorite Ted Talks
@sondrahard756
@sondrahard756 4 года назад
Excellently done !! May you two continue to grow and stay positive !!
@queenbee2447
@queenbee2447 4 года назад
He even got emotional. 😢
@iluvtigers1970
@iluvtigers1970 4 года назад
I loved this! I also love watching them on their RU-vid channel. I'm lucky enough to have found my hubby (11yrs ago) and I too am disabled.
@queenbee2447
@queenbee2447 4 года назад
@@iluvtigers1970 were you always disable?
@iluvtigers1970
@iluvtigers1970 4 года назад
@@queenbee2447 I've been disabled for over 20 yrs now unfortunately
@lisaackroyd2203
@lisaackroyd2203 4 года назад
You are both natural public speakers. Wonderful talk!
@lakep7798
@lakep7798 3 года назад
Agreed!
@roxanneabrams3403
@roxanneabrams3403 4 года назад
I still tear up when I hear him talk about how he thought his mother felt. I am so blessed to be following this beautiful couple.❤❤❤❤ Love from Guyana 🇬🇾
@memyselfandi3024
@memyselfandi3024 4 года назад
I can literally sit on my couch and watch you guys all day, this brings me so much joy it makes my heart smile , my son is also paralyzed waist down with a SCI i just pray he finds someone just as caring and understanding as Charisma is to you Cole, you both hit the jack pot. I notice how Cole smiles when he's looking at you while you speak, thats real love, i love you guys and the positivity you stand on, keep it up Gods definitely proud of you both.
@mmaddox45scarlett
@mmaddox45scarlett 3 года назад
ME I WATCHED THIS 4TIMES ALREADY EACH IT STILL GIVES ME GOOSEBUMPS SO I LEARNED SOMETHING EACH TIMES.... BECAUSE I AM PERSON WITH MULTI DISABILITIES.. AND GREW UP EDUCATING THE PUBLIC & PEOPLE WHOM I CAME IN CONTACT WITH.. AND T.A.B. TEMPORARY ABLE BODY... WE ALL DON'T KNOW WHEN WHERE IF WE ALL BECOME DISABLE OR MORE DISABLED IN MY CASE YES.....
@creativedesignsbyclementin6361
@creativedesignsbyclementin6361 3 года назад
I know I just recently came across their channel and I tell you I have been watching it for hours when I am working . I love 💕💕♥️🤗🥰 love them both . Sometimes my eyes are filled with tears but most of the time I have this big smile on my face. Charisma and Cole, a big hug and much love from Canada 🇨🇦
@usermaxwell7034
@usermaxwell7034 3 года назад
I do love watching both of them too
@N7AslansHobbit_Ry
@N7AslansHobbit_Ry 2 года назад
How is your son now?
@marym5670
@marym5670 2 года назад
@@mmaddox45scarlett 9
@denisesalt9729
@denisesalt9729 3 года назад
Makes me regret all the things I complain about. I love these two. I love their families. I love their dog. I feel obsessed.
@rollwiththepunches5932
@rollwiththepunches5932 4 года назад
Well done guys! i broke my neck surfing in 1998, i am a c5 c6 quadriplegic
@Zahnet_
@Zahnet_ 4 года назад
This makes me believe that true love really is out there for everyone in this dark world we live in❤❤❤❤
@carolyncornelius1492
@carolyncornelius1492 2 года назад
Zanet Tobias, What a truly sweet comment you have made!! .. I always keep hope alive!!
@brownietime902
@brownietime902 2 года назад
This is what Destiny looks like. You both did Amazing.👏🙏 God always has a plan🙏
@addisonjenkins4478
@addisonjenkins4478 4 года назад
I just saw this and was like"OMG they're on Ted talk. Yasssss"
@nardiastewart5604
@nardiastewart5604 4 года назад
I love love this I feel like a proud mom😊😊😊
@terric222
@terric222 4 года назад
Cole and Charisma, congratulations and well done. What a proud moment, wishing you both a very happy life together.
@mbyrd6713
@mbyrd6713 3 года назад
Thank you so much for speaking to a very important subject. I had been married with 3 kids before I became paraplegic. I had a great marriage before and dealing with disability only made us stronger. Be blessed everyone, I pray you guys have a long, happy marriage.
@louisa4669
@louisa4669 3 года назад
My favourite couple in the Internet 💞
@amytoure8411
@amytoure8411 4 года назад
What a great couple. For sure he will walk again with the love of his wife. Love is powerful 😍
@JohnDoe-gf5gm
@JohnDoe-gf5gm 3 года назад
Be carefull about what you say. Some ppl will not walk again and it's hard enough for them to accept that. They don't need other ppl to make them feel like they absolutely have to walk on their feet to be humain.
