You have "friends" and "associates ". It is a clear distinction between the two. And I have more associates than friends. And I'm in my early forties. My mom taught me at a young age and I live by to this day, "choose your friends dont let your friends choose you"
I just read this quote out this book that said “If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you” so definitely felt your point 💕 SN: title of the book ‘Happiness is the Way’ by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
She dropped jewels here! People will not directly tell you when they are jealous or envious. But they cannot help but show it through their actions. That’s your queue to part ways. Romantic, business, or friendship. We have to get better at moving on when things get weird! Save yourself ❤️
Ghosting is my go to method of getting rid of people. But one thing I regret is not expressing my true feelings, in some situations it’s not enough to just walk away. You got to express how you feel and stand up for yourself.
So much maturity & wisdom illuminates from this young lady. (I’m in my 40’s). De’arra is what we call an old soul. She dropped a lot of gems and I hope people will catch them.
That friendship topic. Hit right on the spot. Cause I believe If you have no purpose in my life then you got to go. I’m big on good vibes, honesty & loyalty
I had to learn to create a friendship boundary, I used to only focus on relationship boundaries but “friends” can take advantage of you too if you’re not careful 😩
I feel like a lot of ppl nowadays gotta realize it ain’t their life. There’s too much judgment in this world and not much reflection within fr fr. It’s One love out hereeee
Too much judgment because people share too much. If people learned what the word privacy means then there will be nothing to criticize not everything is for social media. If you post be prepared for opinions, criticism and complements too
@@lyndarosaline7828 real facts. Everything ain't for public consumption. People kill me getting on social media then be mad when someone voice an opinion they don't like. Its called SOCIAL MEDIA not my private media that nobody else can see. Plus judgement is part of life. If no judgment then why we bother having laws, codes of conduct , norms etc? At the end of the day if we didn't have some level of Judgement we wouldn't have a civilization.
Wow yeah the friends topic, that’s literally where I’m at right now in life and sometimes I questions myself like am I dragging it? But like you said, for me it’s the me clapping for you and you don’t clap for me back 🎯 Little things like that just shouldn’t go unnoticed, that’s definitely how it starts.. a small sign
Yeah. I recently dropped one of my friends because I was basically the only one putting in effort into the friendship and it was evident. We lost interest in each other and It would be so awkward when we go out because we didn’t really know each other. I just ended up blocking her after an incident that involved her and her boyfriend. KNOW YOUR WORTH YALL.
15:00 DRESS FOR YOURSELF!!!!!!Especially while we are YOUNG. I had to learn this since I’m a bigger woman… don’t b insecure or worried about what others think.
Don't cut the jealous friend off initially. Have the hard conversations. If it's a REAL friend, give them the chance to change. Now, if they're acting out in jealousy, that's envy and that has to be cut at the root. Like D said, they're not happy for you and are weighing you down. Those type of people can never move forward with you because they will sabatoge EVERYTHING you do. ✂️ ✂️ ✂️
Yesss! Dont give friends advice on their relationship unless they specifically ask you for it. You will save yourself frustration and energy because people will leave when they're ready.
I most definitelyyyyy agree with that. Because as a person in both scenarios of the person that wants someone to listen by then give them advice and people would still give them advice and as the person who will give people advice who didn’t ask for it and it’s frustrating on both ends because people will have their opinions at the end of the day and so will you and people will do what they want at the end of the day as well
You said something about friendship honey!! Friendship breakups are hard but letting go of negative people is the best thing for you in the long run 🏃🏾♀️
I felt that!!! “Nobody can make me do something I don’t want to do but I do have a hard time speaking up for myself!” If you didn’t hit this one on the head. So, how are you overcoming speaking up for yourself??
Omg Dearra looking good as always !!!! This vibe was on point as always !!!! Love how you answer all these questions Dearra !!!! This is why I have my daughters watch her!!!!!!
Been watching you from the very beginning and i love your growth so much! Youve always been so mature and honest and i love how nothing’s change! Congrats to 1 mill boo 🎉🎉
I enjoyed this GirlTalk so much I actually took some notes lol !💕 Congratulations On that 1 MILLION Boss D !!!!🥳You inspire me so much to keep going much love from memphis !
That’s a fact. Typically the ppl you speak to on an everyday basis does not resonate with the true meaning of a friend. Sometimes that just means y’all have interesting convos followed by funny tiktok videos. True friendships are classified by trust, withstanding those moments where we are living life and not connecting & serving a true purpose in one’s life.
Omgggg Dearra you have came along way and I’m so proud of you you keep doing you girl and don’t let the haters get to you I love you so much and so proud of you🌀🧿🧿💕🦋♾
This was a great video because as a 14 year old teenager I feel as you just helped me with some stuff like idk how to explain lol you just helped alot that’s all I can really say and that’s why I love you, you care for other people and not just yourself.
