I have a tip... I came out because I discovered I was trans a couple months ago and people are starting to call me my preferred name. It most likely will feel wrong when people first start to call you your preferred pronoun because you are so used to being called He/she and your birth name so it will take some months to get used to
This warmed my heart. I just came out to my mom last year and we're both kind of struggling with it, so hearing about other moms trying to learn more about what their children are going through and how to support them gives me hope that it'll all work out.
Thank you so much! I know every time I look in the mirror in the back of my mind I see a boy, I always burry that thought with "I could be gender queer" "this could be a phase" "am I over reacting?" But now I'm going to try and accept myself for who I am!!!
It's literally so confusing. Right now, I can't tell if I feel androgynous or transgender. I don't get it at all. I can't tell if I want to transition or if I just want to look less feminine. I can't tell if I like my name or if I'd like to change it. And even if I do come to the conclusion that I'm transgender, I'd have the resources to transition. And even if I did, my mother most likely wouldn't allow it and might even disown me (probably for also being gay). I just don't understand. Why does this have to be so confusing?
Dude how do you not have more subscribers?? Thank you so much for this. This addressed everything I've been struggling with for the past four years. I'm about to see a gender therapist soon too and I'm glad I'm not alone in my doubts.
I honestly thought you're telling my story. I'm so unsure about myself and I'm not comfortable with female but neither with male pronouns and I'm just so confused. Thanks for sharing your story
this helped me, this made me realize i'm not trans in any way i was just scared cause a lot of my friends were transitioning but they've felt trrans their whole life and i feel like a girl :)
Meowy Cosplays you don’t have to feel, or should I say know your whole life that you’re trans. I realised when I was 15, went into denial for a year and now I accept its who I am. But if you feel like a girl, then maybe that’s what you are
I'm 14 I feel like I'm ready but I don't know how to tell my friend's and my dad I'm worried I'm a boy and I feel like I'd be more comfortable after the transition
Oh my gosh, the anon ask, is like...My question exactly and the whole reason why I'm watching these videos so, it's so nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels that kind of confusion.
I've known I'm trans for a few years. Dead certain. Using different name and pronouns with friends and it felt great. But once in a while I start doubting it and it makes me feel so depressed that I'm questioning what I thought I knew. I know I'm trans but for some reason part of me doubts it as soon as things start looking up, and now I'm to the point that I don't know if hormones are right for me, when all that was keeping me alive was looking forward to the changes hormones will bring. It's confusing and such a hopeless feeling that I don't know how to correct.
i used to feel the same way. are there things that you are afraid of when you think about transitioning? acceptance/family, etc? because that could definitely play a part. what helped me was to make a list of all the things i was afraid of that were contributing to my doubts and just put bullets under them of things that would help me look past that. now, i don't even think about those things!
c stclair I'm so glad I'm not alone!!!! I have no idea why I get these thoughts and why I would even doubt myself when I know, for a fact that I am a male. I hate my body so much and my voice, etc. It angers me why I have these thoughts. And thank you for the advice, illrollwithit I'll also try these :)
Hey, my name is ally and I’m a 14 year old girl, I came out as gay about 3 years ago and I’ve always kinda struggled with my gender identity. I don’t know what I am, ever since I came out as gay I have questioned weather I was trans or not. I’ve always been kinda scared of the fact because even though my dad was very supportive of me being gay, he keeps on telling me I will never be trans, or I better not be, and just stuff like that. I don’t even know if I am trans. At school we have a family tree with all my friends and I’m the dad, I keep on joking about me not knowing if I am a boy or a girl but I’m actally confused. When I was younger I was always just kinda comfortable being a girl but now that I’m older ummm starting to question it, I mean I was just ok with being a girl when I was young if I remember right. And I’m still ok with being a girl but idk if I am. I’m just so confused
So I'm pretty young to know all the stuff about trans, LGBT, and stuff like that I don't feel comfortable saying my real age but I do know a lot in that area of LGBT and I myself have been wondering the same thing the person in the beginning was and having the same feelings and even though I've watched so many videos about this and trying to find out I'm still not sure. It's actually been a couple years. And I know for sure that I can't see a therapist and DEFINITELY NOT a gender therapist and I don't feel comfortable telling anyone about it like a counselor or a teacher at school cause they might inform my parents about the situation and my parents already hate the fact I want short hair and wear guy clothes and just aren't supportive of me at all in that region so I know they most likely wouldn't be supportive of me seeing a gender therapist or maybe even being trans. It's also quite a few years till I can drive and same thing with me moving out and even me getting short hair would be a nice thing to help me think about it but my parents are totally opposed to that idea they say a girl has to wear GIRL clothes and have LONG hair to be a girl...it really sucks and they think it's over a haircut that I cry myself to sleep some nights but it's because of this fact and I can't tell them because I'm afraid my parents (especially my dad) will over react and things will happen to where I might want to die more than I already do. Sorry for such the long comment I just need advice and help...
