Olivia Ofc not everyone chooses to be depressed. But happiness does come within. No one else can make you happy and take you out that mental state but you. You can get help, and pray to the lord . But ultimately it’s up to you to make that choice. Depression can cause depression. It’s really sad
That’s not entirely true, it’s a thin line where there’s some people that claim depression but in reality they sit around in mood all day just waiting for someone to ask them “what’s wrong?” 🤷🏾♂️
Ang V I never said you wasn’t joyful and that’s great for you honestly. Okay let me explain again. Happiness comes from within . No one else can make you happy but you. I am aware there are different types of depression. But ultimately these are feelings coming from within you. And depression can cause depression. I’ve seen people get into a depression because of dealing with certain people and things in life. also myself.
It is exhausting. I saw this article that was titled “I ghosted my friend because her toxic relationship was draining me” and that article spoke to me so much. Like in friendships, I feel like our girlfriends are supposed to be our escape, but if every time you come to me you’re crying about something disrespectful he did and you’re not doing anything about it I don’t wanna hear it anymore. That may be cold of me, but I think even in friendships you need to protect your energy and your happiness Also the last subject I completely think it’s ok. If you moved in with your life whether it’s in a relationship or whatever, and you’re truly over that person, why does it matter who they date? As a friend I would tell my friend, but if she’s been telling me she’s over him and she gets mad at me I would be confused
So glad you mentioned this. I lost two of my closest friends because of their toxic relationships. I pride myself on being a good listener but it got too much. I had my own issues that I wasn't so open about so hearing theirs made it worse. It changed things a lot but I think we're all better off. A lot of lessons to be learnt but I agree, friends are not punchbags. And I don't think they ever understood that I had to walk away for my own sanity and happiness.
Will Smith was in Fresh Prince, Pursuit of Happyness, Bad Boys, Hitch, Man In Black, Independence Day and he recently played the genie in Aladdin (and more). His net worth is 250mil and he is one of the biggest actors out there. If you don’t know him u should def watch some of his movies! Pursuit of Happyness is my fav and his son is also in it. His son, Jaden, played in Karate Kid with Jackie Chan😊
I hear you but depression (not medical) comes from your toughts and belives you hold. I was in deep depression for months on and of and the day I started realising, that I can decide how I want to think and what I want to belive in, the depression was going away. So in that sence it is actually a choice.. but when you are in the depressed phase it is really hard to see that
My ex husband & my mom are incredibly negative. Has drained me so much, had to leave him & set serious boundaries with my mom. People should never feel selfish for protecting their peace.
It is really hard when it's your parent but sometimes those boundaries have to be taken it's been about 5 years that I have distance myself so much for my mom only to protect me or I thought I would just go crazy
I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. It's horrible. However... Just like it takes a LOT of dedication and discipline to get a six pack, the same applies to my mental health. No, I will not workout out one day and wake up with rock hard abs. It takes TIME. And its beyond hard. But it is possible. The mind needs to be exercised. Therapy, diet, medication and removal of toxic relationships or even environmental ones, can overtime help your mental stability. I've been working through anxiety and depression since 7yrs old and at 33, I finally have a grasp of it. But it takes a LOT of work... It is possible though. The hustle is the choice towards happiness.
AMVrecords yes, certainly some ppl that struggle with mental health issues can and will reach a place in their journeys in which they can or want to receive professional help but with others, depending on how severe the illness is, that choice is not present. I have lost friends and family to depression and bi polar disorder and I believe that if they could have they would have reached out for help.
Uhhhh Adrienne....you know people have depression right? And can be rich af lol. Has nothing to do with “what you have” that’s a sad misconception. But yes in a relationship no they need to be happy in themselves no one else can do that
I think she kind of hit the nail on the head when she said that she recognizes that people’s genetics and environment could also be a factor in their depression
I would say WILL IS the king of insta! Yes, he has a whole team curating content 😂 BUT...there’s balance to it so I’m here for it 🤷🏾♀️ Just saw his latest post, and it’s both amazing and inspiring!
Adrienne Haughton people can be biologically disposed to depression, both my biological parents are mani depressive. I’m not saying I’ll be sad for the rest of my life, but as Loni and Jeannie said you can work towards something better! I choose something different like therapy and yoga and I’m blissful. Not happy all the time but I choose to work for it. And Jeannie Mai when you are clinically depressed, the brain where you have dopamine and other neurons, the chemicals are just off. You didn’t choose your brain doesn’t make endorphins anymore. But you can chose to take it seriously, and go to therapy. And to be honest, you can do the work and still not be happy, but you can be at peace at that time, and not having people who wants you to rush you through it. People need a little more understanding emotionally and medically too. Thx for reading my lil rant been diagnosed clinically depressed since 8 years old. Been through a lot of violence, been in foster care but at age 24 I chose my life. Been watching you guys for years I love you bring hard topics up. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Greenland.
