Like her reactions.. But too many times when this generation reacts to a song... You get a lot of commentary on the content or the subject matter of the song... And not quite as much reaction to the artistry.. composition... The music itself... The vocal performances... Etc... We already know toxic relationships are not a good thing.... Many of these Songs are about real things.. that go on in real life.... When you listen to some contemporary songs... Do you have a speech prepared about the low behavior that is being described explicitly in the song???
I don't think it's about toxicity, it's more luke they've just fallen out of love with each other, but may still love each other. . . . if that makes sense.
Young lady, I love ya, but you need to stay in your lane. You can't be telling Gladys Knight, we're talking GLADYS KNIGHT, how to deal with love or ending a relationship! :)
Ok. It’s not about toxicity it’s about falling out of love. She never said he didn’t love her or wasn’t good to her or him . Often just grow apart. And this is what this song about . They don’t want to hurt one another and to break up the family. If I want a toxic break up song I suggest I will survive or by the time I get to Phoenix by Isaac Hayes
Your reaction to her sound and the group is what we wanted, not the critique of the song. The power and strength of that golden voice was not mentioned once.
Right. But...these youngsters are always ready to tell you "what you NEED to do"; even when they haven't yet had that experience themselves. "Youth is wasted on the young. Wisdom is wasted on the old."
We gotta come to terms with the fact that these youngins just ain’t gonna appreciate these classic artists the way us older heads do. I usually enjoy Ashley’s reactions, however she missed the mark with this one.
WAIT! All of y’all so far under this post are stretchin’. Ashley is good with her reactions. And she regularly recognizes the music in detail in many ways; the voice, the lyrics; the music sound or arrangement. You can’t tell her how to react on her reaction videos. She has to authentically react. Which most all of us appreciate. Ashley says she often goes back and listens to the songs a second time after these reactions to see what she misses in the song and does discover things she didn’t notice something sometimes during the reaction for whatever reason or another. Ashley is younger but she has appreciated much of the music of generations before hers. Music from the 60’s, 70’s, 80’s and forward. She does a really great job. Now, if you wanna point out something that you would like her to pay attention to more closely, like Gladys’ amazing vocals, suggest that, bring it to Ashley’s attention but don’t unfairly mistake her for not appreciating the music or telling her what to do on her reaction channel. The reaction is to the music, whether the lyrics, the artists style, the message in the song, the vocals, and or the lyrics, any or all of that. Check out some of her other reactions and you’ll see she does this. And she’s really good at speaking on whatever aspect of the song. She’s got bars, funny, wise, all with personality. This young woman is going places with this gift of hers. Please recognize.
lead by example that's all the older generation is dysfunctional these days if more of the older generation would call out all the foolishness going on in the black community then maybe the younger Generations would listen and learn
What Gladys is saying, we still love each other, we know it ain’t working but neither one of us want to pull the trigger first. If you grew up in the 70’s you know what Gladys is talking about. I created a painting to this song. I give this reaction 4 hearts ❤❤❤❤
It's so hard to explain related sentiments to someone who hasn't yet had the experience. Hopefully...she'll never know what it feels like to be at a relationship's end--considering divorce. Sheeesh. Kids. I tell you.
Exactly! It doesn’t have to be a toxic relationship but 1 that maybe both people has outgrown each other in some form or fashion but still loves each other!
This isn’t about Toxioits about growing apart . Or you can say this was marriage of convenience ( marrying the right person who you believe will be a good wife or husband because who you really wanted was not available or not the type that be family oriented . This is a 25 year end or marriage song . There is no mention of inferiority or abuse just that feeling is gone . Now she check out By the time I get to Phoenix or I will survive
@@michaelleslie6992 "You don't know what love is; until you've learned the meaning of the blues. Until you've lost a love it hurt to lose. You don't know...what love is." Billie Holiday: "You Don't Know What Love Is."
you don't know how my heart breaks, for a love that cannot yet never dies. Until you've met each dawn with sleepless eyes. You don't know@@heavydown2582
This was written back in a completely different culture. Now we have all types of media, advising people to leave doomed relationships. I don't mind Ashley passing on her wisdom. I do wish she had been less condescending about it though, and more original in her message. I've heard her exact words about a hundred times or more.
To me she is not singing about a toxic relationship- she is singing about a relationship that has lost its spark and two people who still love each other but more like friends now and they are going through the motions- that's my interpretation.
