I’m not sure why people can’t comprehend my sentence but I didn’t say that long hair on black women was rare. I said that hair THIS long is rare and it is. For black women and every other race of women. I clearly said that black women can achieve long hair and it should be normalized. Please listen to the ENTIRE video CAREFULLY before making inaccurate comments. Thanks!
Yes! We can grow our hair but rarely to our knees. I thought this video was basically about products and the fact that they don't work. My daughter, who is 28, has 4c hair and it just would not grow for years. The last two years she put in a lot of effort and time into caring for her hair. It has grown and thickened tremendously.
Taylor Burks Everything you just said-from both a man and woman’s perspective-is 100% subjective and depends solely on the individual..there’s no way to answer for you. Only you can answer that for yourself. Personally, I don’t think it’s right to prioritize your hair care to a man’s liking. *Being yourself should attract a man who prefers both your hair and your confidence.* Otherwise you can never truly be yourself with him and you’ll always be facing criticism or hiding behind a hair style..
People love finding things to be upset about, I swear. They can’t wait to be offended!!!! What you stated in the video was crystal clear, yet somehow people in the comments translated it to “black women cant have long hair.” #MakeItMakeSense 💀🤦🏾♀️
Jane Doe unless you have an underlying condition you literally can grow your hair that long. As long as you’re alive, hair grows. It’s about length retention 💕
@@guesswho9791 That's not her point. Even white people, genetically, can possibly not grow long hair. White women arent using "magic" shampoos that cost 300+ dollars to achieve the very long hair lengths they see from RU-vidrs. Its called realism.
The problem is, we were never taught how to take care of our real hair. I love how natural hair is becoming a movement because this generation will learn how to take care of their hair and pass that down to their daughters.
Yeees bc when I was younger all my mom did was perm and straighten my hair and then it got damaged so I cut it as soon as I understood u can have natural curly and healthy hair so now Ik that my mom messed up my hair but imma teach my future kids how to take care of their hair, and I’m goin natural now.
I literally went back to water and hair grease and my hair has grown so much. It went from shoulder length to mid-chest in a year. Our hair grows fast, we just need to retain length (avoiding breakage) at least for me.
I've used grese in my hair from 1(my mom) through my child hood into adult hood it is below bra strap now straight. And when it's greased often it goes 3 in below bra strap so yeah it's tru
@@jailynjackson7867 I think type 4 hair if you don't take care properly break easily. Plus sometimes the over manipulate very tight styles etc all contribute
My shrinkage is insane. My coworkers nearly had a heart attack last week since my hair is in a proverbial state of TWA. When I did some twists and trimmed it my hair came out past shoulder length. I was even shook and surprised. For the last two years I’ve been trimming my hair every two months because it is 4BC and prone to tangling extremely easily in the hopes to avoid tangled. My hair grows super fast despite the painful shrinkage. My hair shrinks about 80% of its actual length. I was super confused for years not knowing how to cut my hair because I can’t wear my hair in a wash and go state because of the varying levels of shrinkage ruining a cut or shape. My temple area shrinkage is about 95% of its actual length. My hair in a wash and go state measure about 6-7 inches high in the Afro state but straightened is bra strap length. Stretched out from twists it comes to about clavicles. It’s nuts. I still remember my white Norwegian boss lady’s face when she saw my hair last week 😂🤣 She was in utter shock, her main question being, “how does it do that?!”. I ended up having to give her advice for her mixed race niece. Her face looked like when you see those crazy magic acts that you have no idea how to explain so you’re just there, staring like an idiot, accepting defeat. That was honestly my reaction the next day after my first twist out. I’ve fought hard to not view shrinkage as a menace and styling my hair in twists is super time consuming due to my going to school full time and working full time. Trust me shrinkage blindsights a lot of people, including the hair owners. I’m still in a relaying state of shock and alarm with how my hair behaves. It feels like I’m dealing with a different thing altogether.
I kinda stutter-listened when I heard that...I appreciate Chrissie's commentary (it's important), but every now and then I hear something that sounds crazy lol.
@@faithvioletx1622 You're right. I went back and heard her correctly. I'm not sure why I was so certain she made a general statement... Maybe it was the pacing of the sentence, idk.
List of 4c Unapologetically Black Female RU-vidrs with long/tailbone hair 1. 22nd Century Woman 2. Naturally High 3. What Lies Beneath The Weave 4. The Black Rapunzel 5. All Things GhoCee 6. Tyra Mae 7. Roothie Patootie 8. JoStylin 9. Natural Academia 10. West African Baby 11. Craving Curly Kinks 12. Indigenous Strandz 13. Eugenia Kelcy 14. Nicky B Natural 15. Joi Wade 16. Efficiently Natural 17. Geri Geraldine the Great I’m sure there’s more and you’re welcome. 👍🏿
Nerdy Black Girl Getting Her PhD add Strands of faith CEO Ameka Coleman. Many cont to think her hair is not real but it is 🙄 black women are learning to retain their hair and most of us have lengthier hair these days.
Her hair still looks kinky . I think it's just weighed down by product . The "straightness" looks just like the Chadian women who use their Chebe powder routine . It's stretched and weighed down but if they were to shampoo their hair you'd see the curls.
Dahlia Remy I’m not Chadian, but my hair has that effect too, when dry (and has products in it), it’s MUCH straighter, but shampoo will always bring out the curl pattern
I do believe that this is her hair, black women CAN and DO achieve long hair. All it takes is to simply leave it alone, not purchase $300 products. I don't even buy products over $15.00 lol.