Damn. I wish these people would realise that by pushing you to one thing it makes that struggle so much harder to find yourself. Whether you're a cis girl or a trans man (or something else entirely), the answer isn't going to come to you any sooner with all these external pressures of how to conform. Conformity sucks!!! I hope you found SOMEONE to talk to even if they are online because bottling all these confused feelings is really the most harmful thing you could do.
oxinak I've been there man. Hardest part is being comfortable with urself in public. I'm 20 and it's still hard..but..it's a bit easier over the years. It gets better. Still hard,but better
This honestly helped me a lot. I've been struggling with my gender since I was 11 years old and I can say that though I do wear makeup sometimes and sometimes wear things geared towards females, I'm not comfortable with myself like that. I had come out to my family when I was 14 about feeling like I was meant to be a boy, but although my parents were pretty much accepting of it, I had to keep it a secret to the rest of my family and it was very hush hush which discouraged me and made me think "What if it's always this way? Should I just keep this up or should I just make it easier for everyone and go back to what I know?". That's exactly what I ended up doing. To this day as I'm nearly 18 now my feelings haven't changed much on my gender identity. I feel like I would be happier as a man, I feel completely myself when I dress as a man. I'm still on the fence about taking the plunge into transition, but this video really brought to light how difficult it can be to determine who you really are and what you're comfortable with. Thank you so much, you've really put things into perspective for me and many others.
I know it’s almost 1 year after you posted this, but, this video just made my day. I’m struggling with exactly all the topics you said. Thank you so much.
This helps so much. I’ve only ever seen videos saying that they always knew they were a guy and never knew what trans was, but this shows that people have their doubts and this really helps. I think I might be trans and I wasn’t 100% sure, but like you said, the pieces will fall together.
Wow. This helped so much. This is exactly what I'm going through right now. I also tend to think in black and white, even if I know there's no black and white. Only grey. I just had my first appointment with a gender therapist and he's quite sure I'm trans. And every time I think about it with a clear head I'm also sure. But sometimes my head does weird things and tried to find the fly in the ointment... when there is none. And videos like yours get me to calm down and think about it again with a level head. So... thank you. :)
I've been watching videos like this for years and I'm starting to think that I'm not transgender because I wasn't a tomboy when I was a kid. At all. The only thing that made me question my gender was the feeling of _this body is not mine, this life is not mine, something is wrong, somehow I'm faking to be somebody I'm not, this is not my truest self_ - and when I found out about trans people and started binding, wearing mens clothes, experimenting, everything kinda felt...right? But at the same time, when people would deadname me, call me "she/her", it would hurt 100 times more than it did before I found out that I could feel like myself when I saw a boy in the mirror. It's like living in the matrix your entire life but always knowing that something is wrong, and when you find out that _well something is _*_actually_*_ wrong_ you're amazed and too scared to move forward. Idk. Is there anybody else like me?
I came out to everyone as nonbinary, but being seen as a guy definitely hits me right in the feels. But in a good way. But the thing is, I have laughed and felt this weird giddiness when people have called me "Sir" on accident. But yeah. I told people I prefer they/them pronouns because I definitely do resonate with those, but also feel more masculine. I want to live as my true self. I am definitely terrified, but I've found some of the best results happening in my life when I've taken the plunge while absolutely terrified.
