The ROOT CAUSE Of Trauma & Why You FEEL LOST In Life | Dr. Gabor Maté & Jay Shetty 

Mate said: There is no reason to purposely expose a kid to pain because pain will come naturally. Our job is to help them through. Pain is inevitable. It doesn't have to be traumatic we need to know how to interact with them while they are enduring that.

I am a dyslexic male. Come from 11 children in clouding myself. I was told that I was going to grow up to be a ditch digger. What at the time, I guess my father thought that was the lowest place to be. Instead I became a fishing guide, outdoors individual. The boys in my family consist of lawyers, one retired congressman, dentist. And my dads dad, and my mothers brother, and his son now were, or are judges to date. I could not fit into, let alone learn how to do these thing. I can say I do not know how I am still here today, due to my own wants not to be. All I ever wished for growing up, was to be held, feel loved, and told everything would be okay. Many issues I know that I am still dealing with. I been to numerous counselors over the years. Some helped. Most made things much worse for me. I enjoyed this video, and wish I had people like you to help me when I needed you. I guess I probably still need you and you help. That you for sharing your thoughts, and knowing, knowledge with me my friend. Also I am new subscriber to you channel, will continue to watch.

I VASTLY prefer these types of guests over celebrities…awesome podcast Jay 💪🏿

“Pain is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to become traumatic.” Love your children. ❤ 28:48

This man is the true definition of the word, healer.

As Gabor wrote in one of his books: “It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behavior.”

I am a sensitive person and can definitely relate to how hard it feels to be in the world right now.

It breaks my heart to see how many of us were sexually abused as kids and how that affected us as adults. But one thing i know each one of us is a freaking SURVIVOR.

Notes: Children are born needing unconditional love and acceptance. Children shouldn't have to work to make their relationship with their parent work. They need that. Children need the freedom to experience all the emotions. In our society we are taught to suppress emotions. Children need free play out in nature.

What a gift Gabor Maté is to the world.

This man has helped me big time!! from last week all I'm watching and listening on RU-vid is Gabor's lectures. Day 4 of being sober and counting....

“Vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded” ❤

To never fit in.. to always feeling I can't handle societies expectations..to feel like a dreamer walking a foot above the ground.... To knowing that it's ok to be me that I'm not a freak. Accepting ourselves as beautiful wonderful people regardless .. I'm ok with that. I'm ecstatic. I think I just grew wings

Listening to Gabor Mate makes me love humanity. His way of talking about the human species is so interesting and passionate. Thank you Jay for having this conversation recorded !

