Im just about to turn 16 in a few days and literally my grandma and my mom always talking about “when sidra will get married this and that” or “sidra clean your cupboard, I’m like yes I’ll do it, she’s like oh what are you gonna do when you have a house and you’re married” like they talk about things that’ll happen when I get married, or how I should handle my future home etc One of my cousin’s cousin is 15 and like she isn’t engaged but like the “talk with the 2 families” already has happened , you know what I mean, like they said after they finish their studies ( like up till college ) they’ll get married ) ( at least it happened on her and his own decision/choice )
I am from India, and whenever there are family gatherings, women are always expected to be in kitchen to prepare food, cooking and serving and cleaning after everyone has eaten. Meanwhile men would be sitting with other men and come to eat on ready table, and just stand up after eating. I always found it infuriating.
Me too, I am from Mozambique, same BS here, I hate it so much, you don't really enjoy the event, you busy all time, and leave super tired in the end, it is so frustrating...
Same in africa lol esp in my culture even tho the women make the food they’re not allowed to eat or sit by the table until the men are done eating then we eat their leftovers I hate it so much lol
I’m a Christian and let me tell ya 😂 it’s the same kind of pressure of “when are you getting married?! You’re 26?!” Like bro… I just started my adult life and career idk 🤷🏻♀️
I'm from the US and I met up with a high school friend at her house only to be greeted with her two (TWO) children and I was so shocked. I was like but WE'RE CHILDRE--wait. Omg I'm almost 30 😐
I honestly try to avoid going to family gatherings as much as I can bc those aunties tell me I need to get married bc they got married and had kids when they were my age.
I literally just had an argument with my older brother, who is more traditional. He was telling me to start dating and think about getting married. I'm like, buddy, I need to heal myself first. I need to make sure I'm emotionally, physically, and financially healthy before I start thinking about those kinds of things. I don't mind if people ask me about it now and then, but it gets incredibly freaking obnoxious if you ask me about it all the time. 😤
Well it's not just Asia. Some countries are still pretty traditional. It's same here where I live. They are asking for a boyfriend or when you gonna marry after you turn 20 and if you are 27 that means that you are old for marriage. My sis got married when she turned 21(and it was kinda arranged), now I'm 22 and I'm like "don't expect anything from me any time soon" 😂😂
My parents say I'm smart cause i don't focus on dating since i focus too much on school,friends, and family since i just feel like i already have too much on my plate to worry about dating.
Me too...i'm 24 now and older people in family always asking me when to get married especially when its a celebration day when you have to meet everyone and most of my cousin already married in their 20 like I don't care...i'm living my life ..I still young and all i need is to build my career to get stable economy ...thank God that my parents didn't care much about it
I'm not korean, but I'am also an East Asian born in Australia. Its a common thing among asian families. I don't usually feel the pressure but in Vietnam I do.
Asians… My parents didn’t allow me to date until I graduated college, but before I was even done, my grandma asked me when I was getting married cuz time is ticking
Me being 19 years old living in the states and my mom still asks me (almost every day) when am I going to get married or give her a little grand baby when she knows I’m a lesbian 😐😐
Depends on where you live in the States, but the expiration thing I felt really hard. The Bible belt area plus any religious community has that expiration date judgement. I got married at 19 to an abusive piece of crap and when I found out he was abusive, I felt so pressured to stay married. He was a completely different person when we dated. 2 months into marriage and he just flipped the switch. I left him about a month shy of 7 years. I was 26 and I remember very strongly feeling like damaged goods that no one will touch. But if a guy had a similar situation he'd be congratulated for getting away from a bad situation and he'd be "so strong" and "such a survivor" "so wise, he'll be such a sensitive partner for someone new". I remarried and have kids and all is well now, but I really resonated with what she said.
I am 23 and some of my friends have 1-year-olds. And I am still here figuring it out and always thinking what work do I really REALLY like and I wanna do for the rest of my life happily. And my mum is sooooooo pushing me to get married. 😮💨 she's nice but this thing of hers is so ..... 😭
My grandmother got married again when I was in my mid 20s. Her 1st husband passed when my dad was young. All her 6 kids were all grown & had families of their own. My parents had me when they were 20 yrs old. (My dad was her third child)0 Spouse & I have been married for 21 yrs. He was 44 & I was 34 yrs old. So in USA there's not any pressure to get married in most families. Posted Aug.15.2023
I’m from a Hispanic household and the youngest female at that so the pressure is not there yet but seeing everyone in a relationship or married with kids does kinda make me want it but at the same time I don’t even have my license and I just passed my permit so I’ll take care of those things and take care of the rest wayyyyy later lol😭
It’s so common in Asia. I’m 21 this year never been in a relationship, I know I’m not at the age I get asked yet but I’m not looking forward to that age. I’m the type that really doesn’t care about looking to get a boyfriend or get married, it does sound nice to have a relationship but it’s because of relationship goals I’ve seen on dramas we all know at least rarely happens in real life. I have realized there’s a fine line between expectations vs reality so I don’t really have any expectations for my relationships.
