GIRL CHAT: Self Confidence, Life After Marriage, Moving Away from Family, Marrying Young 

Amanda, your sadness about moving away from your family is valid and a true reflection of how much of a close knit family you are. We all see it in your cooking with baba videos and how you Leena and Loren are more than sisters, you’re best friends. I admire that so much. I lost my baba 3 months ago and I always wish I spent more time with him, there is just never enough time. Please send a prayer to my dad 🙏 May Allah keep you and your loved ones safe.

I felt the exact same way when I got married. I moved to Dubai to start my life with my husband 16 years ago. It was hard moving across the globe. No family no friends and it was the most difficult time for me. But I had my husband alhamdulilah and we did everything together. Travelled to places I never imagined. You'll get used to your new life. Just make the best of it.

DO NOT SHARE where you’re going until AFTER your return.

Amanda, one way to get help outside of God. Seek therapy. Start early. Start NOW it’s a good way to get ahead of the sadness, homesickness, and possible depression. You will be ok. It is very hard in the beginning, but I promise it gets easier. Good luck and congratulations on your new journey. Welcome to the married girls club, we welcome you. I just celebrated 4 years on 6/2.💕🥂🌸

Interior designer here - I think when people warn you about white couches with kids it’s because most people aren’t in the position to be buying multiple couches over the span of a few years, so they need a material that will withstand for when they have kids. And also your niece! Just another perspective :)

hey Amanda! i just wanted to say that i feel the exact same way about God preparing me to move away from my family. 3 years ago when i got married i moved 6 hours away and it was very difficult for me, but thankfully i was able to visit often and even spent quarantine at my hometown, and now that i have gotten used to my life kinda away from them i am preparing to move to the US (a 7h+ plane ride from home) even though the initial plan was to move back to my hometown with my husband this summer, but God decided otherwise subhanAllah ♥️ so yeah even though it's very challenging (and i do cry when i think about it) i somehow feel more prepared than when i moved 3 years ago. God is the best Planner and He always gives us what we need and what is good for us 🙏 may Allah bless you and give you strength 🤲

Alhamdulillaah ❤ I got married when I was 20 and this year I'll be 41. I say getting married young is a good thing as long as you're having a healthy relationship with your husband. I also try to have a healthy relationship with my parents (I'm only child). I feel like I made the right decision by getting married early.

Hi Amanda you will be grand. It's normal to feel homesick when you move away from your family. You have a beautiful family and I'm sure they will visit you. You can also visit them. I do remember when I moved to London in the eighties from Ireland I was very homesick. I used to call my Mam a lot. Now there's facetime and video calls so much better. It will be like a new adventure for you Amanda. You will have Mohammed and everything will work out for you xx

Salaam Amanda. First of all , I’m so happy to hear about your marriage. Second, I can relate to you so much. I lived in Dallas and then San Antonio for a while also. I moved almost a year ago to Chicago after I got married. The adjustment of a brand new life and location has been hard on me, but I have a very comforting husband Alhamdullilah. I hope Allah makes this transition easy for you ❤️❤️❤️ hang in there and look towards all the blessings to come.

Eid Mubarak everyone

Oh Amanda! Seeing you get emotional made me emotional and now I miss my family. I moved to Denver from San Diego when I got married. Like you said it’s normal to be home sick I literally talk to my family for hours everyday. Sending you a virtual hug❤️❤️❤️

Drar Amanda, this is the first time I,m writing to you,but I just had to. I,m a mother of to grown up Girls(25 and 30). The,re both doing fine now. It is always bit diffcult in the begining. A young man can not fill your sisters place ,so keep in contact by phone, and give Mohamed some time. You,re such wise and warmhearted person, everything will be fine for you. Eid Mubarak from Nordahl ,from Shahiroz.

