Last birthday party our kids went to was around Christmas. We filled Stockings at Dollar Tree. All the kids had a blast. I'm not keeping up with the Jones.
for real my mom got all my party decorations and appliances from there,also she got cups and we made milk shakes with ice cream and cookies at home and it was the best
I'm sorry, a cover charge for a kids bday party???are you kidding me? If you can't afford it then dont have it. Simple. Your child just doesn't get to have a bday party that year. No one should have to foot the bill for your extravagance. I think it's a hustle b/c I dont know what the money is going toward. I didn't ask to be invited to your bday party....if that's the case, my kids are not attending.
@@ayanomar1408 that is acceptable. I'm not opposed to the idea of helping out, but a cover charge is ridiculous. Why have a $600 party if you can only afford a $50.00 one? Like Loni said, what happens if you have multiple kids? It's an issue of ego...
exactly! if I had kids they wouldn't be attending either! I was curious tho about something. not only do you have to pay a "cover charge", (by using that term shows this is a mom who has seen the inside of a club or two. lol!! why not call it a ticket price? passport to fun fee. something that's more kid friendly, but I digress.) but you also have to buy TWO gifts for these twins!!! this mom is getting over big time! so if you do the math and you are a parent with 3 kids all a year apart they would be attending this party. that's $30 + 2 gifts @$25 each = $80 total and you have no idea what the value is of this "gift" that your kids will get when they leave the party. I bet it will be a bunch of crap from those $1 bins @ Target. HA!
Candis it aint worth it, with my daughter I decided to make it about the family, every year on her birthday we go to a small weekend getaway to a place she loves that is 2 hours a drive away, in one stone me and her dad get to enjoy her birthday more and she gets a change of scenery, the day will come when she will be old enough to ask for her own party albut till then family party it is.
Right? Like...what kind of kid's birthday party is $600? Or, since they're twins, $300? I have literally never in my life spent that on my birthday. Hell, that's an expensive vacation, $300 a day. I went to Disney World for less than that a day. Catering for my wedding was less than 600.
Chelsea Sanders I’m fairly certain this was a story in the UK and she said in an interview they asked for no gifts, just help paying for the party. She also said they would get a party bag at the end with a gift inside.
Chelsea Sanders party bags in the UK usually have a slice of the birthday cake, a small packet of sweets and maybe a small (£1) toy. The lady was suggesting there would be a better gift in their party bags due to the “cover charge”...but ok, thanks
@Lizbeth Torres The woman I'm referring to had twins but in different classes, so had 60+ kids to invite = very expensive birthday party. Most parents feel pressure to put on the best party and don't want their children to have to choose between their classmates. If you don't agree with it, then don't do it / attend those parties. But don't judge other people. She wasn't making a profit from it. Most parties I've been to as an adult ask people to bring something - food, drink or a contribution. Maybe instilling that expectation at an earlier age isn't a bad thing.
I agree with Loni. They just don’t need a party this year if they can’t afford it. It’s nothing wrong with having an intimate dinner at home with family, going out to eat, or doing something like McDonald’s take out and make a pallet on the floor and singing Happy Birthday.
I never understood why some parents go all out for their children's birthday parties. It's a waste of money imo. If you want to do something expensive and fun, how about taking your kid to an amusement/water park instead?
If you don't have cash! Don't think about birthday party, take the kid to Mc Donalds ,get a burger and a slice of cake!! When you can afford it, give the kid a big great party! ! Meaning save beforehand! !
They left out so much important info.. it was ten dollars in place of brining a present. Your all spend atleast ten dollars on a gift. The kids have special needs and can't play with alot of toys, and they don't have a close circle of friends for the same reason. This was a great deal. Don't have to go out for a gift and wrap it, your kid has a good time, and gets their own little gift.
That's what I was thinking... Because where I'm from you don't go to a b-day party (as a kid or as an adult) without a gift. Is that not common in the US?
@@ramo4474 I mean, I was poor af as a kid. I never had parties (well the kind where your friends come over), partially because I'm a Christmas baby, but also because there was literally no extra money. None. Every gift I ever gave at a friend's party was regifting something I had. I mean, I'm in better shape now. I can afford to get nice, personalized gifts for all my friends and my family and I spoil my nephews rotten. But the truth is, I would NEVER judge someone for not giving a gift, and I legitimately believe that kids shouldn't be expected to give gifts like that. I hate pretty much any sense of "supposed to gift". Why teach our kids to expect other people to buy for them anyways? Just such a consumer culture.
lol because what is she talking about. The girlfriend wont be renting one of the rooms in the house, she'd be sleeping in the room with him. wth! If the guy wanted to rent rooms then she's not obstructing that.... lol that was so funny!
