Get Over the Guilt of Cheating (This is How) 

right there w you 💔😞

I forgave myself.

​@@lilbabytearscan you describe your journey? Im going through immense pain and guilt

Look, I understand that you've recently gone through some significant changes in your relationships. It's clear that you've been through an emotionally turbulent time, moving from an abusive relationship to a healthy one. It can be a shock to the system. The psychological imprint of that toxic past relationship might still be affecting you, making you more comfortable with what's familiar, even if it's harmful. Sometimes, the trauma we carry can make us crave what we know, even when what we know is bad for us. It's always worth exploring how this previous abusive relationship might have set the stage for the behavior you're struggling with now. You mention feeling a strong sense of guilt and regret for betraying your new partner. It sounds like you're in a cycle of self-sabotage, perhaps undermining this new relationship because its healthiness feels foreign and unsettling to you. This could be rooted in a belief that you don't deserve happiness or stability, feelings often instilled by a history of abuse. This is very common among people who have experienced this kind of trauma. You have a desire to "take it all back," which also suggests a level of self-awareness and a wish to make amends. Understanding and confronting your guilt, and learning how to forgive yourself and others, will be crucial steps moving forward. If there was one thing I'd recommend, something that you might find beneficial is to engage in some deep trauma processing to get to the root of these issues. Learning to identify your triggers or thought patterns can help you avoid falling into the same pitfalls in the future. You should try and focus on cognitive re-framing techniques to replace your craving for toxicity with healthier understandings of what a loving relationship should look like. I'm sure there are plenty of good sources right here on RU-vid just for that. Ultimately, it seems that clear, honest communication with your current partner, coupled with some intensive personal work, could be the keys to turning this situation around, provided both of you are actually willing and know what you want from your relationship.

Glad to have helped you.

@@aconsciousrethink Can you do one about healthy bonding and the red flags of unhealthy partners?

Great suggestion. Thank you. Press the bell if you are subscribed and I'll put one in for the next month. All videos for this month have already been produced but I'll schedule it in for November and maybe publish some Shorts on the topic this month too.

It probably is your karma

The same thing happened to me recently, I wasn’t crying because I was caught. I was crying because I hurt my bf. I explained my reasoning and put in that I know it doesn’t justify it. Cheating is a choice and it’s a bad one at that. He admitted he had problems and I admitted my problems. Rn I am putting in effort to fix my mistake and promise to never hurt my partner ever again.

Me too. It only lasted for 1 minute. I stopped myself and I immediately went to my partner and told her about the problematic behaviour. She broke up with me on the spot. I didn't get a second chance. I'm absolutely devastated. I don't feel like what I did merited a breakup. I feel I did the right thing by coming to her and telling her. But I accept her decision. I'm just really sad now.

Man I’m in the same boat bro . Shoot me your instagram if you have one bro I’m going through it rn and it’s bad

@boots I’m here because I cheated on my gf of 7 years on and off throughout the relationship. Eventually it ended up with me falling in love with a psychopath that left me in pieces on the bathroom floor having a panic attack, drunk and suicidal. I am not saying you and I are the same or that you will do as I did, I just wanted to share with you a warning. I see in your comment things that I used to do. I used to diminish the cheating. I never actually met anyone in person it was only over the phone. It was never emotional (until the last one) it was only physical. I was lying to myself to cope with the guilt. Doing anything that you would not want your partner to know about while knowing you are not supposed to do it is cheating. I would beat myself up, beg for forgiveness, promise to never do it again, delete social media for a while, continue to watch porn obsessively and repeat the cycle. I suggest you admit cheating fully and totally and not diminish it. Then dig deep within your psyche and ask yourself why you did it. What lead you to this point. Then work on those things. For me, (I’m still working on it) I think what lead me this far is - an addiction to porn and masturbation, an addiction to social media, insecurity leading to an overwhelming satisfaction or validation by an attractive female who gives me attention and lastly, a lack of relationship with god and not following the instructions he left us to mitigate behaviors and temptations like this. I write all this because I don’t want you to end up where I am or where I was. I wish you all the best. God bless.

If someone cheats on you you you have to move on! If you don’t have trust you don’t have a relationship!!! It will never babe the same!! You will never be able to watch them walk out that door and not worry that it might happen again!!!! You deserve to live with out that in your life !!! It will never change it will always be in the back of your mind!!! There are a lot of people out there that can be trusted!!