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 05:41 🌱 Trauma is not what happened to you; it's the wound that is sustained as a result of what happened to you. Trauma is a psychic wound that can be healed. 08:57 💪 Vulnerability is essential for growth, and time alone does not heal wounds. Healing involves becoming whole, and it requires letting go of defenses. 14:02 🧒 Children need unconditional love, freedom to experience all emotions, and the opportunity for spontaneous play for healthy development. The current societal conditions often fail to meet these essential needs. 20:02 👶 Children raised with a more natural and nurturing approach tend to have healthier self-identities and resist societal pressures to conform to external values. They find purpose and remain grounded. 22:59 🧰 Unlearning past behaviors and developing a different perspective can help navigate the world more authentically and effectively, even in a society with contrasting values and expectations. 23:41 🧠 Identifying and addressing the trauma in one's life can help break the cycle of repeating the same patterns as most people do. 25:32 🚼 Mollycoddling children isn't about loving them too much but about projecting parental anxieties onto them, which can make kids anxious and ungrounded. 28:45 🧒 Children don't need to be deliberately exposed to pain, as life will inevitably bring pain. The key is to support them while they endure pain, helping them move through it. 35:01 🙇‍♂️ The challenge is to balance authenticity and attachment. Over-identifying with roles and labels can limit personal growth and authenticity. 46:07 💪 Sensitivity in children varies, and their reactions to trauma are influenced by factors such as birth order, family circumstances, and coping mechanisms developed. 46:21 🙏 Acknowledgment of suffering is the first step in healing, and it's important to listen and fully acknowledge the pain and trauma. 50:29 🌍 Loneliness is a perception, and there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. It's essential to be open, vulnerable, and willing to connect with others to combat loneliness. 53:33 💡 Human nature isn't rigidly defined, but human potential is based on human needs. Meeting these needs leads to healthy development, while frustration of these needs can lead to negative outcomes. 01:00:55 ✌️ Acknowledgment of suffering, especially on a societal level, is crucial for healing and reconciliation, as seen in the example of post-genocide Rwanda. 01:07:51 🙅 Don't wait for external apologies or validation for healing. Acknowledge your suffering, look for wisdom and healing within your culture and society, and don't become dependent on external factors for healing. 01:09:47 🤔 Forgiveness is about releasing hatred and resentment that limits you, not necessarily condoning the actions. 01:10:28 🌟 Spirituality is a sense of connection to something larger than oneself, transcending body and ego. 01:11:20 🌿 Indigenous people have a profound connection with nature, emphasizing unity with the environment. 01:11:47 💫 The medicine wheel in indigenous traditions involves emotional, physical, social, and spiritual aspects, promoting wholeness. 01:16:00 🦋 The best advice on healing and trauma is to "be yourself" and stay authentic.

45:57 "Having said that, the other child who doesn't become an addict hasn't neccessarily escaped". This is me. I didn't become addicted like my sibling, but I also never truly escaped. I have never felt so understood before in my life.

"Don't wait for the world to apologise, acknowledge your own pain", no one else can ever truly know. From here we move into understanding, acceptance and then choosing to heal. The first step is realising you have pain especially if it's been there all the time. So very appreciative and grateful for the change you're making to the world, Gabor Mate. You are like a tissue picked up in the middle, all the corners follow.

I’m a Indigenous person from North America, I also live in Vancouver, Canada. I really liked how Dr. Gabor talks about acknowledging your own suffering and pain, it’s what I have been doing the last couple years since these residential schools have drastically effected my life. It’s what I’m showing others in the Indigenous community now they can do by being that example of it, by slowly going back to my traditionally ways. Thank you for that acknowledgement on these things Dr. Gabor.

This might sound so pathetic but if you believe in the power of prayer would you mind praying for me? I’m extremely depressed. I suffered a very high level of trauma as a child. My worst fears from childhood have come true and it’s rocked my world. I’m beyond miserable.

"My purpose is that people are free." I stopped the video to cry. I watched this video hoping to feel less lost in life, and my guidance came with these words. Thank you both for putting this together. It was worth every second.

As a highly sensitive woman who struggles with BPD I finally feel understood by a doctor 🤯 thank you!

OMG!! I needed to hear this!! As soon as you said there are people who are so sensitive that they can’t stand living in this world it resonated with my soul!! Because this is exactly how I feel and I hate it! I hate this world because it is so wicked, dangerous and scary. I loved this entire video so much. Thank you!

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

❤ “vulnerability is necessary for growth”

As a mother working through my own trauma alongside trying to grow a healthy human… this is the podcast I’ve been needing!!!!! An amazing start to an amazing day

There is so much gold in this interview, so many crucial takeaways, but one thing I just want to highlight that I so appreciate as a viewer is how much Gabor always makes a point to make clear the definition of what it is they are talking about, to make sure we and they are all on the same page. That is SO important when talking about any deep topic, and I very much appreciate his attention to language.

I resonated with “Being alone is a fact that we can embrace and make decisions about. Loneliness is a perception with an emotion charge to it. You can be alone and not be lonely. And you can be surrounded by all kinds of people and feel Lonely. It’s just how you chose to perceive it. Suffering has to be acknowledged to heal. You have to understand your trauma. Don’t wait for the world to acknowledge ur suffering acknowledge it yourself so you can finally heal. Release ur heart from the cage trauma cause.”