De’arra, what I loved the most about these conversations was that you made sure to reference “boy or girl” “man or woman” in each situation. I felt SO included in this conversation as someone who is only involved/interested in women! This is missed so much in these spaces and you made me feel so included! THANK YOU!!
Perverse woman! Why are you trying so hard to be abnormal . Instead of you to do something useful with your life like go to space or make money it is woman you want to be doing when your mates are doing man . Who are you trying to impress? Foolish fool!
YES MA’AM 🔥 This video was right on time! I started my own business 3 years ago & whew people change quick. They want you doing good just not better than them. 😪
You’re so popping. You remind me so much of my stepsister. She was obsessed with her fashion. I hope you enjoy your life journey and all the things that occur. It’s a growth process for many and some have it down pack. I hope you grow through all your difficulties and continue to grow in life.
I really enjoyed it his girl talk. Though we’re around the same age hearing your feedback and perception on things I was struggling with helped myself and others so much thank you .
I love thiss and relate to so much. when you give people the same exact energy as they give you, it’ll be easy to discern who is for you in any relationship, stay beautiful 🦋
That toxic friends discussion I really felt that. I perfectly agree that you could feel if they aren’t for you. Trust me I’ve been there and it showed. You just have to cut them off….PERIODT! 💯💜
This video is very much needed for EVERYONE. This is why I’m a supporter and look up to you. I’m sitting here on my bed just thinking about life and my experiences. Keep doing what you’re doing. 💕
Crazy to see how much you have grown D💕 been watching you since I was 15 now I’m going on 21 ✨so proud of you💕 everything good coming to you is truly deserved✨✨✨
The transparency 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️ . Your videos hit everytime! I can definitely relate. If it’s one sided it gotta go! YOLO, and my time is too precious to be wasted for anyone/anything that doesn’t have pure & genuine intentions for my life. Energy is everything ✨🤞🏾
I loooved this video! I always enjoy your girl talk style concepts. I can relate to you on so many levels. I have more recently been on a self love journey and growth 🤎🤎..I have experienced losing or distancing my self from ppl I thought meant well by me or for me. Also you saying don’t wait to do things..GO FOR IT! that hit me and I felt God needed/wanted me to see this just for that message because I have been going back and forth in my mind with this so thanks so much girl for that 💕! Let’s be besties!
I’m so happy when you explained the difference between a relationship and dating! I told a guy this and he didn’t agreed. But I do!! I been say this for the longest! When your going through that talking stage you have to date and get to know each. If nothing wrong talking exploring.
I just love how dearra shows what it means to exercise being you and having a positive mind and guess what she livin her healthiest happiest life ever.Love that girl D❤
Your growth has been amazing to watch. I particularly love this phase of it where you are more in charge and in control of self. You were brought out of that relationship because bigger was in store for you and girl its unfolding ❤. Congrats on 1 million all on your own Miss Taylor 😘
i loved loved loved this video! everything about it was spot on !! you spoke some wise & encouraging words!! you knew exactly what to say & how to say it!! i felt everything you said , maybe it’s the aries in me 😂 but definitely loved this video & can’t wait for the part 2!! this was definitely one for the gworlsss! definitely & always will be my fav ❤️!
Dearra exudes blk girl luxury ✨✨ and I love this for all blk women that want that in life . You can obtain it yourself , Just move different and follow your dreams ! Chilleee let me put this on full blast while I do my wash day & get things done !
GREAT ADVICE ON ENVIOUS “FRIENDS”!!! YES! I totally agree! CUT THEM OFF!! I’m a fire sign as well(Sagittarius) so we can cut off toxic ppl EASILY!!! Where as it can be challenging for others. But like D’earra said a TRUE friend is a friend PERIOD!!! No competition!
Yes chile, everyone you talk to is not a friend, they are associates. 💯 Everyone doesn’t qualify for the “friend” status. That was very classy of you to say that you don’t speak bad about old relationships. I think that’s very mature of you. Loved this video, the bob looks cute on you! 🥰💕
you are very inspiring. I've been watching you since your green hair.. IYKYK! There is no one out there like you. Keep shining for all of us De'arra. ♡
“Once you realize you’re the catch and someone loses you, that’s their loss”. That statement made me burst into tears for a reason 😭 I’ve struggled with so much the past 2 years with many questions in this video. Thanks De’arra.
Damn for this weird as reason I felt like I was watching me. Honestly I agree to the ENTIRE video. Love the realness so much. I’m so glad you got your platform because I connect with you soooooo much more.
Imma just flat out say it De’arra you is a whole vibe you is a example that every young girl in life need including me because you is stating all the truth not facts the truth about friendships and relationships which is the main thing we need to learn and know so thank you De’arra for being the queen that you are🤍
Hella realistic girl talk. Too many people out here projecting what they went through in their advice, over reminding people that is solely based on the individual!
