Former CIA Agent Explains How To Get Others To Respect You 

You get what you tolerate. Sometimes walking away is better than going to prison.

If you find yourself in a situation where you have to demand respect you've already lost. Respect is given and earned, not asked for.

My typing teacher, Ben Enriquez R.I.P. said, “You can tighten up, then lighten up, but not the other way around."

Yep doesn‘t work with narcissistic family members. best is to ignore. or go no contact

Reminds me of extreme ownership. You have to look at yourself first and see if you're creating the issue. Great leaders think similarly.

So glad to be out of this nonsense and never again having to deal with staff who need a constant checking on and management. Sad but true that the average person cannot practice self - management and need someone to keep him on a leash.

I’ve learned that sometimes, your appearance is all you have to do to cause people to disrespect you. Don’t confirm those assumptions with lack of action.

To be honest some ppl are just disrespectful. If a person disrespects you, that's accountability on them. We all should have been taught basic home training on how to have manners and have mutual respect.

I'm good hearted to everyone but it usually ends up with people being mean to me as they think they can be mean or disrespectful with no consequences to them

oh, so that's why I have gotten disrespected for the past 10 years. Just because I'm being too nice to people.

Well that's something every good teacher knows: Set your boundaries good and firm. Once that's established, you can get away easily with a more relaxed way of doing things

Agree with the CIA station chief. Still, meeting people socially naturally exposes you to social predators of all degrees. Upshifting to higher gears is sometimes required with such people, know and understand directness and walking away as tools, confrontation is not the goal but is in fact the last tool in the kit - use it wisely.

I supervised/managed police officers using this model. I got great performance from them. They kept me out of trouble and made it easy to be their boss.

People aren't afraid of conflict. There afraid of the truth .

She is good & has a great delivery!! Was told many years ago PART OF BEING WISE IS KNOWING WHAT TO OVERLOOK!! 🙏🙏

Simple. Show respect, be high value and have integrity. Really that simple.

This sounds great when you’re talking about people under you. How do you get people over you to respect you or stop bullying you? Where’s that advice

People always say respect is earned not given. Kinda weird... because you have to give respect to get respect.

Loved this!

Unfortunately in the private sector. It does not work like that. Upper management will go team up with an orderly against mid management. Because they consider mid management a threat

Yes. Boundaries. Hearing. ❤

Easier said than done, especially when you are a nobody (not in power). Doing this makes relationships a transaction and people are not their organic self around you then. People would then find ways to hide stuff and avoid you or even “target” you. Congratulations, you are now the “target” of despised.

Thank you 😁 so much See my smile it has meaning... Thank you

BOUNDARIES

Very interesting.

Works for parenting too

I don't care what y'all say but all forms of so called respect gets trumped by TERROR period!

A lot of things go out the window with narcissists. If youre dealing with a narcissist then none of this matters lol

The first thing I'd do is to say to this woman don't point your index finger at me or you'll lose it.

OT You need better lightning in the room. She is in the dark, "all" the lights should be on her

This advice will never work with your superiors, maybe your inferiors or your peers

All these « former something » are not former at all...

I thought from thumbnail that she was invisible woman from fantastic four

Some people no matter what will not respect you ever, they dont respect others either, nor do they respect themselves. They only fear people who can lean on them or expose them at that still isn't respect, it just mimics it

U can herd cattle but comprehend they only following the next person azz

this all predates on the assumption...that humans are instinctually sloth-like in nature...a common expression of the extroverts that wish to push their force outward...quite endearing really, you aim to radiate the opposite, but instead expose your vulnerability

i am

At first I thought the guy was the CIA agent

From my experience, you're the one to blame, not the other party, because, like it or not, you've been teaching them how to treat you based on what you accept and what you don't. Boundaries are crucial for your mental health and well-being. If you don't draw them, they will step on you despite how kind or supportive you have been. Human beings unconsciously don't like weak people (too much kindness is weakness, don't be a people pleaser), and if they see or sense weakness, they will step on you. Solution? ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF FIRST NO MATTER WHAT, AND NEVER EVER LOVE SOMEONE MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF. I wish I knew this a couple of years ago. I went through the deepest, most dangerous depression I've ever experienced. Please don't repeat my mistake, be save.

Oh look, a female Andrew Bustamante! Okay! 😄

Please remove the captiins

😂 Edward Snowden 😂😂😂😂😂

It's all Greek to me.😂❤

The subtitles are irritating! This is not a yt short!

I know she talks about a former CIA but she's former Secret Service so shouldn't the tittle say former Secret Service agent.

is that Lady Gaga? jokes aside. good vid (y)

Is she still going on about the same old thing

How come no one respects the CIA? 😂

👍🏿, Blm

Lot of people in here purposefully trying to poke holes in the concepts she’s presenting, this info isn’t a one size fits all thing and she never stated it was either, these are situational depending on where in life you are positioned, I never get why I see such discord and negatively when concrete information is given Hypothetical situations that you’d have to try to place yourself in shouldn’t be counter arguments… all that shit is in bad faith

are this kind of subs necessary? do ppl really have that short of an attention span?

Hot voice

The words popping up on these videos is hella distracting and hard to read

guys in socks podcast

Another BS misleading video with the wrong title.

Yeah. Gonna learn based ideas from a broad. 😂😂

I'm good hearted to everyone but it usually ends up with people being mean to me as they think they can be mean or disrespectful with no consequences to them