I'm not suicidal I just don't want to be here. Have been feeling this for a very long time.

As a child I was subject to constant abuse from a very early age right up until I left the home. Coming to terms with the trauma is really the hardest issue. I was in addiction for 25 years and self sabotaged every good relationship that came my way. As an early adult violence was my communication and I fought for attention and fought for affection. Fight or flight is all I knew. Unpacking your trauma is key to your recovery as the older we get the more it will consume you,so much so as Dr Gabor says will manifest into illness. Put one foot infront of the other if that’s all you can do right here right now , take life on just second by second if you have to and know you are worthy, you are wanted , you are loved, you have a purpose.

Thank you for your validation. My wounds get triggered and pain emerges as if it’s happening right now. I have been accused of living in the past. I reply with I don’t want these memories to occupy my body. My entire body hurts. I write poetry to express my pain. I have been in counseling and medicated, 2 docs have validated my pain. My family never validated my family abuse, instead accused me of being mentally ill and a selfish centered liar. My one male sibling said he believed this year 2022. Im 69. I have 5 male siblings. No sisters. He’s the only one willing to listen, but even though he believed me he never said how horrible for me to have experienced that alone with no one to protect me. I had to pretend I respected my parents all my life. They are dead now, but they still haunt my dreams. They still pop up with specific triggers. I am proud that I left an abusive husband when my two children were 2 and 4 and raised them as a single parent and stopped the abusive cycle. My adult children are loving kind hearted people that I am so lucky to be their mother. Two of my poems “My face is a roadmap. My face is a roadmap of paralyzed fear It lost the contour of shine Where sadness appears. My face is a roadmap To my story afraid to unfold My face is a roadmap Of all the tears buried beneath the road. My face is a roadmap Where once there was light Molesting father , narcissistic mother and brother Darkened it to ashen abysmal night. For years my hidden molestation is what I thought shredded my soul that didn’t compare to the narcissistic abuse my mother and Christianity bestowed. Trampling my heart, lungs, and vocal cords. My face is a roadmap Of Christian demise Respect honor your parents at all cost Are the lies. I didn’t fight back, l didn’t utter a word. I didn’t even know what was a healthy loving world. My face is a roadmap Aging lines of frequent attacks From a shell of a mother Reminding me You’re selfish Self centered Regardless of the mountain of love showered to Her impenetrable heart sac. My face is a roadmap Wiped out by the tidal wave of trauma Voice smothered to the depths of all that Surreal drama. Good days I’m grateful to be alive, Rough days I struggle to stay to survive. My face is a roadmap 69 years Mixed with the joy of my children Loss of parental nuclear family love foundation Stained with tears. It took years layered with abusive narcissistic tasks To turn my roadmap Into a pretend happy mask. My face is a roadmap It conceals Reveals A generation of trust built on sand A broken trust in me Constantly needs A helping hand Today, I author this piece to drive out my fears I want to claim happiness What’s left of my years. My face is a roadmap Also shows joy It came with a price I’d pay again and again To have my precious girl and boy. There is a truth to a portion of my heart undefeated That truth my two children saved With love over their years They repeated. My face is a roadmap Blake stares To a far away place Where all children are gently loved Always kept safe. “ My most current poem “I was a little dandelion I was a little dandelion, standing all alone. We always grow in mass bunches, What strangeness is this, I moan? Tromping heavy treaded boots smashed flat my tiny little head. If only I was a giant sunflower I wouldn’t be left lying here lifeless, dead. Surprise! Fooled the cruel tromperwalkers, I slipped right through their tread Thriving to a world unsafe I stand strong to what’s ahead!”

The zen in his voice!! I could listen to him all day! He makes me feel calm 🙏🏻 Such wisdom 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

“Vulnerability is essential for growth” 💙

"Identifying with anything limits your growth" one of the many true things spoken about here. Wow.

