There's a lot more issues there besides trust and respect. Honestly I'm not sure if I would want to be with a woman like that who put everyone and everything before me like I'm some kind of street dog. Even dogs get treated better than this guy.
It was a nice ending for once though and it's bad that he had to deal with that at all but thank God she figured it out. I think she got too caught up in trying to a good sister so much that she didn't even realize she was being a bad wife. Usually it doesn't end like this and ppl get divorced over something that could've been talked out especially these days so I'm happy for them that they didn't let it end.
the wife rl had the audacity to say OP is disrespectful😭what’s disrespectful is going behind your spouses back and letting your brothers family live in your house
@@TheEvilSmiler37 the problem was she should've realized it sooner she was only letting the stupidity play it's part for too long I wouldn't blame the OP leaving her when 8:17 he come him to another mess the ending wouldn't have happening if he wasn't a patient person
People that don’t realize that their brother is emotionally co-dependent and want her to be miserable like him. The real question is why the sister in law didn’t take unpaid maternity leave. It just makes a sure she has a job if she wants to come back to it.
did you even saw it to the end fully? she said that at the end she said that she became so protective of her family that she forgot op is also now part of her family
@mycrystalstar1 For me, it would be too little, too late. I would tell her "No, clearly not. We're getting a divorce." No amount of begging or counseling would get me to change my mind. Unfortunately, OP is a doormat.
I understand wanting to keep a marriage together, but Rita has done a huge ammount of damage. She is selfish and doesn't want the best for her husband. She seems to have an almost incestuous relationship with her brother.
The fact he refused to interact with op at all and held a grudge against op for simply asking for more time with his wife is a red flag. Specially after so long and at his wedding. Then even 7 months after the wedding by using his kid to get at op.
I can be really short tempered sometimes, like only my family have heard from me the expression " will you holy fucking stfu for f.cking once!?" But I can also be long tempered and stay calm for as long as humanly possible
This is so weird, who talks to their brother 4 hours a day, who has the time? And he has friends, why is he staying for days? And then his wife started getting cranky after having twins? Well yeah she's cooped up with that guy and taking care of two babies, all new moms are cranky, they don't then move into SIL's place to veg out. Hanging out with other people is have a babysitter or have dad babysit while you meet friends not move in. So weird.
I talk to my sister just about everyday or every other day, but never for 4 hours. Our calls are about maybe 30 minutes at the most. Usually when she tells me a story of something that happened, and has to give me all the details.😂
Entitled BIL and SIL Cba.. You can't be living as guests at someone elses house and be a complete POS. Always respect people's boundaries. At least the wife realized she was wrong in her behaviour. Hope OP and his wife can get past this.
REAL. You can't be leaving messes arround. Like, if you're saying how taking care of kids and also cleaning the house is too hard for you, that's a red flag. Bc the kids need to have a clean/safe house, and not cleaning will end up in disaster. I also hope op and his wife get over this.
@aaronvector4750 exactly if I was in place of OP the divorce would gave happened long ago and if not then she would be out on streets for atleast few days
Exactly! Who raised them? I'm secretly a slob in my own home, but whenever I stay at anyone's home, I make sure I leave a clean area. I'd even cook a few meals for us all, and buy my own groceries (if necessary), and don't expect to be waited on hand and foot. I'd be too self conscious to be any other way. The audacity of some people!
Op married his wife, not his brother in law. If she can't respect his boundaries I'd just walk away from the marriage. Glad she came to her senses before you had to do that.
I suppose he's a nerd weird weeb otaku, so any men will try avoiding him 😂 men known to be quick at making friends. Looks like this man child lives in his own bubble and afraid of the world.
When someone decides to have kids, why do I need to be roped into this? They chose to have kids, not me! Why do I need to be involved and am called "selfish" when I refuse? You kick a trash can over by accident or on purpose, you clean up the mess. I'm not helping.
Because then OP wouldn't be paying all their utilities and buying all their food. Coming to his house means they keep their money and have a live in maid and nanny. I unfortunately have family members like this but my parents and I don't participate in their "carefree" lifestyles.
Wow.. There is no way Id ever bring anyone home to live for a month; including family.. Id never be okay with my husband doing that either.. It was so disrespectful..
I mean, i could, my family lives in more than two countries so we see that as normal, when we travel we stay at family home but obviously we talk that whit time and obviously respect
It took her a while but I applaud the wife. Sometimes you turn a corner you didn’t mean to, and you really have to figure out how to approach it. A simple I’m sorry doesn’t fix everything anymore than a bandaid on a broken bone. The right words mean everything.
I would forgive Rita, but would warn her that that better had been the last time she makes decisions like inviting people to live there or even stay without asking him or the marriage is done because it’s absolutely ridiculous.
i would get a divorce the minute that my wife invited someone for one month without notice or talking to me legit would kick them out if she keeps on saying her family say yeah her family and take off the ring legit your house is on the deed . wife need therapy
I’m telling you now it would end as soon as the passive aggressive comments started. “Get out of my house. You are NOT going to disrespect me in my home. You are no longer welcome.” Simple as that.
If someone just randomly invited people over to live with us, I'd be royally pissed. I like having the house to myself. It's the safe space. If some other family moves in with us then I will park myself in my room and not leave. At all.
