gotta say this "it was a mens job to care for the parents", let's be real here, the job as in actual work was done by the daughter-in-law not by the son
If men earning money in low effort job, i.e. Boeing salesmen (party all day long), I wouldn't say that ALL actual work done by daughter-in-law. I'm female computer scientist with stressfull work and we shouldn't underestimate how hard is it to earn money, so its not like they do nothing
Let's be real here. Son goes out breaking their backs trying to make money for the family. Traditionally speaking, the wife controls the finance. She puts the husband on payroll. The parents are forced to be good to the daughter in law in fear she would just leave. Wives don't cook no more. They just watch korean drama and girl power. It's the same issue in China. Women are very well treated due to their scarcity. It's a market issue.
Totally agree with you. So many generations of daughters in law were used as domestic helpers and nursing home caregivers. They worked in the background, providing care for the in laws and their own husbands and children. Unappreciated and unacknowledged. Taken for granted. No wonder young women don't want to marry so early now.
it is exactly the same issue in China and India where the older generation prefers sons over daughters, the females were either aborted, adopted or sold away. It was unnatural and distorted the gender demographics, and it is also a reason for low birth rate. The next generation is paying the price.
Bro.. those 3 womens looks like guys/males.. maybe koreans males have a lot of fantasies from TV with unrealized plastic surgery faces that doesn't match the reality..
Waited till the end and she never gave any real solutions. Importing immigrants don't fix anything. Where's she gonna find women who looks like Koreans? Which country don't have the same gender imbalance? Just off the top of my head, there are several trivial and obvious solutions. But she never mentioned any, much less discuss their merits and problems.
It’s so disappointing that they didn’t mention the severe violence and oppression Korean Women are facing. The leading cause of their choices not to procreate with Korean Men.
Spot on! The strong patriarchal values and inherent machismo, total disrespect for women and viewing agression against women as a sign of a strong man is so deeply ingrained in most societies. Domestic abuse in Japan and Korea is an epidemic (I am sure in all the rest too, but I mention the ones I have first contact with and have @personally witnessed) Women are getting sick of this nonsense. Women are choosing to stay single and fulfill their nurturing needs by having a pet. You’ll be an outcast, but a happy outcast. Marriage is a VERY BAD IDEA.
@@KizetteandTotoromarriage to the *wrong man* is a bad idea. Agree with the other points though. Even in most parts of Africa women are expected to the husband like a King and cater to him even if he is the worst and no one will condemn him. Infidelity a huge problem too. Having been raised in the West but going back to my home country in Africa opened my eyes to how crappy a lot of women get treated.
Another reason for this is the forced male conscription into the military. This result in more "aggressive men". As men are in the military women can advance their career as men are still training . as a result the preference shift is stronger right now . The conscription need to be made full gender and noncompulsory. Also there are women only universities so most men meet women at work and not even in university.. The reason for women only universities is also because the men aren't fresh out of highschool so they probably need a different type of schooling programme after conscription into the military
I don’t remember who said it, but I remember the saying: Nobody wanted daughters, but everyone wants _daughter-in-laws._ And since they got rid of their daughters, looks they’ll have a tough time getting some daughter-in-laws.
Basically. But it’s interesting how this is still being framed as a problem for men because they won’t be able to have a wife. The baby girls weren’t even able to have life. 😭
@@misslola007 Yep. The Asian feminists are supposedly sooooo radical, but their countries disposed of 30 million baby girls simply because their culture valued boys. Nothing sounds more radical than that. But when something is normalized to you, it won’t seem that bad until it blows up in your face (like it is now).
Old generations: *abandons female babies in forests* Sons: Sorry mom and dad, but your bloodline ends with me cause I can’t find a woman to marry. Old generations: *surprised pikachu face*
Yeah and now they are crying 😂🤣 Cause the wemen who didn’t get thrown away cause misogyny🤠 is like “we are done with ya bullshit” and thrive on their own🙌🏻
Or have areas for children and babies at work. I know some people owning their own business who have a nursery area for children. I've seen some local restaurants with cribs in a small room and their kids are wiping down tables and chairs.
@@mariannalily4888men taking care of small children especially small daughters is unnatural. I am a daughter of a single father and growing up whith only a man in the house was weird . Those looks disturbed me
@@bzzzz...8383 If that is your personal experience it would make sense to prefer using parental leave only for the mother. However your experience is not everyone's and others may prefer allocating it in a more balanced way between the parents. There are many fathers which are and would like to be emotionally close to their children, I would not want to discriminate against them
A quick Google search will tell you this "There are three types of unilateral descent: patrilineal, which follows the father's line only; matrilineal, which follows the mother's side only; and ambilineal, which follows either the father's only or the mother's side only, depending on the situation." It's not only women, men can also carry the bloodline seems like people are not very good in science
@@-Blue-_ She's talking about women carrying the babies in their wombs, not men. Women do the "legacy" bloodline labour by carrying & birthing the children which could put their own life at risk.
