The ladies of “The Real” get candid about Instagram filters and dating etiquette. They also speak to an audience member who can’t stop checking out her reflection in the mirror.
That's why I deleted my Instagram. Ever since that day, I've never felt happier and contented. There is really a sense of freedom after leaving Facebook and Instagram permanently.
꧁JEFF꧂ I still have both I just don’t care what people think. I’m 46 and once you hit 40 my friends would always say you won’t care and it is so true. I learned that before 40 too and those that talk about you are not really your friends and why care? Some people do say they feel that freedom like you say. I keep my circle small and they are only people I know trust and want to talk to my family and friends.
Plus I dont care to see your baby everyday. I dont care if Billy pissed you off this morning (people rant on insta about their kids a lot). If we were close enough you would send me pics of your baby or we would hang out and I can see him in person.
But that's the whole point. Look at Kim Kardashian, known worldwide for being beautiful and she has filters and editing all over her posts. Self esteem and confidence is blind. It doesn't care what you look like. It doesn't come from the outside, it comes from within. Doesn't really matter your level of conventional beauty
No instagram, no FB, no twitter. Quit 4 years ago. They have absolutely no control over me. Now I take pictures and frame it. For my family and myself! Best feeling ever. Quit it everyone. They are bringing you down. Whether you realize it or not.
Yep, I quit it but mine was for personal reasons that affected my peace of mind. Plus not wanting others to validate me. Sn: why are people cinching in their waist? Be true to yourself!
I personally do not believe that there’s people “more attractive”. What someone might not like, the next person will! It’s all about preference and everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just facts.
Idk.. I personally feel like some people settle for what they can get when they aren't attractive themselves. They might like a person who isn't considered conventionally attractive, but I think if given the opportunity, they'd jump at it. Call it shallow but humans are visual creatures at the end of the day.
"if you're gonna snatch your waist in make sure the door behind you isn't coming in snatched too" 😂 thank you Adrienne for this very important advice that not enough people follow
I definitely felt a lot better after I left Instagram and Snapchat. I couldn’t take pictures with my actual phone camera for a while. Instagram is toxic.
Instagram is just a place for people to crop out all the sadness. I also think the likes and positive comments can be toxic too. Honestly just because someone liked your photo doesn't mean they truly "like" it. It's sometimes a greed of like for likes which subconsciously makes us post more. People will use social media to gas you up which can make you arrogant rather than humble so you're just constantly trying to impress your followers because you think they have certain expectations of you like you have a fan base or something. It's sad.
Don't even put it out there because you will regret it later. This is your humble nature, which is good. Sure, taking pictures can be fun - but leave it at that. No need to associate yourself and your contribution to society with some selfies. Agree
They were legit having three different conversations about the dating thing. I agree with Adrienne I'm not about to sit up here on a first or second date and say 'I feel fat', 'I don't like my nose' especially in high school, he gon be like wtf
I’m fat depending on the angle I might have a double chin and I still think I’m fine AF sooooooo I can NOT relate. I hate the saying there’s always someone better because there’s no one more attractive than me in my mind. I wish more people felt that way about themselves. It’s #hotgirlsummer get wit it! If you’re reading this girl you’re fine as heck I seee you doing your thing with you’re gorgeous self 😘😘😘😘😘
VANITY is what makes s person to be constantly interested in their reflection, to the extent that other things seem less important. You being attractive does not mean the world needs to stop, conversations end and movement halts .
Thank you Adrienne. Common sense. If you don't like it don't click on it. First it was the magazine and now it's Instagram. What another human being looks like has nothing to do with you. Then when you see someone in person who does look like that in person, now you have a problem.
Okay I’m one of the people who stare at myself in the reflections 🤷🏽♂️. I like the teaching kids proper dating techniques, having a teenager who’s dating we monitor all the dates to teach them how to respect each other. I approve!
Instagram is where you post the “ good side” of your life anyway... but let’s not lie... sometimes we use filters and stuff...I know people who say “ I’m a natural beauty... “ yet most of the time I see them wear makeup 24/7 both in real life and on IG... and it’s like... i feel like if the makeup makes you feel good , do you boo! Same thing with the filters... I’m not gonna judge... do whatever makes you feel good !
Myronn Coleman half the time the people claiming to be “natural beauties” or “rarely wearing make up” do the opposite they always have weaves/ hair extensions filters and make up why not just do you without feeling embarrassed? I don’t wear much make up and therefore often look ‘natural’ but I won’t deny wearing make up often I put on eyeliner nearly 5/7 days of the week. I can do without it as I look almost the same when I don’t put it on but I don’t want that I will wear it and OWN THAT
Lol I love how Jeannie called herself out for looking like a Girl Scout! Life is so much easier when you can make fun of yourself and not take everyone else’s comments so seriously!! Loved this girl chat segment!💝
Mental health is important and Instagram and other editing apps can most definitely effect ones self esteem. Too many of us are relying on filters etc to feel good and out ourselves. There needs to be a balance. Everyone is fighting to be perfect. It’s a fight no one will ever win.
Instagram can make a girl feel like she has to look a "particular way" in order to be pretty. And then they want reassurance that they look pretty, in the form of likes and comments. I struggle with that sometimes to be honest, but I try to remind myself that I'm beautiful, even if I have some flaws, that's what makes me unique and that goes for every other girl
The thing is EVERYONE can look gorgeous with the right make up, right clothes for your body type and skintone etc, filters and all that. The pressure we feel is needing to look that way all the time. That's the problem! I can look awful and I can look gorgeous that ppl can't believe it's me sometimes. It's normal and ok.
