Our ladies get real about the pressure to stay fit and not let yourself go. They also weigh in on the concept of "Dating & Hating" - hitting it off with someone based on your dislikes.
Loni just about made Adrienne cry at the end of this clip. Loni genuinely cares for Adrienne and Tamera. They say there's Jeannie controversy but Loni has always seemed supportive of her as well.
It honestly kinda sounds like Adrienne is scared to not always have some type of “sexy” aspect of her appearance. If your man loves you, he loves all of you. My husband compliments me all the time when I feel like I look a hot mess but in his eyes I’m beautiful. I’m grateful I don’t have to look or dress a certain way to keep his attention and loyalty
Laydee Leshay I think cause of her Disney days. She was the oldest out of everyone but yet playing a 16 yr old. She said it herself she always wanted to be sexy and not child like.
No, because when you talk about your ex is because she lived for many years so its normal. Doesn't mean she is wanting him back or anything else. I think its a great sign of maturity..
Am i the only one that feels like Jeannie wasn’t that into her marriage as it seems . Like she was more about her career which is great but she always talked about Freddie needing more gfs and what not😏 or how black guys were her type idk I always got that vibe so I wasn’t really surprised 😕
Adrienne felt insecure and fear that she will stop taking care of herself. But it’s normal, I feel her. Sometimes you need reassurance from people to make you feel better and that is okay to feel insecure and letting yourself go. I love that the show is keeping it real and I love all of these ladies. They’re so beautiful inside out ❤️ xo
Tamara I 100% agree with you! I got married Dec 2015...Had a baby Sept 2016...Separated 2017 because my husband couldn't deal with my hormones during pregnancy and after baby! I invested so much on my baby and finding on who I am! 2019 now...I got my sex back...looking fly...as I use to look like most importantly...I feel good on the inside! Even if my dream having a beautiful was taken away, Happy that my husband true color came out sooner so I was able to escape before he could do more damage emotionally ,mentally & Physically!!!
adrienne let me explain something... whether you are 20 lbs 0ver weight or 20 lbs under weight, as long as you are comfortable with yourself don't worry about the negative comments
People love to project their insecurities onto other people and I'm learning as I'm getting older (okay I'm only 21 lmao) that other people's opinions shouldn't matter. The only thing that's important is how you feel about yourself. If there's something YOU aren't comfortable with, e.g your weight, then you can change it. The main goal here is to be HAPPY and comfortable in your skin. Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise
@@kasopeokubadejo2710 I've always wondered.. Is checking your BMI really important because you have women that are considered "overweight" yet they're quite fit and healthy? Probably even more healthier than women who have good BMI's?
Aww Tamera telling Adrienne she was happy last year when she was bigger almost made her cry cuz she knows something she’s living with at that moment isn’t making her happy. I wish you the best Adrienne.
Watching this literally made me tear up, A is so honest about certain things and when Tamera gave her that advice; it rlly spoke out to me. I’m only 17 and I’ve been going through some of the same things A is going through.
Aww!! I love these girls!! I love how they can be real and no matter what one or the other says at the end they always have the best a positive turn over...if that makes sense
I'm too young to be letting myself go haha. Just hold yourself to your own standards, not someone else's. Stop worrying about what other people think. I agree with Adrienne. There is a huge difference between getting comfortable and letting yourself go (aka being lazy).
I feel there’s a difference between getting comfortable in a relationship or in any kind of relationship and realizing you have a person that loves you for you and you let all the flaws show... versus simply letting go because you don’t feel like faking the funk of “ I always have to do x,y, & z” to look like this... and I think we as people also need to make sure we check in with those we care about... because I have friends that are insecure about certain things and I tend to try to have a conversation about what exactly is it about this certain thing that makes you insecure or that you don’t like and what would be the solution to this that would make YOU happy !
Personally I see a lot ofgrowth maturity and confidence in Adrienne now versus these old episodes. I wasn't really feeling her or her points of view back then but now I see so much change I love it
I'm with A...Dont let yourself go...a shirt is a shirt,might as well make it a Lovely shirt...a tshirt vs a blouse, takes the same amount of time to put it on.
I agree with Loni. The 40’s for me (for some it’s perhaps earlier) was the time I became so comfortable with being me & didn’t worry about external sources (I’m not living with them, I’m living with me) I know what works best for me & I work it. It’s totally liberating.
I feel like having a balance of both... you can bond over the things you like as well as don’t like... I want to connect on several levels not just on what you don’t like... although I do find it interesting ! Could this also go for pet peeves... and another thing... why not just simply ask without downloading another app to ask that question 😂
If you have to wait for your friends to tell you you’re gaining weight, then something is wrong with you. If she already knows self care and self love, she wouldn’t rely on other people to point out what’s wrong with her. If you have self awareness you’ll know when you’re letting yourself go or just having a wonderful life. We all get caught up with busy life but I’m not gonna put the responsibility on my friends to tell me I’m gaining weight. That’s just pointing fingers to others instead of owning up to your own insecurity.
i love this idea because ive dated a lot of men then find out they have crazy road rage and just petty stuff that was a deal breaker more than what we liked to do for fun. the love of my life and I have NOTHING in common but we hate the same things so we get to try new music food and activities together and neither of us have to deal with things we dont like
Absolutely, The enemy of my Enemy is my friend. I like people who are Shameless, Unapologetic about themselves, because I'm that way too. I don't really care if I offend someone because honestly your feelings aren't my problem. Genuinely, I am a Nice Guy, and I'm very conscientious about what I do and what I say, but a lot of people learn never to cross me because I will screw you over. I never had myself together it's only when I don't like what I see in the mirror. but it's not drastic, most of the time, its basically I just need to shave but I don't want to waste a razor, or I Just need to exfoliate, or I need a haircut.