I just want to say thank you, almost a year ago I watched this video and things finally made sense to me after years of questioning. I have been out as FTM for 6 months now and I started T 3 days ago! Thank you for helping me.
I only realised I was trans about a month or two ago but i really want to see a therapist. not to start hormones or get surgery or anything yet, just to help me figure out my identity and stuff. :/ idk
Omg! Thank you! Thank you so much. I have been looking and looking and looking for a video like this for a long time. Everything you said was my personal struggles right now with myself. Now I really don’t feel like I’m alone. There is someone out there who has had the same doubts and the same thoughts as me. Just thank you.
This video was so so helpful for me. I’ve had a very similar experience and I’m talking to a gender therapist currently, but I was still feeling really confused and lost. This video really helps put everything into perspective. Thank you!
Thank you for this video! I’ve been experiencing a lot of the doubt you described. I recently hit a new low with my depression and anxiety. I wasn’t sure what causing it but after analyzing my life, I think it’s very likely to be gender dysphoria. I’ve been in denial about it for a long time. Kept telling myself it was a phase or that if I pushed my feelings to the back of my mind, they’ll eventually disappear. As an adult now it only seems to be getting worse. I made an appointment with a mental health professional to try to figure out why I’ve been feeling so depressed. Part of me is afraid the answer will be gender dysphoria and the other part of me desperately wants it to be. I’m so conflicted. Fingers crossed, I’m hoping all goes well. Watching videos like this helps bring a lot of relief. You seem very happy and my biggest fear is that if I’m not happy now, how would making my life potentially harder make me feel any better?
Thank you so much. You really helped me if I about if I really do want to transition. I relate to what you’re saying which is definitely helping the situation. Thank you again. Really great video
This was incredibly helpful, thank you. I've been struggling over my identity for ages, with just that 'what if' holding me back. What if it doesn't make me feel better? What if no one loves me? What if I ruin the rest of my life? Or when I consider all the things that hormone therapy won't change (height and hips for example) and I wonder if it's going to be worth it. I have a doctors appointment booked for tomorrow to finally start the process of getting hormones, but I had been considering not going because I was too scared to commit. I think you're right though when you say there's that part of you that knows deep down even if you don't want to admit it to yourself. Especially since I don't want to admit it to myself, but I think I need this leap of faith to take the next step. I've already cut my hair, changed my wardrobe and told my friends, and I can't imagine going back to how it was before, I think that should be proof enough to myself. So thank you, and I will be going to the doctors tomorrow :)
This video has helped me so much! Thank you so much dude, the part about not necessarily feeling completely comfortable with he/him pronouns but also really not being comfortable with she/her pronouns really resignated with me.
Dude... Your words are so helpfull. Thank you so much for this great video you explained very well the struggle of this situation. Things are more clear in my head now. I just always knew I am supposed to be a man but when I was younger I didn't knew about "transgender". I just thought something was wrong with me. But no. I am just not meant to live the rest of my life as a girl. I am so uncomfortable in my body since i'm 5 years old. All the things that comes with the female body if you know what I mean.. It has always been a nightmare for me to act like a girl all my life. But i'm willing to see a therapist who can help me with my severe disphoria.. I can't live like that anymore. Thank you again, it helps very much. Xxx
Can I just say, when I was questioning myself in 2018 I came across this video, and after watching this I knew exactly that I really was trans, I started T a few months later. I’m scheduling my top surgery consultation soon, I just want to say thank you for this.