This song is about my relationship with my kids mother. I'm friends with her to this day and talk about each other's relationships lol. We have love but we could never get right together.
Exactly! Your heart will let you know when to release him and not try to sound tough. You'll know the straw that broke the camels back. Yes honey, otherwise you will be choosing the same kind of man over again.
Not everything is as simple as 'toxicity'. If someone can easily leave a long-term relationship with someone else - and not just someone who was fun and convenient for a while - I have to question if they (the leaver) ever really loved to other person. There's a lot of gray in life and some degree of sacrifice is necessary and appropriate in a healthy and loving long-term relationship. Naturally, narcissistic abuse and physical abuse (among some other things) need to be escaped when possible, but we all make compromises in relationships, or don't yet have the courage or resources to move on appropriately at times. Or we remain alone. Love, in the end, is not just some feeling, but is the act of meeting needs.. If someone else is incapable of meeting some of your needs, but you can meet some of theirs because you care deeply for them, that's not automatically toxic. The older you get the more you realize both that things are harder in practice than in theory and that thre are things of value we can take from not getting our way immediately all the time. Life and human beings are much more complicated than that.
They were a great R&B/soul/funk family music group that started out in the 50's & had hits over 4 decades. They had a lot of great songs such as "Midnight Train To Georgia", "Every Beat Of My Heart", "I Heard It Through The Grapevine", "Nitty Gritty", "Friendship Train", "If I Were Your Woman", "I Don't Want To Do Wrong", "Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me", "I've Got to Use My Imagination", "I Feel a Song (In My Heart)", "On & On", "Love Overboard" etc.
One of the best singers ever. One of the best songs ever. You should check out her singing at Garth Brooks kennedy center honors. Just staggeringly good
Uuuuhhhh nowhere did you mention Gladys voice. You critiqued the hell out of the message of the song. However......you NEVER spoke on Gladys's emotional & passionate delivery of the message. Also......you kept using the word TOXIC. That may or may NOT be necessarily so. Right or wrong, people stay in relationships longer than they should for various reasons. I don't know how old you are, but...... from your version of SOUND advice, your life & relationship lessons SEEM 2b limited. Because Bayyyyy Beeeeee for soooooo many reasons, man or woman, if it was as simple as YOU verbalized, THIS song & all...... the ones that have come after it, wouldn't have been made.
It's so interesting to see (and hear!) how younger people "think" that they will respond to a situation that they have yet to have. It's similar to hearing them talk about how they would "cuss out the overseer"--who told them to "get over there & pick that damn cotton!" Pffft. Kids.
Baby, keep on living and you'll see that there are times when a relationship/friendship can exist on the memory of love, especially when children are in the mix or decades invested. Sometimes folk grow, evolve at different rates or maybe one won't when the other does. Everything isn't always that cut and dry.
The beauty of this song is at the end she is finally resolved to the end of the relationship and tells her man "farewell my love, goodbye". A bittersweet song of love and heartbreak.
@@heavydown2582 Facts. The truth is you have to have lived, loved and had your heart broken to appreciate love songs. Which is why the young hear these songs as corny or irrelevant. Just give them time though.
@@helgar791 Yes indeed. There's a reason "why" the youth of ANY generation eventually adopts the music of the preceding generation/s. Years ago, (80's) I saw a bumper sticker that said: Life gives you two choices: "Live...and learn." or, "Die Stupid." This arrangement HAS NOT changed. You either, "learn...as you live", or....you, "die stupid". Far too many people do not learn as they live; and, as a result of living foolishly--end up "Dying While Stupid".
Love and emotions are not as simple to dismiss as you have expressed in your reaction to this song. If it is that easy to walk away then it is a sign that you really didn't love the person in the first place. This song is a classic because many of us can relate to the pain of realizing the relationship is over before you actually leave. The song is not about staying necessarily, it is about the pain of saying goodbye. The term "Toxic Relationship" does not always have to be ascribed to all relationships that break up. Sometimes you simply outgrow one another and it's time to move on.
Ive been here a few times! This song talks about with men and women go through all the time! This is probably my favorite song by Ms. Gladys Knight & The Pips! One of the greatest R&B/Soul groups of All-time! I went to conceet about several years ago to see Gladys and she is simply one of the best soul singers of all-time!
