OMG Lisa I cannot believe it ... The moment you upload your video, was the moment I was celebrating myself my small movement forward, I am building my very first business and everything is challenging, sometimes you move forward and then two steps backwards! But I am learning so much resilience, focus and patience ... I am failing forward ! Lisa you're a dear friend to me without even knowing because I talk to you via your book Abundance now and how grateful I am for all your support ! I love you sister and thanks for your work ... One day I will meet you and gift you with one of my jewellery !
Thanks for this video Lisa! I found them all so useful. I have faced so many rejections that have knocked my confidence. I started to care about other people's thoughts of me, instead of working on my own. I allowed people to betray me and steal my joy and happiness, with their lies and I have struggled to admit that these experiences to myself or deal with them. I found myself broken (and the other B word which I'm struggling to type but you know what I mean) 6 months after an incident when I thought I got over it. I lost my confidence and stopped becoming the woman that I know I am meant to be. I know I have a gift, and so much to offer the world and now that it feels like I am back at square 1, I know I need to focus on what I can change and set myself micro wins until I get to my major win. Your time scheduling advice was a game changer for me and I will be using it to gain more productivity out of each day. Thanks for all of your help! You are my tribe xx
Lisa.... you ALWAYS encourage me! I know that your audience is primarily female, but this MAN loves you and what you represent in helping the masses reach their greatest potential! Game changing stuff! God bless you, sweet sister! Carry on!
I suffer from depression and anxiety. This video helped me to start thinking about how I can change my life. I'm depressed because of not following my dream of entrepreneurship. Everyday I think it's got to be something better.
Marquette Hello! You are so not alone. I too have been in that place, but I made up my mind to follow my dreams/passions. We are just here for a time. Follow your heart. The hardest thing is to start, but wants you do things will fall into place. Be encouraged!
Hi Marquette, Absolutely watch Lisa's video called "Lisa Nichols on Rescuing Yourself, Overcoming Fear, and Finding Success By Serving Others." It has great keys to success that you can follow and be successful. You can do it!
This really changed my perception. I suffer from Anxiety. I have some much-wasted energy in my circle of concern. I cannot wait to make my list. I want to see and focus more on my circle of influence.
This has been a life changing principal for me. Ever since I started focusing on what I can control rather then what I can't I have realized I have more then enough in my control to play with to make awesome things happen.
Never heard of the circle of influence or concern, but you know you gave me something to think about because I'm on this journey of learning more about myself and i believe that this would help. Thank you
I needed to hear this and when I think about it I know I've got more control over my life than I thought I had. I'm now focussing on my physical and mental health before I am going to focus on my career. I want a new fulfilling career. I know that how I stand in my life will affect what kind of career is possible for me. I am 46 and often I feel I missed the boat but then again I know that I can still have good life if I choose right.
I'm proud of you for your decision to be even more amazing!!! It excites me to think that I could be more amazing than I've known myself to be so far. Don't you just want to see how amazing you can really be? Imagine. What if you can do so much more than you even thought was possible? What if? That question is what drives me. Sounds like it drives you too. Welcome to the tribe. So glad to meet you. :-)
We have the most control over ourselves and what we need to be doing to be the best we can be. It seems like we find it easier to be concerned about other people and things that we can't control and we end up not doing what we need to for ourselves, it's a waste of time. God gives us free will and we often don't even follow the will of God. As I've gotten older I try to have my focus where it needs to be and doing what I can with my influence. Thanks for the reminder.💚
I like to think of Free Will as an option. And no matter what we do with our free will or others with theirs, God or your Higher Power makes a reason for it. Therefore..eventually..everything happens for a reason. Sent with love, tracee
Hi Lisa! I discovered you in “The Secret” audio tape and played your part to my wonderful, smart, beautiful students! I teach art to about 250 high school students at the most diverse high school in LAUSD (about 96% of my students are minorities) and I’ve heard so many times my - perfect just as they are - students saying that they wished they had lighter skin! It bothered me so much that I decorated my door with beauty of every hue with the title “You Are Beautiful!” ❤️ And I haven’t heard that conversation repeated in 2 years!😃As a result of your words, I realized the importance of having a wall of “Perseverance Leads to Success,” that is almost all minorities (you can see these things on my blog and You Tube Channel “Sherri Patten Ceramics.” Since I value people by their character, it feels strange that my students care so much about melatonin. However, as you had stated in your videos, our family, culture, church upbringing and such give us values that may not encourage us to be rich and successful so my students need to change the values that don't serve their fulfillment. The more they see they have in common with someone, the more they will hopefully accept change as progress. So, as a result of your input, I have incorporated 2 of your longer videos into “The Success Project,” which focuses on students accomplishing their career goals.