You are so welcome! Thank you again

Thank you Ava.

You don’t, hopefully your wife’s days aren’t numbered. Look at it on the bright side, if you didn’t betray your ex you wouldn’t be with your current wife.

I can relate. Awesome question I’d like to try answer. I remind myself if it didn’t happen she wouldn’t be where she is now, in a better place than what I could’ve provided. I missed out. That’s my fault or my karma. But that’s not to talk down about myself. I was arrogant. I’m humbled. And realize I wasted it. But I also think that if I really do truly love her then I would be really happy for her - even if that meant not being with me, and am, I do, but I also really miss her and our relationship, but maybe that’s me being selfish, but in the same thread I should allow myself that sometimes. I’m human. To apologize for it I accept the consequence, the reality, wish her well, and stay faithful and give what I can this time to my current partner. That’s probably the best I can do.

@@noeldelarosavlogs I agree with you! Good advice, he should dedicate his time to his current partner. Once you cheat on someone, you no longer existing in their life is far greater than an apology. I don’t understand why people wouldn’t prefer a cheater to own up to that fact that they did exactly what they wanted unapologetically instead of making excuses. We all know that cheaters are the architects of lying and misleading so their Oscar worthy performances of pretending to be remorseful upon discovery are meaningless. I do give them credit for their acting skills and the displays they create.

The key elements that stand out for me are emotional dependence, lack of communication, and guilt or shame. You've mentioned feeling very emotionally dependent on your ex, which can create an imbalance in the relationship and increase feelings of insecurity and vulnerability. This kind of emotional imbalance often prevents people from having a healthy, fulfilling relationship and can even contribute to feelings of depression and anxiety. But you also noted that you saw your ex messaging other girls and making comments that suggested your relationship wasn't permanent, yet you chose not to communicate about this issue with him. Open communication is essential in any relationship, and its absence can cause misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and growing emotional distance. When it comes to you, you admitted to kissing someone else at a party, which you said was an act born out of the emotional distance that was already present in your relationship. While it's understandable that people sometimes make impulsive decisions under emotional stress, it's also important to consider the consequences. You immediately told your ex about this incident, which suggests that you may feel guilt and remorse for your actions. And that's a good thing. This is what you should feel just don't focus on yourself. This is not about you but about the person you cheated on. And I know that you're concerned that your actions will affect future relationships, worrying that a future partner may not trust you. In my view, this could be a manifestation of shame or guilt you're carrying, which is affecting your self-esteem and self-worth. Which is obviously not good from a much broader perspective. So taking all these elements into account, there are a few things for you to consider moving forward: - Reflect on the emotional dependency you felt and identify ways to cultivate emotional independence and self-worth independent of a relationship. - Learn to communicate openly about your feelings and concerns can make your future relationships healthier and prevent misunderstandings. - It's natural to feel remorse over mistakes, but what's more important is learning from them. Consider speaking to a professional to process these feelings and learn constructive ways to cope. We have a link in the description for that. - Your actions in one relationship do not define you as a person or dictate the course of all future relationships. It may be helpful to be upfront about your past, using it as a learning experience to build trust in future relationships. Remember, the path to emotional well-being often involves acknowledging one's mistakes, learning from them, and taking constructive steps to make better choices in the future. Good luck Zenya Jones

Hi, if you loved that video then you may find our latest video on the same topic even more helpful. Unfortunately there is no way to speak privately but that's something I would still reserve for specialists such as the Relationship Hero that we work with. Link is in the description. They have amazing results and virtually everyone whom we recommended the service has come back pleased with the choice and the positive effect it has had on their lives.

Same

who hasn't?

It sounds like you're going through a tough time and are reflecting on your past actions. Acknowledging your mistakes and seeking therapy is a commendable step towards personal growth. While you can't change the past, you can learn from it and improve yourself for the future. It's important to respect her decision if she wants to move on, as hard as that may be. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, not just for the sake of relationships, but for your own well-being. This is an opportunity for you to understand your impulses better and develop healthier habits. Remember, healing and growth are processes, and they take time. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through this.

Can you elaborate on your situation more?