1. As the professor says, it's consequences of gender-selective abortions in the 1980s-90s that aborted more girls than boys. 2. Every young person seems to want to move to Seoul, and every young country girl especially want to escape rural life. The only reason Seoul is spared the gender imbalance is because all the rural country girls are moving there for jobs and to avoid life as a farmer's wife. 3. For the girls who remain in small towns, most women don't want to marry men with less education than them, so many male farmers are bringing and marrying foreign women from Vietnam or the Philippines who are trying to escape poverty in those countries.
@@craigdonovan902 Absolutely, I agree with you there too. If parents didn't outright abort the daughters, they would be born and sent to an orphanage. Adoption of Koreans, by Koreans, as a cultural practice wasn't popular in Korea so some of these kids would eventually be adopted by westerners.
But these abortions of females didn’t happen in conservative South Korea. Babies were put in the country’s Baby boxes because single parent families are socially unacceptable.
Paying for their choices? Korean men have plenty options since so many women in surrounding poor countries dying to get w them for better life. Unfortunately even to this day, Korea and Japan remain only two fully developed high-income countries in Asia.
@@OO9O9 Kidnapping to make wives? Why would Koreans need to resort to such tactic when kpop/kdrama loving women of Vietnam/Phillippines/Thai etc can simply make 4-5X income in Korea vs their own homeland? If you're hater and jealous at least make some plausible sense.
You must be a lot of fun at parties. Women have for millennia been home makers, mothers, and care takers for the elderly. There is nothing free about their labor. The elderly have helped raise their children, provided a home, and invested in their son and his family. The role of the traditional wife is an important one to the family. However, modern women look down on women who embrace their traditional roles. Yet the most miserable women of all are those who are 30+ years old with no husband and no kids. A career is a poor substitute for a family
@@busterboyd4125 actually no, science has already proven single women are significantly more healthier and happier than both single men and married women.
@@busterboyd4125 "Yet the most miserable women of all are those who are 30+ years old with no husband and no kids. A career is a poor substitute for a family" - statistics actually indicate otherwise.
Parents can’t teach you what they don’t know. Societies have changed, what men and women accepted yesterday we refuse to accept it today. So it’s tricky
Wrong. That's what's leading to the current low birthrate. Parents need to teach their boys to be men and their girls to be women. So there is no gender confusion and roles are clearly defined.
@@busterboyd4125 if we need to be trained in our gender, doesn't that imply we are all born "gender confused"? If so, isn't "gender confusion" natural and whatever the training produces a human created confusion? On another note, if any protector and provider cannot protect themselves from filth and provide hygiene, they better return to training, they fail the basics.
Women can now give their children her own family name. Not in all countries but in plenty countries already. Which is what should’ve been practiced centuries ago because she is the one carrying the baby for 9 months and not the man.
I have also heard a lot of Korean say that they do not want to raise their children in the Korean society, mainly because of the difficulty of the education system
That is a major problem. Korea needs to reinvent itself. Where non-college trades aren't looked down upon. There are so many Koreans with useless college degrees that think themselves superior to people who didn't go to college to learn a trade.
I was raised by Korean parents who immigrated to the U.S. My perception is that in Korean culture, children, especially daughters are seen as property and servants. I see this assumption in this video. "Who is going to take care of elderly bachelors?" Why can't they take care of themselves and form close friendships and support networks? Why isn't the question asked, "who is going to take care of elderly single women?".
Interesting perspective. However, It seems like a modern day western feminist assessment on things. How much time have you spent in Korea? You seem highly westernized. Korean culture is extremely complex with a long history and reducing it down to a simple western perspective is silly.
I’ve spent enough time time in Korea to know there are a lot subtleties to just about all social norms. The post is likely from a highly Americanized gyopo.
Nah whatever nationality you are, the whole "who will care for the daughters when they are elderly?" is such a valid qn. Noone cried or cared for those innocent lives, not even the conservative or pro-lifers equivalent in SK. Scientifically, you need more women than men to sustain the human race but an equal number would be best for the genetic variety health if the human race. Whuch is why cheaters should be punished accordingly.
