Getting Let Go

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Sometimes you've gotta let someone go, sometimes it's the other way around. Get access to my guide to Paris at parisinmypocket.com/ and help me make better videos at / jayswanson 🥳
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My name is Jay Swanson - I'm an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they'll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I've learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.
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@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thanks to my Patrons for keeping Cooper in diapers and me in sheets without holes in them! And thanks to you for watching (and checking out the comments... clever, you...)

@christophermichaelclarence6003 3 месяца назад

It’s my birthday today. But Im pretty you couldn’t care less. Just stoppin by. Don’t mind my comment anyway

@OWB-ml2ux 3 месяца назад

@@christophermichaelclarence6003 I think I'm too late - but happy birthday!! 🎂

@elysaadornato5305 3 месяца назад

Can we all stop and appreciate how awesome that escalator shot was - 2:25!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thanks 🙏

@JeffKathyS 3 месяца назад

How does he do that?

@michaelrice500 2 месяца назад

Nobody knows. @@JeffKathyS

@maxshenkwrites 3 месяца назад

Wow. Did I ever need to hear this at this moment. I've made repeated attempts at connecting with someone from my past with whom my interactions, as Picasso said, are like tossing a ball against a wet blanket: I toss something out and instead of them tossing it back, the ball just hits the blanket and falls to the ground. The latest was this morning, and moments after I thought "You know, what the fcku?" I saw this in my feed. Yep: I need to both let them go, and let them let ME go. Also yes re the overwhelming-ness of shopping, and "how did I become a morning person"? Much thanks! :)

@luciamixon8119 3 месяца назад

I just saw a video to not connect with people in past. They are the past. Some exceptions I suppose. If you're stressed means it's too hard. Start over. 😐

@maxshenkwrites 3 месяца назад

I said "from my past" but they're someone whom I thought had traveled into the present with me, and I think I wasn't looking at the fact that our paths diverged long ago, so I was still reaching out, but they'd moved on. I wouldn't say I'm "stressed" about it; it's more been a growing feeling, with each one-way interaction, of "ok, why am I still bothering here?" Clearly they've let ME go; I need to let them let me go.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Happy it resonated. There are some great folks out there waiting to fill that space if you'll let them 🥂

@gabrielleparis3532 3 месяца назад

🌹Jay, you are a modern Era Montaigne: his deeply personal essays in the 16th century were revolutionary in sharing the self with the world. Your video essays evoke Montaigne. Thank you for daily enlightenment. 🇫🇷

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Aww, thank you! I really appreciate that 🥰

@iwillnotcomply9937 3 месяца назад

I love the free morning therapy! Great video! It’s so important to detoxify your life! Thanks Jay for all you do for all of us! You are so valued!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thank you! I'm glad it was something worth hearing today. 🥰

@dougcargill6730 3 месяца назад

I too hate shopping for sheets at a department store or a bedding store. That’s why I also purchase my sheets at Costco. Only a choice of 3 or 4 (and different colors/patterns of each).

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Fewer choices can be so nice 😅

@shaimaahafez6286 3 месяца назад

That is the best advice I've heard about a friendship I've been contemplating recently. I am writing this in my journal today. Thank you Jay

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Glad it was helpful!

@PaulaMorton-yx3iv 3 месяца назад

You obviously have an excellent work ethic. Your videos are awesome. I love them no matter what topic you choose to cover.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thank you! I'm glad to have you here 🙏

@cltransler 3 месяца назад

I stay right across from the BHV in the Marais every Christmas. I love that store--great customer service! I get a lot of fantastic Christmas gifts for family there.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

It's a good'n

@DionnaNalls 3 месяца назад

After I left my 9 to 5 office job, I realized that I was okay letting go of toxic environments, toxic people, and those people I thought I liked. Realized, at a distance, they weren't who they portrayed themselves to be. As I've gotten older, I'm not as torn up about losing most people in my life. Some, yes. But I've had to look at maybe they left me, too. I have to live with that.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Relationships are always a two way street, but that doesn't mean we drive them all the same. Thankfully the one we have with ourselves is both the most valuable and most accessible to work on. Thanks for sharing 🥂

@anastasiafua 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this video (a continuation from the last one last week) 🙏🏽 “gotta be ok with them letting us go - if we don’t fit then - that’s cool” thanks 🙏🏽

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

🙏🙏

@JeffKathyS 3 месяца назад

Love the piano Jay! I'm getting ready to purchase one for my office and get back to playing classical. It's been too long. Thanks for inspiring me!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I'm having so much fun with it!