THIS IS SOOO TRUE!!! Social Media can really mess with your self/esteem and self-confidence. It’s the first module in my ‘Becoming The One’ course that I tackle, which helps women truly attract and maintain a healthy and loving relationship.
I’ve always been the one to check every reflection I notice of myself ever since I was as young as 5 years old, and my mom has always pointed it out. It used to be because I wanted to make sure I looked presentable, but now it’s because I wanna see how cute I look. The power of building a great self esteem and loving the person you see in the mirror. 🧡
Ahem Adrienne!!! 🤣 She CLEARLY uses a filter like Facetune all the time on IG to snatch up her neck/chin and her post from just the other day was so badly done and you could tell! I cracked up when she said if you're gonna do it, at least be good at it! 🤣🤣🤣
The0nlykaay 01 I think what Crazy Old Bat is trying to say is that Adrienne said “if you’re going to do it, be good at it” and the picture Adrienne posted recently you can easily tell that it was filtered because it was badly done.
@@khayllaaaa9830 It's ironic you said it like that...I think you missed the point but thank for your input. Stephanie Chavez explains it in a way you might better understand.
The one thing I don’t like about the list on how more it veers towards girls and what they should do... it’s so sexist in my opinion... why should girls have to take an extra step to make sure everything smoothly... when it’s the guy who should take the extra step , or even have the same amount of steps to make sure it runs smoothly on both parts... I just don’t find it fair! I like the rules... but it’s too many rules and regulations for the ladies
The problem is that the ONLY values some people have is based on Instagram. Once you leave the spiritually out of your life , all that is left is outside foolishness.
It's still a problem even if their values are not ONLY based on Instagram because the ones that are, are unattainable and that's still depressing, so I just think social media if it's not to learn something or do something meaningful I'm sorry to say that but it's nothing more than a sweet POISON
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I love jeannies explanation about the whole self esteem thing it’s true what she said. And I agree totally 100% about it. You can’t stop posting pics and videos on ig with or without filters just because someone feels bad about themselves whenever they look at it. Cmon! Self esteem is found within yourselves people! Don’t let anyone’s look or posts on ig make u feel bad or less of yourself just because u feel like they look pretty and u don’t . Build your self esteem up, confidence is within yourselves guys.❤️love ya
Alot of people are trying to leave a life that they see on Instagram. It's causing alot of harm than good....you see girls feeling bad just because they don't get them "wig" or clothes or money or car or whatever...how about we all try contentment!!!!! It's okay to be you don't try to impress the world just to get likes and comments... PEOPLE LOVE THY SELF!!! BE HAPPY!
My phone camera ruins my self esteem. In the mirror I look okay, in film photos I look okay but photos taken on a phone camera? My face is a different shape and it makes my nose look even wonkier. It gets me down but then I remember I’ve got a boyfriend that loves me and wouldn’t change a thing about the way I look - wobbly bits and all. I’ve got 89 posts on my Instagram but only TWO are selfies. I try to upload natural beauty - flowers etc... and of course my cats 😂 @jessicaamy145
@Chantaya I don't base my self esteem on "having a man" thank you. I was highlighting that it's one of the things that helps my confidence. I found your comment very patronising.
Listen your Self-Esteem should have NOTHING to do with your Boyfriend loving you. Making it part of why you feel good about yourself is Not a Good Idea. Boyfriends come and go. Be careful. #NotBeingPatronising
Soooooooooo me!!! I get ready and I'm like hold on I cant go out like this I might be the sexist girl to ever walk the Earth. I take my phone , pull out the camera to capture my beauty and then spend the next 10 mins crying about how fuching ugly I am , wipe my makeup off, put my hair in a bun and throw on some sweats 😂😂
I think instagram can cause low self esteem if you let it, but the reality is everything you see on there isn’t always real, people post what they want you to see. I don’t think people should take social media too seriously and should love themselves and not let other people’s post affect their lives.
I try to use Instagram in a healthy way, I dont follow anyone I know nor do I post pictures of myself I just look at things I enjoy and honestly coming across beautiful people motivates me to be a bit healthier, and lose weight (through exercise)
I love myself without filters lol... I don't mind them but they don't define me!! I am very secure in my life and with my body,looks, and mind👏🙏👏🙏 One thing I've learned my whole life is I CONTROL MY EMOTIONS 🤗 THERE IS NOT ONE PERSON IN THIS WORLD THAT CAN HURT MY FEELINGS OR MAKE ME FEEL DIFFERENTLY!!!! I control my mind and how I feel... #livingmybestlifealways To some I may not be perfect and they may think I have flaws.... Can't nobody EVERY TELL ME DIFFERENT ❤ love yourself ladies... always know your worth always.....
I get that someone is going to be seen as prettier than you but to me no one is more beautiful than me in my eyes .....i just learned to love myself to the point of chanting "ain't nobody gonna tell me nothing, am the most beautiful me i know"
You guys made the point of what they said about feeling fat keep it to yourself. On the first date, don't talk down about yourself. Leave that be a later date.
Ladies, let's take a stand today to not feel any type of way when we see somebody better looking than us. It's the reality that someone out there looks better than me. I love me and you should love you too.
Hello random awesome person, just wanted to say I hope you have a blessed day full of joy. You are special, beautiful, and unlike any other. Remember to be your wonderful self because everyone else is taken. 😊