@@sfguy2024 So an elderly woman does not need help and can sustain herself better than males do to the point where we shouldn’t inquire into who will care for them as well in old age? To be discarded and seen as invisible to society since they can no longer service men? So…men are useless is what you’re implying and that women magically are capable even in sickness and in old age. Okay. Good to know that men can’t function and are a clear lower life form. lol.
And this is how dumb they are and the reason why they are reaping what they sow. What dummy decided to get rid of baby girls? Didn't they factor in that they would need these same baby girls to grow up as women and give birth to more baby boys? Just dumb!
Wouldn't all babies, regardless of gender be innocent? A lot of people who do abort also cite lack of finances (ie money) and infant disability for abortion, so it seems they're all effectively innocent.
@@Byorin That's a good way to ignore the point. Could it be that Korean society favors sons to the extent that "daughter-in-law" is not an appealing role for most of the unmarried women?
@@natashadickson4819 is it though? The other poster implied that being a girl makes the abortion more horrific, as opposed to any other characteristic of a child. This would effectively mean that some children are more valuable than other children. If that wasn’t their intention, then why even mention that characteristic at all?
They have in China where women are ostracised and called ‘left over’ women if they are unmarried at 27. Shaming women for not settling down and starting a family.
@@jessicascoullar3737they have to shame women --- because China is in a bad crisis for their sins. Men used to be called "bare branches"... But with 30 million extra... You can't demoralize like in the good ol days... Unless you want stabbing sprees
@@jessicascoullar3737In Japan women who don’t want to marry and have a family are openly berated by politians, so you can imagine what this is doing for the already appalling behabiour of men in such a chauvinistic country. Apparently, the reason birthrates are in the negative is women’s fault! They just don’t get it (these stupid dinosaurs-the politicians). They would have to admit they’ve got it all wrong and that’s never going to happen...
There has never been a successful civilization without patriarchy. Like it or not its the only thing that works. Gender imbalances have happened many times before but have rectified themselves within a generation or two and at times through war. The only difference now is societies need for instant gratification and keeping the ponzi scheme of state pensions and welfare going. I hear now Korean couples are starting to prefer daughters. If that trend continues and they start having more childern than in a couple of generations Korea will have the problem of too many women. Unfortunately I will be to old by then :)
@@kimckawapopulated through oppression. Look how you korea was pulled from mediocrity because of Japanese ruling over them. It's all thank to Japan. 😂
@@jw841there is no patriachy civilization that didn't destroy itself. Patriachy civilization keep destroying it self then the patriachy create another one because it's unsustainable
@@n.m8287 There was selective abortions of females in the 1980s and 1990s in South Korea. Now they're worried about a gender imbalance they themselves caused.
Yes, but I wouldn't call it a boycott as much as it's just a practical/safety thing to do or a way of life / movement. Domestic violence is really high and sadly there have been an increase in cases in the public (example stalking, violence, etc) that have resulted in trauma. It's no different than in America where there are plenty of people who would rather stay single than date, but there's a name for it in SK. It's called 4B, aka No Dating, Sex, Marriage, Children (which all kinda already happens if you just choose not to date in general). Also to note, there are different types of people in this movement, not everyone is opposed to dating/sex/marriage, most just don't want children (for reference almost 50% of men in the younger generation don't want kids), but they are all clumped together in this movement. Example, most recently, there was a random guy (20s) who went into a convenience store and attacked a female store clerk (20s) bc she "looked" like a feminist due to her short haircut (the store clerk didn't know the man nor did she interact with him in the store prior to the assault, also she was not a feminist, she had a shoulder length bob cut), the guy part of a men's rights activist group and his belief was "I think feminists deserve to be assaulted". He even continued to attack another customer (50s) with a chair when they tried to intervene. These attacks are becoming more frequent, it's difficult to tell who is an extremist anymore so many people believe it's easier / safer to just not date at all.
It's boycotting marriage who don't make any sense where you lose your personality, you're not being treated with respect, you lose money since you can't work as much, you lose your professional experience since you have to stop working at some point to have babies, you lose your body because you have a baby.... and the only purpose seems to procreate while you end up in depression...with a man that can leave you anytime and create a new family while you have lost so much. Most women would be glad to be in a happy/respectful marriage or committed relationship that is a true partnership. That makes things easier for everyone, men and women. Meaning both men and women agreed prior the marriage of what their role would be but it seems that for some men it's too much to ask. Men complain women don't want them anymore when women just say they don't want be with a men just because. Since more women can take care of themselves they don't need a man for financial protection. They need respect and partnership and loyalty and the men who understand that instead of complaining do not struggle. To many women have seen the impact of such "forced" marriage on their mothers and grandmother's. It never ended well for them. People often say it was better before.... But for whom really...