What a beautiful representation of the human spirit. Trauma can be heald! You aren't just damaged goods that nobody would want, you're in pain and need some kind words and self care. Gabor is a lighthouse.

One of my primary school's classmate broke his arm while we were playing football and then he kept it private for the idea of being right infront of his parents, after like three months everyone around him would notice his bent-arm, so long story short he eventually ended up being rebroke for cure. That's why I think trauma and privacy must lives in the same house, in the other hand vulnerability and healing must be super friends

Thank you Dr Gabor Mate. I discovered you six hours ago on another podcast and am elated. 50 years of grief has held me prisoner to not healing. Today, in my darkest hour, I now feel safe. Addiction has beey my life. Acknowledging myself today. I suffered a horrific childhood and have spent my life trying to have my biological family (whom i am estranged from) fighting for their love, validation. Simply wanted to belong and have heritage. Dr Mate, you have changed my life. Thank you

“The moment there is a ‘have to’ there is resistance.” Dr. Mate’s declining to participate in creating resistance has great understanding behind it. I know that I shut down as soon as I feel pushed. Someone told me once that you cannot push a piece of string - it folds back on itself…but you CAN draw it toward you. Addicts can’t be pushed into stopping. As in my case, they can be drawn by the experience of seeing recovery and acceptance in others. That simple distinction saved my life and has given me 38 years in recovery and healing. Thank you both for this beautiful conversation between seekers. 🙏💜🇺🇸

I’ve seen many interviews with Dr Gabor Maté, trying to absorb the wisdom he shares, and this interview is by far the best I’ve seen. It feels as though Jay approaches this material with genuine interest and curiosity; there is a humility and warmth here that I truly appreciate and makes for a beautiful conversation.

Mate: “It hurts so much, at some point, to be yourself.” I feel this inside, but Dr Maté’s explanations help me see that I am not weird or strange. Thank you!

My parents threw the Tough Love book at me and i was in foster homes at 13, then prison at 19 😢. They were children from WW2, so I understand neglect. I'm a INFJ HSP which I found out at 44 and all I wished for was love from my parents. I've made it out but it's cost me my connection with them. This is the experience called life, I'm not being held back 🙏

In other words, if you found your passion and are not currently working towards that, trauma is the root cause and it made you lose yourself. Aka don’t feel bad about yourself for not *doing all you can* more like love yourself for doing what you’re able

This man is legendary in his field. Every interview is upgrade to my soul. Thank you so much for your work. Thank you Jay 🙏

Being kind is our nature! That is so true. We get so carried away by the pursuit of success and fame of this industrious world that we forget our true natures.

"It hurts so much being ourselves", is such an accurate phrase on why we deviate so much from our authentic self. I have a certain fear to seek out my authentic self because "what if my authentic self is a bad person?"

Triggers are gifts that offer us to see the unhealed wounding within us so we then are given another opportunity to heal it with love and forgiveness ❤ Forgiving yourself for carrying these toxic emotions for as long as you have is a great place to start 😊

During and after our divorce. I was grieving hard. Unfortunately, I did not realize my 3 children were suffering much more than I was. At the time I unknowingly did not meet the emotional needs of my children. I was angry that my husband wanted a divorce. Then I made things worse. I worked none stop trying to make the home feel like a home where the father was there. Working and working but not meeting my children's emotional needs. I believed I was placing my children first. I think I was just meeting my own needs. That was a huge mistake. This is the first time hearing this .

My FA ex broke up with me couple months ago and she couldn't pin point why she was feeling that way... She had such a tough childhood growing up and more i listen to these podcasts i cant help but think of her remember her and feel bad for her makes me wanna cry. i hope she finds healing and is loved unconditionally.

