Gently Dusting Off The Mind: Gabor Maté 

Narcissists love using Triggers, learn them and show no affect it drives them crazy. Us normal-ish nice people learn Triggers and avoid pulling them because we don't wish to harm the other person. My father knew all my Triggers and I knew his but he pulled mine as he was a Narcissist, I learnt to not react and never pull his. I could of given him a heart attack if I pulled most or all of his, I came close but he was an unwell Narcissist, it is an illness. He died 23 years ago and still managed to ruin my Mum's and my life however this why I'm here recovering. Gabor Thank You So Much

I had an emotional outburst last week and scared myself. Now I'm beginning to understand my reaction. So glad to have found this. I've listened over and over and made notes. So healing. It is what I've been searching for all my life. Thank you Dr.

Personal Archaeology is a term I have been using for a while now; the goal to excavate my authentic self from the layers of stories and unprocessed emotions resulting from trauma, neglect and abuses.

Finally - someone that makes sense. A bright light in a dark world. Right under my nose and I hid it from myself. I see an empowered me in the mirror ready to face my reality, my pain, my wounds - rather than justify with meaningless justification. My journey begins. Heartfelt thanks Dr Gabor and tears of joy - from a New Zealand warrior.

The deep compassion in this man for the human condition resonates in everything about him....for me anyway......it's simply love

Such a beautiful voice.

Gabor Maté! So smart, humble, knowledgeable! I am so happy I found him !

So glad a wise friend recommended Gabor Mate to me. Such a compassionate yet tough and liberating approach.

THANKYOU Dr. Mate

Awesome! He didn't allow his educated intellect to block nature of truth of self knowledge done with out fear. Just an awsome human being.

My first time hearing this man. Very intelligent and wise.

I love this guy...brilliant mind of our century

Oh my God thank you this is everything

Love this guy for what he does

He reached every chamber of my heart. I feel safe to work on myself now. I feel safe so Thank you Doc.

Love him!! Our society needs to hear this!! Compassionate Inquiry Spiritual bypass? (Not in certain aress) Truth sets us free💞

archeology of the mind/spirit/soul is the most beautiful analogy I've ever heard for putting your soul back together.

Such a great person that has cared so deeply to work to discover the root of pain and how to heal it..comforting to listen to..

Thnks. More people need to address their inner workings, and lift themselves up.

Yes. Thank you, Gabor! "High levels of cortisol is behind a lot of illness" which is rooted in emotional tangles

The analogy of the trigger and the ammunition is brilliant, spot on

Gabor is so insightful and much needed today. He appears full of compassion and understanding for humanity. It's sad that the people who probably have the highest ACEs are the ones that are judged the most harshly by society and sometimes by their family, when they are the ones that need the most compassion. What Gabor's done for me is to make me change my self-talk from 'it's not fair! or 'why me?, or 'why are they doing this to me?' 'why were they so cruel to me' TO 'there's nothing wrong with me' 'I am not bad' 'I will no longer allow anyone to make me feel bad'. 'I will now do things that enable me to be the best I can and achieve my potential'. The triggers primarily from my family of origin- are guilt and shame.

His beautiful voice reminds me of Leonard Cohen RIP

“A bit of a gift”??? . . . he’s brilliant and wholehearted, this man is like Jesus walking amongst us, teaching and healing. He also possesses mind blowing humility. Quite literally, he could put every therapist and medical specialist out of business. He’s THAT good.

You are so gifted at being gentle with people and parents. You convince people they are ok x

Gabor is one of my heroes. Just listening to him makes me feel instantly better.

I love this Gabor. I love how we are understanding our past so we can process it and let it go. Coming from a chidlhood of detachment, stress, anger and trauma, I needed to learn to speak up and more importantly, to understand my parents had their own challenges that they were (and are still) unaware of that left a scar on me and my sisters. I mean that not in a cruel way, but in a way of opening deeper connection through widening and heightened understanding

Love you SOmuch, Gabor! And just found out my FAVORITE journalist on earth is YOUR kid, Aaron ❤️🙏🏽🍉

Wonderful. I love how he reiterates that it's all rooted in childhood trauma. American Industrial Diet adds to illness as well.

WOW! how did I miss this brilliant teacher so far? Gabor Mate! thank you!

Loved his analogy regarding triggers. If we can bend our perceptions slightly to understand that the trigger is a gift, what follows will be nothing short of magical.

Always in love with Gabor Mate. How not to be✨

I'm a simple guy-I see a new Gabor Mate video, I click play right away!!!