👌 One of my students got angry with me on Friday because I told him that the quote he chose for this project had to incorporate action, perseverance, or effort because - as the quote I wrote says, “Perseverance separates those who succeed from those who don’t” and I want him to be successful! He had a little fit but 15 minutes later came back with a quote that incorporated effort. It’s so tough because so many of them want to choose a quote like, “Kill them with success and bury them with a smile.” I explain to them that every time they look at the quote, it reminds them of that negativity. I say, “Don't tell people your dreams unless you're sure of their support!" My students’ primary focus needs to be on settling and tackling small goals in support of their large goals. I don’t want them focusing on the negativity of others by putting a quote like that on their wall! I’m doing my best to get them to focus on their own powers of visualization and action. Through my mentoring 1 of my students who was living in a garage with her mom and 2 siblings is now in her first year at UCLA on a full tuition scholarship and she blames it all on me! I’ll be sharing "The Success Project" at a conference for art teachers in November. Thank you for your positive beauty on the planet. If only I enjoyed traveling I would do what you do. Alas, I don’t. And thank you so much for these short videos. They’re an excellent, fresh reminder, and a great way to reach more people!
That is so true. I try not too focus on people I cant relate. And not everyone shares your views, so I find topics to talk about that I can agree with others.
Lord grant me the wisdom to recognize when something is in my circle of influence and to love myself enough to protect my energy from the things that aren't. Thank you Lisa Nichols
"love myself enough to protect my energy from the things that aren't." I support you in this endeavor. It's important to protect your energy for yourself. When you let people deplete your energy, you have less to live your dreams, which takes a LOT of energy. Feed and fortify yourself, mind, body and spirit. Yes YES!
Lisa thank you. I have been watching you daily for 2,weeks,now,and my focus is shifting. I heard you and a,collaborative group back in 2004 to 2006. Since 2002 I started to shift. Each year it,gets more,challenged but my strength,and,goals are bigger. I want to,thank you for,your life. Your down, real and raw. Its how I live,and,no sugar coating about it! Alicia Ramos TX
Lisa whenever I get down I go to youtube and listen to one of your videos and as a result, it has helped me to stay in the positive and keep fighting for my dreams. There are days when I thought about just giving up but your story keeps me going and keeps me fighting. Thank you so very much for being the truth!
Lisa, when you were 25 you read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and it changed your life. Well, I'm 21 and a book I am reading that is moving my lfie in a positive direction is No Matter What by Lisa Nichols. I got it for myself for Christmas (2016) and I'm still at chapter 5.... I know I'm not the fastest reader, but I'm taking my time to work on the Action Steps - I love books that you not only read but you Act on... There are some excercises from which I don't get the perfect result from the first attempt, because it takes time to be completely honest to myself about a situation I am in, and being completely willing to let go and act out of my comfort zone. But I am doing them over and over again and getting better and better results form them , because I have chosen to give myself 1000 second chances and beyond. So now I have fresh perspectives, healthy approaches and #BOL even when I feel like a walking diaster, I fail forwad faster! Thank you!
As a special education teacher, there are so many pressures, responsibilities, and what ifs. It is beyond stressful and is a nearly impossible job for one person to do effectively in every area, every day. The duties and extra tasks placed on me are outside my Circle of Influence. I cannot change those things, but as a result of this video, I make a vow to focus on what is in my Circle of Influence, which is my relationship with my students! I have the power to inspire or destroy a life and I choose to inspire and focus oooooonmy babies. This video was everything! Thank you!
Hello tribe i am in need of advice. I got out of a relationship a year ago but we were still currently living together. We both have children so that would be a reason why we tried to be cordial and work things out for them. We also still lived together for financial reasons. But as time went on that agreement was no longer working. I asked my ex partner to leave. I got tired of making that the reasons to stick around. So here i am taking that first step to change and build me back up. Somewhere i got lost in my ex partners dreams and forgot about my own. I had to take a stand because i was getting lost in the wind. #BOL#
I will CHANGE MY FOCUS, so that I FOCUS ON WHAT I CAN CHANGE!...you make me more fearless and Im starting to respect myself, love myself, value myself, care about myself a pinch and an inch every day! Love you Sister for what you do with your motivational words and even for the meaningful silence in between :)
Thank you for helping me clarify this. I currently have a youtube channel and I feel that I must pull back because it is a concern. I can have more influence in my career in real estate and I know it will blow my mind. I'm tired helping people who don't want to help themselves. I think it's time to pull back.