@Ayyeliki
@Ayyeliki 3 года назад
@@JohnDoe-gf5gm True! I’m a mom of a C5/6 quad and it’s not about wanting or trying to walk, minus a miracle! Most people just don’t know enough about spinal cord injuries, we can help educate. Regardless, Coles life in a wheelchair appears already more meaningful and joyous than many who are walking! Heck, look at suicide rate- in people who CAN WALK!
@zandik4741
@zandik4741 2 года назад
@@JohnDoe-gf5gm i think that was coming from a good place im sure there was no harm intended
@paulettewie2355
@paulettewie2355 4 года назад
Oh my gosh Cole made it on TED I'm crying. So happy 🙏🙏🙏
@gutchiespencer2714
@gutchiespencer2714 4 года назад
This is one lucky man.....What a woman. Respect!❤️
@73lifeisgood
@73lifeisgood 3 года назад
Agreed. I know Cole is super awesome too but the greatest sacrifice is definitely on her. She has chosen to take on a huge responsibility, especially with wanting to start a family. She’s definitely special. ❤️
@yvonebonycarp7351
@yvonebonycarp7351 4 года назад
I expected to be impressed with the speech but this exceeded my expectations. Very nice job you two.
@LymeDiseaseRadio
@LymeDiseaseRadio 4 года назад
Had NO IDEA you guys did a Ted Talk! Did you announce it and I just missed it? Anyway, you both rocked it!
@joedeehand1440
@joedeehand1440 4 года назад
The said it in a video
@ArtsyLadyCrafter
@ArtsyLadyCrafter 3 года назад
So happy to see them doing a Ted Talk! Tears filled my eyes when he was saying how he should have listened to his mom. Lovely talk, and now they are husband and wife. Beautiful!
@iane2703
@iane2703 3 года назад
"Just because I hadn't faced a struggle like this before did not mean it's gonna be too much for me to handle." ㅡ Cole :)
@barbaraspangler3933
@barbaraspangler3933 4 года назад
Love watching their videos. And I enjoyed this one. I woke up this morning at 4:30. And can’t go back to sleep. I am 2 time cancer survivor, been thru multiple surgeries/procedures. Chemo and radiation. Nov of last year I had a kidney removed because of it stopped working due the chemo/radiation. I also have an ilescompty. I struggle every day to be positive. This video reconfirms that I have to be happy and content with the new me. I will focus on doing more with my family and grandchildren. Thank you for this wonderful video
@MsTeeFy27
@MsTeeFy27 4 года назад
🙏🏼
@TaneiciaE
@TaneiciaE 4 года назад
May the Lord continues to bless you. Keep pushing, one day at time. I pray for your strength.
@Nicole215
@Nicole215 4 года назад
May God bless and be with you on your journey to a speedy recovery. 🙏🏾
@Kelegy
@Kelegy 4 года назад
What a valuable talk, especially for young people! 💓
@aquilaclark814
@aquilaclark814 4 года назад
You are so right 😋
@pattysdaughter5639
@pattysdaughter5639 4 года назад
Cole and Charisma the both of you did an outstanding job!
@bluesky1807
@bluesky1807 3 года назад
"Confidence has nothing to do with conformity but everything to do with acceptance" simply put truth! ❤️ you both
@matildajones5035
@matildajones5035 4 года назад
You are both sooooo intelligent. One can clearly see that you both were meant to be together. This should serve as a reminder to everyone that we should never ignore the right person for us just because of that person's disability or physical looks. Sometimes we need to look beyond the physical. Never judge people because of how they look. They might be that missing puzzle you need to make your life whole. Love you guys. Please continue to be there for each other. May God continue to bind you both with unbreakable chords of love.
@yonettmajor3018
@yonettmajor3018 4 года назад
Thanks be to God you are alive and was able to meet this wonderful and caring young lady . Love you both
@LivingLifeWithDeeDee
@LivingLifeWithDeeDee 2 года назад
These two are changing the world❤️
@Sandra-cl8ub
@Sandra-cl8ub 4 года назад
I’ve been waiting for this for SO long! Outstanding speaking engagement! I really like the end question, it gets you really thinking! Feel so proud of ya’ll! 💕
@veniestagourdine3881
@veniestagourdine3881 4 года назад
Got me crying over here . I wish you two nothing but a lifetime of happiness
@rachellechery47
@rachellechery47 4 года назад
Wow, Cole and Charisma, you killed it!You sounded like two experienced motivational speakers👍👍❤.
@Windsor.royals
@Windsor.royals 2 года назад
These were meant to be together. A very charismatic couple, great connection.