I will be celebrating the day when medical community finally recognizes the truth that this man is presenting. I will be celebrating the day when society in general finally understands the importance of emotions and how they affect everything in our lives. Also, in true spirituality there is no separation between the emotional, physical and spiritual. It is a misconception that one can be enlightened without addressing their emotions. Spirit is what manifests itself into emotional, mental and physical aspects. There is no spirituality without adressing all of those aspects.

Gabor is so very careful with his words - it is compassion itself.

I love that this hasn't even been out an entire day and it already has 450 views. His message is brilliant and desperately needed in our culture. I'd love to see the rest of the talk. Does anyone know if it's available in its entirety? For everyone on this healing path; thank you for the work you're doing. In forging this trail, we're making it easier for everyone that follows. It is work, it's valid, and you are so strong and resilient (even if you don't believe it). I love you and I thank you. Praying you are blessed.

People who have and "try" to cultivate spiritual practices without dealing with the "dark material" on a deep meaningful level generally exhibit passive-aggressive behavior in everyday life. I for one, tire of this need to "be in the light"... The truth is in the dark stinky material.

this guy has a very soothing voice

Brilliant perspective on triggers.

Gabor Mate + Ray Peat are a powerful combo.

I wish I could afford a few sessions with this guy

Brilliant man, Hard to find people who actually care and not just in it for a paycheck.

Great spirit, thank you for everything, I got hope..

Its the first time i see him crack a little laugh and its just preciousss

Dr. Mate is such an incredible teacher. His views on addiction & trauma are beautifully simplistic yet so revolutionary and shocking for many in this day & age!

The stories to manage the pain are actually the gift making you realize.right in the moment that while some of your awareness is caught in a leg trap, plenty of it is free as to be aware that part of your mind is trying to get out of the trap with a mix.of feelings, story, images etc. To even be aware that a part of you is caught in that leg trap it means that some of your awareness is free. Now allow this living light to witness your struggle and do now ask it to intervene to change anything. Give it a chance to pop in your life and see you in less that stellar circumstances. This awareness does give a shit whether you have a gold medal to your neck or a noose because you will get hung in 10 minutes. Don't try to noss awareness around. It is like trying to chop the wind with a machete. It won't make you a millionnaire either or fire a shot of kundalini from your ass past the top of your head. However what it can do is to pull the rest of your awareness out of the trap just like if the leg that was in the trap was made of ice... then it turns to water and escapes the trap. The trap os still there and still shut but the metamorphosis from ice to water got you out. One very beautiful book that explains things in a very poetic and simple ways is The Sun In My Heart by Thich Nhat Hanh. While this monk is a lot let fierce with his words than Krishnamurti they extremely close in their views in many aspect. It is so easy to miss Thich Nhat Hanh as never tries to shock the way Osho and others did. However he can see a lot in a drop of water sliding on a blade.of grass. A very, very subtle master.

I've had so much stress and traumas from my childhood and the collective unconscious that it triggered kundalini awakening within me. Nature stepped in to rewire and reconstruct what is within me. Without a full stop and reconstruction, my whole life was a dead end.

I love this guy

Ah, this man 💗

Words of wisdom triggers...understand why you’re triggered!

so glad i found his works

Id love to hear the rest 🙁

Emotions = feelings (identified by words we think with a/k/a taking temperature of our 'explosive expressing-or-not mind') and as in any relationship it's complicated. This compassionate man is a genius with the all not-so common quality called: common sense✌💖⚘🌷🎶👏

Pls Dr. Mate share your message on the Joe Rogan podcast

the curious thing about integration of light and dark in general is the mind's tendency to cling and identify with the whole process which ultimately creates a complex patterning of the structure of the system to such identification. This becomes another form of addiction and when there is no more highs and lows brought about by the process, the mind craves and creates for more "dark" unwittingly because what else is there to do when you dedicate all your time and energy for such integration? This is a perpetual loop one finds in. It's like rocking your own boat with your own energy without any waves on the ocean.

Good work! 😃👍💥

Seriously gifted. Every human being should get to know his work

Thank you, Dr Mate! Every new talk is on a higher level. Please post the whole session.

All you need is already within you, only you must approach your self with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self-disgust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of love you bear for your self, all I plead with you is this: make love of your self perfect. Deny your self nothing--give yourself infinity and eternity and discover that you do not need them; you are beyond. Nisargadatta Maharaj, I Am That: Talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

This guy reminds me of Manuel Pellegrini, current manager of West Ham United.