I know this is old, but i totally agree with Tamera.. took me a year to get to know myself and get it together after having a child. The first time I even went out with friends was a year after having a child..
I am with Tamera. I rather focus on building relationships on positive things than negative things. I have initially started talking to someone over something I dislike (like music at party), but I never stayed friends solely because we dislike the same things.
not all dogs hump your leg. i've had my dog for 5 years and he never does that, not even to objects. it's because the dog has seen another dog do it, so they mimic it. but we had this other dog for a while, pet sitting it for a family member, and he would literally hump everything, including his pillows, blankets, and anything he got a chance to mount. depends the dog tbh
I don’t believe in letting go. You go through phases In your life and that’s fine but ultimately I always want to look after myself, that’s part of self love and care.
yo i’m 14 n i ‘let myself go’ it’s so dumb that u have to always look fly or put an effort every single day if that’s not for you, if u like that then sure, but don’t be puttin that pressure on other people who jus aren’t made for it. i wear oversized sweatpants, an oversized sweatshirt everyday and a messy bun. i’m comfortable, relaxed and honestly feel gud. adrienne shouldn’t be worried too much bout her appearance, she’s beautiful jus the way she is
I think people bond when they both hate something, because even though the disliked thing might cause negative feelings in both people, they’re expressing something they both have in common. In this way, like is still attracting like.
To let yourself go is to be free! I feel free working out at the gym but I also feel free eating vegan pizza and ice cream at 3am also. It’s about balance. Freedom is choosing what you want and what’s best for you. Let go of stress. Let go of anxieties and things that hold you back. Be yourself and do what makes you feel free. Let yourself go.
I don’t know why these ladies are obsessed with weight. It’s kinda sad especially seeing that there is a bigger girl on the panel. The idea that bigger/ fatter bodies are not worthy of love and affection is simply not true and as a society we need to end that.
I think you can let yourself go or look sharp all the time. Who cares? And if people really care that your hair's unbrushed, that you're wearing an old t-shirt and old faded sweatpants and no makeup you're not letting yourself go, you just don't care what others think. I think that's awesome. I love seeing people out and about dressed to the nines, but I also love seeing people not caring at all because I think that shows an amazing confidence and strength in yourself. I don't judge you if you've got BO or bad breath or your hair's unbrushed because everybody has those days, but also because I love that you're confident enough not to care. Also, I think it's just kinda rude that people hate being around people that have bad breath or BO. You don't know what they're going through, you don't know if they just have a strong smell and they do brush their teeth and they do wear deodorant or even if they don't (wear deodorant at least, not brushing your teeth is pretty gross but if you don't do it I'm not gonna judge, idk your reasons). Idk, I just don't like judging people on the way they look or whatever, it's stupid and annoying.
She needs to be kinder to herself and allow herself to say it’s ok that she gained weight, but not blame it on friends for not pointing it out. It’s her own responsibility to be aware of her self and her own body. Don’t be so hard on yourself, the weight fluctuates overtime and it doesn’t get any easier as you get older. You have to be mindful of your own body and what you put in your body. Gaining weight is not about letting yourself go, that’s what haters label you because you have a happy life and they wanna point out that you’re so happy you’re not worried about your weight. As long as you’re happy, you know what’s happening to your body and you know how to tackle the issue, you shouldn’t let other people’s opinion get into your head. If you’re not happy with the way you look, so something about it, don’t depend on other people. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself, not other people’s opinion.
Aww I know this is probably old but the bond is beautiful! Plus I see it as she wasn't letting herself go she was letting herself be! A was just focusing on taking care of herself in other ways. She always looks bomb Anyway! What u mean?!!
Oh yeah! Some people told me i let myself go. And they weren’t really that close to me. I was going thru some changes and I mostly felt like dressing comfortable and without makeup. Lost some weight and pipl started talking. In Africa, they love more flesh than being skinny. I av to work extra hard to gain bcos its just not my nature. I just felt it was inappropriate for people to come up telling me how i let myself go. N dat I looked more beautiful when they first met me. Its all pressure. Pipl shud allow others to live their lives however they want it. I dnt always feel like dressing all fancy. Just want to be comfortable at times n shud be ok. My choice 🙄. What a world.
I know I'm too young to comment about this but Adrienne it upsets me that you don't feel like your beautiful because ever since Cheetah Girls I've ALWAYS wanted to look like you and sing like you and I still do and I know I'm 15 going on 16 but I've always struggled with my looks and people can tell me I'm beautiful all they but I don't mentally feel like I am but I hope you see your worth and see how beautiful you really are cuz I do. Love you RealGirls❤❤