@kathleenevers7016
@kathleenevers7016 4 года назад
Felt like I was listening to a book loved it. Voices were beautiful and clear.
@sandraatkins2539
@sandraatkins2539 2 года назад
Cole is such an inspiration. So is Charisma. Many blessings to both of them.
@carmaletamitchem3686
@carmaletamitchem3686 3 года назад
I recently started following Cole and Charisma's RU-vid channel, they are such an inspiration. I love seeing the world through their eyes as they continue to grow individually and as a couple. Awesome TedX talk!
@hanak.7175
@hanak.7175 4 года назад
Cole and Charisma great job guys!! 👏 I’m so proud of you two!! Watching this made me cry a little bit. You guys are amazing. ❤️
@brillantandserious4930
@brillantandserious4930 4 года назад
Cole and Charisma killed it as usually. Blessings to you both.
@heartstrings110
@heartstrings110 3 года назад
They are married now!!!! So happy they found each other.
@cicitran5695
@cicitran5695 2 года назад
SOMEONE SAID "THERE'S NO SUCH IS AN ACCIDENT...EVERYTHING HAPPENS IN LIFE FOR A REASON..." 🙊🙉🙈🙌🙌🙌🙌
@TheDuckAndRogerTheHorse
@TheDuckAndRogerTheHorse 4 года назад
Great to see Coles origin story. This dudes a hero of mine.
@ndanatseifishlock5512
@ndanatseifishlock5512 4 года назад
This is so beautiful. Guys you did a fantastic job, this is your calling, making the world a better place 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🥰
@ivykaneshiro7554
@ivykaneshiro7554 3 года назад
Good point. “Flip that switch , and stay positive “....Only you can make it happen “Mind over matters “... life goes on to your choice......
@reapersphantomofhell
@reapersphantomofhell 3 года назад
The amount of love I have for you both is not able to be measured. You two are both amazing and I am so glad God put you both together.
@smallbusinesschannel
@smallbusinesschannel 4 года назад
Great speech, Charisma and Cole! Very engaging.
@ReginaYvette88
@ReginaYvette88 4 года назад
This was so good to watch again I was literally screaming in the audience... They did amazing 🙏🏾🔥❤️
@debrajames6316
@debrajames6316 4 года назад
Cole is a natural speaker. Calm and delightful and descriptive.
@jennyjones6758
@jennyjones6758 4 года назад
I've said this before and I'll say it again, platform well used! God bless you as you continue educating us and keeping us informed.
@SHENICEROB
@SHENICEROB 4 года назад
Am crying like a baby not because this makes me sad but because this makes me so happy. I wish I have a love like the love you both have for each other someday.
@tchina23
@tchina23 4 года назад
I follow Cole and Charisma on RU-vid..beautiful loving couple!❤
@TheKLove1972
@TheKLove1972 4 года назад
Been waiting for this... thank you for sharing your ted talk!
@elsieosei
@elsieosei 4 года назад
I just love their high fives. Congrats guys.
@zuzu6864
@zuzu6864 2 года назад
Had a friend who dove head first off of a dock into the water, intoxicated. He hit right beside the steps leading into the water that was a bit more than a meter deep, but luckily he flipped just in time and hit his shoulder on the floor. We were all so mad at him, but we were lucky that he only had a bruised shoulder, not a broken neck.
@marilynmartin8417
@marilynmartin8417 4 года назад
Thank you for this, it was VERY enlightening! Love you both!!
@tyasiagreen2942
@tyasiagreen2942 4 года назад
I LOVED IT!!!! I LOVE YALL❤️❤️❤️
@nancytaliaferro4160
@nancytaliaferro4160 4 года назад
You guys that was awesome!! You literally brought tears to my eyes!!
@berenicemartinez59
@berenicemartinez59 4 года назад
First, Charisma was looking 🔥 in here! I love love when she does her hair like that! Second, I have watched Cole talk about his accident SO many times and regardless of that I always cry! Third, everything you guys said was amazing explained and put out for us to make awareness. I LOVED IT ❤️
@maryblackwell6066
@maryblackwell6066 4 года назад
Love you guys. Excellent job. Well done as always.
@cheryldrayton9404
@cheryldrayton9404 4 года назад
That was excellent!!
@nataliedrake4713
@nataliedrake4713 4 года назад
I have been looking forward to this and you both did a wonderful job! See you on your Chanel guys 😀
@shay325
@shay325 4 года назад
I love y'all for sharing your life with us on RU-vid. I'm a subscriber for a long time now & when I saw this I just had to watch cause it's y'all of course. Y'all are so loving & inspirational. Blessings to y'all future.