@@MissyxAkunaithere is no different type of ppl in this movement. The movement is called 4b, no dating males, no marriage with males, no childbirth, and no sex with males. Anyone who isn't a 4b then she's not a 4b.
Because the strong patriarchy there it is not alluring to get married.Women have to work,raise children and do housework WHILE taking care for the parents and in-laws.Just no way 😂
All while expected to look young forever and thin in anorexic proportions or else she is disposable material. Everything in their society is against women having children and they are surprised about it.
South Korea is not alone in gender imbalance. I am a white American female. I was adopted in 1953 from a family of nine; three boys and six girls. My birth parents kept the boys and the first two girls. Four of us girls were given up for adoption. This preference was the norm all over the world. Then in the 1980s there was international adoption of Korean male children; I know four men of Korean ethnicity between the ages of 30-38 years old who were adopted by white American couples. This has always confused me, but since viewing this video I understand the reasons.
What are the reasons? I think I missed something..wasn't the 80s the time when males started being LESS preferred? So why would there be widespread adoption of them?
That isn't really the same thing, given you're still alive. Gender imbalances at the scale that effects family formation down the line require sex-selective abortion (or infanticide). Also, at least these days, it's actually the reverse - girls are adopted more readily than boys, with the commonly cited reason being women driving the adoption process and generally somewhat preferring to parent girls.
@@ShielaM-p1w I think male children were less preferred by Koreans not westerners. In South Korea the husband has to buy the home and “feather the nest” so to speak. The male’s family must kick in the most. SK had financial issues (as we were struggling in Reagan’s “Trickle-down economy failure.) Whatever is happening in the US unfortunately influences the global economy.
@@1953lili you are WRONG!! Male children preference was GLOBAL!!!! 😬😬😬 It's so crazy the amount of lies women fell for. Do you know Why women live longer? It has to do with the lies in talking about. The lies that appear as truth today, the same truth YOU believe as truth. We ALL value life right???? Right??? Universally. So why do WOMEN 1. Give life 2. Live LONGER. Do you think those two things are significant at all? So you think they are a coincidence? Why do men say THEY are superior but women hold on to the MOST valuable thing LONGER???? Why do men say THEY have more value but CANT STOP CHASING WOMEN and LOOK WOMEN are wanting NOTHING to do with men. I ask these they are ALL following the same pattern. The pattern being they don't match social NORM. These are NATURE not matching social norms which are MAN-MADE and therefore INFERIOR. That means the inferior thing is the LIE. that means what you believe IS the LIE. and you believe it bc it was told and multiplied by men and used to infect women's minds so women no longer know what's truth. So here's the truth as I have researched it. Women are SUPERIOR. By leaps and BOUNDS. In fact with women's true superiority, men CANNOT even exist. But that's another discussion. Piintim trying to make is females are STURDIER. Which means in ANY environment, culture, more girls would be born because boys die way more before birth. So if you're seeing ANY "equal" birth ratio, or more boys, it's because girls have been ABORTED or KILLED, as kids or even adults. PERIOD. so the 1:1 sex ratio in America, yeah dead females, to the tune of MILLIONS. Just so the math. Let's say I'm wrong and I'm some crazy lady on the Internet. You HAVE heard men die younger right? Ok. If there was no female infanticide AND boys and girls are born at the same rate, then of men die younger, something verifable, then the sex ratio would NOT be equal would it! EVER based on just that alone. That again proves an imbalance favoring WOMEN is NATURAL. But we have gender balance bc men are killing women at ALL ages. So no there was not any absence of male preference or female infanticide in US. it IS GLOBAL.
Well this is the consequences of their actions. Both genders are important and both need to be respected. Girls shouldn't be favored over boys either. We see what those actions have led to. Infidelity is also a major problem in Korea as well as cost of living. So a lot needs to change before anyone will get married and have children. If it costs too much to raise a child, and the spouse keeps getting cheated on or abused, who would want to get married?I wouldn't want to either. But there is a serious problem with population collapse in our future. All over the world we have the same concerns.
their culture tries to rank people by age and gender for having more autority over others with causes all their unfair social imbalances. with a pilot of aircraft choosing to nosedive his plane them to check defect equipment if detected from a lower ranking crew.
100% infidelity is a problem. As an Engaged foreign soon to be married woman. Having to tell a korean born and bred former kpop a lister to sod off. Whilst he attempts to be the third party in my relationship. Could tell the lack of values and viewpoints he has on adultery had to be widely spread
Exactly, these are consequences. You can't blame women for not wanting anything to do with the men when they treat them like their personal unpaid maids
Less people is nothing but good for this planet. What needs to happen is new, progressive and enlightened social systems that don’t depend solely on the production of Women’s wombs.