I needed to hear this clip about "happiness." All the ladies had great perspectives. Tam Tam's pastor is on point & I appreciate Adrienne's distinction between happiness & joy.
What Adrienne said at 8:20 was just sooooo real and important I've never agreed with her more there are so many people that live privileged lives and are ungrateful and unjustifiably pessimistic and "depressed" for the attention and damn do those people need Jesus and some perspective. Thank👏you👏Ade👏
Those are wise words. Sometimes we love so much we try to do everything for someone but we can only try so much. We need to learn we can only be responsible of our own happiness.
Loni always looks so zoned out these days. But her contribution is usually always biased and she always pulls out the "black" card. So i'm okay with her silence.
UPPITY UNICORN you sound as ignorant as loni during that episode about Shan Boody where her uneducated ass made an assumption about Shan’s race and attributed certain “white” behaviors to that assumption. Pure ignorance. First off I’m tri-racial not black. And as such, I’ve chosen to fit into many boxes when mixed kids generally don’t fit into any. Born and raised in the Caribbean, my country is predominantly black - so the reverse racism against “my kind” is real. Every race struggles and the struggles are often deeper than skin color and hair texture.
I really like these ladies, and I love their views. But I really think they need another perspective on this show for more balance. They tried to talk about depression, but these ladies clearly don't know much about it. Also--I think it's great that these ladies are comfortable talking about their faith, but I wish there was someone who could talk about these things from a non-religious point of view as well.
Yes say that Adrienne. This Joy that I have the world didn't give it to me. But I would change that second part is the world will try to take it away. But with God it won't work...
My relationship ended recently because I started getting resentful of my ex fiancé. We have a child and all he wanted to do was go out and hang with his single buddies. All of his friends with kids doesn’t go out anymore. I felt like he started choosing going out and being away from Home and family because that’s the only place where he wouldn’t hear me nag about how we need to pay for bills and how he need to get it together. He was stuck doing bachelor single guy things and I was home with our daughter. I grew up after becoming a mom and I was jealous that he kept choosing his friends over being around us. I know he’s not the only one at fault. I know I was a big part of why this relationship didn’t work. The only thing that would have made me happy was being a priority in his life and knowing that he did value his family.
Marlee sangasy So sorry you had to go through that! We have to remember sometimes that rejection is many times God’s protection. His purpose may have been to just give you your beautiful daughter and that was it. I hope you find peace in it all!
Happiness is subjective and comes from within, you know yourself better than anyone else could know you so if you can’t be happy on your own how could you possibly expect someone else (friend, family lover) to make YOU happy Even though will smith is right you would have thought you would have figured this out when he was filming the movie pursuit of happiness lol
Atimes I really think Loni lies about her relationship and dating escapades.....she’s like that girl in high school that brags about going on dates with all the hot guys in school but, she actually hasn’t lol 🤣🤣
😕😕y'all just sound like you don't like Loni... what sounds untrue about her relationship experiences? The fact that you didn't know about them?😕 nope, not here for it
I think a lot of people are getting the terms clinical depression and situational depression mixed up. A lot of the scenarios they are talking about sounds like situational depression. Clinical depression can be genetic. So even if the person has not gone through any specific "trauma", they can still suffer from depression. It should be treated as seriously as any other mental illness. Also, I didn't like the way they were misrepresenting people with mental illnesses. Just because you suffer from depression, doesn't mean you look and act sad and angry all the time. Most people that have depression appear to be the happiest people, especially around their loved ones. I personally think that talk shows should refrain from speaking about mental illness because they are basing depression on a bunch of stereotypes. Choosing to be sad or negative is not the same thing as having clinical depression.
I had friendship of 4 years that recently fell apart but then I started to look back at his other relationships with people and he's always be dependent. In school he almost flunked out until he met his gf. I didn't realize until after the friendship was over how much time and effort I spent on trying to get him out the depression he was in from his last relationship. But once I hooked up with one of my friends he made it very apparent that i wasn't needed anymore and he didn't care about our friendship because now he has a girlfriend. Essentially his need to feel wanted moves from person to person. I've never seen him once take charge to make himself happy alone and it sucks cause you should be able to make you happy not have that weight on someone else However we agreed if we ever really needed each other we always be there no matter what. The brotherly love we had was too strong to die. I love my brother
Wow. Draining the other person? How about considering how the other person feels. We don’t “choose” to be depressed and it’s not easy to turn it on and turn it off. This is the worst girl chat I’ve ever seen. How to make depression and mental health seem like such a bother to everyone else when it’s never taken seriously. I’ve lost respect for the ladies here.