Thank you Lisa for this vidéo, To response To the question you asked, i Will said that i want To increase my influence circle at many domains: To found my life's mission( i'm Still searching), To focus on a quality of my relationships, To discover another countries... Peace and love from europe
Awesome!!! I am a Covey Trainer for my company and I jumped for JOY when I heard this message!! YESSSSSSSSSSS! Increase the percentage of energy that you feed your circle of influence!!!! YESSSSSSSS!!!
Thank you for defining circle of concern vs. circle of influence.now I’ll moving into a better and bigger circle . Stepping into a circle where I am in control!
LISA...Today is the day...Now is the time....am changing..good bye to just having potential and nothing to show for it.Good bye to butterflies in my belly each time I worry about everyone's opinion of me.Goodbye to feeling like it's too late.Am changing the game..am writing my autobiography on my terms.LISA..I Love u.From the city of love...Paris.
Thank you so much Lisa! You inspire me so much! Your videos do so much for me. Continue to motivate the masses because WE ARE LISTENING. God bless you sister!
thank you lisa....i was always concerned about Why it was not happening..but now i will surely focus on the change required..now i am going to really focus on change not the reason..once again thank you lisa....i am going silver now....
Thank you Lisa😊😊I used to talk a lot😊now I decided to listen carefully 😚😚Iam Ur new subscriber after watching the secret😚😚😚and I love you souch frm I strtd rdng secret book😚😚😚😚Compared to all people ☺️☺️Ur words makes me felt Joyous 😚😚😚Thank you universe fr my new sister😚😚😚😚I have been gone through so many bad relationships..recently i strtd loving myself..and my life is totally changed..but some where still Iam Chasing fr love from others ..now I strongly decided 😚😚😚I won't chase anyone.. universe will bring me right person..no need to search in online free better relationship..😚😚😚
I totally agree with that! The only thing that I can change and modify is my own self! Then the rest follows up! Thank you Lisa PS: Your shirt is FABULOUS!!!
Hi Lisa! Thx for welcoming me to the family!! Your videos of motivation and encouragement is working for me!! Thanks for being you and telling your story! Be blessed. Your sister Kim S Hobbs
Hello Lisa when I listened to How To Step into Your Purpose that was my very first time ever hearing you speak... When you said I want to touch you soul you did just that and you said That there was a calling on MY LIFE THAT I DON'T GET TO SHACK the tears started to flow I always knew I was great I just didn't knew how to get there. You also said something else that resigned with and that You didn't know what you didn't know I was like what the what. But since then I have been trying to figure ME OUT AND IN DOING SO I'M FALLING IN LIVE WITH ME. Thank You I look forward to meeting you real soon Renita Gold
Lisa.... you ALWAYS encourage me! I know that your audience is primarily female, but this MAN loves you and what you represent in helping the masses reach their greatest potential! Game changing stuff! God bless you, sweet sister! Carry on!
Lisa, great video right on time! I've been working hard on a business idea and feeling discouraged with that same question, "What if this doesn't work?" But, when you said", What if it does work?" and "If you're going to fail, fail forward." I knew that was for me just now. Thank you for your encouragement! Your personal story always inspires me! Lastly, you look great! How did you lose so much weight? Hope to hear from you! ☺💕💜👍
Wow! This really spoke me. I don't take notes, but I drew 2 circles in my journal - a big one for influence, and one for concern ( hint: it's smaller) What a wonderful reminder to focus my energy. Thank you x1000000 🔥🔥🔥
I thank you for your contribution to this universe..YOU are doing exactly what I've wanted to do all my life..and that is to be a speaker ,teacher , and a best selling author..at the age of 51 ..and 3 grown children I find I have no more excuses..but to just leap...Thank you Lisa for giving me the push I neeed..
Lisa,yes , YES.( How forgiveness will transform your life ). I felt for a long time that i can forgive and move on with my life but others never agreed with me. Thank you for this tool. I reconize , i can make the choice to forgive inspite of the depth of the wrong done to you and NOW embrace the GIFT of forgiveness flowing from and to me. Thank you Lisa, yes,YES.