Amanda, you're such a beautiful, sensible and mature young lady, Masha'Allah. Yes it's very difficult to move away after one is married but like you said, Allah is the best of all planners so He will do what is best for you and Mohammad, In Sha'Allah. Also remember, we are all here for you too, your RU-vid family ❤🤲🏽🤗🥰. Stay blessed Amanda 💞🌸⭐

Dear Amanda, I moved with my husband far away from our familys because of his job. Same like you. I was scared too and can‘t imagine how it will gets. I don‘t know if this helps you, but after three years of marriage I can say it was beautiful like it was and my husband and I used the time to get to know each other and go through everything together. We drive to our familys monthly and we enjoy the time with them even more. You are right, Allah never put us to something we can‘t bother with. I wish your marriage blessing and that the time will get full of love and happines inshaAllah. Love from Germany 💕

Hated my 20s loved every bit of my 30s! Now looking forward to my 40s!!

Amanda you're such an optimistic and sensible young lady. Every emotion you're through is very normal and understandable. Allah paired You and Muhammad so you can have a beautiful life together 💝

I moved about 6km from my parents away after wedding. 6km. That's 20 minutes with the car. And it was so hard the first time, because I was so used seeing them anytime every day. I totally understand you. Luckily my husband fully understood me, even when the distance wasn't much. It's the feeling of being home I was grieving about. But everything came out right. Like always.

"It's okay if things take a little bit longer for you to figure out, and it's okay if they don’t pan out how you expected them to." Well, that's just gold✨

A man can fill the void of the distance from your family by being “your family” and husband in one.

I love you, Amanda. You're just absolutely genuine and I appreciate it so much. Praying for many blessings for you and your new journey.

You made me cray too, I'm 100% sure your family feels the same I'm a mom of 3 all married and my house is very empty I cry myself to sleep because we are all very close, but you will adjust and thanks god for face times. I wish you best of luck on your wedding,your house and your honeymoon.

My advice don’t wait too long to have a baby, from experience do it younger it’s easier , once you hit your 30s and after it’s hard physically and emotionally to take care of babies .

I got married really young at 22 and I wish I had waited a little because I was too immature in my vision of life x I think ur such a beautiful person and love ur honesty.. Ur love for your family is so sweet and I can totally relate x u will be an amazing wife and mother as and when it happens x I waited 4 years after marriage to have my first x lots of love from England ❤️❤️❤️

I think you are absolutely mature young lady. You will be excellent wife inshallah. I got married extremely young 18 and had a baby 19. I feel like I wasn’t even mature yet when I got married. Allamdillah all is well.

Hey Amanda! So glad you spoke about this! I’m getting married in November and will be moving a minute away from my parents, and I feel the anxiety as I’m an only child, but yes it all gets better with time. It’s just a phase we need to experience, a beautiful one💞. All the best for your upcoming wedding!! Looking forward to the wedding content 🤍.

Italy 🇮🇹🏖🍝🍕 for your honeymoon I think :)

Thanks for the last nugget of advice! I'm about to graduate in December and have been feeling this pressure to have my life figured out 🙃. It's good to know I don't have to and I can learn as I go!

Hi amanda happy Eid adha love you from Algeria 🇩🇿❤️

Girl chats are my favorite videos of yours :) Thank you Amanda :)

Loved this video! I moved 40minutes away from my parents and in my first year of marriage I was SUPER emotional (although I could go and visit whenever)! You’ll get through this In Sha Allah 🙌🏽

I'm not Arab, but also from a culture that also gets married fairly young (21). It was definitely the right call, but we also did decide to wait a *decade* before we had a child, and I'm really glad we did that. So you should wait as long as you want before having children!