Even though I’m lilly white and don’t have anywhere near the same hair texture as black women, I am really sad to see this happen. I don’t believe anybody should ever be takin advantage of, and I think it’s disgusting that anyone would do this. He prayed on people that trusted him.. he took advantage of the black community, and used his and his daughters appearance to scam a community and sensationalise fraudulent products. Black women are incredibly beautiful…with all the different shades of gold,almond, nutmeg, bronze, chocolate, amber and espresso, it’s easy to see the beauty. I think black women that wear themselves naturally are stunning and unique just as they are. Sending love and blessings to everyone. Love yourself, don’t let anyone sell you a product that claims it will make you more beautiful, because nothing could make you more beautiful than you already are…as you were created with the Lords paintbrush, in His image.
My old boss acted so surprised when she found out my hair was real and then was shocked to learn that black people wash their hair. She asked how do we wash our hair. Yes, she really asked that. I don't work there anymore. 😊
Literally lol. I stopped doing a lot with my hair years ago and wear protective styles for weeks. I cut my hair a little above my shoulders a couple years ago and now it’s to the middle of my back. My cousin has had locs for a year or two and her hair has grown a lot. She doesn’t manipulate it and leave it be.
As a Malawian with less hair products here i was able to grow my hair to waist length in 5 years with regular trims almost monthly. Secret keep hair moisturized, and leave it the hell alone (low manipulation)- it was basically in twists 95%of the time
Locs include all the hairs that will have reached their natural length limit and fallen out, so people can grow them much longer than their hair will grow.
@@blaqrose6911 was gonna say the exact same thing. its exactly this. They want results but they aren't serious enough about change so they are lazy but they want it to just magically fall in their hands.
@@nunya5235 so this guy comes in with one abracadabra 🤣🤣🤣 Are some people really this naiv? 😅 creams for 300€ for fast hair growth and there is already scientific proof that is it not possible.
Y'all, I been a stylist most of my life (technically since I was 9 and I'm 37 now) as the youngest out of 5 kids, I used to get up in the mornings and do my older sisters' hair for school sometimes and for graduations, etc. It's as simple as keeping it clean and moisturized and staying away from harsh chemicals. That's it. I have grown different hair types using basic ass products like Pantene, Garnier Fructis, and Tresseme. There's no magic pill. Just take care of you hair the same way you do your skin... moisturize moisturize moisturize y'all.
@@daisykisses8803 continuous silk treatments. IMO, if you use a product that's thick, it's just gonna "sit" there..but if you use a type of serum or moisturizer that's thin/silky enough to penetrate the really flat/closed cuticle, it's way more beneficial for the hair's moisture retainment. Oh, and keeping ends trimmed, but that's helpful for all hair types though. Just my opinion from experience. Someone else may experience a different result though, all hair is different 💙💜
The thing is, she states that it is RARE for a black woman to be ABLE to grow to that length, and no, it's not. What is RARE is to SEE someone at that length, that doesn't mean a lot of people can grow to that length
@@mayavox Wrong. She was quoting what the people were thinking about the daughter and the dude. She then went on to say she believes the daughter hair is natural but just has thin edges cause not everyone has thick edges. Stop fucking lying bitch!
@@ziqrek2314 She never said its rare to see black women with that length she very clearly says in the video that its not uncommon but its rare and that there are people on videos with hair that long. You really tried it sis. 😂
It’s literally rare for anyone to have hair that long 😂 where you live at? I’ve NEVER seen someone with hair that long in real life let alone a black womans thick and beautiful hair
For years, I stopped using hair grease like we were influenced to do and my hair went nowhere. I started back using hair grease a year ago and my hair has grown so long and thick and it looks a lot healthier. At first I couldn't get it pass my chin. Now, it touches my back. I'm so proud of me! 😁
Can I spray water 🌊 💦 and put Blue 💙🔵 magic hair grease on my hair. I heard you can put water 🌊💦 and hair grease on my hair. Will it make My hair grow longer, faster, softer, healthier, beautiful, gorgeous, prettier, manageable, touchable, split ends, dryness, SHININESS, BREAKAGES, damages, bouncier, DULLNESS, FULLER, THICKER, STRONGER, dryness, COMBABLE, UNBREAKABLE, BRUSHABLE, DETANGNER, FLYAWAYS, Volumerize, and MANY MORE TO MY HAIR. I want my hair grow down pass my butt and down to my legs too okay. I want to copy you and do what you do to make your hair grow longer and faster too. I hope to hear from you real soon okay thanks bye bye.
@@veggieeater I use whatever I can get my hands on. I do love the Blue Magic Super Gro. You can always customize your grease to stimulate your scalp. I'll mix mine with vicks vaporub for a cool feeling to my scalp in the summer and for winter, I'd add black pepper or cayenne pepper for heat. These are all stimulating to increase blood flow to your follicles.
A lot of times, young boys’ hair is longer than the girls, simply because the mothers just let it grow. With little girls, the mothers want to throw chemicals and braids and all kinds of shit that damages the little girls hair. I refused to let my wife fool with my baby’s hair early in her life.
Ach Meez she has to understand each persons hair my baby girl was bald for the 1st 2 years of her life no weaves just brushed what she had about 3 I did the puffs. When I stopped shampooing our hair we use Indian clay mask and rice water treatments her hair when stretched touched mid back and she has the cutest lil Afro
Yesss!!! It's ALWAYS health over length for me, even though I do have long hair. But if it comes down to a choice of cutting my hair so that it can grow healthier, I'm doing it with no hesitation!!
Because unfortunately society has made us believe if its long its better but no one ever talks about how important it is to have healthy hair first. I was stuck on this stupid beauty standard until I realized my curls were going nowhere my hair was just growing, changed things and now I honestly rather have healthy hair
The hair is all hers no doubt, but he gives me scammer vibes imo. He knows the market and how hungry black women are for a "miracle growth" product. But thats not tea for me to spill 🤷🏾♀️
I need to send this to my friend Betty. we were just talking about hair awhile back and she was complaining about her hair and it not growing fast enough for her although it does...or at least to me it does. I think it is better mine grows faster than hers and she doesn't feel as adequate in that area. or at least that's what she said to me at times...I have read in between the lines. I tell her that her hair is fine and it grows fast for her and that not everyone is the same and her daughter has beautiful long hair just like hers.