You've played a major role in me recovering from things I thought would genuinely kill me. I'm not out of the woods yet, not sure if I ever will be, but you have helped in ways words cannot convey

Thank you so very much. I'm 62 have had lung cancer twice and I feel like I'm a chicken in a Nest ready to learn how to fly after hearing this. I am so very grateful. Thank you!

I grew up in the seventies in a humble working class family and neighbourhood. Went to school, spent all my free time outside in nature... At 48 I still don't buy into Capitalism and although a slave of it to some extent, I feel like I have to play the game, to survive, but I don't live in that world, I feel an outsider to it, my values are still those of my childhood, family, nature, health, simplicity, friendship... A humble yet healthy and contented life

This podcast was worth listening to. The childhood trauma is something that happened inside of you and not to you. 🔥acknowledge your own pain and look for the wisdom within your healing. Forgive the person to release that cage of hurt you have kept inside for so long. ❤

"If trauma causes a disconnection of oneself. Healing is the coming together of the self, becoming whole again" _Dr. Gabor Mate. A truth ringing, solidifying moment where things just make sense. I am so grateful to be present to absorb moments such as these when a truth is spoken, where the heart and mind are one because there is no oppositional feeling or thought, it just is.

Dr. Mate states that our level of Sensitivity defines us - who we are; I've never realized this - it is so true. It's no wonder that very sensitive people feel out of sync with the world at large

Dr Mate is a the true definition of a Boddhisattva. This man is giving so much to the world to ease its suffering. Immensely grateful for you sharing his work.

Biblical scripture explains the origins of human suffering quite simply and profoundly. A few examples are: Genesis chapters 1-3, Romans chapters 1-2, Galatians chapter 5: 19-21. Freedom comes through the love and salvation of Jesus Christ. He loves you and died and rose for you....💙💙

Aww you talked about my country in Rwanda, i have lost my 2 parents at 3. Now i have a little girl and she is my SUNSHINE and we live in Canada❤🙏🏾

Honestly, I have never seen or heard of a man with such a power for clear thinking! A man true to himself. A man whose knowledge he takes with modesty and passes on as simple fact. He is deep and discerning, and delves into roots of words, into studies by colleagues, he brings forward truths that can simply make this a better world! He has, to me, ascended to the level of prophets and great teachers! Thank you both! The harmony and smoothness in this interview was a pure pleasure!

Wow, this man is right on when explaining ‘triggers’. It is like every time I am ‘triggered’. I react with the same emotional intensity as if it is for the first time all over again. It sort of explains Borderline behavior too which is based on ‘triggers’. and Borderline is often related to childhood trauma

I’ve watched and/or listened to this interview at least three times and still believe it’s one of the best long-form interviews online about trauma and wellness. Thanks Jay!

This Dr has just spoken to me in ways I've never heard before. He understands the human condition and is so authentic. Very deep philosophy from a scientist. Recovering from trauma is a long journey but possible

Thank you! Now I do not feel so lonely when I hear, that there are many who cannot stand this world right now. Sometimes I feel all the pain, bad news, cruelty and violence, in my body, as if someone was stapping my back or shooting me - and I sit at home or in the office. I hear animals crying, nature crying, I can harly move myself those moments.

So thankful for people who have platforms and can spread this knowledge. I spent years being sick, diagnosed with POTS, heart issues, neurological symptoms that resembled MS but left my neurologist baffled. I kept telling my neurologist I think this is related to my trauma. He dismissed me over and over again and I eventually stopped going to him even though he was a doctor with good intentions originally trying to find the root cause with tests and MRIs etc. but I left and recently did somatic therapy and ketamine assisted therapy and my symptoms are gone: normal heart rate, no fainting, no neurological issues or tremors

Even his voice is so soothing, not only the meaning of the words

Thank you for defining so many things! Framing trauma and healing was an ah ha moment! "Trauma is the wound and Wounds can be healed". "Vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded and without vulnerability we can't grow". Makes sense!!