@ADAtrips 3 месяца назад

I had more friends when I was important. (Yes, there was a time when …). There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. That is all I want. 🌴🌴Aloha

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Gotta love the all-weather friends 🥂

@diannejones5754 3 месяца назад

A friend of many decades ghosted me. I was puzzled but realized she set me free. Now she wants me to come over but ah no. Sometimes I think you just run out of things to say to certain people.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

That definitely comes to pass sometimes. Weird feeling to say the least, but great framing on being set free

@agyos 3 месяца назад

Yes…would love morning routine videos from time to time. Your daily vlogs are extremely comforting, informative, and thought-provoking. I think I’d love to make my income like you do….but, I realize that I neither have the skills nor the dedication, not to mention that I also do not have the talent, to create such wonderful pieces of sharing, LOL! I recognize the incredible amount of time it must take from inspiration through creation to manifestation. It requires a type of vision, along with a deep drive; which is a gift that, I think, one is born with. Not easy to create these videos, although you make it look so…but, also, I believe, that this gift of yours, is a drive that is impossible to avoid. Like most truly talented people, you really cannot act otherwise. (And…I am grateful! Thank you!)

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thank you! I do tend to think that the skills I've honed are ones that anyone can attain for themselves, but the drive is definitely as unavoidable as you describe. Maybe that's the missing piece for other people. But that doesn't mean there isn't something out there for you that can obsess you in a similar way and open up your frontiers 🥂

@zuma-dude 3 месяца назад

Wow, a knowledgable and helpful employee at a department store who actually offered assistance, and who doesn’t respond to questions with “Uh, I don’t know." I miss that.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

She was amazing

@matchamate 3 месяца назад

I was a night owl in America which made me a morning person in France lol. My sleep schedule didn't change, my time zones did. 😂

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

😆😆

@luciamixon8119 3 месяца назад

Two lonely people don't necessarily make a match. Time usually tells the story. Great videos!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thanks!

@andyshacks7812 3 месяца назад

I’m a morning person of sorts - mid to late morning is my absolute favourite part of the day. I always feel most energised then; it’s downhill for the rest of the day lol. It is strange the number of people who fleetingly pass through our lives. I have only a small handful of friends but they are good friends.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

It's amazing how much I'm getting done in the mornings when I stop to think about it

@bbbbgtm 3 месяца назад

I thinned out my friends years ago (and also was thinned out by some of my “friends”). What I didn’t realize was how hard it would be to acquire new friendships. Acquaintances are easy. Friendships are hard.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

They take a lot of investment. Worth it, but certainly not easy

@seanjamescameron 3 месяца назад

1:50 I can SO identify with that from my audience as well.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I feel like it's gotten a lot better in the last decade, but it's also hilarious when it pops back up here and there

@scottfbradley 3 месяца назад

Great concept to think on - letting someone let *you* go…thanks for that. Nice progress with the Bach…as you progress try to get those wrists up…will help with your stamina (source: my constant struggle w/this as a full time professional pianist)

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

You sound like exactly the authority figure I should be listening to 😅

@wollid14 3 месяца назад

I'm landing at CDG tomorrow morning and meeting my daughter at the airport for her first trip to Paris! Hope the weather gets a bit nicer. We've both been watching your videos to get ready for the trip. I'm hoping this dad can keep his 20 year old entertained. I need to fibnd the perfect places to go at night where we both will love it! Keep up the good work.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I do know someone with a guide filled with great spots for a drink... 😜🥂

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Hope you have a blast together!

@colinmgordon 3 месяца назад

I'll be there Wednesday; can't wait to see the spire!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

It's gorgeous

@SundaysAreForQuiet 3 месяца назад

Habitat- still in the UK. Think they are part of the whole Sainsbury’s and Argos group.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I was told Brexit was effectively what killed them here. But they made it a good while!

@SundaysAreForQuiet 3 месяца назад

@@JaySwanson yeah Brexit has killed off a lot of the uk sadly

@msmacmac1000 3 месяца назад

Feel you, Jay❤

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

🙏

@KarinLynnBates 3 месяца назад

Jennica is amazing. She’s really blessed me in my life from knowing her online. I’m proud of you for getting the sheets! My most memorable BHV visit was getting the right size engagement ring- for a marriage that didn’t work out but I still have the beautiful Tahitian black pearl ring. And memories. 🙂 Thanks for all the great shopping shots! 🙏🏼

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

That would be a special memory indeed. BHV really does it all haha (except protein 😫😫)

@michaelmorrissey2212 3 месяца назад

I too have shopping anxiety 😬 For linens I recommend La Redoute - fairly reasonable and long lasting. They sell them at BHV but also in their own stores (maybe less anxiety provoking)

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Intéressant. Thank you!

@amyspeers8012 3 месяца назад

Really loving the talks on relationships. It is difficult being the one who was let go. Made me take a look at myself to see if it was me, did I do something. Working on doing what I can nurture my current relationships.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

If you already struggle with shame (🙋) then this struggle is extra real. I feel you.

@maryj3056 3 месяца назад

So many other places to go to buy sheets , Hema , H&M , Primark , Carrefour, Auchan etc etc Obvs depends on your budget and taste but.😮 BHV even en soldes 😮

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Yeah, not cheap - but I've gotten to the point where I want my bed to be comfy so I think it's worth a little extra. Would have been nice to have been a little LESS extra 😆 but I'm sleeping great in them so that's a win

@Specialk6894 3 месяца назад

Great shots of the spire, thanks! Do you know anything about the closure of Centre Pompidou for maintenance?