I told my friend I was Trans ftm. And he started calling me my male name ( Zack ) and using male pronouns every now and then. And it made me so happy when I turned around at school when I heard that friend and even another yell "yo Zack! What's up man? " and looking back, I showed behavior as a kid that might hint that I was Trans. I have a family that just loves to barge in on me. It doesn't matter if I'm using the bathroom or f#*$king naked, but I have ALWAYS been uncomfortable with people seeing me with no shirt or pants. And when my mom told me as a kid I was acting like a boy, I got really happy and proud of myself. I CRINGE every time I hear my female name or god forbid someone call me SHE. LOL. I was told by my friend ( the one I came out to. Remember? ) that my face looked pretty masculine. Again, I was so happy. Now if only I can come out to my mom. And get a binder... or a haircut for that matter.... I got a long way to go. I'm 90% sure I'm trans, and all these things I did as a kid before I ever heard of the term " Transgender " it just all makes sense. I just wish my mom wasn't so anti-LGBT. It'd be so much easier that way. But no. My family has to be the kind of people who would throw their kid into conversion therapy or just kick me out. I also told my sister. And I told her " if you ever think you might be a part of the LGBT community, come tell me. Your not alone. And if you find yourself in a situation like mine, just let me help you best I can. " I don't want her to do this alone. She hasn't found out what she is yet, but I also told her not to rush herself to find out. It should come naturally. I just don't want my little sister to go through all the worry I did when I found out.
hello. i came out last year as trans and i really want to go on T. i dont want to continue living my life woth this body and everyday i feel terrible about all the feminine aspects of my body. before i came out as trans i didnt have any body dysphoria, it was actually mostly social dysphoria and euphoria that made me figure out that i was a guy. i never really knew it when i was smaller, i know i had thoughts that i "wanted to be a guy" but it wasnt that obvious that anyone but myself noticed it. atm im really struggling with the part that i wasnt an obvious boy when i was small. i liked wearing leggings and skirts, and i even yelled at people when they thought i was a boy. only last year i realized it and it immediatrly made me way more comfortable to wear guys clothes and live as a guy. the thing is that ive only been out for a year/knew it for a little more than a year, and i feel like im completely sure that i want to transition. but you said you thought about it for a lot of years while i only thought about it for a couple of months and actually directly when i found out i already knew that i wanted to transition physically and that hasnt really changed since then. is it too soon for me to start my transition (if i was able to)? i really feel ready but time-wise it might be way too soon to know if this is really what i want for the rest of my life..? im 16 atm and thinking about living with a female body for much longer than this makes me feel sick in my stomach and i just want to continue life right now with getting changes like the other guys my age instead of only getting what they get now, when im like 20 or something... any advice?
Thanks for the video! Couldn't have come at a better time! I've been confused about my gender identity for a couple years now and I'm still unsure, but watching this definitely helped and gave me more to ponder. Something that bothers me in the idea of transitioning to male for myself is gaining male privilege and losing the strong independent woman identity that I stand by even though I don't completely feel like a woman. I do think maybe I'm gender neutral, because it doesn't bother me much that people see me as female. Though I feel like people don't see me for who I am because I don't completely present the way I feel, which is confusing and hard to explain. Did it bother you to have that male priviledge once you passed? Do you think you could make a video about how to deal with being seen differently by society and losing part of your identity?
I definitely want to make a video about male privilege/ a shifting identity within society. I struggled with how to let go of my identity as a woman (especially as a lesbian) when I started to transition. A lot of that had to do with me being at a women's college but I think I would have struggled with it regardless. Just do what's right for you. If identifying with both genders or no gender or anything else feels good to you, just continue to explore that. Thanks for the video suggestions, I put them on my list :) Good luck with everything!
I think the best thing to do if questioning is to do the things associated with the other gender. Gender identity is the part that's confusing, but expression and social norms are a little easier to adopt. So by dressing/looking/expressing more masc/fem/neutral, and by doing activities typically associated with the masc/fem/neither could help in a way that is far easier to reverse than hormones or surgery. Of course, these things are just the first steps. Another thing to consider is Role-play. Tabletop, online or live action will enable a person to literally 'be' someone else for a while, and no one in those social groups really questions that.
I thought things we do and like had nothing to do with gender, now they do? I don't like makeup and dresses, golly gee I guess I'm not any kind of woman right?
@@kaiyodei like i said, these are first steps. Things to try out. Thru social interactions are how the world "sees" gender. At no point did I mean that these are definitive. I'm a believer that gender is multi-faceted, and a video I'm working on right now will help illuminate that. Check in on my channel in 2 or 3 days time for a fullly nuanced & detailed explanation.