Adult autistic 50 year old woman here and just finding Dr. Mate. My parents beat my siblings and myself with belts, hairbrushes, their fists, and as a result my siblings were violent towards me as well. I feel I narrowly escaped with my life but have gone on to suffer health problems. Fibromyalgia, migraines, insomnia, IBS, early menopause, anxiety, break downs. All the talk therapy did not help, EMDR no help, and now I'm trying micro dosing. It's helping a little. Some days I wish I was not here.

I swear Dr. Gabor is the only person to say exactly how I feel and is amazing at explaining feelings and why people react and do the things we do. It makes me feel a sense of peace due to never being understood and not understanding why I feel the way I do. I am a mother and have trauma and trying to seek help and resources to heal myself so I can be the best mom. This man has helped me alot! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge.

Someone once said, don't dig unnecessarily into the past and dwell torturously there in order to heal. You won't remember everything and certainly not in that way. Focus and deal with what arises now, because that is what should be dealt with and that is what is important. Anything important from the past that wants to be heard will come up in the present, without you having to force it and dig and over-analyze.

This made me cry in relief. It validated the journey I am on. 🙏 Listning to Dr. Gabor Mate is so healing. ❤

Healing requires the vulnerability that caused the trauma when it was denied or used against us, and that's really difficult, to feel all the softness and pain again, but we'll get there 💙🌠

Grass root trials in local Rwandan communities were encouraged in truth and reconciliation as there were no judicial structures left after the genocide. Powerful cultural communal wisdom, acknowledging of suffering andforgiving of neighbours to healing communities thats still ongoing in order love side by side and thrive. I spent almost 2 years in Rwanda in 1994-1996 as a project coordinator to rehabilitate health centres in the aftermath with a charity. It was 'the worst and best of times' in terms of finding my purpose and healing.

Often wondered if I was just playing the victim mentality, I'm good at working hard, continually allowing myself to be distracted, my drug was school and work. After A LOT of work I still felt I was just 'playing the victim' - but hearing him today made me realize that I'm not just playing a victim. From the way I think about food, work, and even stepping outside my own door and the subconscious choices in romantic partners I'm drawn to 'toxic' because that is what felt normal for so long. It is nice to finally put that to rest that it is ok to say that I had hard with X, Y, Z - because the physical symptoms in my body and the subconscious decisions of my mind are symptoms of the past. I'm getting better and better at making more intentional decisions that resonate with my true self, but it definitely has taken work. My therapist said about 6 months ago, "This is the first time I have seen you allow yourself to be at peace and not be uncomfortable with being so" - it took me til last month to agree with her and it was such a restful feeling.

Thank you for this wonderful video! I have incurred so much losses trading on my own....I trade well on demo but I think the real market is manipulated.... Can anyone help me out or at least tell me what I'm doing wrong?

Dr. Gabor Mate is pure gold!!!! Less words but when he speaks “WOW,” he doesn’t ramble; each sentence is more impactful and insightful than before. 🙏🏻

Read the book, and this conversation was so good. Dr. Gabor's perspective on trauma and healing makes so much sense and his method of compassionate inquiry has been a great way to approach or take a step towards our own healing. I'm learning the value and importance of returning to my authentic self and not betraying it. Thank you both. Life-changing 💪

Left a toxic relationship in May. Why did I stay for so long? My journey to walk. Just ordered the book. I wish there were more therapist that learned this information. When they ask, "are you eating?, sleeping?" Come on lets get to the bottom of WHY. Great Podcast guys!

I have to pause the video a million times to digest the wisdom and knowledge that they are imparting

I learned so much from this, also Dr Gabor's voice is so soothing and calming 😌 his energy is so calming and he's so calm and grounded. Beautiful to see

I’ve read What happened to you ? And it’s different for everyone when it comes to trauma.. trauma can be serious and can stay with someone for life and they have have no idea what actually happened to themselves or why they feel so broken , other people know how to heal and they don’t really teach others how to heal so I am thankful for all the books I read and RU-vid for certain use, what still needs to happen is that many “more” humans reach out to help each other..