Despite how much you think she loves you she clearly doesn’t have enough respect for you to even ask for your opinion and this would lead to problems down the line and it’s highlighted by the fact that she didn’t even try to stop her Brother when he was taking shots at you and what makes this even worse that even when you set your boundaries she disregarded them and made such a huge decision on her own such as inviting a family member for a month especially that She knows that both of you are not in good terms. She clearly doesn’t have enough respect for you or your opinion. Run
This is why I will never marry. Rita wouldn't have done any of that shit if she knew she could be homeless whenever OP willed it. Rita got too comfortable and lost respect for her husband.
This would be an automatic divorce for me. If my partner had the audacity to disrespect me and my space like this I would throw everyone and everything else out.
This guy needs to learn how to put down some boundaries. He never should have allowed them to move in. When a women tests you like this, anything less than walking out is a failure.
@@alicemarina2769 Instad of kicking them out immediately when he found out, he let his wife walk all over to him. they left him out of the discussion of wheather the brother in law and wife could move in, but he could've chosen whether to allow them to stay or not. Instead, it's the wife who kicked them out, and only after they insulted her. she couldn't care less how much they insulted her own husband.
Ugh so toxic, I’m so glad she came to her senses bc instead of me moving out and divorcing, bc then he should’ve kicked the brother and wife out from his house since it is his name on the deed (as previously mentioned) and tell the wife if she doesn’t like it she can leave with them as much as he wouldn’t her to.
Nah I’d go for legal separation and marriage counseling, if all goes well get back together and have very little contact with the entitled parents and there to-be entitled kids.
I don’t believe Rita’s story about her sudden realisation of her brother’s toxicity, I do believe she realised divorce was in the air and decided to act accordingly 🧐
I have a story this story is abt my brother A year ago I was with my dad in law and my wife and we were at my sisters wedding and then my step mom came to the wedding and when my sister was about to say I do my step mom was like “THIS WEDDING CAN NOT GO ANY LONGER I WILL NOT LET YOU MARRY HIM” and my sister was in disbelief,disappointed,and she was bursted out cry and ran out of the wedding after my step mom said that and my father is law was laughing so hard while me and my wife was in shock and mad at my step mom for doing that because the guy she was dating was a amazing man and she deserved him because he treats her like a princess but then after that incident my sister and her about to be husband stoped talking and they broke up and my sister was in her room for hours and hours and hours and she also ate in her room she never came out intill my step mom showed up she was like “he is a terrible person and a ugly man I was saving you” and then after that my sister pushed her down the stairs and my step mom broke her leg and after that my sister ran away from home and my mom got send to the hospital and then when we got back all of my sisters stuff was gone and she was gone to and she was missing. We haven’t seen her since Halloween night but sometimes in my sleep I hear her crying and screaming
That is incredibly difficult. It's so hard to see family as they are especially since growing up with them and normalizing that kind behavior. The time it too, It's part of growing. Things take time and often times things have to break before the truth can come to the surface and be fixed. You were extremely patient. Rita was being manipulated from the beginning and had fallen for it at first, but the fact that she took a step back and actually thought about things is huge. Good for her and good for you for giving her a chance to figure it out and turn around. I've had to cut off an entitled sister for a similar reason and it's not easy. I'm sorry you had to go through this and a divorce counselor is a good idea. Even though you have gone through the initial working things out that pain and distrust that this whole situation has caused will need to be worked through. Good job.
If he communicated his boundaries to her and she agreed to them and they stayed together wow the wife is the worst. Literally marry someone who has the same attitude/relationship with inviting family over 😭 instead of someone who is uncomfortable with it
So a grown man throws a tantrum and screams at a young family and their babies because they weren’t doing enough housework. There’s just no excuse for that behavior. He obviously had pent up frustration and took it out on them, instead of having a mature discussion and setting boundaries with his wife. He did agree to the situation even if he was surprised by it, and I don’t think anyone expects twin babies to leave a house clean, generally. He 100% has a right to set boundaries and rules in his house, but he went about this all wrong, and acted like a giant baby himself. That’s what makes him an asshole imo.
Me in the first Red flags: HEY RITA, WANNA SEE A MAGIC TRICK? BOOM, YOU'RE SINGLE, AND YOU GUYS CAN SEE ONE TOO! LOOK, POOF, NOW YA'LL ARE HOMELESS, NOW GET THE (f word) OUTTA MY PROPRIETY!
Entitled BIL and SIL,they should understand this reality check:if the roles were reversed they won't like other people treating their house in a worse light down the line,so respect their house and they'll respect yours in the long run.
Great ending. Bravo to op and his wife. It’s sad that their marriage took hard knocks because of a lazy selfish couple who claim themselves as GUESTS and are therefore not responsible for any cleaning, purchases and expenses they incur. When extending help to anyone you must first write a date they will leave, how much they must pay and what they must supply. If your rules are disrespected, they are out. The audacity of telling her to divorce just so they could maintain their selfish lifestyle.
Oh hell no divorce immediately. She’s clearly just gonna keep falling into different situations because of family. Time and time again she did see even the subtle signs of her brother being absolutely disrespectful she continued to just let it play our. Continually making big decisions without the husband even in thought. The home isn’t even here’s and yet she invites people in like it is? Fuck no. You marry someone because you value them. Your going to bring them to know their thoughts for big decisions. I couldn’t stay with someone who I know won’t do that. I’d divorce. I know a lot of people say “ people are so quick to divorce nowadays.” But that’s not the problem. The problem is that people had to take shit like this and not complain. Nope I’d leave. Infact if she loves her family so much how about she go and live with them to.
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