Hi Ashley, Ms. Gladys Knight is the epitome of "CLASS!!!" It is no wonder that she is known as "The Empress of Soul"...Her consistency throughout the decades sets her apart & puts her in a league of her own!!!
Real relationships have many layers, it takes years to develop and those bonds are not easily broken. Gladys showed the depths of true love's different dimensions better than most. She is one of the GOATs of R&B.
Speaking from experience, sometimes there's no fault on either side. The situation is just what it is. Love this one from Gladys and the Pips! Music from this era always spoke from the heart and soul, positive or negative!
I have been waiting for you to do some Gladys. But, you have the right song but the wrong video. Find the one where you get to see the PIPS doing their thing. You will enjoy this song so much better....look it up, peace
Gladys Knight was the first singer that stopped me in my tracks... I was walking through the room where mom and dad were watching TV... and there was a beautiful angel singing with the coolest backup singers I had seen in my 8 to 10 years of living... I just stopped and stared at the TV.... I have loved her ever since.......
Gladys Knight has a powerful and distinctive voice. I hadn't thought or heard her voice since "That's What Friends Are For" (1985). Then, 30 years later I was listening to the radio driving home from work when without warning, I hear Gladys Knight's voice on a song I've never heard before. I had to know if it was an old song or a new one (2010's). Her soulful and powerful voice was a refreshing gift amid the top 10 songs of that time. In fact, the last song by her on an album I had to have was "Save The Overtime (For Me)" from the Visions album by Gladys Knight & The Pips (1983). Thanks for posting this reaction video of "Neither One Of Us", Ashley. Listening to her voice is like seeing an old friend after not seeing them for many years.
First time viewing your reviews (sorry!) but this is the music I grew up with. Got an AM/FM radio for Christmas when I was 13 and didn't know AM from FM. I listened to this station that was mostly Motown. I got addicted, and Gladys Knight and the Pips was a big act at that time, so I guess you could say I've been IN LOVE with Gladys Knight's voice for 53 years. Some people like today's "music", but they don't remember a time when you needed talent to make it! Ms. knight had it - more than most! STILL love her!
At 80 years young, Gladys Knight STILL looks and sounds amazing. Known as "The Empress of Soul," she is a soul music icon. Simply one of the greatest singers to have ever lived. She is a true music legend.
SHALOM DEAR SISTER 🙏🏿🌹🙏🏿🌹🙏🏿🌹🙏🏿🌹🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿I HEAR YOU. LOUD AND CLEAR I SINCERELY APPRECIATE😮YOUR TIME TO BRING THIS MUSIC TO US YOUR FANS..AND LIMITED TIME 😮AND THE ELECTRIC TO POWER YOUR DEVICES 🎶🎵💰💰💰YES ...BACK THEN IT WAS CHEEPER...BUT THEY DIDN'T PAY AS MUCH...ON THE JOBS..😮UNLESS WE WORKED FOR GM....😮SHE MADE A SONG .. MR WELFARE...😮ONLY US WILL SING ABOUT . ANY😮 THING😂😂😂😂😂 CHECK OUT BRANDY YOUNGER. SONG 🪠 TOILET PAPER ROMANCE PANDEMIC SONG😂😂😂😂VERY SWEET 🎂🎂🎂🎂
No, no young sister. How do you think marriages last 40/50 years? You don’t just say goodbye so easily. That’s what’s wrong with this throw away society we have today. My mother played this song on repeat but dad never got the message until she finally said goodbye. When you are in love you try to make it work until you just can’t try anymore.
This is a disappointing reaction. I didn’t come for relationship advice although I acknowledge you heard the words. There is a reason that you heard the words. Your attention was grabbed straight away by a retro R&B piano and acoustic guitar followed by a gentle smooth percussion. This beautiful musical arrangement was complimented throughout with a plethora of violin strings and groovy base guitar holding it all together. All of this set the stage for one of the greatest vocalists to deliver a world class and deeply emotional reflection of losing the love of your life supported by the sweet harmonies of some of the most famous backing singers of all time. I saw your brow through that and you were feeling all these things but you didn’t mention any. You didn’t even mention her voice 😳. If you want subscribers, give them what they came for. Sorry to be a bit tough on you ❤
It’s about people staying with each other cause it’s comfortable but yall know it ain’t working. It’s not about nothing ugly or it even being toxic. It’s two people that still love each other but they can’t let it go despite the fact that they’ve just out grown each other. They keep trying to convince themselves that they should be together but it’s over.