I know the feeling about moving out I had that hit me really hard when I got to the church for the service I couldn’t stop crying but as soon as your honeymoon starts and you know that you can always go home and visit and they can always come to your home and visit becomes easier

Thank you for this girl chat Amanda ❤️ love these

Amanda, I can tell your the glue of the family, its hard because its a role you are used to, but moving away will help you find yourself, and you will find a new role, you will grow and blossom beautifully inshallah. Having anxiety is normal, journaling really helps to process and regulate emotions this will help with new changes.Dont worry about content , just be your authentic self...we love the simple things you do...its relatable. May Allah bless your new journey, help you adapt and prosper. Girl you can do it!!!🤲🏻💓

I feel the same way. I recently moved to a new city alone for work and I’ve always felt that I’m the only one feeling nostalgic and attached to my family. As if there’s something wrong with me 😔 so I totally feel you

Amanda: *orders a peach iced tea* Me: *immediately opens Uber and orders a peach iced tea* I have no self control. 😂

Moving away isn't easy - it was the little things that used to get to me when I left home (the way the street signs look different, the feel of the neighbourhoods). You seem like such a strong and genuine person so while it may be difficult at first, inshAllah you will find your footing. And it doesn't matter how long its been, you're always allowed to miss your family and your home.

Amanda I think it's good to have yourself a new life, a new adventure, a new journey, maybe you're just feeling nostalgic however you can travel and visit them. I wish you all the best experiencing a new life.

I moved away from my family when I got married as well and I wasn't emotionally prepared for it. I hadn't given it much thought before I actually moved, I figured I'd cope just fine and I knew my husband so well and felt so comfortable so there was no reason to worry. But it actually hit me so hard. So it's great that you're anticipating it, preparing for it and communicating it with your husband! I think you're on the right track to making this a smooth transition inshallah. Wish you all the best ❤️

About to watch the vid but just wanted to say HAPPPYYYYYY BIRTHHHDDDDAAAAYYYYYYYY♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖♥️💖 May Allah SWT bless you with all that your heart desires and may you have an incredible birthday 🥰🥰🥰

أنا تعبت وذهبت إلى المشفى وعملت سونار طلعت حامل بكيس حمل ونطفه بدوووون وجود زوج من البشر لكن من ملائكة الإنجاب يبعثون الحيوانات المنويه والنطف الى أن يحصل الحمل.....سبحان الله....وصرف لي علاج أو دواء لتنظيف الرحم.....لكن هرمون الحمل باقي بالجسد وأنا متعبه من هرمون الحمل.....أم المنذر السعوديه......

تواصلت مع امريكيه من غيركم وتم التواصل ولم يكن بي علم أنها متزوجه وبعدها انقطعت عن متابعتها وبعد كذا شهر حاولت أتابعها وفجاتني بحملها وهي الآن باشهرها الأخيره من الحمل وحملت بولد....سبحان الله......وممكن تحملين أنت واختك بولد في وقت واحد او العكس لأن فيه أخوات عراقيات كنت اتابعهن بعد كذه حملن في وقت واحد اثنتين حملن بولد واحده حملت ببنت.....قل الحمدلله رب العالمين ....سبحان الله......واكثررررري من الاستغفار وتلاوة القرآن......

Dear Amanda seeing you get emotional made me emotional God is great don't worry his plans are better than ours 🤗

Hi Amanda, I truly feel your emotions. I am in the same situation as you and I am very close to my family. For the moment I am so close that I can’t move on with my life. ♥️ I love them so much . Sending you the best wishes from Paris. Nassima

I wouldn't say "God wouldn't put you through something unless it's the best for you." Some people are put through very difficult tests in life and it's not the best for us. Losing our loved ones forever and being depressed without them 24/7 is so difficult... it's a test but it definitely wasn't the best for us 💔💔

Girl I feel the same way. I’m moving from the south to the north east this fall for school iA. I was traveling once a month for work for the last few months, and I feel like it was Allah’s way of helping me and my mom get used to being a part. SubhanAllah. Sending best wishes to everyone on their journeys in this comment section ❤️

Please be carefull that Amandaasad811 user... This user is fake and please get control your comments dear REAL AMANDA...😥