Your vids are helping me out sooo much right now and I'm very grateful!! Your experience before you transitioned sounds very similar to what I'm going through right now, and it's very validating and comforting to hear it. Thank you!! :)
I once told my friend who thought they were male at the time ( there nb ) that I felt like a boy but wasn't sure and they looked me in the eyes and said "your always welcome to join the boys". Too bad they turned into a jerk now
I'm a 12 year old "girl" and I dont necessarily *hate* my body but I really dislike not having a flat chest (I purposely wear bras that are too small and oversized shirts so I dont have to see them). I also have this feeling of anger, not regular anger, but it is some kind of anger mixed with annoyance and a feeling that something isn't right, and this angry voice in my head screaming *I'm a boy* whenever I get called a girl or by she/her pronouns or by my birth name. I had some of my friends call me by a different name, call me a boy, and by other pronouns and I dont have that same feeling, it felt right to be called a boy. The reason I don't know whether I'm trans or not is because 1. I'm young, what if I regret everything. 2. I love pink and pastel colors and "girly" stuff. 3. I don't want my parents to push the same gender stereotypes on me that they do on my brother (you can't like pink, you can't wear bracelets or necklaces, etc.) 4. I'm my parent's only "daughter", and they always talk about how they love me as a daughter and I don't want to disappoint them by saying I'm trans. I really feel like I am trans, because before my chest started developing, I still felt like something wasn't right, and I was devastated when my chest started developing because I didnt want to look like this (which is why I wear oversized shirts and tight bras). I also remember always having thoughts like "it would be fun to be a boy" "what if I was a boy" and I always looked at boys in a way that I wanted to be them (and I still do). I need some help figuring this out because im getting super frustrated and I dont want to tell my parents unless I'm 100% sure about this.
I have watched so many videos to help me figure things out and this has helped me the most. Thank you so much, you've really altered my thinking and have just made things better for me :)
This helped me so much because before I knew what trans was I thought I didn’t like being called beautiful because I was self conscious but now thinking I’m trans I hate being called beautiful
Hello, I'm too someone very confused. I see a lot of me in your story, I'm a anxious and analytic person. I always wanted to be a boy since I was 4, and I always felt strange in my body. But every trans person says that once hit puberty dysphoria come out, and they wanted to cut off their chest and kill theirself etc. at 17 I considered myself "casually female" and straight but I still was apathic and "detatched" from my body. Then I started to feel a lot dysphoric after I found that "seeing me as boy" (I'm a lot androgynous) helped me a lot to connect with myself, but I also started to feel that I cannot grow out as woman, what before was "mild discomfort" began more and more strong, I feel more disconnected because I feel a lot more authentic but my body remains female. And still, I want to be male (or trans male, that is possibile). When a boy see in me the man I want to be, I feel so happy but so sad because physically I'm not. So I want to ask you 1- How did you be sure that you wanted to transition for "right reason" (genuinely be trans) and not for escape something? a lot of detrans people spoke about internalized homophobia etc. 2- How did you felt after starting HRT? I'm scared because I can't know if I will like changes, I can think about changes and desire them but to live the changes is different. I'm scared because I saw detrans people that then hate the changes they obtained from HRT :/
thank you, I feel this helped a lot. of course it doesn't take away the fear that I might throw away my whole life I haven't been living till now. that everyone that cares about me like I am no,w will have to part with that forever. but it shed some light and I did feel adressed. so maybe I just need to figure it out a bit better :)
This helped me, even if im starting to be a teen. And i definitly want to transitionning but im feeling too young to start surgery or t or idk what so just starting with changing clothes and talking more to my parents about it will help for me... just a common advice that will probably help no one :') TYVM for that video, srsly this is very helpful, i was asking the same damn question to myself (and everybody else who is here too i guess :D )
I feel as if I'm going to be happier a guy. But I'm so used to living as a female because people push it upon me. But I think I'm just going to go for the feelings I have more.