"If her hair is real, it didn't get that way with pumpkin." 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆 Truer words have never been spoken. Reminds of fitness gurus selling a new line of health products and you know they didn't use it to get the fit body they have.
@CCP BOT bit- lemme stop and EDUCATE you for a second because no one else is see we CAN have long hair its just that some women don't know how to take care of it look up the women of chadenise their hair is longer than your existence and intelligence so please do your research before you make stupid and IRELIVENT comments
You are preaching the absolute truth about growing long hair as black women. We want instant results for zero work. We must be more realistic. We have an interesting kind of hair and we just need to relax, stop rushing through our hair, and learn that there are PLENTY of videos, blogs, etc. about how to take care of it. However, I do believe some people would rather stay in mental bondage than to take a leap and experience true freedom..
I don’t feel like it’s a matter of scamming but his products simply cost too much.You don’t need Benny Harlem’s products to grow your hair. There are so many natural products that are much cheaper at the produce section.
I grew my hair with blue magic and deep conditioner 😂 it’s a matter of knowing how to use what you have and knowing what y’all ur hair likes and treat it like a newborn baby🤷🏽♀️❤️
The day I stopped buying all these expensive products, my hair started thanking me and started growing. You don't need expensive things to grow your hair. It's about learn your hair and what works for it
Facts! My daughter has 4C hair and it’s in the middle of her back... all I use is coconut oil and mango butter... it’s HARD doing her hair and frustrating at times but it’s not impossible to work with... I usually keep her hair in protective styles too...
Preach! The obsession is real. I was natural for 2 decades before i finally locked up. People were always confused why my hair wasn't longer. I got haircuts regularly. For some reason this is baffling. I don't want to spend a million hours doing my hair!
People who don't know how to properly take care of hair and think that more expensive means that it works. That's how I was before. I didnt spend hundreds on products but If I had the money and I saw that I would have similar results as the person promoting I'd would have got it. Now though. I'm filled with knowledge on scalp/hair care so I know better lol but yeah. I can see how some do pay the high price tag.
It wasn't rare back in my day. In the 70's all Black women had hair, down to the girl with the kinkiest hair on the block. I am a professional hairstylist and when I was growing up long hair was common among many Black women. My hair was down to my elbows. Everybody's hair grows unless you are bald. We get an average of 1/2 inch a month, or 6 inches a year. Two problems I see with this generation of Black women one, this generation doesn't eat right, and proper nutrition will allow your hair to grow in stronger to help resist breakage, two, they do way too much to their hair. Whether they put too much heat on their hair or experiment with chemicals at home, they are causing their hair to break, therefore they never retain their length. Many of the women who wear their hair natural are not seeing healthy length because they have so much build up from the products, that their hair is dry all the time, and dry hair breaks.
Tracey Holland 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿facts!!! Say it louder for the crazies in the back!!! Retaining length just started being a problem in the late 80’s after the Jheri curl, we had big fro’s, long press n curls, and most definitely long Jheri Curls, it’s not that hard to retain length. Keep hair clean, moist, and unbothered and I promise you will retain periodt ❗️❗️❗️🙄😏
Exactly, I remember in the 80s as well..Every woman had hair and actually there was a time when Blk women wanted the short hair cuts..like Jada Pinkett, Nia Long and Halle Berry❤💯👈
@@thaiselizabethh You are correct, in the 90's I can't tell you how many women wanted Halle Berry's hair cut. Also, in the late 80's and the 90's there was this hairstyle where women would grow their hair long, then cut the front and sides short to wear stacked curls, but keep the back long and straight.
@@traceyholland9882 😂😀 I remember that one..I had a small bang..with a ponytail in the middle..and then hair dwn in the back🤣😂..I always felt hot in the summers...so I would get cornbraids...eventually I just got my hair cornbraided all year around 😊 that was like 18yrs ago and im still doing it😀❤💯👈
In the 70's and 80's and before black women were slim with perky breasts, snatched waists and round butts naturally. Of course their was some other built black women but as you say we ate right and moved our bodies a lot! Most are now overweight with damaged hair...terrible!
My 10 year old, who is very tall for her age, is currently at waist length (when stretched, because the shrinkage is real!) Her goal is to give Rapunzel a run for her money. I totally support her, although I am not sure who will be doing her hair when it reaches the ground. 👀 Btw, I agree that growing hair is easier than losing weight. #Goals #HairLove #SelfLove
yoyo yo Have you tried Jamaican castor oil? Try that and see how your hair feels. Also, try using Aloe Vera as well. You can buy the Aloe Vera Leaf from the grocery store for $2
yoyo yo Aloe Vera Leaf has my hair feeling soft and moisturized!! Also, low manipulation styles that way your hair retains length and won’t break; since it’s fragile.
We never question any other race's hair length but ours. It's really sad. P. S To those who are replying "but hE's A frAuD", I get that, this isn't news to me plus, I watched the same vid as you. However, the fact still stands without this man in the equation, GENERALLY our hair is ALWAYS questioned. 😒
I mean hes a fraud and it's not like Indians and asians are typically short haired naturally without excessive effort of length retention, like us of African lineage. People cant pretend the rarity of long 4c hair isnt real, but it IS, no matter what the culture is.
big mood I know for a fact Indians put effort into their hair. They love oils and utilize them. Even Indian men like to keep their hair full and dark. They don’t want to look “old”.
It's funny that the expectation is that black women have to "put in work" or "put in effort" or see it as difficult to achieve long hair, but black men don't have to put in that same work to have long hair even though we have the same genetics. Black men don't need expensive products and neither do black women. But the difference is: most BW are recovering from years of damaging their hair and scalp whereas BM generally don't damage their hair or scalp.