Amanda I feel you. I moved 8hrs away, it is hard. But you will grow stronger inshallah. It really helps to plan future quality time with family so you know you’re seeing them soon. ❤️

After 1 year of marriage, I can say it definitely is both hard and easy. At the start, I cried at the absence of my mama’s love in my home. But I was also so excited to live life with my husband. I hope you don’t feel alone in these feelings. The transition is such a huge one, but gets easier! You will become even closer to your husband than ever before, and slowly that feeling of comfort that your family brings to your heart - your marriage will start to feel similar. You will have 2 families: you and your husband, and the one with your parents & siblings. ❤️

I moved states after marriage and while it’s tough to be away from your own family, trust Allah! He knows what’s best for you 💕

It's so good to feel that you're not alone... Amanda being so honest about her concerns, and sharing them with people,that's so amazing.. I felt much better after watching this vlog!💕🌸

You're in your mid twenties hun "p Still young and you are right about being in the present moment and enjoying the stage in life that you're currently in... Wish you all the best!

Wish you the best in your new life! 😍

Can't wait to see where your going for your honeymoon !!🧡🧡It's normal that your homesick, everyone get sad to leave their families but your starting a new chapter of your lives and you get sad and excited, I've seen many of my relatives (and my family) they live like literally oceans/seas apart and only get to see each other once a year💔. Loved The Girl Chat💗💗Can't Wait for your Wedding 💕🤍🤍💕

I moved a continent away and yes things are not easy and there will be an adjustment period but the more things you have going on for yourself the easier it will get.

I know its tough habibi sending you love and making dua for you...it always tough starting a new journey ❤️ but inshallah you will see all the sacrifice and effort is worth it Inshallah 🙏🙏🙏

I absolutely adore your girl chat videos Amanda😍 thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your thoughts and feelings🙏🏻❤❤

إن شاءالله بتحملي بالبيبي لاتبكي......

You should be grateful that you have a close relationship with your family that leaving them makes you emotional…cherish them and remember not everyone is lucky like you..for some girls the idea of leaving their family is what motivates them to marry cause not everyone is blessed with good siblings and Parents .

awww sis I moved from chicago to Michigan. I feel this so much! I know this may not help but it gets better!

That was very friendy video...Please don't cry , be happy always...Greetings from İstanbul,Turkey❣

Eid Mubarak Amanda!! 💖💖

Thus vlog is so relateable and wow I love this

I also married and moved 5-6 hours away from my family. The best advice is not to hide your emotions and talk with your husband about what you are missing. Believe me, husbands are the best crying shoulder. 😄It is challenging, but honestly period before the wedding when you are overthinking everything is way more challenging (I would never go back to that 😂). You will get used to having your own place pretty quickly and you will feel like you belong there. You will even miss your house and routine when you go back to visit your family.

Hi amanda.what you're going through is absolutely normal. Inshallah everything would go as u plan .. where is my invitation. Jk..love ya habibty

I appreciate your honesty!!!

Youre not marrying yough..

I love to see you talking so much. There is much to learn from you. I dont know why but I feel so connected to you. Maybe we are the same age or its just I adore your persona. well. Thanks for the good 18 min. Best wishes for the wedding!

My parents and family are across the Atlantic Ocean. I live in the US. My family is in turkey. Makes me wish they lived at least a few hours away by car so I can drive up to them every few months or weeks. 😓🥺

Hi Amanda I'm a huge fan African lady from South Africa , i love you and your family such a beautiful family, would you like to have a vlog of your entire family telling us how do they feel about you getting married and moving away to a different state, thank you 🙏🙏

From down under here - I googled San Antonio to Dallas and it’s a 3 hour drive, is this correct or have I got the wrong address in my maps?