We've seen in countries like China (and now Korea) what happens when the population is slanted towards a preference for males when it comes to gender-based abortions. I'd be interested to see how it would play out if reversed. For better or for worse.
It's not that young adults don't want to get married, the cost of living is expensive and young people are weighing between taking care of a family versus taking care of themselves.
No it's just that young people are spoiled and don't want to make sacrifices for their children like their parents did. The previous generation didn't eat out several times a week, didn't spend half their income on clothes and cosmetics. Selfishness and self-gratification is at the root of this problem.
I agree with most of the points stated. However, I think one thing that was not mentioned much is that these cultures at present is not child raising friendly or family friendly for that matter. There is constant work, just trying to survive and a lot pressure (image, to be perfect, allow time for family etc.) which adversely affects everyone. This has led to the high suicide rate esp in Korea.
Yes, they act like shift in women's role is the driver for not having families. Economic strain/struggle is the biggest and real driver. Too much western imposed perceptions here. Not saying that Korean culture couldn't undergo many transformations in terms of the roles of men and women, but too many people viewing all this from a western feminism perspective. Do you all want to turn ALL women in the world into western feminists?
It was probably the son's wife, the daughter in law) that cared for them. So, if the son does not marry, then that task would fall on him. Then, the son does not do a great job of looking after his parents. However, if your daughter does not marry, she is better looking after her parents as it was a role she was taught to fulfil for her husbands family.
Well yes it will be. It's interesting howany people are not able to read signs and make conclusions from themselves. Really sad. If beirheade is cratering all around the world, and men are the same all around the world and there's a gender imbalance all around the world, and women are becoming more progressive all around the world, why won't a preference for females rise all around the world??
The traditional misogyny is glaringly obvious. Sadly, women’s roles have left women empty and choosing the alternative because independence is the goal. Ageism has become more relevant and home life would definitely be favorable when a woman is present. I hope a more balanced outlook can be achieved.
South Korea had a huge spike in adoptions overseas in the late 1970’s and most of the 1980’s. Over a projected 200,000 children were adopted out during this time with a majority being female. This fact was excluded from the stats and the “professor”. Was this done to control the content that is being sent to the Korean public to somehow repaint history and mistakes? Why does this seem like the government is censoring what happened. Thoughts?
depends on how you wanna look at it. Are koreans more likely to value men over women that they'd keep boys and send girls to be adopted or are westerners more willing to adopt asian women because they are seen as more valuable.
@@sunen7129There wasen't choosing beggars. What happend was korean adoptions was the least complicated and cheapest. Why would westerners choose girls over boys according to you? Back in the day an adoption from Korea cost 40 000 kr in Sweden during the 80's excluding travelingcosts.
@@elisabeth73 Racial stereotypes. Asians tend to be infantilized(looks young, submissive, innocent, short, quiet, small genitals). Stereotypes that are more favorable for women and not so much for men by western standards.
@@elisabeth73 Racial stereotypes. Asians tend to be infantilized by westerners. Being quiet, submissive, short, needs guidance. For women these can be seen as desirable traits. For men not so much.
My ideal was always 'The Gentleman's Family' - one girl, one boy. I had two wee boys. And yes , I'd have loved a daughter, but I am more than lucky to have healthy children at all.
@@Lilou_log aww poor feminist, you don’t even know what “incel” means do you. If you can’t find a partner and don’t want to have kids, you’re the incel 😁
@@Bwpwwpwpw lmaoo bdjjdkkshshsk girl calling me a feminist isn’t an insult also there is no “poor me” cuz I’m cool with avoiding men that would not honor me as a partner and not suffering and being miserable in a marriage with disgusting people like yourself , also having a choice whether I want a child or not is pretty cool and I like it. Also you ARE an incel. All I said was the 4B movement and your incel self got triggered. Why do emotional? What’s the problem you know this is not in your favor cuz you are the type of men that these women would rather die than marry, go cry about it to someone else ✨💅🏽🥰.
😂 spot on! They are the smartest, chosen by god himself, the head of the household! Women are delegating the burden and responsibilities to the superior and "strongest" links and it has been interesting to watch🍿
In the U.S. maternity leave is 8weeks and a lot of the company don’t offer with pay while other countries offer 6months to a year maternity leave with pay. And in addition, U.S. doesn’t offer free childcare unless you live under poverty so many or should I say there is a “swift” to either not get married, get married later in life and making a choice of not having children in marriage because of financial burdens. I myself married late in life and have only one child d/t medical reasons, age, financial burden, and demanding job.