Share your story and we can make a video on the topic which you may find helpful

@@aconsciousrethink I’ll share my story, but please don’t make a video about it. I honestly just want your opinion and advice from here I spoke to my worker about his outgoing, tactile behavior at work. Told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake. Then, that early evening, from my apartment’s window, I saw him almost get hit by a truck. It was SO close. It could’ve kiIIed him, had he not gotten out of the way in time. And if it had, our last moment together would’ve been in the office, when I was somewhat disrespectful. That hypothetical made me realize I was a jerk. I should have been more delicate and sensitive when speaking to him at work. More filter, less touching at work? Yeah, but compromise would've been fine. Like, only touching friendly coworkers he gets along great with. It's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy. He never meant to be that word. He just needed some limits. I should’ve shown more patience and respect. A brief talk in the hall, not formerly in the office with his boss present. And I shouldn’t have asked her if there anything she wanted to add. Plain insensitive. The guy never meant any discomfort or harm. He deserved better from me. Please let me know your thoughts as soon as you can. I’ve shared rhis story before; people wouldn’t respond back. It would really make my day if you communicate promptly, next to making things right with the guy.

I hope so too

I agree. And not only will I never fully trust again, but she gave me HPV. That's for life, even if I never have another breakout. She let some other guy's filth into her body and then brought it home to me in our bed. She should feel torment for the rest of her life for what she did, but she said she's forgiven herself and moved on. I don't ever get to move on from the damage she caused. I want to end my life because of it.

I may be totally wrong about this but it seems that you're grappling with a lot of complex emotions, and it's understandable given what you've been through. Your experience with a serial cheater has deeply impacted your views on trust, forgiveness, and accountability, to the extent that you're generalizing your feelings onto all cheaters. It sounds like you're carrying ongoing emotional trauma; your trust isn't just broken in the past tense but continues to be broken in your present life, with fears that it may never fully heal. This suggests that the betrayal you've experienced has long-term, perhaps even lifelong, implications for your emotional well-being and ability to trust. You express a strong sense of anger, a need for accountability, and a resistance to the idea of letting cheaters "off the hook." This anger likely stems from your sense of injustice or unfairness; you seem to feel that the emotional burden you're forced to carry should be shared by the one who inflicted the pain in the first place. Your struggle with the notion of forgiveness is apparent. While you may intellectually understand that people can change or learn from their past actions, emotionally, you're finding it hard to reconcile this idea with the deep emotional pain and betrayal you've felt. Lastly, your thoughts point to a specific moral or ethical perspective, wherein you believe that wrong actions, like cheating, should bring about lasting guilt for the perpetrator. This seems to come from a belief that negative actions should have lasting consequences that aren't just suffered by the victim, but also by the person who committed the act. Look, in a therapeutic context, these emotional layers would be ripe for exploration, to help you better understand your feelings and potentially find ways to heal or at least cope with your past experiences. Whether it's moving forward or finding some form of closure, your goal should be to help yourself navigate these complexities so they don't continue to affect your future relationships and overall sense of well-being. Good luck

It's clear you're feeling a lot of guilt and pain over your actions, which is a sign that you understand the gravity of what happened. Cheating can be a complex issue, often stemming from unaddressed needs or unresolved issues in a relationship or within oneself. So before you go completely blaming yourself, try and sit down with your partner and examine your relationship. Not to offload your responsibility for your actions but to examine the contributing factors and how to move forward in that relationship or any other in the future. It's important to confront these feelings and understand why it happened. Equally, self-reflection is crucial, but so is self-compassion. While you can't undo the past, you can learn from it and make amends where possible. Remember, healing from this will take time, both for you and for those affected by your actions. Taking responsibility and committing to personal growth is a positive step forward. Just make sure that you give your partner the time they need as this healing process must be primarily about them.

It all depends on the circumstances. First of all, you need to know the reasons why they cheated and whether they regret it. Cheating during a drunken night is not the same as intentional. Equally relationship problems, lack of intimacy etc are not the same as someone planning it just because they want a different kind of attention. Then you also need to ask yourself, whether your relationship is so weak that nothing that you and your partner have gone through together adds up to more than a single mistake. Is that infidelity that defines your relationship and decides its future or is it just a blip, an unfortunate one, but compared to the shared experiences over the years, it's not much in comparison. These are the questions the two of you need to answer....