Yes Amanda no one notices so just be yourself and appreciate your body and focus on your good health and good mindset Amanda that gym sounds to crowded I use to be a gym girl too once but now I’m enjoying my exercise at home I follow the exercises on you tube I don’t want to go to the gym anymore I love the on line exercises the walking exercises are spectacular 💛

Your absolutely stunning ❤️ Eid Mubarak

I crieeed watching you talk about moving i mived from egypt to usa after getting married 4 years now and i still didn’t get used to it

I can totally relate with the getting married and feeling like you missed out on life especially with children. Everything has been put on hold because I moved away from my family and have no support for me or my kids.

I honestly appreciate these type of videos because I don’t have a sister…..it really does give me some sense of comfort lol….wishin u the best besides that….may Allah make your transition to marriage life easier and beautiful Insha’Allah x

Amanda, I appreciate your honesty so much. Getting married is beautiful and exciting but there can be so many unexpected things, like your move to San Antonio, that can make this life stage feel so bitter sweet. I appreciate your realness about this. 💕💕💕 sending you duaas for every next step!

Hi amanda I'm from srilanka I'm a women pls can you give me visa to come america becose work?

I made my husband move to my state. He moved from CT to NJ. I told him am not moving away from my family.

Awww love you Amanda❤❤ you are so right that Allah knows best and inshaAllah everything will be easy for you ❤❤

Girl you will absolutely miss your family and you will feel homesick even in your own home sometimes. However, with time, your fiancé will become your home and comfort place more so. Everything will be okay 🖤

Hey Amanda. I totally understand what you’re going through, and am not going to lie, for a while it’s going to be hard. Think about women like us who’ve moved to a different country ☹️ but let me tell you, it’s definitely going to get easier and you’ll get busy with your life I swearrrrrrr. I hope it’s going to be amazing in sha Allah. Lots of hugs for you 🤗

Here I am moving to another continent where I know nobody all alone. He he. Good luck for me)

I went through the same thing!! I think you are fortunate that your job allows you to work from home or from anywhere, giving you the freedom to travel and visit them more often than if you had an office job. I also work from home and live far from family and the best way to address it has been to travel to see them even if just for a weekend! I try not to let too much time go by in between visits. I know when one gets married, we build a new family of our own but I’m close with my mom dad and siblings as well and if it doesn’t cause to much trouble, visiting them as often as possible might be something to think about! I live about 5 hours away from them as well. I try to visit every other month…. If I find cheap flights! I’d wait longer when flights are more expensive

You have no idea how much you’re loved Amanda♥️!!

You made me cry with the moving away part. I'm not married or anything but the thought of living far away from my family is so hard to digest. And I always wonder how do people do it.

I love you and your channel so much! Also how do you make your intro?

Maldives ur honeymoon destination!!!!! Am I right am I right ??🤓🤣🤣

Can you do He's a 10 trend thing with loren and leena?

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” -Tony Robbins

Awww Amanda! Here’s a virtual hug 🫂 thank you for being so honest and pure about this! Ya made me cry girl lol!! Although we love our husbands lol, it can be hard sometimes. Julia Havens posted a vlog about 2 years ago opening up about her feelings, and she talked about being faraway from family, and it made me feel so normal/better too lol! So thank you for talking about that! I’m so excited for your wedding, new house, and everything! Thank you for the amazing content always, and for being a real one! 🤍

Would you consider visiting Turkey? I think you would love it here 💐

You guys are probably going to Greece🙈

Love you Amanda 💜💜💜💌💫

Amanda adventure I have no idea where you going for honeymoon

Do you think about wearing the hijab one day? Or not?

Thank you for the advice it really helped. Much love❤️❤️❤️

I needed that pep talk at the end when you spoke about your early twenties ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Girl I am almost 40 year old and moved away from my family over 10 years ago and I still find it very hard to deal with. InshaAllah May Allah make it easy for you

Believe me when I say I've been waiting for this vid all week! Can't wait to watch, please make this a series Amanda! My advice is to try and have some time where you don't think or talk about the wedding and house to anyone. Maybe some content that is fun for you to do and completely unrelated to either of those things. We would still watch!!