But none of that addresses the problem of low birth rate. Western European white women aren't having children either even with some of the best maternity benefits in the world. It's not the lack of maternity leave or income or anything like that. Koreans are making more money than ever in their history and yet people aren't having kids. The same is true across the 1st world nations with high GDP.
@@an.hs.n I don't disagree with this assessment. It's rooted in selfishness and many will regret their meaningless lives but by the time they realize this it will be too late for most.
@@busterboyd4125or maybe they realize that having one or two kids later in life is perfectly fine instead of popping out three or five before you hit thirty like older generations did. Albeit, we have better accessibility to birth control than they did
Doesn't US provide foodstamp to jobless? And childcare? I heard elderly also get benefits if the caretakeris a damily he she gets funds? I thought US was still better at least one wouldn't go hungry when jobless most of Asian countries give nothing at all if you're jobless you are on your own so people can't even think of anything but earning just to survive marriage becomes lesser priority
its not s shift in preference if you just want her to work. they've given up on relying on men for an ideal those men dont want to meet so that women can now bear the burden and be hospice care kids. no thanks.
Studies have shown that for many lower middle class families it's actually better financially for the mom to stay home with the children. The costs for a low income earner to pay for child care, transportation to and from work, work clothes, etc. were often more than the women earned. But an even bigger cost in Korea is the hakwons or specialized tutoring for piano, math, english, etc. That's truly what's behind the huge cost of raising children. It's funny how Koreans take so much pride in being college grads but they lack the skills to teach their own children for free at home? You learn at a young age that a square does not fit in a round hole and yet Koreans have determined that all of their children will be academics? It's beyond belief that people think this way. Not every person has to go to college and people with trade skills, farmers, people who work with their hands should not be looked down upon.
this is just one issue. South Korea is probably the most developed nation with the least development in making its culture less discriminating against women. Police and government are more concerned about drug busting cases than helping abused and prostituted women and children.
Korean society is extremely misandristic despite what your feminist media might have indoctrinated you with. Literally 4x more men renounce Korean citizenship than women. 😂 Also as women's rights increase, the birth rates decrease. Just compare the birth rates of the poorest African countries with western feminist ones. Korea's birth rate is n indicator of excessively high women's rights and misandry
Where did they collect data from lol! I'm a South Korean woman in my early thirties, have a good job, have good looks, have a pretty good temper, and almost all good men around are married or have girlfriends. Others have issues such bad habits, weight, unstable mental health or issues with women and etc. And I'm not even a picky person who is looking for only handsome or rich man. These days, I see how many young Korean men just don't want to settle down and have kids. It's so fu*ked up.
@@dudoji85 could be, it’s just the people I know and I’m not in Korea, funny thing is all the Korean guys I know are married to their Korean wives. There just a ton of cultural family hang ups, women don’t want that. They want to keep the husbands family at arms length, but also still have their parents be a big part of their lives (like men do). The culture has to adapt to that, less bossy in-laws who treat you like a maid.
@@edo5407 I think that's it, overseas Koreans are not a representative sample of local Koreans. It could also be that the type of Korean woman who doesnt like their local customs ("family hangs up") are more likely to immigrate overseas and end up in your circle of friends lol
@@enhancedutility266as per statistics of 2023, there’s 50.25% of male population worldwide VS 49.75% female. They’re might be more female in some countries but overall the male population is higher. The issue is that most people don’t want or are afraid to date or marry out of their race or country. Or they might just not have the opportunity 🤷🏼♀️
@@enhancedutility266 There are many minors who have children without being prepared to be parents, the worst thing is that they have many who do not even know how to educate them and those of today teach them bad examples.
I get the ancient Confucian traditions but in the 80s and. 90s you all didn’t see this coming? The science and technology were there at the time. Now watch as civil unrest becomes a problem. Unmarried lonely men often turn to a life of crime and violence.
The title needs change, GENDER IMBALANCE MAKES MARRIAGE HARDER FOR KOREAN WOMEN . That’s why the 4B movement began, because it’s easier being single than married.
Some of those unmarried men would probably be happy to marry another man, so legalizing same sex marriage would also help the problem. Even if these men don't reproduce, they can still take care of each other as they age and potentially be healthier and happier.
100% ‼️Especially when they have respect for men but do not respect women as their are seen as objects and not a person with feelings and needs . It would definitely be a healthier alternative because the way women are being treated and disrespected on a daily over there is actually nauseating. Being a mother won’t even save women from being disrespected, used and abused. If anything it’s aggravating because children act as anchors to entrap them.