I was diagnosed with adult "attention deficit disorder" about 8 years ago and was recommended, Dr Gabor Mate's book, Scattered. Saved my life! 🙏

The trigger-ammunition metaphor is so spot on.

I love this....do what you do....teach us this, whatever you do strikes us as authentic.

Gabor is a GIANT of a superhero - bearing his own suffering WHILE carrying others and helping others, just an easy naturalness of accepting his own wounds while teaching other people about how this works. Many people choose to create more pain instead of heal it when they''re experiencing / can't find a way out at the moment. But the healing and world good is achieved through the experience, not avoiding it.

This guy is DA bomb! Amazing, brilliant, sweet, honest, beautiful soul.

I love Gabor’s description of a trigger. Makes so much sense.

25 People disliked this ...Must have been Triggered LMAO

Awesome presentation. Beautifully articulated!

For more information on Compassionate Inquiry training, see compassionateinquiry.com/online-training/

Full video please 😀💜✌🙏

Do we actually get how to learn compassionate self enguiry ???

I can't get enough of this brilliant mind and soul!

He is so brilliant and authentic

Bach flower remedy Centaury is excellent for helping with saying NO.

Those who want can talk to me.. Even I too

Im lucky at such a young age i choose not to define or blame or shame my self with my parents incompetency. I choose to separate my identity with my parents poor decissions n judgements. I tell my self im going to separate my self n destiny, and have better life, reactions to life, and better communications with my own family. I make peace with ' the ghosts inside me'. I forgive them, but refuse to take their path. May Allah bless my parents.

' So, Compassionate Inquiry is really all about finding out what the 'ammunition' is. How you handle the person that triggers you really is your call. But at least know that you are the one with all the explosive inside you, and you will gain so much liberation if you find out what that ammunition is; how you got it and how to diffuse it, like you diffuse a bomb. You can actually diffuse that ammunition inside you, through getting to know yourself, and that's where freedom lies. If no-one had the power to actually trigger you, not because you are closed down and shut down and isolated, but because you are totally aware of yourself....Well, that's where liberation actually is ' Gabor Maté From the deepest depths of my soul, thank you Gabor Maté

Terminal niceness syndrome ;-) I am happy to be over it.

Who is the kundalini yoga teacher he refers to?

i don t find the triangle under the discription for full video ,can anybody help me ?thank you:)

Thank you. Wisdom. So evolved.

Aamazing .Love Gabor Mate.

Delighted to learn more about #compassionateinquiry.

An archaeologist of the mind

Great! Where is the rest?

(cough!)....Carl Rogers....(cough!)..... Person Centred Way of Being....

Love this thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕

I think one can understand "spiritual bypass" and also the achievement of positive mental and emotional states that Maté mention without addressing and changing one's underlying beliefs as a function of the nature of human beings and human action. Our relation to the "divine" and our moment to moment thoughts and our emotions are related to our beliefs about ourself, but are not determined by them. I can change my relation to the universe without changing my relation to and my beliefs about myself because these are different aspects of mind. Beliefs about self operate differently than thoughts and feelings and even our spritual beliefs. They are more fundamental, established earlier and reinforced more thoroughly. To change such beliefs is a different kind of task, one that can take immense effort and skill.

I think there are stages and all of them are natural and necessary. A trigger IS a transgression and intuitively we feel agreviated and is emotionally healthy to respond by boundaries, removing our selves....protect our selves. If we may attend our feelings at this time proppertly ( witch depend of the intensity IS definitely therapy , for the most part society is NOT psychological conscious/ intelligent) this may not become a trigger later on. But if it is is simply a wise way our body and mind tell us there is something that needs our loving attention. Simply. Is out of self love and trust of our body intelligence that something came up.

Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate. Your insight has enormously helped me with figuring out alot of things that I couldn’t make sense of despite having tried several remedies. Your work is very important and I much appreciate it. While I can use this knowledge in my life to heal, I can at the same time use these tools to recognize signs and help many people in my surroundings.

Can I attend or find out where and when you have workshops I am in the west of Ireland in Galway therese

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Consciousness = E = MC2

I live in Vancouver bc . Does anyone kno a counselor that uses Gabor mates compassionate inquiry method?

Looking forward to the follow up (subscribing in anticipation)

wheres the rest of this video ?? or the whole weeks to be exact

"If you get triggered", guy pulls out a .45...Gabor: "I can handle it"...😂

the way this man THINKS >>> #Elite

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