Thank u Lisa, I am going to start working on me, I’m tired of given concern on my ex boyfriend. It’s been taken all my energy and it leaves me drained !! I’m moving on, focusing on my life purpose !! Thanks again and my God continue to bless u so u can continue to bless others.. #BOL 🙏🏼❤️
OK LISA B.O.L!! First the fact that this was published on my birthday last year speaks volumes to me. Girl you just blew me away. I paused the video to post. By listening to this what I have learned is that I truly cannot give anything that is beyond my control to much energy. I know we're all on our separate journey, but when you said your ex, your sister or your mother? You just got right in my space. Confirmed! I hear you and thank you! I know now that I am on the right track. I just needed to hear it. Im choosing to make me a priority not based on anyone else's approval but my own. #LovemesomeLisa @LisaNichols
I've been focusing on what I don't want for my life, and what I want for others (friends and family). Now I will shift my focus to what I want for myself because I realize that through the power of the Law of Attraction I AM a creator! I can have everything I desire. Thank you
Lisa I must say I really love you! This show has really spoke to me! I constantly focus on my concerns verses my influence honestly I've been getting better but this has put me in the mental place I need to be in. I feel alot of my concerns come from conversations I'm the type of person everyone comes to for advice and alot of times however the person is feeling rubs off on me, I'm an empath and I'm working on protected my energy I've been using my no so my yes will have more value. 😉
For the longest time I have been struggling trying to control and influence things, people, and situations in my life that eats up my entire energy. Thank you for awakening that unconscious wisdom in me.I have been listening to your videos and I could say my life is turning 360 degrees now and all for the better Thank God..May He bless you continuously. It’s amazing how you could influence each aspect of life and hit all points perfectly. I now know I shouldn’t be too affected by things or people that I cant control or influence.I’ll now focus on reaching my goal and achieving success because most of the time I noticed I get distracted by allowing them to consume my energy. Yes! yes! Thank you Lisa! ♥️😘
This meant so much to me. I'm going to be 42 this year and I've spent so many years searching for my purpose. I have a couple of ideas that wouldn't get me more money, but would give me more satisfaction. You always motivate me and always have, I keep coming back to you. So grateful for these episodes. I hope to start...And keep....one of my projects soon. Not solely for me, but what could interest others too. Sent with love...Tracee
Dear Lisa: I want to be the Spanish Lisa Nichols version. I admire you. I believe that our world needs people like you. You are my mentor and my sister of prosperity. Wish you the best Julia Sagastume
Lisa, I have been on a No Matter What mission for the past 11 years. I lept and soared for a good six years, during which I earned a B.A. and two masters degrees. Then I decided to leap again. All of these are micro wins leading to my macro win of building the World Arts & Culture Center for Healing and Transformation. After earning my second degree, I took another leap. I hadn't quite finished preparing, because I still had my business plan to do before I could get back to doing business. Things started to go terribly wrong. After earning my first masters degree two of my closest relationships shifted. I got accepted into a doctoral program, and while I was ecstatic, my sister's attitude suddenly turned sour. I decided to get another masters degree instead of pursuing the doctorate degree, but Lisa, I thought I'd never experience the level of jealousy and resentment from those people who say they love me, as a result. It's been very disheartening. It seems like my family and my friends who were once close to me have all fallen by the wayside. Everyone pissed off, not because of anything that happened between us...just pissed. You said something that was a revelation for me at Awesome Fest. You said "of course people are going to want you to be a part of what they're doing. You're awesome!" and that made me remember that folks' pissed off was typically a result of them wanting something from me or wanting me to be a part of or do something that I said "no" to. I've mastered my "no," and it comes with consequences sometimes. I've had to walk alone over the past 2 years with bare minimum support. Homeless, I've stayed true to my goal, "no matter what." So much so that I'm down to one pair of pants, but I can't give up. Lately, I've been getting a lot of pressure from my family to work on my relationship with my grown children who are mad about my not raising them. Today, I heard you say "put more into your circle of influence, than your circle of concern." My family's attitude toward me is in my circle of concern, not my circle of influence. The more time I stay focused on it, the more depressed I get." I was just diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, which is a disability. I am responsible for managing my health, my happiness, and my life. I have been listening to your videos every day to keep my mind focused on possibility and prosperity. I love your advice. "Go hard in your circle of influence." The circle of concern is there, and