This is a bit uninformed. Long hair isn’t a masculine trait or is expected of a man. Especially black men. How many black men do you see that are expected to have long hair because it’s masculine? 0 Because long hair for men is not interlocked with their masculinity as long hair is and femininity. Also, given that afro hair was descriminated against on BOTH black men and women, black men got lucky because all they needed to do was keep their heads shaved (the colonizers shaved both black men and women’s hair off) but black women are still women at the end of the day and in society long hair has always been a feminine trait. Long STRAIGHT hair especially more so. Which is the reason why there were products targeted to black women to obtain that, that also damaged the hair in the process. So most BM don’t damage their scalp because long hair isn’t expected or a want to be seen as masculine by society like long hair is for women. The black men who want straight hair also damage their hair too btw when they use the same products.
@ca678.4 I was speaking to that fact that when black men decide to grow their hair long, Allen Iverson, Ludacris, Carmello Anthony, etc. they don't need all the crazy hair remedies, tricks, magic creams and snake-oil from Africa to achieve long hair. They just allow their hair to grow, without straighterners and relaxers and it grows. Black women on the other hand are indeed (I agree) pressured to straighten their hair, which damages it. But videos like these feed the myth that black women need magic potions to get their hair to grow, and all I was saying is "No they dont" they just need to do what black men do and not apply heat or perms to it so much because we have THE EXACT SAME GENETICS.
@@birdiewolf3497 agreed cause he has the world thinking his hair is real. isn't it crazy how different he looks from videos and pictures? idk what kind of witchcraft he has going on over there lol
@@kevinsam5961 who are you calling an idiot? I clearly said her hair LOOKS real and if it was fake I would pay money to see how he did it. Read thoroughly before you comment. IDIOT
@Ofor real Oforreal I'm not talking about his afro or hightop. im talking about what she discusses in the video his photoshoots where his hair is down and longer than the afro.
I know it's been some time since you posted this video but, I just wanted to thank you for your commentary, Sis. I am a working Mom with natural hair and I have 2 daughters with natural hair. It does take time and willingness to learn what works best for each of our hair types but, seeing them feel genuinely confident and proud of their hair is worth it for me. I feel you 100%!
My hair is so long , past the bottom of my back bra strap, “secret : wash, condition, oil, low braided ponytail, wrap the braid into a bun” and I’ve left my hair like this and alone for like 2 years lol! When people ask what I do, I tell them that I just leave it alone lol
Leaving your hair in a pulled style over and over is actually not good for your hair. It causes tension on the middle of your hair and can result in the middle of your hair being shorter than the rest.
Yup! Ive been on lockdown for a year. And my hair has been in 2 braids like a 6 year old for the whole time. My hair grew 7 inches. The key is to stay moisturized and leave it alone.
We don't need no magic paste. Time and patience. Moisturize, occasional protein treatments. Clip your split ends, don't let any hair braider braid your hair too tight. Or, learn to braid your hair yourself--YOU won't ever braid your hair too tight. I'm all for having an awesome hair stylist, but there's power in learning to do your own hair.
I teach every young woman I love how to braid. Its our Ancestral right of passage. Its odd the amount of BW that cant braid. I thought we all were going to the shops to treat ourselves 🤷🏾♀️
Guurl, preach! I love the clear and convincing way you present your arguments. Allow me to add: Healthy. Human. Hair. Grows. Period. As you touched on, retention is the key. Thank you for calling us out for being impatient and wanting an unrealistic miracle that no woman could achieve. The first problem is attitude. " If you love it, it will grow," right? I agree with you. Amen! We should not be focused on laid edges and mixed girl hair texture. Let it do what it do. (But please don't walk around looking like you just rolled out of bed. Groom and make yourself presentable.) Another problem is that natural hair has become big business. And yes, Black women are being exploited. Giving credit where credit is due, many of us have a very full plate and not a lot of extra time and money. Yet our introduction to natural hair was through RU-vid or other social media where we are given the impression that we have to spend a lot of time and buy a lot of products in order to achieve hair growth. No! Look, if you have the time and the money, do your thing! If you don't, don't stress yourself out. Stick to the basics. You mentioned Black men growing locks down their back, etc. I believe their secret is that they leave their hair alone. AKA low manipulation. It does not have to be complicated! First, don't do things that you know damage your hair and dry it out. Just don't do it! Second, do keep your hair healthy. Eat right, stay hydrated, supplement your diet, exercise, (stuff you should be doing to stay healthy anyway), massage your scalp, moisturize and strengthen your hair with WATER and deep conditioners, protect it with light oils to heavy butters,(depending on your texture), and protective styles. Simple. Your hair WILL grow and not break. As for the rest of that nonsense about Euro centricity and femininity, again, I agree with you. I wish Black folk would get up out of each other's business. Stop trying to tell Black women HOW to be Black. We just are! And we are diverse and unique, with a variety of approaches. So,... mind your business, get some self-esteem, and stop feeling so threatened by everything. We're here. We ain't goin' nowhere. "God is not partial."
P.s. I am old enough to remember an entire a Soul Train generation of natural Black women sporting huge fros in the '60s and '70s. Hair growth was not a problem for them. My aunt, my sister and my cousin were among them. So what idiot said that we don't have the genetic predisposition to grow hair? That's just too gnorant.
MostCreative Singerette not necessarily. Myself and many other black womenswear have grown their hair without grease. My hair is longer and more full now than it was when I was a child and my mom used grease on my hair.
Some black women have thicker strands that break less and they also have fast growing hair. Most black women do not have fast growing hair plus the tangles cause problems.
