S1: the wife pushing sex with OP is unacceptable, but him calling her a “fat chick,” was messed up 😂. Nevertheless, the marriage was over by her actions. She clearly caught emotional feelings for the other guy, & now that she realized that that guy was/is an a-hole she sudden she wants to work on her marriage & wants him.
Don’t forget the reason she kept pushing intimacy was a manipulation tactic so she can say she got pregnant from the ‘husband’ rather than the ‘fling guy’
"The judge ordered us to do 6 weeks of marriage counseling" how about the judge does his fucking job instead of trying to fix other people's relationships.
This “open marriage” is less toxic than some. I don’t see signs of opening to hide that you’d already cheated. But the ethical non-monogamy / polyamory I’ve seen and been part of that really worked, the other partners were part of the family. You’d have a wife and a girlfriend. They’d share you time like divorced parents coparented. And sometimes that means they’d both be at the same event. They called each other metamores, and each of them would be honestly happy that the person they loved (you) was also happily in love with someone else. They call this feeling compersion. Sometimes your partners would get together to plan your birthday or kids graduation or whatever. Mostly, metamores were friends. And if you introduced a new person, and the existing partners didn’t vibe with them… that carried some weight. If you have a primary partner and then some one night stands, or FWB (who even has the time?), or are swingers (which is no better or worse, but has its own set of rules, and I am not qualified to speak for those folks… there are many well versed swingers, far more eloquent than me. What you’re describing here is more like “Cheating, but not TECHNICALLY” If you want to do polyamory right, get on Facebook and find the Closed Poly groups. There are large communities of us, with frequent non-sexual meetups every month. Get on the dating apps, say up front that you’re new to Poly and don’t even know what questions to ask. Someone will match you and invite you to a meetup. Also, be aware that both the Polyamory community exists, and the Polynesian community exists. It’s usually clear from context which one you’re talking about, but Polynesians have existed as an ethnic group and culture MUCH longer than Polyamory has existed as a lifestyle. If you are in a situation where context clues aren’t clear enough Polynesians claim “poly” and polyamorous are “polyam”.
As a Native American, ngl, this is nothing new, but time does nothing for the horror of it. I was told I was "exotic" for being Native (mf, my people were here first, tf you mean 'exotic'?), and had many offer to be my "John Smith". MMIW exists for a reason. And to think these guys can see a woman with dark hair, eyes and skin and make that revolting correlation is absolutely disgusting and haunting.
op was not very bright at the start, this story should have ended the moment the third video a bout open marriage reached his phone, and i think im being generous by allowing the first and second one to be honest. not only that, but he ended allowing the open marriage, at least his "rules" did end up saving him, but they took 2 years of his life to do their thing, when breaking up at the start would have been quicker and less painful (because im sure that knowing that your wife is out there getting fucked by other men is not exactly something pleasant, specially when you have given the ok to it happening yourself )
Open marriage is always one sided. Always the woman who proposes the idea, BC it's convenient for them. Men have no scruples and will even Braga about banging married women, so for her, the situation will thrive and be good. But yeah, Op should have dissolved marriage as soon as she started with the open relationship nonsense
an open marriage with 30 days of no touching after being with someone else is the dumpest thing i have heard on those storys, you would never be intimid with the partner after a certain point specialy if both of them got a fling/ap/ friend with benefits or whatever getting a divorce from the start would have been the better option
story 2, my ex has threatend to get me fired or to say i commited horriable assault but i never thought he would have threatend to expose his exes nudes WTF
Staying overnight or not seems to be a very trivial difference if your wife is already having sex with another man. At that point it's just splitting hairs and the marriage is already over.
Honestly I don't feel bad for the ex-wife or the poster because they both made this choice together to open up the marriage there was no force situation like the poster was dating and his story he literally went along with his wife's idea to open the marriage and he has no excuses there I'm sorry I don't care of anybody he's going to side with this dude is the truth he's just as bad as his ex-wire because the very moment everything's going right for all of a sudden he wants to close it down because it isn't going right for him yeah I'm sorry you can have it that way when you chose to go along with the city like I get it if you feel that you don't like the open marriage part but your partner does you knew what was that idea and you never should have thought about doing anything it's going to magically change her marriage over
i don't recall him asking to close it at least not till he realised their marriage was basically dead due to partially due to him and very much so due to her completely neglecting their marriage to the point of being nothing more than roommates and op had given all he had to give
I have heard stupid i have heard stupid stories about open marriage, but one month of no contact after? That sounds as if he wanted to be extra sure the marriage will fail.
Honestly the first story is kind of on the guy, dude agreed to the open marriage and then claims that she "forced" him into it, sounds like he was on board with the idea too until he realized he couldnt get tail as easy as the girl. As far as Im aware there was no attempt on his behalf to close the marriage when he realize he wasnt happy in it. The wife was clearly unempathetic towards him but he brought it on himself.
Open relationships doesn't work most times. there are clear data on that and the few that it did work witness it doesn't for everyone that does it. An other thing is a person that truly loves someone can't see others that way not even at low times and manipulative individuals trying on them. Those that wants have attachment and bonding issues with not being able to love people fully. When someone comes with anything of that nature set your business in order to end everything and just use them for the time being and begin to look for a real partner and then leave them without fighting.