​@@aconsciousrethink Calling cheating a blip to make it sound smaller does not do that. It's rather disingenuous. Also character assassinating the entire relationships state as "weak" if it doesn't get past cheating is pretty close to gas lighting. Cheating is a huge deal. If one is to get past it regardless of how it happened, acknowledging that this isn't a tiny rock but a mountain is very important. No one should be absolved of the weight of the offense and even the forgiveness of it shouldn't be an action where you passively let it go

I did. She didn’t take me back and it was extremely painful still feel it. Loosing someone I love so much gave me a living nightmare. I hurt her her family and my self.that is something I never want to relive again. I still take therapy for it. If the love was real repent remorse and guilt are gona be your best friend for a long time.not worth repeating

For real this video is just for cheaters to cope

You know, this comment seems simply first but the more I looked at it the more I realized there was something deeper at play. I don't wanna assume that you have been a victim of infidelity but perhaps it is one of your fears, either generally or due to the current state of your relationship. But let me offer another perspective - let's look at it from a perspective of the target audience of this video. If you're the one grappling with guilt over cheating and you encounter a comment like "It's not a mistake it's a choice, stop making infidelity like it's nothing," it might hit you quite hard emotionally. Your comment seems to carry a heavy moral judgment, insinuating that cheating is an intentional, immoral act, rather than something more complex. This kind of black-and-white thinking could stem from strong beliefs about the sanctity of relationships or even from personal experiences with infidelity. While the comment might aim to discourage trivializing such a serious breach of trust, its confrontational tone lacks empathy and compassion, elements that are often crucial for growth and healing. My problem with your comment is that it doesn't take into account the complex web of emotions, circumstances, and sometimes even impulsivity that can lead to cheating. People are complicated, and while the act might be the same, the motivations and underlying issues can vary widely. Sometimes, people cheat because of unresolved emotional issues, cognitive dissonance, or as a misguided attempt to find a missing emotional connection. Other times, it's a result of poor impulse control. None of these reasons excuse the behavior, but understanding them can be a step toward preventing it in the future. And look, if your are that person, if you're already feeling guilty, encountering such a judgmental perspective may exacerbate your feelings of shame, making it even more challenging for you to navigate a path toward atonement and personal growth. Instead, a more therapeutic approach might focus on exploring the underlying reasons behind the cheating, offering insights that could prevent future lapses and help you make amends. While acknowledging wrongdoing is crucial, understanding the "why" behind your actions offers a roadmap to becoming a better partner and a better person. So perhaps before you cast the first stone, think about the implications your actions could have on people's lives. After all, you may one day find yourself in a similar situation.

@aconsciousrethink I am a victim, and since I talked with my ex about the issue I understand that there where problems in the relationship from my end also but this behaviour is disgusting, you can talk with your partner about the issues to see if you can fix them , if not then just brake up. Why should I go to therapy and live with this pain because of something she did? While she is out there having fun with the new guy.

@@kananisA75 This video is not for you or for your ex who cheated on you. This video is for those who is taking accountability for what they did and is suffering from guilt, shame and regret. We all do mistakes but that is not an excuse, I have been on both sides, I was cheated on multiple times. I was too was angry and resentful to the person who cheated on me. And now I found myself being the same person who hurt me in the past. I have learned every person's experience is unique and I am in no place to judge, because someday I might find myself being the same.

technically mistake means a wrongfully or misjudged decision. i think you’re thinking about accident. it doesn’t happen by accident but it can certainly be a mistake

As a betrayed I see where this guy's comment is coming from. We betrayed feel like this. But for me it's been years since the infedelity and I totally understand this doesn't happen in a vacuum. There are things going on with the betrayor. No one gets married and thinks " hey. In two years I think I'll mess around on him". No one. As a betrayed, if you can gain insight into your unfaithful partner it will indeed help in both of your recoveries.

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@@aconsciousrethink thank you very much I appreciate you 🙏🏽

I understand that the experience you've gone through is deeply painful and confusing. Five years is a long time to invest emotionally in a relationship, and to have your partner cheat on you three separate times must feel like a betrayal of a sacred trust. The emotional wound is deepened by the fact that he knew about your pre-existing insecurities. Cheating in such a context isn't just betrayal; it can feel like a targeted assault on your vulnerabilities, magnifying your sense of worthlessness and inadequacy. The language you use, about your heart being "torn into thousands of pieces," powerfully conveys the depth of your emotional pain. It's devastating, and feeling "small" reflects how this experience has likely impacted your self-esteem and self-worth. Your decision to forgive him, despite all this, is complex. Forgiveness can be both an act of self-preservation, a way to release yourself from the burden of hate and resentment, and an emotional gambit to reclaim a sense of control or dignity in a situation that's made you feel utterly powerless. However, even after you took that step, he left you. This can feel like yet another layer of betrayal and abandonment, raising questions about your own worth and desirability, and adding another layer of pain to the already existing emotional trauma. From a therapeutic standpoint, acknowledging this hurt is the first step in healing. Your feelings are valid, and THIS IS a form of emotional trauma. It's crucial not only to address the immediate pain but also to explore your pre-existing insecurities. These vulnerabilities are part of your deeper emotional landscape, and understanding them can provide valuable insights for healing and future relationships. It's a journey, one that involves rebuilding your sense of self, independent of your relationship with your ex, and redefining your boundaries and expectations for future relationships. Look, the road ahead may be challenging, but it's also an opportunity for you to rediscover yourself and build stronger, more respectful relationships moving forward. Stay strong and move on.