Theword Smith I’d disagree. I’m not sure what you mean by fast growing hair. On average, regardless of race, everyone’s hair grows 1/2 an inch every month. Most ppl just don’t know how to care for their hair. The idea that black women’s hair doesn’t grow as quickly is a myth. There was a point when I thought my hair wasn’t growing, but when I checked my roots (my hair was dyed) it was obvious my hair had grown...I just wasn’t retaining length.
No amount of hair growth is worth $316 every 3 months. Heck... I can just go to the grocery store and buy me a pumpkin...just blend up that bad boy and voila.
Asmah Fibyl there are gentle methods of stretching. Someone like naptural85 who has 4c hair has her hair stretched a lot and it grows fast and she retains length. Manipulation doesn’t have to be tight braids or a blowout etc. their are gentle ways to stretch hair without it being “overly manipulated.” If one washes there hair and does nothing to it and let’s it be, it will get very tangled and will indeed become hard to detangle and will cause breakage. Which is why most women look for products and styles to make their hair more manageable. We can agree to disagree ❤️☺️
I am sorry but that guiness high top hair growth picture almost made me fall out of my chair laughing lmao.... looking like worlds biggest pencil eraser omg lolololol
I don’t know if the girls hair is real or not. But we also need to remember that curls “loosen” when your hair is very long due to the weight and the hair is wet. When I grow my hair longer my curls start to elongate especially when it’s wet because my hair gets heavy.
Yessss I was waiting for someone to say this. I don't have hair nearly as long as hers buttt after watching my hair grow out a year after I started to PROPERLY take care of it it has DEFINITELY loosened because now it falls and the coils/curls are almost like "elongated" in a way? But yh
black women's hair can grow to whatever length. theres a true life movie l recently watched its called selfmade on netflix. at the end of the movie it showed all the real characters and my goodness their hair were incredibly long and beautiful. l cant wait for my hair to be waist length. soo tired of wearing wigs...:-)
Mine don't even produce non of that curls 😂 like tf. I struggle with hair growth but my friends cut their hair and after a year or 2 it's nearly down their butts. Genetics too matters
So true!! My hair is very curly but when it gets to my waist in length, it begins to look wavy and my curls get stretched out by the weight of my hair. Unless I wash it and style it when it’s wet, my next day hair will be wavy lol when it’s short though I have the most perfect spiral curls.
Her hair looks real to me. But he's just doing what everyone else is doing. He knows black women will be obsessed with her hair length so he uses that to sell expensive products that will NOT magically make your hair grow down to your knees. It doesn't take expensive products or any specific oil, cream, etc. to grow long hair. But that's a belief amongst many black women and we spend lots of money on a magic formula that doesn't exist.
Yes, I definitely think this little girl’s hair is real. I do not believe the long length was achieved because of his products or his genetics (because this is his step daughter). He uses her to market the products, which is fine but it was discovered that some of his business practices were not exactly ethical or truthful and for that reason, I would never buy his products.
Agreed. Even the "wellness" community: saturated with pretty white girls who tell everyone that they look good because of their diet. Girls who don't store fat in their stomachs selling tummy drinks. It's not black women. It's humans
If that is his daughter’s hair, it’s absolutely beautiful!! Women, just take care of yourselves and be keep your hair healthy. Don’t try to overdo the length! Healthy hair is beautiful and is strong. I’ve had hair down to my knees, and in 2011, had hair down past my butt, but it’s a lot of work to take care of super long curly hair. I, myself, put color in my hair, since I’ve gotta keep my natural hair color, even tho it’s through unnatural means. I’m almost 50 and my hair keeps turning white (redheads go blond, then white, and not gray).
@@Versashija Never had a white person ask me if my hair is real my whole Life. White people aren’t fixated on our hair. Black people ask frequently when my hair is long. Some have even checked for tracks.
and if you straighten your hair no one believes that it’s your real hair because it’s “grown.” like even if you don’t know what shrinkage is, it’s surely common sense 🤷♀️
@@Unseriousblkgirl I remember that, I was commenting about the part, when people was saying that their hair wasn't real because of the scam, and believing child hair grew too fast, too be her real hair.
I have shoulder to breastlength hair, all natural. Society has really conditioned ourselves to not believe in our own genetics. Chrissie is right. The correct maintnance will get you there
He is a con man. I'm sorry. Again, all you need is olive oil/castor oil and Shea butter. Wet your hair and use deep conditioner. The longest my hair grew was thigh length before I cut it because it was too heavy. And I have 4c hair. The girl's hair is lovely. Don't buy his stuff. Get you some olive oil, Shea butter and deep conditioner.
beautiful blacksoul Can you please tell me where I can by those ingredients? How much of what you mix together and the steps you take to complete the process.
Hate to ask too much of you but what exactly was your routine with these products? Im trying to deep condition and twist every day, but how often do you use the oil and butter and do you put it on roots, scalp or directly on hair? Thanks for any reply!
@@faicasparks3212 I buy olive oil from my local grocery store - if it's good enough to eat, it's good enough for my hair. I get the Shea butter from a local beauty supply store. Use any Shea butter. I have Ashanti's Shea butter right now. I got up and looked lol. It doesn't really matter to me as long as it says 100% Shea butter. I live in the Caribbean, so importation is a hassle and I've imported the organic, gmo free Shea butter. Made no difference.
I believe it's real too. Many people have a self hate concept. They just can't believe that black women can attain these lengths with diligence and care. They hate to also see anyone seeming to do better than them in any form. Crab in barrel mentality.
This was some well done commentary. Absolutely Excellent in info and perspective that needed to be said. Thank you for sharing and making this impactful video.
Less is more when it comes to kinky hair. A lot of Black women over manipulate their hair that’s why it won’t grow. Our hair is does not require much manipulation . Water, oil and protective style. Finger detangle, trim regularly and invest in a good deep conditioner. Das it!