maybe I'll give it some attention, but I'm going to schedule the times that I'll do that, because my happiness lies in working, moving, paying attention to, and growing ... even glowing in my circle of influence. The other thing you said here was that "this is your family. this is your tribe. This is the place where we support you in living your dreams." The video I watched just before this was about why I needed to tell my story to help other people get in touch with their own sense of determination, hope, and resilience. I put my life on pause overt the past 5 months to keep my daughter alive. (long story). I did that from a half empty cup. It's time for me to fill my cup to overflowing, so that I can serve from my overflow. Service is what gives me joy. I want to be a voice of hope. So I'm here doing the work. I signed up for your May 4-6 Speak & Write to Make Millions seminar because that was my next step, to write a book that would introduce my life's work, mission and purpose, which is social justice, social reform, teaching personal spiritual leadership principles, and practices. You are the perfect mentor and coach for me. I am holding on to your every word when I hear you talk about how to keep going, and show me how I'm connected and necessary to those around me. They need to hear my story, and I need to tell it, especially now to remind myself of how powerful I am. That is a necessary process of standing ON my many stories. This lets me look back at my life as a rich tapestry of experiences, some of which were tangy lessons, gifts wrapped in sand paper because they made me have to develop in ways that I might not have, otherwise. They are what let me know that I can leap, fall, and get back up. I'm falling right now, Lisa. I'm making sure that I fall forward every step of the way, though. Thank you for your encouragement and your support.
I didn’t realize this was posted so long ago but wow!!! I have just digested a full course meal in 4 minutes!!! Thanks Lisa for the opportunity to grow at my maximum potential!!! I did this recently and didn’t even realize what I was doing!! I noticed that my job that I was promoted to didn’t serve me because I had no influence!! As a leader in the company I wanted to use my gifts and passion to help and train and develop but the other leaders and staff didn’t appreciate nor foster that environment!!! I am grateful for choice but even more for my circle of influence not my circle of concern!!! Thanks Lisa!!!
I love you Lisa...just your voice of enthusiasm thrills me to good things.. Ive set up a well being chanel during lockdown to help myself and hopefully others...but this is because of people like you...I still fall off the track a little..I lost my husband and my father in the last few years and was struggling with for some reason regrets..xxx
Now some one cheated with our commitment. Played with my and my parents feelings. Yah I got hurt but I can't crying because I thought only one thing that I missed one bad heart only but he missed a lot. Believeness, respect, originality after all a good soul. So enjoy and focus my another valuable thing. Thank u Lisa u help me a lot.
I been very good to me. I have made many changes in my, I called extreme self care. By doing this, my daughters are picking up my good energy. My friends have noticed I look much happier. I watch more what I eat, do more exercises, and most important I change my attitude, from where before I would doubt my self. Now, I say I can do this. And amazing results have happened. I tease my friends I doing therapy. I am focus on improving me first, and then the rest comes!
Thank you God!! 🙏 Im so happy I found you today! Suffering from fear and depression 😂 In need of a major break through and you have given me all the 🔑's I need to do so. You are a blessing 🙏
Cool! Those are tools I didn't have before. Thank you. Now I know where I can dump a lot of issues that I spend a lot of time thinking about. On the other list! Hahaha! Ta - ta! And instead I can focus on things that are in my circle of influence. This is so simple and so cool! :)))
Watching this has just made me realise that I spend the majority of my time worrying about all the things in my circle of concern, and it’s exhausting! Not to mention seriously unproductive!... I’m now going to try to spend more time in my circle of influence and see what happens! Thank you so much!
The synchronicities don't lie. I have recently tried to move the quality of some of my relationships out of my circles of influence AND concern, but gurl, let me tell you... did they stay - with a vengeance. They thirst for my influence and now all that concerns me is whether I will climb over my pride or not to influence these relationships into a quality that has us together. UGH! If this ain't a BOL idk what is
I first heard you speak during Go Pro and fell in love with you and your messages right away. You speak with passion and truth which helps me so much. Love you.
Omg!!!!! This was confirmation for me!!! I have been watching you since I was 18 and I am now 26!!! And this video right here was my video!!! For years I've been giving attention to things I could not change and wonder why I was so miserable and depressed.. just recently I got out of a situation and felt so alone and at that point I realized I needed to pay more attention to me. Find out who I am and what I like. And since then life has been so peaceful. So I know that I am heading in the right direction. Thank you!