I've been going through this for long enough to know that i want be be FTM and i told my mom and shes not being supportive or anything really.i just want help with all of what i'm going through,i feel so alone.I'm scared that is what i'm thinking even normal?.Should i be thinking like this?.Feeling like this?Feeling trapped inside a girls body?.Feeling like complete shit because i'm not comfterable under my skin.I hate this body.I want my real body and the real me.Im done with people expecting things out of me as their little perfect girl.Its time for me to make myself pround not them.I need to start realizing that i shouldn't think about what they think and always putting them before me just to make them all pround,but fuck it.Im done being someone i'm not proud of being.I need help.But AMAZING video it helped alot!!.Thanks
Thank you for posting this video, it’s helpful. I’m still questioning whether or not I’m trans though. It is a long process of figuring it out and I’m only 13 so I have time. But if anyone happens to see this, can I ask a quick favor? My family is kind’ve transphobic so I don’t want to talk to them, can someone call me by my chosen name and pronouns? Just to see how to feels. My name is Austin and pronouns are he/him. Thank you :)
hey illrollwithit i am biologicly a female but i have transitioned to gender nurtral but my friend has been asking me if i am a male but i don't know i like all things boy do but i like makeup and dresses and skirts i don't know anymore
TBH, I don't know if I'm trans or not. I've been getting symptoms of trans (ftm). (Long thing wait here) So first of all, I don't feel comfortable in this body. I don't feel like a girl sometimes, when I was a child I was talking w/ my mother about changing my name I remember. I told her can I change my name. She replied with when you're older. I told her some names, some of the names were boy names. I remember one of the boy names which was "Simon." Maybe one was "Scott." I've been playing with action figures and not DOLLS. When I was younger. My friend and I used to play dress up. I got boy clothes including tying up my hair to look like one. Here's some things I noticed, I used to space out and day dream about being a boy. I open my legs widely like some boys do, I like playing football, I've put my leg on the table and my mother shouts at me because of it, and the last thing is that I pretty much had a dream of being a boy and like looking way different. :/ When I shower, I literally like LITERALLY hate having a vagina. I've pretty much imagined having the male genitalia a lot. I like wearing a lot of shirts basically 2 or 3 so it looks like I have no boobs. Someone once thought I was a boy but pretty much nice and shit. I don't know what to do, my mother would never send me to doctors. My mother is pretty religious, I can't tell if she'll accept it. She'll slap me in the face thou.. It's happened before, I had a discussion with her about transgender/bisexual/lesbian/gay/non-binary. After the conversation ended she slapped me. I told her that I want boy clothes. She said she could get it. I've been getting more bagged clothes and more boy-ish clothes which I am wearing now. I've been getting more awkward with girls.
I feel like a boy sometimes.....but sometimes I'm also insecure about it and how people would treat me if I told them. I don't want to be seen as a transtrender or anything since I'm still in my early teens and I fear that people would think I'm just doing it to be cool or something. I feel so much more comfortable with no makeup or skirts and dresses or just looking feminine in general. I told my dad about it and he said he was okay with it but I don't want to make the wrong decision. when I got my haircut very short recently people told me I look like a boy. when I was little my mom told me I acted like a boy a lot. but deep down I didn't mind looking like or acting like one. I didn't mind it and kinda liked it. I feel like I just need to do this for myself and not worry about any one else's opinions about it because if they were truly my friend they wouldn't care if I was a boy or a girl. thank you for making this video it helped me a lot trying to understand how I felt. if you or somebody who is trans I'd deeply appreciate some advice in a reply. thank you :)
I’m so confused. I’ve thought I was non binary, then genderfluid (what i am right now), and now i might think i’m trans but my parents would literally disown me and I don’t know if i actually am. if i’m not i don’t want to take the risk.