I was called a late bloomer b/c I didn't start dating until I was early 20s... I had already graduated. However all 3 of my sisters started in high school. One got married (I think she was 17 or 18) One of my sisters dated for 7 yrs before they got married...& they are still together.🎉
That’s because Asian culture values family and building families. Although family is still important in America, nowadays women are putting marriage and family on hold while they pursue a career. Wanting to get married and have a family at a young age or at all is not the norm anymore and it’s kind of sad.
that's like an asian's culture😂. also korean population itself already decreasing earlier. so imagine if more koreans think like only dating, and decided to not have a children. that's pretty dangerous tho. but that's different in usa. in usa, the percentage of teen mom is high and the country is very open to immigrant now. so the population is not decreasing as much as korea
Her family must be special. Almost everyone is getting married in their late 20s early 30s in Korea. In the US they tend to get married earlier than in Korea.
No, I'm sorry guys, I love you but there is just as much pressure to get married in America. If you have ever been to a religious or a bible belt state you'll know what I'm talking about, especially if you lived in a bible belt state and grew up in religion. If it is not LA, Chicago, or one of those bigger more progressive states in America you will be constantly asked by older folks family and friends the second you hit 16-18 years old "who are you dating? Is it serious? When will you get hitched?" While yes some people may not feel as much pressure to get married in America, I have personally seen and felt the extreme pressure they are pushing on young people to get in relationships even as young as 14. I have countless friends that when they turned 18-20 years old the first person they started dating seriously they got married too. most of them had also only dated for a year or two before tying the knot. Not to mention they announced they're pregnant only months after being married to the person they dated for only a few years. Not that it's wrong to do any of that or whatever but idk not for me. So when you're being asked by all the older religious grandfolks "when are you getting married??" And every single one of your friends is getting married as soon as possible and having kids there is a extreme amount of social pressure. that's not even talking about how some families act when you're not actively looking for a partner. So I don't agree with you guys, I believe it is entirely based off of where you are living in the country and how your family and friends are, I do think it can be worse in Korea in ways but that kind of stress and pressure 100% exist in America. I love you guys I just don't think this is a correct statement at all, from personal experiences and personal opinion only 😂❤️
I spent a summer in Texas (between Houston and Louisiana) and it shocked me that people would marry and move in with each other after 3 MONTHS. I'm from Phoenix and this is insane wild, you'd date someone for two years before moving in with them and more before getting married. Lol but with this economy a roommate is a roommate ig
Me as an African Canadian gal, cleaning. Not learning foe urself but for ut future husband. Looking pretty, and since I'm not conventionally attractive, I'm doubted all the time. Cuz im a lady im expected to smile and nod and be polite all the time .and so on
This is what i hate with fam reunions. Your Aunts and Uncles asking when are you getting married as if they're the ones who would commit their lives in marriage, like it was that easy and even have the audacity to say you are not getting any younger you should have a child before 30. Umm how about I don't want a child I can't support? Or even if I can support a child financially, mentally and emotionally I still can't and I don't want a child to suffer through that. You just want to have a grandchild but the responsibility is not yours.
It's probably because as women it'll be harder for us to get children when we're 30-40 so technically speaking we do have a expiration date lmfao. Maybe if you don't want children and your relatives keep pushing you to get married, just tell them
Common misconception about the age thing. We're more advanced medically and understand the female reproductive system better now. More and more women are waiting to have children if they even want them. I think a lot of the expiration date thing came from men complaining about women aging in general, but that's just a small detail from all the crap women have been made to believe about marriage and children
No. As long as you are following healthy diet, and regular exercises, and maintaio mental and physical well being, you can get pregnant anytime before menopause. Besides ever heard of IVF?even 25 years old these days are taking help of IVF because of the fast lifestyle, we are just ruining our bodies.
@@preetipatel5512 After a certain age in women ( above 30) your ovaries actually begin to age and the fetuses thus formed will eventually have certain complications as well as causing complications in the mother. So op was in fact right. Just some info I got from med books, ain't a doctor.
People saying it's misconception when I have seen several when after 30 struggling to gt pregnant .More than 30% couple struggle bcz of this things . U can get pregnant with technology for sure but technology won't carry the child for u ,its ur body that has to carry and give birth ,which drains a lot of strength itself . The more we age the more eggs we lose .While men has different they sure can reproduce but the chance of genetic disease is more .So stop with the misinformation to make people happy.
what's the point of adding more miserable children to this messy poor world specially when we r from 3 rd world country i noticed poor and 3rd world countries r obsessed with pressuring girls to get married and have children that's why they (we) remain a poor country