Enother problem is , some asian countrys womens when they find out babys gender abortion next stop for them.. lots of countrys look down on having baby girl and coused problem on unbalanced population..
They did this because having a girl back then was shameful, women who produced sons (ironic since the DNA for male comes from men) were considered unsuccessful or undesirable. Men created this mindset, in short.
The daycare and schooling should be payed by the taxes that they pay so the school would be free from 3 years old up to the grade 9 and the kid is around 14-15 years old after that it can start to cost with books and that kind of stuff that the child needs to studdy but the term cost should always be payed by the taxes that people pays. My mother didn't pay a dime for my schooling, I had when I was 17 take a bank loan to be able to get all books and stuff that I needed but my 5 years in that school didn't cost anything it was payed by all the taxes that they take
@@KangTheDigitalNomadGlobeTreker Gay marriage is not legal in Korea. Therefore when they say gender imbalance is making it harder for Korean men, they could let the queer Korean men get married and marriage then wouldn't be harder for Korean men.
Please stop this narrative. This is an incredibly misogynistic narrative the men including the anti-feminist president of Korea use to blame feminists rather than take accountability for the complex issues created by the corporate controlled government and the misogynistic culture.
no no no it's totally wrong lol the statistic says that men aged 19-30 are becoming more traditional (right) and women aged 19-30 are becoming more liberal (left)
Misleading title. Gender balance isn't the issue. Instead , lack of free time and low salary for city people (for men and women). Look at Saudi Arabia (large gender imbalances, yet people still have babies and that oil money doing wonders)🎉 But sure, let's keep blaming men or women, instead of the ruling powers on top
@@busterboyd4125Yeah but those numbers are 30 years old they don’t represent the current numbers of children being born in the Black community. Young Black women ages 15-35 years old are not having kids including myself. Black millennials and generation Z are not having any children.
🙄 They're not our men & this is nowhere near the same situation in the BC. Black males do not aspire to marriage, fatherhood, education, self sufficiency as a collective, not even by half. Black women have the HIGHEST femicides in the US but here you are concerned about their choices to commit violent crimes against the "community". Black women like you are so pathetic & dangerous
Korean society is extremely misandristic despite what your feminist media might have indoctrinated you with. Literally 4x more men renounce Korean citizenship than women. 😂 Also as women's rights increase, the birth rates decrease. Just compare the birth rates of the poorest African countries with western feminist ones. Korea's birth rate is n indicator of excessively high women's rights and misandry
Scarcity isn't a real reason. We should have seen all the women married if that was the reason. But since women complain that men aren't improving enough in order to be worth the risk of marriage and childbearing....
in philippines there are more women than men.. and women are more valued than men.. Philippines is matriarchal family and number 1 in equality in asia..
Recently, I started watching true crimes that take place in Korea. Really interesting but not in a good way at all 😢 This week I saw about these two criminals called “god god” and “Nth”. Horrifying...simply put. Knowing that women are abused like this still!, I don’t blame them for not wanting to marry 🤷🏻♀️
But, I'm confused. Your population is declining, your birth rate is plummeting, and yet you make the correlation that this is happening during the time where Korea is finally starting to show signs of breaking away from patriarchal structures and desiring more female babies than male. Can I get a rundown as to how this makes sense? Shouldn't we then aspire to slow down the destruction of the old ways as an attempt to raise birth rates?
ahh yes, modern feminism, where woman act more like men, then wonder why society is going down the drain with the declining birthrate. They dont like the idea of "gender roles" but its worked for thousands of years. Men and woman are not the same.
Lmao! Very Spartan of you to suggest women’s rights be taken away because let me guess, your “masculinity is under attack” tho right? Because the thought that the western women or worse the feminazi are waging this covert war on you so that men will never succeed and will succumb to a life of being some underpaid beta cuck because how DARE women pursue an education and strive for anything else outside of being a house slave or a prostitute. Because the biggest threat to the American national security is educated western women because we are buying all the guns and unaliving men. it’s comedy That yall actually believe women are the enemy when it’s is YOUR politician and UOIR government officials that raping ALL of us raw and sand papery hard. Im continually amazed at the lack of introspection honestly.
This is not a passport bro country at all. It’s a very homogeneous population and foreigners are looked down upon, a little less so from ultra wealthy countries. This isn’t some country where foreign men swoop girls off their feet, Seoul is more modern than probably all western cities and Korean education is among top in the world.