Im so confused right now someone please help me Im fine with she/her because I'm used to it but I hate my name I don't mind looking feminine with skirts and dresses and wigs and makeup I feel great but I hate looking small and I hate my body I don't mind my pronouns (she/her) right now but it doesn't feel right but I'm used to it and it feel normal and he/him or they/them feels odd but i don't know if that's because I'm just not used to them
this was super relatable to me, but everything is so confusing right now. I know I'm not where I belong, I don't feel comfortable where I'm at now being biologically born a female, I had two dreams before, I dreamed I had a trans pride flag wrapped around myself, then the other was that I came out to my friends and they started to call me Cameron and call me he/him pronouns (id prefer Alex) but either way both made me feel really good and happy. i don't know if it does mean something or not since they are just dreams, but I know my friends would be supportive but my family I don't think so, I've always been the only daughter of three brothers so I feel horrible for taking that away from them, I don't want to make them disappointed you know? i always been more masculine than feminine for as long as I could remember, I never liked dresses, I dislike heels, I always tried to hide my curves, and each time i make a story or roleplay almost all of them are male characters. feeling uncomfortable when I try to play female. I'm very confused at the moment and don't know what to do or say in the fears of being disowned. i know this video was posted years ago but I felt the need to just say whats on my mind at least here if not in person to someone. thank you to anyone reading this it means a lot
hey, cool video thankyou :) i have a question if you wouldn't mind answering it - my mum associates being transgender as like being anorexic, even though they're two very different things i see where she's coming from. Being transgender is like that in that we don't like things about our bodys and we want to change our bodies, but how do i go about putting this in a different light so she could understand how the two things are actually quite different and make understand what i'm actually going through?
i have to think about this a little more, but what initially comes to mind is that i think being anorexic is really not like transitioning at all. transitioning is, more or less (for some people), a way to "correct a problem" and sometimes that doesn't have anything to do with hating their bodies or physical changes and more are just about the way they are presenting themselves to people or how they are being read by society. anorexia is a symptom of a bigger problem (societal pressures, self-esteem, etc.), and is very harmful to your body. it is not healthy. again i want to elaborate on this more but this is just what i thought of.
How do you know if your cis or transgender?? Hi, my name is Jordan and I’m 18 years old. I started questioning my gender around the beginning of 7th grade. I got my period the month before I was supposed to start 7th grade. Getting my period threw me off and made me really uncomfortable. I never could put my finger exactly on why I felt so weird but the way that people were treating me and the way my body was changing, I hated it to say the least. I remember finding out was transgender meant in like the 10th grade but I didn’t really think much of it. It wasn’t until I turned 17 and was a junior in high school that I really began to ask myself if I was transgender female to male or not. I began to wear more guy clothes and wanted a haircut. I went to therapy and concluded that I just liked to wear men’s clothes because they were more comfortable. Then, in my senior year of highschool my gender spun out of control. By the time I was to graduate high school, I had no idea who the heck I was. My mind was always all over the place. I had mental breakdowns a lot and sometimes for no apparent reason. I started to feel really insecure and wanted to get back into therapy since it has previously helped me before. So there I was, back in therapy after I graduated high school. I told my therapist exactly how I had been feeling and we had come to the conclusion that I was probably transgender female to male. For the next six months I identified as transgender female to male. It was hard sometimes and I had a lot of doubt but I pushed through it. However, now my thoughts on my self are very different. I no longer feel like a man or want to be one. The thought of growing facial hair makes me want to literally cry and I actually can appreciate my breasts and love them because they make me feel feminine and make me feel like a woman. I couldn’t imagine transitioning into a man, mainly because I would miss my current body and feel quite out of my element in that type of body. But it’s like now I am so dang confused! Was the whole feeling like a transgender man just a phase?? How do you know if you are cis gender?? How does one tell if they are transgender?? I actually want to be my assigned gender at birth and have so much self love for myself that I never had before. I really do feel like a girl, inside and out. Does this mean that I’m really a cis gender female?? Please leave me your thoughts and advice below, any and every comment of advice is very much appreciated trust me!🥰❤️💓
I'm so confused. I do show signs of being transgender, but I think I started questioning my gender "out of curiosity"... I mean, you can't be trans if you were just wondering "I wonder if I'm like them", right? Does that mean the way I started questioning my gender mean I'm a confused cisgender person? I also liked being a girl before questioning my gender, so that means I'm cis right? The longer I started questioning my gender, the more I think I felt trans. It's so weird. Things that used to not bother me as much bother me a little bit more now. You can't just "feel more trans" or "become trans overnight", right? Am I just lying to myself? Why am I like this?? :C
For FTM heres the easy way to know if you are trans:If you say "I am a boy" rather than "I want to be a boy" then you are transI am a boy = transI want to be (like) a boy = tomboy Being trans is like being a lead character in a play...only you have the wrong script, totally the wrong script