She's not confused. I think she just has different standards. Nothing wrong with that. I don't think she's really ignorant about these type of situations. I think it's her way of approaching a talking point. I think she raises interesting points too.
A family member lost their home and they had to stay with my family for a while, we didnt charge rent but it would have been nice to help pitch in. It really got uncomfortable when they took advantage of the situation, for example, they would use up the light, electricity bill. At that time, it would've be really helpful if they help pay the bills but they didnt and they didnt even consider helping. So if you are staying with someone or someone is staying with you, you should 100% chip in 🤷🏿♀️
A cousin's friend stayed with us for a while while she got back up, we didn't charged her rent, but she helped with the chores and when she fpund a job, she started pitching in with the groceries (it wasn't expected from us, but we were grateful for the help)
Yeah, living with someone is one of the most difficult things you have to do. People are so very different, they have different habits, values, whatever.
Tam reminded me of Tia when she said moms want to outdo the other moms 😂 just have the party on the cheap and only invite their actual friends. I had more fun at pizza and sleepover parties anyway.
I am NOT paying for a kid to attend a party of any kind! Why is it MY responsibility to pay for your kid's party??? Find a more cost effective party (as Tamara suggested) that fits within your budget or tell your twins they will not have the party of their dreams. Kids are resilient. They will bounce back no problem from disappointment. Give it to them like this: We can have the party you want or you can have the gifts you want. Go to a restaurant for a slice of cake they can share! There are so many ways to host a party w/o obligating your guests to chip in. The same goes for open bars at weddings! Don't even get me started about how this is so tacky. Why should I have to pay for my drink???
Born and raised in Puerto Rico but now living in Florida, I cannot thank Adrienne enough for helping Puerto Rico after the disastrous hurricane Maria, all my love to her ❤️❤️❤️
I have a cousin who includes a list of gifts on her daughter's birthday invitations. You MUST purchase one of the gifts on the list or you are not allowed to attend...Now that's Real Bogus!!!!
Maybe this lady had kids that attend one of those schools that forces you to invite the whole class. This could be the womans way of ensuring most of the kids DON'T come?!?
If you’re grown living in my house you pay rent girl!!! And if you’re asking for money instead of a gift I see no problem there. It’s benefiting your kid more than the gift bc you’re paying for your child’s experience! +there’s no shade about any presents someone might bring
they did talk about this. (9:08) the question started off by saying HE was buying a house. not THEY were buying a house. so if HE is buying the house it is his house in his name bc if they were both going in on the house it wouldn't be rent it would be a mortgage and this wouldn't be question. if you are both signing a mortgage you are both responsible. if your name is on something you are a responsible party and need to pay towards that investment.
Candis I am sorry I felt dump posting this before finishing the video, but like you said If the GF is not paying towards mortgage imagine they breakup and he boots her to the street? 😭😅 girl keep your place🗣
Bobby Brown usually when they are married and both bought the place together but if she is just the girlfriend, even with kids he can tell her to leave
Yeah that's some bs in my humble opinion and for the question isnt whether or not she should pay rent it's why are you buying a house without her? If you are at a point in life where you are capable of purchasing a house and you are in a relationship in which you are ready to move in together then why cant they purchase the house together? Cause there ain't no way in hell I'm moving into a boyfriend's house and paying rent I just think that's an odd dynamic, we can buy the house together and split the mortgage or I'm keeping my place cause why should you be helping him buy a house and you aren't reaping any of the benefits? You are just a tenant basically that he can kick out and then you have nothing.
Single and disabled mother of 5 and I just made it a tradition to get streamers and balloons from the dollar store and decorate the house as they sleep and I buy it bake a cake, and cook them their favorite meal and we celebrate by ourselves. When I have the extra money I’ll invite a few friends or just spend it on an extra gifts. The years I have been able to coordinate a bigger party they really appreciate it but when I can’t they still look forward to waking up to the decorations and their siblings making the day special.
sticking to the question, “i am buying a house and my girlfriend is moving in with me, should i charge her rent?” he didnt say fiance or wife. if “i” decide that i want to buy a home (for myself) and i have a boy/girlfriend, it is not their responsibility to pay rent. they didnt ask for me to buy a home. they can either choose to remain where they are (living with their family/roommates, etc) or move in with me, whichever they feel comfortable with. however, if they make the choice to move into my home then yes, they should contribute sharing utility bills. there are living there after all.
Victoria Johnson the guy purchasing the house is fully aware of the mortage that would come with it, so there is an awareness of being able to have the income to afford it alone. she also doesnt have to move in, thats just an option presented:)
LuisLuxe I think the average person expects contribution from the other person like unless you’re Kylie Jenner rich and not worried about that but it says a lot about someone who expects to live rent free.
