Giving Away the Bride (And Some Alternatives!)

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If we’re conducting a wedding where there's a bride, there’s likely going to be a point in the ceremony where she gets to the front, and on the arm of someone accompanying her. We need a plan for what happens when she gets there. If it’s not carefully planned and rehearsed, it can get real awkward.
Back in the day, this was a no-brainer. The person accompanying the bride would almost always be her father or a male benefactor. More specifically, it would be the man whose “property” she was. And so, when Bride and - say, her dad - got to the front, the wedding officiant or minister would ask, “Who gives this woman (the bride) to this man (the groom) today?” Or something to that effect. And Dad would answer. “I do.”
Let’s assume our 21st-century bride doesn’t have an “owner.” This means that even if our couple likes this tradition, we need to at least put some intentional thought into it. “Giving away” the bride isn’t just an assumption anymore in 2021.
Now, we will officiate for brides whose fathers have dreamed of “giving away” the daughter since she was a little girl, and therefore she wants it to happen, too. And obviously, to them, it doesn’t have the same meaning it did 1500 years ago. It’s just a tradition. So of course if our bride wants it, we do it.
But sometimes brides have never seen an alternative, either.
Here are the 3 essential options we wedding officiants can give our bride for when she gets to the front.
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@dennylabantschnig351 2 месяца назад

I am so thankful for your presentations….they are so educational with things I have not considered. I guess have figured out this is the first time for me to be a Wedding Officiant!

@stevehernandez1637 Год назад

I am on my 2nd wedding officiant wedding and I really appreciate your videos thank you so much

@tiffanie.sparrow Год назад

I needed this alternative suggested wording. Officiating my 4th wedding to a couple who are in thier 50s and already handcrafted married for 8 years. The bride wants to include her step dad in this ring ceremony her and her husband will partake in. New subscriber!

@Snabbeltje60 5 лет назад

Thank You very much for the tips!

@jrobbx 4 года назад

The detail you go into for the specific sections is so good! Thanks!

@libbycornish5844 5 лет назад

great help these short to the point videos. I am starting in September this year and looking at your style is exactly how I am. fun and professional too

@carloelstak5964 5 лет назад

Again, great suggestion...I am up for my first wedding next week!!!

@lindseysettle3700 9 месяцев назад

Super helpful! Thanks for sharing multiple word variations to make it easier to personalize it to the couple. Love your videos!

@Highfivechurch 4 года назад

Good video! These are great tips!

@brookeparker1551 4 года назад

Awesome video! Thanks for the tips. My brother is walking me down the aisle, so I guess technically he's the one "giving me away?" - I like the 2nd idea you mentioned about saying "supports" or "blesses", would we still use that same terminology or is it weird to have my brother "give me away" in the first place? lol

@eloquentia52 15 дней назад

The only logical way: Bride and groom walk together, as a pair, to the officiant. It is all about their marriage-contract / wedding. No-one else needs to be involved.

@banditb86 6 лет назад

Mark can you do a video on the Sand ceremony (candle) People seem to like this addition. I have read the some officiants do ti after the ring exchange and before the pronouncement But I think it kills the flow. I like to do it after the vows and before the exchanging of rings

@calentempleton9261 6 лет назад

Your videos have been a great help. I'm doing my first wedding for two friends this week and you have provided valuable guidance to this clueless newbie. Thank you

@Marichka873 5 лет назад

I do it after vows exchange and before rings I think it’s best scenario

@kuteCAgal 3 года назад

I'm planning on my dear cousin walking me down the aisle since I lost both my father and brother. He will act as a fill in but I still have my mum. What you would say in this type of situation?

@julievasquez262 4 года назад

What about brides with no one to give them away any other suggestions to make the bride feel special?

@patriciakieferjohnson1348 2 года назад

Great video, I am the Mother of the Bride and the officiant :) lots going on here. My husband her dad will be walking her down the isle. I keep stumbling over the words at this point. Any ideas?

@beltoftruth56 3 месяца назад

You have no idea , our daughter eloped, now she wants a ceremony , her dad was not included , i think just he'll be an escort to the groom hug and thats it!!

@mikeward5020 3 года назад

Have you every handled a ceremony with Father / Step Mother / Mother giving away the Bride

@marshmallowsmars 21 день назад

Can the groom be given away to the bride in marriage , can his hand be given to the bride ? It can significe the woman in charge in that wedding/marriage/relationship, what’s wrong? I understand it has never been done in history as our history has always been treating women poorly and placing men on top. Today it’s ridiculous. I even heard People just love traditions and why would they change something they like doing. Nobody wants to go on challenging what’s out there so the bride will always walk second and be given away. I find saddening to hear as I myself a dominant woman and has always knew in relationship I lead and desire to be the provider and leader to the family. I like being in charge . I lead him not the other way around , so these are my values . Unfortunately I got born into a society which not only doesn’t share any of my values but it’s completely opposite to me. I am finding that very disheartening. When looking at wedding customs like this. It’s very disturbing! There will be a question of where is the ceremony with customs and traditions that support my values ? How can I have one that can signify my belief’s system. You would want to be born into a society in which shares values with you and surrounded by people who are like you . I have always felt since childhood society seemed opposite to me and now I have come to realization that I’m very unfortunate being born here . I’m very unlucky to be born here . I wish I’m on some other planet .