Hi Lisa! I was just offered and amazing job that can help me grow and invest in my future immensely. Turns out the job is the same as my partner 😬 My partner is not happy about the idea of us working together, and even though I know it's the best choice. I feel like I can't be excited about the job around him. Although I only see myself at the job for a couple years. Some say never mix business with pleasure but I believe everything happens for a reason. Any advice on this situation?
you're such a wonderful inspiration and motivation! thank you. doubt and taking care of others take my focus and energy. I'm working daily to re arrange that! I like how u said if we have accomplished what we currently have with only using 20% imagine the possibilities. ... I appreciate you! and the all the info you share to help us do the work!😘
YANA! I love the circle of Influence move. I have wasted time wanting to change my family members. I just need to put more effort on my ability to succeed, than what others decide to do with their lives. I let them make their choices! They can learn from my success!!!!
I was watching another video of yours where you said "you can't just put your family members out of your life." Why not? What do you do with people who are just toxic? They are haters, naysayers, and continuously bring up my shortcomings. They feel more like a distraction, an inconvenience, and a bother. What do you do when people won't let go of the past and want to hold it over your head every minute you're in their presence? Ugh! For me, I only go around when they NEED me, and I don't stay a minute more than that. That doesn't seem to help. I suspect that my need to run only adds fuel to the distance, and perhaps their anger/resentment. Full disclosure, I notice that I'm rejecting people a lot, and that's causing problems. But I'm rejecting them because I need to create boundaries that protect my time, attention, energy, and emotions. What am I supposed to do with these people?
Lisa, thank you so much for posting this. This was a breakthrough video for me. You talked about what's in our circle of influence. And how much we worry about things outside of it that we can't control. It was easy for me to identify plenty of things I worry about that I have no control over. But when it came to things that I actually do have some control over I had to really stop and ask myself what are those things? What is in my circle of influence? I started to make a list. My kids and family My co workers My job My home environment My health My finances To name a few. Essentially the people I see, the places I go, the things I do. And then begin to redirect energy toward those things instead of the useless worry. Like what can I do to enhance my home environment? To make it a more comfortable place for myself and my family. What can I do to manage my money better and start saving more. Or how can I bring more love and connection to my relationships with family and friends? These are some areas where I can actually take action and make a difference. Lisa, I am so inspired by your videos. Thank you so much for all the good you are sharing with the world!!
LISA i know you love it when the men comment and join so i'm gonna be super selfish and use that to let u read my comment and answer me question bare with me for just a sec :). i just know i should start by saying your speech on "turning fear to fuel" was the 1st one i landed on when i took one simple decision to overcome my severe depression this last November. & really since that day my life took on a whole 'nother route that i never thought i was gonna turn to. but N E WAYS! Many departments and habits & thoughts in my life have basically changed completely. but I've been running away from my dream of becoming an actor for years, and thanks to you and many teachers that passed my way, i have realized that i was afraid of succeeding more than anything. now i know you answered many questions about fixing this particular belief ever since oprah and the secret but.. my dream is to become one of the best actors in the world, i know i can do it, and i know I'm gonna be one of those shape shifters but i still don't know if i should start chasing this dream right away or should i first chase the extraordinary life i dream of and experience things i have been not letting myself experience for years because i isolated myself from most of the world? (i knoooow yikes) to sum up, i know exactly how the acting world needs dedication of your entire time especially if u wanna be a GREAT. so i'm afraid to miss out on an adventurous life in my 20s because i didn't plan or do the right preparation. a little guidance from you on what i should do and how i should get the right answer and the right first step would be everything to me. have a nice day
This is so empowering, Lisa! Thank you! I've been adjusting my focus to the things I can influence instead. It hasn't been easy 'cause I find myself feeling guilty as well. Sometimes I doubt my own decision 'cause others disagree with me so strongly. But my life keeps on reaffirming that I am on the right track and I should just keep going. I feel more centered now and I have more clarity. I realize that others will just have to adapt, too, or just cut ties with me as I enter this new paradigm with no drama whatsoever.