@@LuisLuxe and to add to that my name is not on your mortgage but I(whoever) will help with bills but making it compulsory to pay rent especially if the other couple has their own space and paying rent there too is just too much.
it is totally about competition ! my 5yo daughter was invited to a Bday party....the theme was "Disney Princesses", and there were 10 Princess stations with full cake and theme related deco, full dressed comedians dressed as Princesses and the Mom was also in a full "Princess gown, makeup and hair. That was a lot !
I like Jeannie's story. If you can afford to have a full party then ask your kid to pick 5 friends to hangout with you don't need the big shebang if you can't afford it. Live within your means.
I don't believe in playing with animals like that. They have a life of their own and humans keep acting like they are objects or tools. These animals are no different from us. Respect them! We often talk about having animal issues or needing animal control... my gosh really? we need human control!
I was thinking the same thing too!!! That poor alligator having some strange woman's feet touching its head. That was such a weird thing to do and inhumane. For some reason we tend to think bc the animal doesn't have fur it's okay to treat it less than. They know they wouldn't do that with a kitten. The optics would be weird on camera.
Love dont pay bills tf😂😂🤨 and also I'm not paying for a kids birthday party if the kids never hung out I don't know the parents and/or my kids doesn't feel comfortable going. Kids parties should be basic especially if they little they like they said only care about sugar and games
why don't you believe she had to split a burger? why would that be a lie? she grew up broke in the projects. I don't find that hard to believe. (I also wonder if you can still have a birthday party at McDonald's.)
@@CC-si3cr no worries it was a friendly/shady joke . it just went over your head and thats okay lol ☺ & a mc donalds party might be cool if they had more healthy options for the little ones but in my experience they seem to like those nuggets lol 😆
@@CC-si3cr I agree about splitting the burger but......broke in the projects? hahahaha...stop it, talking about the lower east side like it's east new york. give me a break. 🙄😂😂😂😂
I never had birthday parties because we didn’t have money. If you can’t afford it, don’t have it. You’re kid should understand and be okay with that. I never complained
Wait how did they know? Like if you talked to your friends out of school they wouldn’t know if you said “then no of the kids are coming to the party” they wouldn’t really know unless they showed up? I’m not being rude I’m just genuinely curious how this works bc I didn’t know that was a thing?
Growing up my mom used to wait on Christmas on tough years I remember she sat us down and just told my brother what was going on I was really little so she told me Santa's sleigh broke down so shes just gunna wait to do Christmas till he fixed it and she would wait until income tax and then we would have our Christmas when you have kids you do what you gotta do
Adrienne adds all this extra stuff to the topic to fit her point of view 😂 if you have a significant other living with you, yes split the bills but paying "rent" is a whole separate charge from utilities. Tf. I'm with tamera.
My mom would buy box cake mix and get real creative with the icing. That’s like a $10 cake MAX and we would reuse the candles every year lol. Then whoever was coming would bring food as well and we would pig out for my bday parties with all of our friends.
No no no no.... just because you contribute something doesn't mean you are "part owner"... if your name isn't on that paperwork you are a tenant... period... that's called doing your part and being an adult.
If you can't afford the birthday you don't have it. Period. Kids need to understand money doesn't grow on trees. Charging for a party is tacky and guaranteed to offend people you don't need to. Throw a party in the park, make your cake and plan for games. If the kid is older have them invite 1 or 2 of their best friends. Come on now.
I made my son's cake and bought a hotwheel car for the top when my husband wasn't making as much as he used to and we just had a baby and I did a dbl bday with my niece and daughter and again I made the cupcakes and they looked like ice cream cones because it was cheaper and my babies first bday was at a park with a splash pad. My husband had lost his job right before I gave birth so our savings was low and just had to work in a budget to get back to where we were and thankfully we are doing better than ever now
Don’t have a celebration you can’t afford You gave literally 1 full yr to prep If you don’t have enough money to just spend as /when you want then put maybe 30 dollars a side every month so yeah by the time you get to the bday ,you will have a pot of cash to throw into the celebration But don’t ask guests to pay for you to be able to treat your child to a bday
I had to pay 20 bucks for a party last week . I’ve never heard of that before I was confused. Edit : it didn’t think it was that big of a deal . They are my best friend please don’t be rude about it . Edit again because you guys aren’t reading this right . They had dinner at home then we went to a trampoline park where we had to pay to get in . We didn’t have to pay for dinner
My family always just goes out to eat on everyone’s birthday. We save up for it and whoever’s birthday it is picks where. We as kids were never really into parties lol
I wouldn’t charge a significant other rent to live in my house. If we broke up, it wouldn’t be fair to keep the money that they also invested into the house. If I couldn’t afford to pay the mortgage on my income alone then I shouldn’t had bought the house to start with.