Hi, if I may pitch in, this is a bit harsh don't you think? First of all, the video is clearly not intended for you but for people who are in need of some advice due to the unfortunate actions they may have taken in their relationships. Your comment is akin to a wife of an alcoholic barging into an AA meeting and having a go at its members or participants further accusing them or discouraging them. But look, I get it. Based on your comment I can tell that you've experienced the pain of being cheated on and are concerned that the video in question may exacerbate the emotional turmoil for others in similar situations. You use the term "gaslit," which refers to a form of emotional manipulation where someone is made to question their own reality or feelings. This is not it. It sounds like you feel the video could have this effect on people who've been cheated on by focusing on alleviating the guilt of the cheater without adequately addressing the hurt and betrayal felt by the person who was cheated upon. This is obviously further guilt-tripping and a sign of an unbalanced approach that can make the victim of cheating feel invalidated, as if their pain is secondary or even irrelevant. When it comes to the matters of the heart, it's a crucial point that while the emotional fallout of cheating affects both parties involved, the path to resolution and emotional well-being is different for each. Advice geared towards alleviating the guilt of the one who cheated may not-and probably should not-be the same advice that helps someone recover from the trauma of being cheated on. In addressing sensitive topics like infidelity, it's essential to be mindful of the varied experiences and emotional needs of all parties involved. The failure to do so can risk causing more harm than good. THIS VIDEO IS CLEARLY NOT FOR YOU.

YES.

Um...idk where you feel like you've been gaslit? I'm a betrayed spouse who decided to stay...I myself looked up this video to try to better understand my husband's pain and to share with him because I cannot help him with his incredible amount of guilt and shame he is carrying....but I still want to at least try to have compassion. I thought this video was very helpful as there arent many videos out therefor unfaithful partners to help them navigate their own pain. It's mostly all geared toward helping the betrayed....which is really sad because it was their own issues and their own pain that caused them to stray in the first place and when they do come clean they can barely find any resources to help them heal to make sure they never do that again. The only thing I didn't agree with in this video is that she kept calling infidelity a "mistake"...which it isnt. It's a CHOICE. A mistake is accidentally leaving the coffee pot on when you leave the house...infidelity is a very bad very selfish CHOICE. Other than that, this video was outstanding. I'm also finding that a lot of betrayed partners, even those who choose to stay, are so bitter that they cannot have compassion for their wayward partner at all so videos like this...that try to address the pain on the offending side always has multiple bitter betrayed partners in the comment section putting their two cents in as to why their partner is undeserving of ANY kind of help. They'd rather see a video degrading their partner and validating their hateful lust for vengeance.

Hypersexuality often serves as a coping mechanism for underlying issues such as stress, anxiety, depression, or other emotional or psychological challenges. Understanding the root cause may help you in targeting solutions for your current state of mind more effectively. Look, you seem to recognize the value of your relationship (you used a phrase "my beautiful girlfriend") and yet feel compelled toward behaviors that could jeopardize it. This internal conflict could be causing you significant stress and emotional turmoil. At the same time I sense some obvious fear of consequences. I mean yous phrase "hanging on for dear life" suggests to me a sense of urgency and fear regarding the potential repercussions of giving into your hypersexual urges. This fear could serve as both a protective factor keeping you from acting on the impulse but also as a source of further stress which could fuel your hypersexual needs. At the end of the day, everything is about morality and ethics. You have to realise that your dilemma poses questions about your personal values. You're grappling not just with impulse control but with issues of fidelity, loyalty, and the ethical implications of possibly betraying a partner's trust. If you're viewing your hypersexuality as a "struggle," it may indicate that you feel it is at odds with your self-image or how you want to be perceived by others, including your girlfriend. But the truth is, without more context, it's hard to say more. Based on how you describe your girlfriend as "beautiful" but don't mention any emotional qualities could be an indicator of how you are currently viewing relationships and intimacy- perhaps more superficially than you might like to admit, even to yourself.