The "Das it" took me out. But seriously I'm on the low manipulation tip and I already see growth. My issue now is shedding. My scalp hates anything that touches it and I feel I have to wash it every couple of days which is not good for moisture retention. I'm starting to give up on my hair and just settle for being a wig wearer for the rest of my life 😫
Right, my hair was stalled for a couple of years and this is around the time I told my mom that I wanted to go natural and I was living in another state and it seems like my hair didn’t start growing til I moved locations. Now, all I do is: wash it, moisturize it, comb it, and get it braided and my hair has been growing since. And I’m a 4c Queen. And when I do take my hair down, I try not to touch it too much and I just put it in a ponytail.
@Nikey Likes it's a different type though. It feels like irritation. And yes I do notice dandruff build up from time to time that is why I keep washing it. I wash it then it gives me a break for like 2 days then the irritation starts again and I feel the need to wash it by day 3. This week I am trying something different. I am trying to ease up on the braiding. I am just doing two hand twists. I am thinking the braiding is too tight and my scalp is too sensitive to tension rn. I will keep yall updated if that helps any. But moisture and shedding/thinning is a huge issue for me rn 😔. Im 4c btw. If that doesn't work maybe it's a health issue I haven't discovered yet. But I dont want to speak that into existence.
I wouldn’t say we’re lazy with our hair. Compared to other races we are nowhere near lazy. We do the most. It’s that we don’t know how to take care of it properly because no one was taught because our hair has always been looked down upon so for generations people were trying to assimilate and were not told and didn’t know how to do our hair.
A lot of that has changed now thank God. We are learning how to take care of our hair properly. I am now seeing Black ladies with long natural hair for a change.
I’m white so I can’t relate to most of your comment but I do have curly hair. I never new my hair was curly until recently, I always thought it was just frizzy. I’m the only on in my family who has curly hair so no one taught me how to take care of it. I’m still struggling, a lot of hair products are too thick for my hair and makes it greasy and weighed down.
The other part is that we do the most to try to have healthy relaxed hair not realizing it would take the same (a little less for me actually) to have healthy natural hair. The time it took for me to have a touch up and blowout in the salon with a deep condition is less than it takes me to wash my hair now and put it in flat twists. Plus it’s less work Bc I’m not curling my hair every morning to hide 2” of split ends
Not all are, but many are. And many don't know how to/when to, and what to use. Turns out, our black hair is pretty simple to grow and maintain...it's the trying to have European hair looks that's the challenge. Crazy part is, many of them have been trying to achieve the seemingly many supernatural natural styles of black hair since forever. All hair European or not has its natural way of being. Embrace yours and let them envy and admire as it should have been in the first place before we got brainwashed thinking less of our own unique beauty and power. Slavery started with the admiration of our people, how we looked, how naturally beautiful, strong, wild and free we were, before that was stripped away mentally and spiritually, replaced with something way less threatening , by those way more sinister, afraid and insecure. It's all psychological. Please wake and arise my beautiful people. Be who the Heavenly Father meant for us to be...naturally beautiful and unique.
Lauren Ponder Same but I'm the only one in my family whose natural. Before I thought my hair would never grow past my earlobes and now after being natural since 2016, my hair is mid back. All of my family keeps asking what I do to grow my hair but when I try and teach them they get so lost lol. But its literally been decades of brainwashing and assimilating for us all so the thought of having a full on hair care routine rather than snatch their hair out with combs, throw in a relaxer, burn the hair out with heat and then some tracks seems unimaginable.
I'm confused.... is the problem that its from Whole foods? B.c I have a bomb ass hair retention recipe that u can get everything from walmart that's not for sale. U are paying for the recipe plus the quality of the products
All we need is a good conditioner, keep it moisturized, and to leave our hair alone. It will retain it's length. We definitely have no issues growing it, unless there is a health issue involved.
It seems like she just has thin edges, cause it was thin in the back too. But his products are NOT the cause in the slightest, Benny Scammer needs to go somewhere.
Facts! My sister, my mom, my daughter my nieces...lets not forget me....we were all born with a propensity for thin edges but very long hair😭. Thick 4c hair at that with edges on the thinner side. Lol we're all cursed.
I love everything you said Chrissie, but I do disagree with you saying that black women's obsession with long hair is eurocentric. Us preferring STRAIGHT hair and loose curls is eurocentric, but globally long hair is viewed as a feminine, without any western influence. Long hair helps with variety of style, framing face shape well, etc. Short hair just isnt as fun an accessory to most women, race isnt part of that.
big mood so true. In just about every culture the women try to differentiate from their male counterpart. Usually it is by hair even if the men of that culture wear their hair longer than other cultures.
@@karllytskfk8471 she specifically said around 8:30 that "black women's obsession with long hair is problematic and it is tied to eurocentric standards of beauty" lol. But right after that she seemed to contradict that point and use more nuance.
@@Kayla-ly8rm Yeah you're right, but the time she spent breaking it down in details led me to think that in fact you both agree & that the part you highlighted was a 'shortcut' (misleading I agree)
@@karllytskfk8471 After she said that I paused the video to make my comment, not gonna lie lol. Then right after that, I heard her kinda expand on her point in a more thoughtful way. I just wish she hadn't phrased that first point so definitively.
True facts in this video. Based on my own knowledge, and me growing my own and daughters wooly hair, using sulfate free shampoos and deep conditioning conditioners. (Refrain completely from chemicals). When hair is still wet (don't let it dry or tangle up) adding hair food (organic hair creams, and oils (aloe, coconut, shea butter) I love to use. Then braid your hair up or twist it up with a little lock and twist gel and set. I've learned that our hair grows faster and naturally without chemicals, and with alot of conditioning, and organic hair food. But you can't add heat and stress to your hair and scalp. You also have to feed it. And when we are patience and love our hair by feeding it, it grows no matter how fine, or wooly (thick) our hair textures may. We just have to love it.