@loodiamexican
@loodiamexican 4 года назад
I didn’t know about this! I’m so glad I found it! Also, the proposal video was beautiful!
@LillianJEllmore
@LillianJEllmore 4 года назад
YAY! I am BEYOND PROUD OF YOU GUYS! Can’t wait to see where your journey leads ❤️❤️
@cgvalle11
@cgvalle11 4 года назад
Very well done!!!! ♥️♥️♥️ So proud of you guys😊
@ziyanda95
@ziyanda95 4 года назад
LOVE THEM BOTH SO MUCH❤️. Love their channel
@boriboy7
@boriboy7 4 года назад
This was awesome! I love these two!!! So glad I stumbled upon their channel, weeks ago.
@roseiam
@roseiam 4 года назад
This was amazing!! Well done Cole and Charisma! 🤗
@Nanaz4Mz
@Nanaz4Mz 4 года назад
Thank you for sharing. You two are AWESOME!! ❤️
@CustomThreads
@CustomThreads 4 года назад
I am so blessed and proud to watch this talk
@choclate39
@choclate39 4 года назад
Aaaaw this warms my heart ❤️💕
@jennakarpe2783
@jennakarpe2783 4 года назад
I was so choked up watching this. Great ted talk!
@Kennedy007ism
@Kennedy007ism 4 года назад
Just saw this. Great presentation Charisma & Cole👏🏾👏🏾.
@cheryl-annthompson5810
@cheryl-annthompson5810 4 года назад
WOW what a great speech
@lyn8356
@lyn8356 4 года назад
Outstanding job C&C !!!!!
@leonardpridgen7
@leonardpridgen7 4 года назад
Awesome to the point you got it and we got to thank you, ya'll came through again as always .God bless you richly. Xoxo L.P.P n.c
@mothermayi9545
@mothermayi9545 4 года назад
This was so great!! 👏👏👏 Well said, darlings! Getting to know you both recently has been delightful, educational and inspiring!
@eiffiesqueen7656
@eiffiesqueen7656 4 года назад
You two are so amazing. I was glued to watching and listening to each of you speak eloquently with purpose and passion. Thank you!
@kathleenevers7016
@kathleenevers7016 4 года назад
That was beautifully done
@elizabethharttley4073
@elizabethharttley4073 4 года назад
You did good, your message was strong and true. It's been a treat to watch your evolution. Keep on rolling
@leighd6409
@leighd6409 3 года назад
*im not crying, youre crying..* 🥺❤
@sunglowluxe2345
@sunglowluxe2345 4 года назад
Congrats on your extraordinary story.
@meganconner5539
@meganconner5539 4 года назад
Ive been watching them on RU-vid for the past year and i love them so much. Theyre awesome.
@adagamba7203
@adagamba7203 4 года назад
You both did great I loved listening to you speak ......
@ruthanne7170
@ruthanne7170 4 года назад
Super proud of you both, your speeches are so honest and heartfelt. You have a connection and bond that's so special, you are blessed. Thank you for this.❤❤
@doreenwanjiku1034
@doreenwanjiku1034 4 года назад
Love Cole and Charisma, always wishing them the best.
@chrisannlittle
@chrisannlittle 4 года назад
That was great!! Well said and extremely professional. You two are great public speakers!! Thank YOU for sharing.
@milobar100
@milobar100 4 года назад
Congratulations on your TED talk. Brilliant.
@melissaluttrell4159
@melissaluttrell4159 4 года назад
You did such an amazing job! You both are so good at public speaking. Thanks for sharing your story.
@stevietstevens9384
@stevietstevens9384 4 года назад
I love you guys; you both are the personification of LOVE.
@shaep5599
@shaep5599 4 года назад
Awww when I heard they did a Ted talk i had to come watch it! Y'all did so well!
@tammeemiller2430
@tammeemiller2430 4 года назад
Very Well Spoken!
@minaclark9813
@minaclark9813 4 года назад
Great talk you guys! Keep moving forward! 💝💝💝
@shaniellebritton6456
@shaniellebritton6456 4 года назад
i loooveee them sooo much! they make me sooo happyyy!!!
@dawnsspiritualrhythms369
@dawnsspiritualrhythms369 4 года назад
You guys are amazing, this is truly the most beautiful TED talk I have ever seen. WOW, just wow.
@Alyssaluv22
@Alyssaluv22 4 года назад
I'll always show my support! I love their relationship and how pure it is!
@Officially_tiamonet
@Officially_tiamonet 4 года назад
I’m so proud of you guys !!!! I just wanna cry !! I remember when they first started RU-vid ! Your journey is blessed ! Keep it up guys !!!! Love you guys !
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