@jamesv.pliskin2448 Nah bc I don’t go seeking it, its just coming to me and you can only say no to so many offers.

Missing someone deeply can be incredibly tough. Regardless of your age. You gotta acknowledge and accept your feelings without letting them overwhelm you. Try to channel your emotions into activities that are positive and fulfilling for you, like hobbies, exercise, or spending time with friends and family. I'm sure there are other people you can channel it into. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to feel sad. Gradually, try to focus on the present and your own well-being, rather than dwelling on the past. It's also beneficial to set small, achievable goals for yourself each day to keep moving forward. Remember, it's about progress, not perfection.

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@@aconsciousrethink Your statements/arguments do sound a bit poopoo if I can be honest as it does sound like that what you're saying is that if someone committed a bad act lets say for example genocide of a entire people they should not punish themselves for it ever.

@@MasterSpira I totally understand where you are coming from. Obviously, you are going into extremes a bit but I do get what you are trying to say. That being said, cheating on someone and genocide are not even in the same league. But it is clear to me that you have been burnt by people once, twice, maybe several times in your life. In that case, you should watch some of the other videos focused on reading the signs or even the potential partner to prevent such things from occurring again. All that we are trying to say is that things are sometimes more complex and not everything can always be reduced into, "you've cheated, i.e. you are bad or evil". Sometimes, the relationship itself degrades to the degree when cheating is no longer even cheating but rather a slow break-up. When cheating may be a direct result of the state of the other partner and their gradual resentment, diminished sex life etc. Sometimes, it is just a mistake like a drunken night etc. Things are not always black and white. To be honest, the B&W sort of scenarios are actually quite rare when it comes to relationships. If there is something you would like to discuss or learn more about, let us know or even suggest a topic and we will do our best to create a video and hopefully answer your questions that way. Alternatively, visit our website. There are tons of articles that may well answer your queries or worries straight away.

Now you've just gone mental with that comment. NEVER go full mental. Ever.

The reason why they emphasize that it's in the past is because you cannot change what you did in the past. It's already there. Do not generalize, human relationship is very complex and you're not so sure that everyone just gets away with it. I have been on both sides, guilt, shame, and regret is just as heavy to carry. For your contentment's sake, a person who takes genuine accountability and feel real guilty for me example, I feel like I don't deserve anything good in life because of what I did. I punish myself with self harm not letting any person involved know of course. There are people who punish themselves so don't generalize.

You should carry every horrible thing you've ever done to the grave

@@ITheStoic Some things can be rectified, reconciled, made whole. You cannot restore a betrayed person's trust. They'll never be able to trust again until they die, not like they could before. So why should you be able to live without some cost?

@@Malumbrus you don't know that. people do believe in forgiveness. no one's perfect.

@@ITheStoic Forgiveness does not restore the trust. Even if it's 99.9% trust, it'll still never be 100%. Any time their lover, even if it's a new relationship, leaves the house or isn't with them, they will always have in the back of their mind that this is possible, that it could be happening, and to be prepared for it.

@@Malumbrus that can happen with anyone

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@@aconsciousrethink Whatever... Right?

@@johnscottieferguson9964 you clearly have a bad experience. Please share it and help us understand.

@@aconsciousrethink You're funny, i'm looking for someone to guide me acting silly like that hahaha

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Ok look. Stop with the god stuff. That's the first. Even if he existed I don't think he'd care about your cheating that much. This is something that you have to deal with rather than offload it to some supernatural beings. You have two choices, you either tell him or you don't but if you do, don't do it because you are trying to ease yiur own conscience and your guilt. That's just unfair. If you feel guilty that's good. It means you most likely regret your actions but you need to carry that. That is your stain to carry. Your load, your reminder to do better. That being said what's done is done. Now you have to focus on the future and how to put your boyfriend first and your relationship before your own selfish needs. If I were you, I'd keep that cheating to myself and try to do better in the future. Nobody is perfect and nobody is impervious to misconduct and a little sin here and there given the right circumstances. What matters though is how we deal with it and how much we are willing to change and try to be better...

Did you confess? I also feel the guilt