It’s not genetics! He’s basically using a westernised version of chebe powder. Her hair is slightly straight because the weight of the product adds tension and basically stretches it, you can see clearly that her texture is type 4. Henna and clay does this to hair as well. Her edges are most likely thin because of the added tension this is putting on her strands. The women in Chad who use chebe have thin edges too, that’s what happens when your hair is being pulled, the weaker baby hairs won’t be able to take it but the rest of the hairs will. It’s definitely not genes, research henna on RU-vid and it’s ability to bind to the keratin in our hair and basically form a permanent coating around each strand, basically protecting it from breakage and therefore providing extreme length retention. All of our hair grows, most of us just break it off at a rate even faster than it grows. Our hair strands are the most fragile of all races, but these treatments basically thicken them up and even out the playing fields. I do agree that this pumpkin product is overpriced, high quality henna works this way (active ingredients is the natural Lawson dye) and it’s £7 on Amazon (only use the organic type).
The reason Im growing my hair long is NOT cause of a beauty standard, it's cause I want the long healthy hair I had back when I was a child before relaxers were on the rage and chemical burns on my scalp was at an all time high. I'm glad I'm natural now but it literally took all my straight hair falling out dead. My mom was the victim of trend but I want to grow my hair back to the 10 inches it was when I was a child. That's my goal that's my hair journey💞💖💖🙏 I'm at 7 and 1/2 almost 8 inches now and I've been natural for 4 years. It took some bumps in the road but I found what works. It's so true you really have to work and find the product that really help your hair not only grow but stay healthy🤩💝
People are being purposefully obtuse in this comment section. Knee length hair is RARE, for ANY RACE. Not only because it's work but because its completely impractical! Chrissie never said it was rare for black women to have long hair.
I'm not black but i had knee length hair and so did my sister/mother/grandmother.I cut it because of the weight ,my scalp was hurting too much but I can still have a knee length hair if i wanted to so it's definitely not impractical and there was no need for me to 'work' for it either,It's more so to do with the genes in your family.
Sorry no. Its not rare for Indian girls. I've also seen a lot of latinas with super long hair( knee length)And my white neighbor all the females had very long hair. So no its not rare for every race.
@@cookiemonster2580 I'm not saying rare as if people can't grow their hair out that length, but if you look at your average group of high school girls walking around America you don't see many with knee, ankle length hair. I see tons of white girls walking around with waist length, I see many walking around with butt length but I don't know where you'd see that many people walking around with hair to their knees here in the states. Your average white girl isn't walking around with knee length hair.
@@NK-rf4db Yes but how many girls in your high school were walking around with knee length hair? How many girls in college are walking around with knee length hair?I don't know where you are but I remember in high school I went to the girl with (almost) knee length hair was known for it because she was the ONLY one in high school with that length. I think other girls could've grown out their hair that length they just chose not to. Also when I say work I'm talking about maintenance as far as having hair to your knees. You just mentioned the weight of your hair being a reason you cut it. I'd say your hair being long enough to hurt your scalp is impractical. And I agree with you, I think it mostly comes down to family genes and I also agree it's not hard, I think people over complicate it.
The crazy thing is nobody really aspires to knee length unless they plan to donate it, or they’re doing it solely for the flex. Especially with the work natural hair often takes nobody wants to do it. I hit mid back length (stretched)this year and I cut it Bc my wash and gos we’re taking forever and I wasn’t prepared for taking care of hair that long without causing a ton of damage
When I was in 7th grade in middle school a friend of mine myra that was mixed black & Hispanic & she had a little sister that attended the same school that year for 6th grade (both were & still are stunningly beautiful) but anyway.... besides that fact.... her little sister had never gotten her hair cut her whole life.... so when she was in 6th grade her hair was literally almost to the floor when she stood up.... and she got to the point where she was stepping on her hair when she would walk and she had to have help when she washed it when I started talking to her and asked about it the story touched my heart like nothing else has done still to this day. The Short version is her mom was diagnosed with cancer after she was born and ended up losing all her hair and she got asked what she wanted for Christmas when she was 4 and she said she wanted to give her mommy her hair and as best as her daddy could he explained the process of the company's like locks of love ect... so that day she vowed to grow her hair out really long and never cut it so she could give her mommy the most beautiful Long flowing hair she dreamed of having again because her mother had long beautiful hair that was down to her butt before she lost it so fast forward when her hair got so long she started walking on it she put it in a ponytail got it cut she cut it off right at the length her mother's hair was and did a second ponytail and cut that off proceeded to shave her head and had 2 wigs made one for her mother and one for herself so her mother wouldn't be embarrassed about wearing a wig and her dad was saving up to pay for the most luxurious realistic looking wig that was to be made by the best of the best when his daughter said that she wanted to give her mommy her hair for Christmas. Such a beautiful inspiring selfless little girl to do that for her mommy
I don't believe a word of this... mainly because she felt the need to explain that this family was mixed black and Hispanic ( which is not a race but refers to a region of the world where ancestry originate) and precisely why this was relevant kills the rest of this story. FAKE NEWS, YOU ALL. She/he volunteered this information as if to legitimize the story because said story not possible if girl was simply black, with two fully black parents. No. NO!!😕
@@Maki-00 exactly. I cornrow my hair every month, basic shampoo and conditioner (garnier) and add coconut nd shea butter. That's it for me till the next braid session.
I loved this video. So much truth and information. I started my loc journey 7 years ago, and it made me realize I hated having my natural curly hair because I didn't know what to do with it and what products to use. Even having locs I have had to do research on what the right products are for me and my hair. Once I did that, I will forever rock my natural hair locs, short, long and curly whatever. Our hair can do WHATEVER we want it to do.