A lot of comments mentioning depression but I don’t think this is about that. Depression is a serious medical condition where as being unhappy is a choice and not at all the same. If you’re not content with something about your life then you have the power to change it.
I don’t think they really know what clinical depression is like...it’s not just “I choose to be happy” that’s not what is gonna fix that depression is a mental illness and is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain you can’t go “well I choose to balance out my chemicals” that’s not it that made me a bit mad because I have family that have committed suicide over clinical depression and am still dealing with it now. I’m glade they are talking about it but it’s not as easy to fix like they think
It better be Will Smith!!! I haven't even watched the clip yet or read the comments. If its anyone else....then that's a damn lie! Edit: So wait, just realized this is an old ass clip from March!!! So never freaking mind!!!!!!!!!
My father expected my mother to be everything, his mother, father, maid, teacher, provider. He wanted her to say and do things and he was a narcissistic negative and abusive every day, he drove my mother insane. He didn’t have anything going on in his life, so he made all of us miserable especially my mother she passed at 39. Her heart was tired. From all the pain and abuse and torture. He had mental issue, Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. She tried for years to get away from him. He because obsessed with abusing her. It was an addiction. I know people who love attention and will create situations just to get attention. That’s how my father was, he expected my mother to make him happy. He blamed her for everything, and I do mean everything. Then he tried to do the same thing to me and I was a child. Telling me I should know better, blaming me for everything and I should did this and did that. And if you don’t do what he thought you should do there was consequences. I look like my mother so he thought he could treat me that way until I left.
It's not that some people like to be sad for attention or anything like that. But some people have been in depression for so long that it becomes a comfortable place.
Exactly. There’s a lot between happiness and gratitude… a person being attentive and thoughtful! I can make myself happy as well, and contribute to the happiness and well-being of another and vice versa
Damn I wish I was on this table of girl chat, they missed alot of the point it's not even always about a negative person who is choosing to be unhappy, some people think a significant other will complete them and make them feel satisfied in life and a relationship can't provide that happiness for you. I need a life chatshow, so much to share
Mental illness is a beast. It’s not just about waking up and choosing joy, when you’re mentally ill you just can’t. You don’t have that ability on your own a lot of the times.
Tamara lives in such a beautiful happy world. Loni treats her like she so sheltered. 😂😂😂😂 If Tamara would have grown up like Adrienne and Loni, her views on life and having street smarts would be there and discernment. Tamara is so conservative and not outspoken like the three of them.
When Tamar was on the show Adrienne and Tamera said they would stay because they couldn't hurt the other person. Adrienne said the other person got ready just like her...I guess she evolved
Usually, yes. Today was all cattiness… u know Adam just did that for your feelings tamera? Since when is she down on women like that. Adam knew he was hurt … i mean to be talking about the woman like that?!?
Marc Smith she has seemed different for some time now. Less energetic, and not as excited as she used to be. And there’s nothing wrong with that necessarily. Maybe she’s going through something
The joy of the Lord is something that is indescribable. Being happy is different...ice cream makes me happy, when my friends reach out to me it makes me happy. But, my happiness and joy is not dependent on people. I’ve lived through that before, and it is SO draining. It is so unrealistic and unfair to set expectations for others to make YOU happy. Nah, boo. I go into every relationship/friendship knowing that this person will somehow fail me, and that’s okay. People aren’t perfect, I’m not perfect. Be smart, use wisdom to navigate through that in case you need to cut off unhealthy relationships. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s part of life.
One thing I don't like about Will Smith is how he talks nowadays, as if he's some kind of wise guru. It's like... who do you think you are exactly lol. He speaks as though everyone is hanging on his every word. And it's true that some people are, that doesn't mean much. People's idolization of celebrities isn't always warranted.
its not that you grow up and start to understand things people don't have to listen to him but what the says is true people just so used to the things they do they don't want to hear anything
I love you guys I’m on my daughter RU-vid account so yeah she loves Adrienne because she watches the cheetah girls all the time and she said Adrienne is her sorry if I spelled your name wrong
All a unu a chat crap u need ppl to feel happy there's no way u can be happy by ur self ppl ave to be apart of that not jus ur significant other but a fam r a best friend but ppl his a big part of that