When you're changing, the people around you start to change too. Sometimes that change is for the better, and sometimes not. Sometimes people get uncomfortable when you start to let your light shine. I know that experience. I'm determined not to dim my Light for anybody! Has it come with a price? Yes it has. I have to agree with you. Drama makes it difficult to accomplish anything positive consistently, because you're periodically distracted and knocked off your square. This is why resilience is important. This is why establishing boundaries, and forgiving people is important. I love this space, because it's a space that addresses all of the issues that come up when one dares to live their dreams and be the best that they can be. This is our tribe. :-)
Nice video! I have a separate issue that I've been pondering lately. I've heard a lot of people say "nothing in this world is real" and that everything is an illusion. This line of thinking doesn't really inspire me to act. Because why act if everything is fake? Like, why engage in an illusion? I'm trying to sort this perception out in my mind. Any thoughts?
Lisa! I spent so much time worrying about fact that store I am working in is closing down and I will loose my job... I took all my energy and as you said I used it on thinking about the fact I cannot change (closing the store). I took action and I am starting to opening my own business! I work on it every day after I finish my job I come home and work extra hours to create my future! It’s amazing feeling! And energy grows where energy goes! Right now I am going in the right direction! Thank you Lisa and Team xxx
Lisa, you are my #BOL every conversation has truly been life renewing. The transformation is real! I thank you for you and all that you do. As a result of listening and watching you, all those negative things that I can even think of or say are being erased and replaced. You have really given me a better way to look and handle fear. I can't wait to give a Micro or Macro-Win update. This is my tribe!! YES YES!! I love you too!
right now i..change my focus ... 100 percent to the circle of influence.. all my life ive been paying bills and meeting ends..thinking too much about this..and once achieve this target..i m so exhausted to think any thing creative.... ive realized ..even though i dont think about bills ..ill still pay them.. this process is involuntary... so let me move on.. and make a new choice..and from now on it is the circle of influence .. all in my power and grace . i promise to shine bright ..not dimming my light YES and a bigger YES for the divine assignment . love and respect
Thank you sooo much for your message. It spoke directly to me this morning. My circle of concern has consumed my mind and sprit for an overwhelming amount of time. I have already started the process of moving forwards my circle of influence. That’s why this video spoke into my soul today. So true!
I’m going to school in Spain for the next few years but I keep worrying that I’m not going to do well. instead of doing what I need to do (study more, enjoy my final days home) I’m stressing about getting my visa or if I’ll like my roommates, things completely out of my circle of influence. As a result of this talk starting today I’m going to flip the narrative. Lisa you are a god send.
You're amazing and so transparent. So my circle of concerns has been trying to teach others how to change their perception about different situations that brings harm to their lives when in fact they are already adamant about their choices. I am moving that engery to my circle of influence. Where I will pursue my purpose unaplogically . This will in the end workout for everyone's good. Since my cup will then be full enough to run over and share. Thank you. Oh yeah, that statement of listening not to hear but to hear the need behind what is being said is priceless. Thanks for the Jewel, Jewel.
Hello everyone, so I'm a newly added Lisa Nichols fan!! I absolutely love every thing you share and hope to soon help people in the same way you help people. I'm starting at the begaining with talking with myself in the mirror every morning. I've always had this burning desire to help people and I now know from a group I go to any your videos I can't help people if I don't get myself right first. I need to come first. So on to my question, how do you seperate yourself from the people that aren't trying to move forward. I watched the hiking video the other day and you spoke about people sitting down to take a break and someone slowing down to help them along. How do you separate yourself from that. I want to type my whole story here, but I comes down to family .I live with my daughter's father, but he has no motivation. I know I can't pull him up the hill, but how do I keep motivating myself and close the blinds on the people I'm leaving behind. Which brings me to another am I staying with them because I'm comfortable? The one advocate I want in my corner is him, but if he's not ready to stand up I feel at a loss. How do you separate yourself from the people you love to help yourself? Can you do it while still living with them?
Because I have been through so much with my now adult children growing up (illnesses that were or could have been detrimental, mental situations both of us) sometimes it's hard not to live in the circle of concern. Now I have a little one who is the last child and it is difficult dealing with her because I feel like I am going backwards with all of that but on an upscale. Finally finding my peace, purpose and moving forward as I set each goal and move a step further I am finding unbearable obstacles. I have created a room for peace where I go to retreat. I have moved most things to my circle of influence. In doing so I have found that there are somethings that I can not and will not share with some so that I can continue to move forward. I have found that much of what is important to me or that I believe I can accomplish others don't feel the same; including my family who I have been a great supporter for even when they felt that they could not accomplish something. My greatest push is life is tell me that I can not accomplish something, that you think I can't handle a goal that I believe I can and I will show you that I can and defeat you and any doubts that you may have had and tried to instill in me. My greatest game changer of 'YES I CAN!!!!" is to tell me that I can't. This is where my circle of influence becomes 95%. Thank you Lisa your talks and mentoring has been very uplifting.
