FTM Transition: How To Deal With Unsupportive Family 

I can relate to this video so much. given i'm pre-T, but i understand that guilt whole heartedly because my mom tells me constantly that i'm killing her dreams and killing her daughter by choosing to be a boy. and it's crazy because i didn't choose this. but then i feel guilty for feeling guilty because why should i halt or slow down my transition when i know what i need to live happily and who i am?

Having my mom be unsupportive is so hard. I'm literally living in constant fear at home because I'm not allowed to wear my men's clothing, so I have to hide it. I'm literally in fear every single time I leave the house that my mom will search my room and find something. I'm always scared when we go out in public that I'll run into someone that knows me as Brennan and she'll flip out if she hears me being called that. I hate living like this

The world can be so unbearable sometimes. Having just one conversation (well you can hardly call it that cause the other person was barely listening) with a random person on RU-vid gave me a bitter taste of what the prejudice from the outside world is like towards trans people. They kept going on about how gender is totally a social construct, no part of it is inherent, and that trans people need to 'learn to accept themselves' instead of trying to 'fix' something that isn't broken. Days later I'm still disgusted to the core... I told them that trans people do what they do NOT because they hate themselves or men or women or gay people. They do it because they LOVE themselves, the REAL them, and want to take care of that real self that is so fragile after having been repressed for a lifetime. It makes me sick that the same system that kept us from realizing who we really are then tries to manipulate and guilt us into silence just as we begin to truly discover ourselves. You are so brave. Keep doing what you do, being yourself ^^

Thank you so much for sharing! my husband of 8 years has decided to transition to female. and we are going through having unsupportive parents and this really helped! Thank you!

I'm actually going through this right now with my own family but, ive already told my aunt that I am still the same person that I was years ago that my personality wont change but, that it was bull crap that I couldn't be myself because of me being a transguy and that they had to misgender me and all that just because they don't accept me and let me live my own life. That if they are going to have to accept the fact that I am me but, at the same time im going to do what makes me happy and either they could go on the journey with me or they could get left behind, I even deleted my facebook because of all of it. I feel really ashamed of my family and I was the kind of person who was the good kid the kid that never did drugs, didn't party, never drank behind their backs ect. I went to college for 5 years. and I am so tired of all the crap I am not ashamed of being who I am I just want the chance to be happy and to live my life and be happy and everyone that does support me is out of state and are my friends that ive made over the internet and have a wonderful bf who is also supportive of me as well. I feel so bad that he has to watch me go through all of this even the dysphoria and I am also afraid that I will lose my entire family because of me wanting to be myself. And this is coming from someone who use to identify as a lesbian and has grown a lot into who I am now I was also an identical twin but my twin past away. I don't know why my family is the way that they are but, I don't want to be depressed and scared to be me anymore. :( I just wish they understood that my life is my life not theirs to dictate my decisions I mean im 24 years old I don't want to be in my 40s when me being able to live finally happens. (no offense to my transgender sisters and brothers who are older than me because you guys are amazing for being older and dealing with this issue was well or are finally living your life im so proud of you guys!)

I just came out and my parents are extremely unsupportive, they said that the Internet is using trans to sell only and it isn't a real thing so they asked me where did I get that "idea" from, they asked if it were from the Internet and I said no (I lied), they didn't believe my lie so now they said that if I ever mention the topic again they'll take all of my electronics away so I don't go on the Internet. What they don't understand is that the Internet and ppl like you is what keeps me alive and hopeful, I can't surround myself with supportive ppl If I don't know any in real life and if I don't have the Internet, I might become depressed and suicidal bc it's the one place where I find ppl who are supportive and understand. Plus, my father said that when I'm legal, if I transition, he will never visit me or talk to me ever again. But I guess they don't care about me being depressed or suicidal, they care if I look like a girl or not😔

Thank you so much for this video. I came across this video as I was looking for help from family issues. I'm not dealing with trans issues but this video still helped me and realized that I can't live my life miserably just to please those around me no matter who they are. Thank you.

Just 2 and a half more years until I turn 18 and can move out.

You really are an amazing inspiration for anyone, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgenders, anyone. Thank you for being such a true inspiration. I really like watching your videos. Keep them coming and I will keep watching!!

Having an unsupportive family truly sucks. My mom says she will never accept me. So now I eventually just stopped bringing anything trans* related up so now I think she forgot ://

I really wanna thank you for making these videos man I know you don't know me but these have Helped me a lot and helped me to get a better hold of everything.

My mom just missgengered me on purpose with sende me a Post on facebook "for her daugther" and when I called her out for that and told her how much that hurts me she just tryed to play it down .

I gave my dad lots of time to come around, I came out to him and he didn't understand, I've only ever mentioned it twice, he said to stop talking about it. I'm scared later in life I'll transition but he won't want me around, I'll never be allowed back into his house

Still watching your videos and still interesting and looking forward on your dad ideals on your transition. I say you should do one with your mom aswell and see how that works out if you could. Also would be an good ideal to talk about relationships etc. Also srs whether you want it or not, the bad and good experiences with just being in society. That all I have keep it up still very handsome bahaha :]