Thank you! I am irritated that women are STILL buying his fake BULLSHIT all over AGAIN! Like he got outed damn good. How and Why is he STILL getting customers?! 😕
I dont understand. When I was younger my hair was super long along with my sisters. We were so poor. My momma used what she had which was cheap suave shampoo or dishwashing liquid and some cheap conditioner. Oiled our scalps with olive oil mixed in that cheap bergamot or blue magic grease. Pressed our hair and our hair grew and was super long. So all this 400 dollar products is bs. I wish to god I appreciated my hair back then.
@@eliselol85 I thought I was grown and start relaxing my hair behind my moms back and cut it in high school. I'm 40 now...I'm back natural and back using the cheap products which are growing my hair back like b4
@@nurse4259 I'm relaxed but I definitely agree with you about the fact that cheap products work. When I used all those fancy oils & products, my hair broke off bad & was always DRY. Now that I have went back to just ordinary grease & water, my hair is growing so long past my boobs
My number 1 rule I never let my hair dry out. I only finger detangle , moisturize and keep my hair in twists. 6 years of hard work and I've just reached waist length. It takes me 18 hours to complete my hair care process. It is hard work but it gets easier in time.
I had a black woman tell me that I was playing respectability politics by saying black women who leave the house in a bonnet and pajama look trashy. Since when was not bathing, not changing your clothes and not doing your hair a "black" thing?
Bet she roasts those yt women on those “people of Walmart” Facebook pages though. They just pretend not to know what it means to look presentable when they want to justify some bs in our own community. Lol it’s so annoying.
If you go out wearing what you slept in, most people are going to presume you're not bothering to shower either🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️ but if that's how you want to look, then I'm not about to argue with you.
Ring My Belles Natural Hair Journey mine too... I went from mid back length hair to waist length in less than a year... that finger detangling method is the best thing ever
@@robertpitts8161 dont listen to her, its genetics, just Google black hair, you'll find your answer backed up by science..I am a black woman and I have accepted the fact that most black people cant grow long hair, that's just how our hair is.. the fact that we have to use much products to retain length it's like we are trying to fight the nature of our hair
@@kaylasmith4918 ... That is a extremely depressing way to look at yourself...no wonder your hair isn't growing...Yall don't listen to her. Take care of yourself from the inside and out. Don't let google who isn't ran by one person tell you what something is, there is no one size fits all for anyone. Find what works for you. Your first problem is the products your using... use natural products, use less manipulation. And Love Your damn self!
@@danied605 dont Ad hominem Typically it refers to a fallacious argumentative strategy whereby genuine discussion of the topic at hand is avoided by instead attacking the character, motive, or other attribute of the person making the argument, or persons associated with the argument, rather than attacking the substance of the argument itself. It's not like I dont want us black women to grow hair , I do, but the fact that other races of women hair grows with literally no effort, and we on AVERAGE DON'T, you have to look at the common denominator here which is us. Stop shaming black women by saying your jot doing enough or not the right thing, you think I have not tried RU-vid for answers, I have went from natural hair products, Cantu and similar products, to even products with chemicals, all to try and figure out my hair and to make it grow longer.. it's only till a realised that there is a genetic detictated limit to how long your hair grows, ,and the fact that black people IN GENERAL have a weaker hair strand which makes it more prone to break as compared to other races of hair.. it's like a well.. I am grateful to God that I have hands and feet and I have learned to accept the nature of my hair...My own sister has longer hair than mine, because she gets it's from my muns side of the family, but yest still even when she tries all it wont grow past a certain length..
This is really a shame just focus on healthy hair . Everybody is not going to have long hair. Other facts come into place . Listen my hair is so thick I don’t want waist or knee length hair 😩😩😩
Agreed. Also, He spends far too much of his time playing in that little girl’s head. He needs to let her be a kid and be around other kids. He’s pictured with the little girl more than he is pictured with her mother. Shady.
This comment section is *shocking* . Thank you Chrissy, I didn’t realize this quack was at it again. So sad and embarrassing that black women still buy into this foolishness. As far as the ‘it’s rare for black women to grow long hair’ comment, I’m aware that you were referring to knee-length hair because I have common sense🙄...really ladies...some of y’all just want to pick a fight for no reason. Black women with mid-back length and waist length has become so much more common these days and we’re seeing less struggle ponytails, sure. But y’all *know* there are not droves of Black women across the globe with knee length hair...come on now 😒....
I don’t think she assumed, simply stated that knee-length hair was rare. And that lengths such as mid-back and waist have become fairly common within the black community.
History also shows that many African tribes had long hair which many of them put into intricate styles. During slavery there hair was shaved or cut off to confuse tribal identification. It's a myth that black women can't grow long hair.
The way the daughter’s hair and edges looks reminds me of the women of Chad. They have long hair like that, apparently from using chebe powder in their hair.
It's not the chebe. Its just that they never cut their hair, seldom manipulate & always protect their hair in large braids & protect their strands w/oil.
Yep, just like the Instagram booty model, flat tummy tea, “fitness experts” who had their bodies done but don’t mention it when they’re selling a product.
Once you say “It’s just hair” and groom it like it’s not a big deal, your hair will grow. The obsession with long hair, hair texture, etc. needs to stop. Sheesh
Thank you. People hate to hear it when you say it's just hair. But that's a fact. Hair may have political or even cultural significance but in the end it's just hair. You don't need to prove anything to anyone regarding your hair. Instead of looking for a magic potion for hair, just leave it alone. and let it grow!
You don't need to buy a length retention system or pumpkin seeds or anything else. If you want long hair you don't need Bennie or Kathy. Just leave your hair alone.don't wear you hair out(unless it's a special occasion) keep it cornrow or braided. Our natural hair is not meant to be combed daily or manipulated constantly. Just leave it alone it will grow