Dear Lisa, Thank you. I have read many inspirational books over the course of my life. (i am 54 now) But I did not manage to integrate many of the lessons into my life. It stayed at the AHA moment. Every Time I stepped back in the old patterns of my behavior. You know how to get me step out of my confort zone and start taking real action. You give me the courage and confidence that i can chance into the person i ment to be, and want to be. Even writing this message now is a part of my NEW ME. First time i feel the urge to openly show my apprisiation and take action on it. Till now i was more the silent typ. I am taking the time to translate what ik need to say to you, my own language is Dutch. Thank you, Love you and i bet you will hear from me again.
BOL: Thank you Lisa for the section "How do i achieve something I have no control over?" - I appreciate your feedback regarding my circle of influence compared to my circle of concern. I run into this a lot because I am a Black Young Proessional Woman in healthcare who has a strong passion and desire to change the World's health with one indivudal at a time. My approach to this work was not in the traditional educational path and yet I look to people above or where I would like to be, to support me and see me for my greatness. For them to allow me to show them how great their organization can be or how to simply treat patients and providers. But I find that after watching your videos and reflecting on my years of professional development. I still do not believe in my greatness as much as I look to those to provide me the opportunity. I am going to list the concerns vs influences and put more energy in my influences. Thank you again.
Listening to you before I lay my head down always inspires and encourages me. My aha moment was when you talked about looking at your "circle of influence" and how much time you spend there compared to the "circle of concerns". I realize I need to put or increase my time in the circle of influence. With that in mind, I can move forward with my dreams to soon become my reality and the world's.
I make it a point to pray and medicate every morning. As a result: I have been led to do more outreaching into the community and to other nonprofits and the events began to take place simultaneously as through collaborative efforts. I want to thank you Lisa, as I found your RU-vid channel just days after I prayed for guidance. Thank you for being so transparent. May you continue to be blessed.
Real talk! I am a young black woman broad, and sometimes I get consumed with frustration about race issues and politics. I feel like it is my responsibility to be aware of what's happening in the world... the shift I had as a result of this video is that I don't have to be consumed with it. It is out of my Circle of Influence. I will now work to give more time, energy and thoughts to those thing I can influence. In time I believe my circle of influence will grow and I'll be able to affect some of these concerns because they are now in my enlarged Circle of Influence. Thanks for the message.
There are people in everyone's lives that fall into the circle of concern and we can't do anything about them but watch... I have been in the same place and your video has made me just learn to turn my back on them and focus on better things like family my health and my business... Thank u Lisa this video is a big BOL for me...
Hi Lisa. I've been reading the 7 habits of highly effective people for years not actually finishing the book but going back and forth through it but I've never done the work. this video really reassured me i was on the right track and has inspired me to not only finish the book but do the work. Thank you
I appreciate your videos so much! Most of the time your videos arrive at the moment I am questioning if I'm on the right path. They always confirm that I am. I am always influenced to change and reach for more. My bol came with the invitation to only use my energy where I have the opportunity to influence! Thanks beautiful soul for sharing your love with us. #yana #bol
Hi Lisa, I got your first vedio from my boss where you were talking about how your teacher told you that you will never do public speaking, WOW:) what makes me love your work is that they are short and to the point, I listen to them while working and I love the different topics and I get to choose the ones that touch me the most and they are so precise and life changing. Thank you. I am also finding myself and getting out of that complacence state where you just live day to day with no excitement, I now make time for myself, I am now following your tips on loving yourself and forgiving others and being complete as a person without waiting for validation from the next person. May the Almighty continue to bless you as you are a blessing to the masses
#BOL Ive been struggling with trying to balance my life with other peoples concerns, problems, and issues, almost to the point that I don't leave any energy for myself. After listening to your video Lisa, I came to the conclusion that you are so right! I need to let go of all the things that I cannot control, and focus on things that I can, for myself. I promise myself from now on I'm going to treat my time and energy as a rare diamond, rather than a free sample. I believe I can do so much more by focusing my energy on myself, and what I have influence over, just like you said. Thank you so much Lisa!