@@enhancedutility266foreigners are looked down upon? The same foreigners koreans love to act like ?! Stop using korea being homogenous as an excuse for their ignorance and hatred
Who wants to marry in 2024 anyway? Moreover living cost and real estate prices in Korea are sky high… many Korean guys have told me they think marriage, wife and kids are like shackles to a man.
you say living costs are going up.. so then wouldnt staying single makes it harder to afford things? forget about kids, if people got married with then had two sources of income, that would help with the increased living cost problem
@@JustinK0 hahaha most women will tell you: my husband’s money is for both of us, but the money I make is my money only. Women usually don’t contribute and if they do is 20% at best. Prices for suitable homes to raise a family in Korea are sky-high like everywhere else. After having 2 kids most couples are “dry” and living from paycheck to paycheck. Then if an emergency or accident takes place and you don’t have insurance it means: good bye savings…
I agree that international marriages will help, as well as increase the birth rate. Also foreign women are more willing to live in rural areas, oppose to Korean women.
Why having children? Might as well remain single and keep Ur savings for your old age needs. Children nowadays don't take care of old parents..unless they are bourned with silver spoons.Old and frail parents are expensive. money are needed to buy diapers, underpads and medicine for them. Your spouses ( husbands or wives) most likely will refuse for you to contribute because a couple's savings will be needed to spend on their own kids and keep some savings for themselves. Most old parents having had to work to feed themselves later in life😂 Children nowadays are also more selfish and self- centred....the so- called e- generations😅
Asking because I really don't know, is there is no retirement pension in Korea? If yes, why would elders need to work to feed themselves? The retirement pension is so low that basic needs are not fulfilled?
Honestly, getting children into daycare when they are young can likely help a lot with socialization. Of course, this assumes they are adequately staffed and with capable people. That's probably the hardest part.
If it mostly affects men between the age of 29 to 44 then I'm not worried for them. South East Asia is full of women who dream of marrying a Korean oppa, you even have all the Koreaboos around the world who would love it as well. Everyday there's a new RU-vid channel with a foreign woman and her Korean BF/fiancé/husband.
As Korean its really crazy how preferences shifted since kpop went global. Earlier nobody was interested in Korean men in Germany, now its changed little bit. This shows how muchh influence media has on sexual preference
@@tatjana7008 German girls seemed to have become obessed w Kpop. As someone who enjoys watching RPD, Germany kpop fans are one of the most passionate and prolific
@@S_k_02842 I have a freind who went to Korea to marry a handsome Korean guy like the ones in the movies, but she came back home real quick😂. She said that they look nothing like the movies, she was so disappointed
@@OO9O9 I think China problem is more acute, like anywhere from 70-100 million extra males. This maybe why Chinese govt are sending male workers to Africa and other far flung places under Belt/road initatives for them to find wives locally. Africa is big target but so is South America. So essentially they be exporting their problems to other countries
It's possible they mean that by each generation or the gender imbalance has lessened itself out with thenofker now dead generations, who knows. But 800k in excess males is also VERY dangerous bc again women don't understand men!!! Males are VIOLENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When they get women they focus that violence uallh only on the woman. But if they don't, they focus it on EVERYONE ELSE. Can you see the logical conclusion to be had there? Let me help you. There is NO version of society in which males aren't violent. That's what even 1000 in gender imbalance is WORRISOME.
@@KangTheDigitalNomadGlobeTreker You’re talking gibberish with no evidence. 1.5% more male imbalance is negligible. Any society you look will hv some gender imbalance whether more males or females. Also these Korean men have no problem pulling foreign K-pop/drama loving women from Vietnam/Philippines/Indo etc since they could make$$ 4-5X in Korea vs their homeland. Again non-issue!
In France we have more boysbirth than girlsbirth and we still have more boys …until these young adults reach 23 yo… and then, there are more women than men and the gap is increasing as we age… it is probably due to accidental causes more frequent in male population. .. it is not just a question of sex ratio at birth…in my opinion
Usually, there are slightly more male baby being born with the ratio being like 51% boys and 49% girls. The reason for this can be found in the womb: more female embryos die before being born. This leads to more weak baby-boys being more. That’s the reason why more male than female babies die. There are also much more younger guys dying in their 20‘s due to car crashes and suicide.
No there are NO more boy births than girls births UNLESS the girls are being killed off. A female child is the DEFAULT baby, despite what men say. And bc it is the default children, it is far more STURDY genetically. male sperm are faster and conceived at 110 to 100 females, but they miscarry far more often bc they are genetically unsturdy. You don't know that, it's not common knowledge because....MEN LIE. so in society where they don't tamper with the babies, women will ALWAYS be born MORE. ALWAYS.