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thanks! And I don't, sorry

@aairsick 3 месяца назад

Lonely v. Alone Very different things

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Indeed 🙏

@MJN0922 3 месяца назад

As soon as you said that Cooper became offended and quit sun bathing. See how you are?! I spent each morning visiting Notre Dame (in hopes of a sunrise) but you know Paris in February and March (rain) I'm not gonna lie - I let you go when I was in Paris but now that I'm back home you're back in! People can also be seasonal and not necessarily toxic...

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Many friendships, acquaintances, or creators are certainly seasonal. I totally agree. Also cooper was overloaded with sun so he just melted as soon as he was able to stop moving for a few seconds 😆😆

@deanthompson7437 3 месяца назад

Nice video. Have you ever covered the basic commands in French for dogs? Is Cooper bilingual? I’d like to know those basic commands

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

He is bilingual despite my best efforts 😆😆

@flatironnewyork 3 месяца назад

did you not play piano at all before you started this time? it's really sounding good!

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Thank you! Just started at the end of last year. I have this piece memorized and am working on getting it perfect. Might need to switch it up for a bit

@steveramirez8270 3 месяца назад

Great points...btw I pick out a wife for you from one of your female friends. I may ask you about her soon, just curious about a quality mate for you, I feel that you might stop looking inward when you find 'the one'...Great content, Godspeed. Hope the sheets worked well. Thanks for sharing so many cool connections with Paris and then framing big picture views on life too...cool material and great filming technique too.

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

5:29 Not the Bachelor Pad palette plz like where’s the colour wheel?

@Claudi771 3 месяца назад

Love your dog -& I’m a cat person 😂

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

😆

@esgee3829 3 месяца назад

decathlon corength whey protein with sugar (it's not much sugar). excellent value.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I've been meaning to check them out

@PAWS0810- 2 месяца назад

my 18 year old grandson has been speaking all over europe in reference to (green) He (is/was) the only American electric racer last year in Copenhagen and came in first place. check him out if you have time Elysium Racing! he is doing great stuff for the world. as for letting go! oh yes. me, year 6 of healing after breaking up with two gal pals i was friends with for over 55+ years. takes time to heal!

@ac8907 3 месяца назад

Coop doing his zoomis ❤

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

He do

@lohphat Месяц назад

Habitat went bankrupt!? 🥺 I got a lot of my apt furnishings there. Sigh.

@JaySwanson Месяц назад

yeah :(

@ambrosenuk 3 месяца назад

“I'm on permanent vacation, much like Cooper right now” Heh, now I want to see a video from Cooper's point of view about all the hard work that he does. (Umm, I hasten to add that I'm in the ‘video every day, on top of everything else, that sounds exhausting’ camp.)

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

He's living his best life and yet I'm sure he's got his complaints 😆

@agyos 3 месяца назад

😂

@SethinBerlin 3 месяца назад

Are trams new in Paris? Now that I think about it, in all the times I've been to Paris I don't remember noticing them if they were there.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

They're almost entirely around the outer rim of the city, so not a common site to see unless you're out pretty far/live here I think

@christophermichaelclarence6003 3 месяца назад

As French living for almost 30 years, the trams are not really brand and sort of new. Only outside of Paris, in the suburb that the trains are New

@RH1812 3 месяца назад

I’m with you on the shopping for boring but necessary stuff. My brain just switches off

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Zzzzot ⚡ I feel you

@Paul_C 3 месяца назад

You know, HEMA might be an alternative, it's the staple for bedding in NL. 😂

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I hadn't thought about HEMA. I had a few friends float other more affordable options after this too - which I'll use for my pull-out sofa next. But I'm happy to splurge a bit on my own bedding these days. Sleep matters too much to go too cheap

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

3:47 Famous Last Words P.S. You just need someone (points to self) who has great taste in interior decorating and curation. Also, I have a great eye for bed sheets. It’s an art. However, I do agree that decision fatigue is a b***h.

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

0:48 I have the same problem even when I’m not running hahaha

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

Cooper passing out is so me on a regular basis 😂

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

😆

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

Adulting is when you like being a morning person.

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

I finally arrived!

@mlomarechal6877 3 месяца назад

J'espère que vous dormirez bien dans vos beaux draps tout neufs !

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Merci! 🥰😴😴😴

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

Lmao Brotein means something else entirely but ok (and no, I’m not explaining it)

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

😆😆

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

Omg we need “So, a lot of you have been asking about my morning routine video.”

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

1:09 Me to myself after putting my foot in my mouth:

@OWB-ml2ux 3 месяца назад

I only came across your channel last week, but I am now hooked!! I love your content. Thank you for all of your efforts. You have such an engaging personality, it would be hard not to like you or your content. (Big pats to Cooper also...) (Also...this was a good day to get this message for me).

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

Awesome! Thank you! And thanks for your support, that's really kind

@bigbitebones 3 месяца назад

I love the 🎥 placement and how people just walk passed it while Jay just speaks calmly, it feels like the shot from the Matrix and I expect him to call out freeze any minute 😂😂😂❤

@JaySwanson 3 месяца назад

😆