The enlightment of this man is almost overwhelming, I can find peace and connect to my true self only by listening to his words

The advice of Dr Maté resonates deeply with me. I first have to give up my addiction of alcohol. It is a heavy weight that prevents action and the ability to operate on a higher vibration. His wisdom will definitely help break through. Thank you Dr Maté and Jay.

By far, this is THE BEST INTERVIEW Jay, please invite him again. So full of wisdom

I can not express how much this episode of your podcast comes at a perfect time for me and for what I'm working on for my personal growth. Just thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

Brilliant. He is so soothing. You can feel the peace radiating off of him.

I could listen to this man all day. Huge love and respect ❤

Yes to this definition of healing... "The integrity of a person who is no longer split off from themself. " So well articulated. Thank you Gabor and Jay for another illuminating conversation.

Without question, this has been my ALL time favourite podcast "on purpose". I have been following Dr,. Gabor Maté,s interviews, via many podcasts, over the past few weeks. THIS has been extraordinary. Jay Shetty, your questions were oustancing, and Dr. Mate, your responses mind blowing. I will be watching this episode again, in order to allow all of this wisdom to penetrate deeply into my bones and soul. Absolutely birlliant. Can't wait to dive deep into this book. So much to learn, about primarily myself....and thus, others. Thank YOU both so very much for this incredibly profound conversation. Thank YOU❤

Trauma is the wound that sustained. That was deeeeep‼️ 🤯

I recently read gabor mates book "when the body says no " as i recently went through testicular cancer and it actually filled many gaps in my thinking and perspective of life ,emotion managing,and needs that have to be met ! I wm also one of the more sensitive kind of people and you helped me a lot . THANK YOU IF YOU EVER SEE THIS I'M GLAD THAT I DISCOVERED YOUR BOOKS AND YOUR GREAT PERSPECTIVE !!!!

I love how they allow each other to get their point across without interruption 💝💝💝💝💝

Thank you for bringing Gabor Mate on. He is pure, raw, honest, highly experienced, specialized and knowledgeable. Lately, by your choice of certain guests, I wondered if the world got you. It's my wish you have found the meaning back and continue bringing us real rolemodels. Wonderful interview x thank you

I appreciate Dr. Gabor Mate pointing out the needs of kids (and ourselves when we were kids), it is helpful in understanding me and my clients and also my own children. Especially to see what we may have missed.

Vulnerability is a capacity to be wounded

His definition of "healing" literally made me cry.

Thank you Mr. Gabor Mate. We need people like you to spread the word as to what happened to us indigenous people. The more people that understand the better because it could happen to any race of people. The way things are going now, we are ready to make a stand so that we can put our families and communities back together again.

So true what Dr. Mate says. From 37 until almost 60, so identified with narcissistic abuser victim, then narcissistic abuser surviver, I was frozen in time. This attachment is over identification, as Dr. Mate educates. Also, as Jay explains. I must take away the good I learned during frozen time, the "molting times" and now who am I, knowing I have a greater identity... Fascinating interview

I love how a lot of their conversations resonates with my soul and and almost echoes my deep beliefs about everything❤

I moved out of state from my own traumas to grow and evolve, I devloped my own unhealthy coping mechanisims, fast forward 2 years later, my parents are evolving and healing and all is seeming better. I just sent this to them as I have never felt more understood and seen. I hope it can further help their evolution from their past traumas as well. Thank you Jay❤

Always hoped for people to apologize and acknowledge for inflicted pain...Now I understand that I have to focus on acknowledgment of my pain.

Dr Maté is an extraordinary person who has taught me so much.

This was easily the most influential episode you’ve ever done, Jay. I never knew who this man was until now and I can’t believe how much insight I gained from the hour and eighteen minutes. Doctor, you are so wise. 🙌✨