How.... How does the school have any power over how you wanna celebrate your b-day? So If I have 3 bffs that live down the street and have known them since we were in diapers, I can't invite only them because we go to the same school? What?
What happened when it was the norm to bring a gift to a Child's Birthday Party? My Daughter's Teacher asked that each child bring $1.00 and my daughter had $40 at the end of the day!
If she’s living there she should be helping pay utilities. I don’t think she should be paying towards the mortgage because IK I wouldn’t want to be putting money towards buying the house if I’m not married and 100% staying in his life.
Maddie Schmidt but if you’re renting an apartment from a landlord you’re paying towards their mortgage too and your not owning anything, one wouldn’t be paying to own but as a grown adult you’d just be paying to live in a space. Owning doesn’t mean it’s free
I just love all these people saying the cover charge of $10 is too much or unnecessary or whatever so a kid can have a birthday, yet they will buy plane tickets, hotels, new dress/suit, gift, and drinks (if it's a cash bar) for a friend's wedding.
I never had a birthday party as a kid, but it meant a hell of a lot to me that my grandma made me a birthday cake. Last year my cousins kids wanted to share my party with so we had unicorn pokemon picnic and I don't think it cost more $20 but it was the best day ever.
First of all it’s a headache getting invited to a party personally I hate going to birthday parties so to ask for money on top of that no thanks we not going be happy ppl show up 🙄
I have 2 girls 5 & 6, my husband & I don't have big families. Their birthdays are right after Christmas so we're always cut short on money.But we have a day of going out, whatever they want to do. We go to birthday breakfast, a movie or something & then in the evening we have cake,dinner & presents with the little family we have. Kids will remember those humbling get togethers to celebrate them. As long as they feel loved on their special day who cares.
I grew up with a single mom who was sick and had very little money , we made the cake ourselves and my mom talked to the parents and asked them if they could like bring some soda or the hotdogs or the buns and everyone came together for a big picnic and we had the time of our lives. And I didn’t get any gifts from the other children but a few small things from my family and that was more than enough. I loved every picnic birthday! I remember alot of my friends were from the middle east or different parts of Africa and they would always bring these huge delicious meals and we would sing and dance! I do remember tho one time, my best friend was from Ethiopia and she gave me a traditional two piece with a top and a beautiful skirt and I still have it at home! No need for a big party :)
If my BF asked me to move in to his current apartment/house (or vise versa) I would 100% split utilities, internet, groceries, etc. but I wouldn't pay toward the mortgage or rent. If he asked me to move into a new place with him together as a couple I would contribute to rent also. My boyfriend and I live together currently but we chose to move into a new place together (apartment) and about half a year later bought a house. We split everything 50/50 until we get married and combine finances. Although we only rented for a short time I'm glad we did to know if we could be happy living together! Def. not a waste of money IMO. We have been together 5.5 years (living together 1.5 years now).
@Daniel St. Juste thank-you we try our best ^_^ open communication is key. No fighting happens and I am so glad we have that great communication. I was in past relationships that were NOTHING like this! so much easier when you know exactly what is going on and what to expect haha. It will be interesting to combine finances one day which will open a path of communicating our intentions and goals in life more precisely (he is into cars, I am into farming/homesteading). We keep a very strict budget and that allows us to have "fun guilt free" money to spend on what we love... even if the other person doesnt share the same passion hahaha
what we usually do is you get ten birthday invites for the day before your birthday for a party thats it thats your big party your birthday is movies and ice cream and you can invite who you want its for 2 hours but all we are getting is sundaes and can invite whoever you want
You can get a boxed cake mix and a can of frosting, a few bags of chips, some 2 liters, and some oven pizzas or make some spaghetti. Get a pack of construction paper and crayons and let the kids make their own party hats, put on a movie and some popcorn. Boom. Party for less than $50.
My birthday parties (at home) were always the best, but my mom just baked a cake and bought some juice n some candy and we still had fun. My friends were dope tho so that helps.
A child doesn't need their whole class to attend their party just their close friends. There's no need to to spend 600 dollars on a birthday party if you don't gave it and still have s wonderful birthday. Adrienne is so not in touch with hard it is for some to pay 10 dollars for a party.
I agree. Some schools have that rule where you have to invite the WHOLE class. So if my child has to invite everyone even the kids that they don’t like, y’all gotta pay tf up. Especially if there’s a kid that picks on them, yea ima need that $10. I understand what loni is saying, but people are ultra sensitive these days and they’re not teaching their kids that everyone isn’t gonna be your friend and that’s ok.
i mean like my mom had money when i was little but if she didn’t it would be so bad. she didn’t have much family in america and it would be really sad because she would have to end up asking a co worker or something.