I don't see this story as a relationship that has grown toxic as much as a relationship where they've lost touch with how they used to connect on a deeper level. Neither of them knows how to get it back or if there's enough left to save their bond. But somewhere within them, there's a hope based on what they used to cherish about one another, and they fear they may be giving up too easy on something just because it's grown difficult to reach each other in the same way. I come away from the song with sadness for their struggle but also with hope that they won't give up on trying to be brave enough to face it and work through it together. LoL. I'm an optimist, I guess. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.
🧡 Jill Scott sampled this for her song No More Rain (In This Cloud). (Edit) I meant Angie Stone! Sheesh! I think I got mixed up between this and another video I was watching. 🤪
I think your perspective for this song is a little bit off. The song has nothing to do with being toxic. There was no such thing as “toxic” relationships back then. The song is where you have two people that love each other but can’t seem to come together as one but don’t want to leave. The problem with relationships today is they look to say goodbye too quickly.
This was a very special time in my life…1970, beginning high school, walking into the school cafeteria at lunchtime, and this was playing on the jukebox where they had every hit. It was the beginning of a love affair with G Knight! Thx Ashley!❤
This song isn't about a toxic relationship. It's about a relationship that has changed and they know they're not happy. They still love each other, but realize there isn't a future but no one wants to be the to say goodbye.
I know today that don't mean anything but most peoples was married or getting married back then and you never wanted to give up on the one you started out with that's what Glady's is talking about you said it yourself men didn't mind telling women's how much they love them
This song about me and my ex, we are friends to this day and co raised our kids, but we are toxic together. We fought it out but it was better this way.
Maybe, (just maybe) one day, Ashley, you might decide to interact with your audience--and give us a taste of what music sustained YOU--before you started your channel. But, until that day...I always wonder what songs from your generation have a similar effect on you as the music from your grandparents generation. I'm curious to know. It's hard to believe that there are no songs (less than 30 years old) that move you the way these 50+ year old songs do. If so--what are they? Let us hear some of the playlist gems from YOUR generation. I'd like to see how far outside your generation the music you love can travel. 🤗
This is actually a dope idea ! I’d name it A “ PEEK INTO THE PLAYLIST” and just go through some old gems of my generation and some that I’ve put on from others 🔥🔥💓💓 I appreciate you 😌🥰
@@TheOfficialAshleyReacts I think your viewers would like that. It would give them some insight into what, (musically) has sustained you, over the years. Us "old heads" wanna know what has "held you up" ; when times are hard. Thanks for responding; and, ...I enjoy your channel. 🙏🏽
Don’t fault your grandmothers & great grandmothers for staying. Standards and THE LAW were different back then. A woman couldn’t just “up and leave” with the freedom you youngins have today. I’ll give 1 example to explain & then multiply that by 100 to show how difficult it was for women to leave. Example #1(and it’s all you need to know, but multiply it by 100 to get the “real”): BY LAW, a woman even in the early ‘70s was not ALLOWED to have her name on a bank account without her husband’s name on it! You wanna leave him, good luck surviving with no money to support yourself (let alone whatever kids may be around). And divorced women back in the day were stigmatized by society…even other women. These women went through a lot so you women of today could have the rights you do…there was a lot holding them back that women of today do not even have to think about. And this is an old man talking.
Ain’t Understanding Mellow by Jerry Butler and Brenda Lee Eager. Phyllis Hyman Somewhere in My Lifetime, The Answer is You, Meet Me on the Moon You send Me by Roy Ayres. You might like Phyllis and Roy but Jerry a Brenda no that is a song. Enjoy.
Gladys Knight didn't write the song; she's telling a story, as a piece of literary and musical art. Odd, but if you were to find yourself in the presence of the great Gladys Knight, you would find that you couldn't possibly address her that way, or even think of giving her advice. BTW, this is a great dancing song.
Gladys came from a time where relationships actually had to WORK through hard times and quitting wasn’t the go to answer to unhappiness or dissatisfaction within a relationship. Modern women today slap “toxic” on anything that makes them feel uneasy or unhappy. They don’t make women the same anymore. Crazy thing is Ashley is now married, I feel bad for her husband if the expectation is to be happy all the time. Modern woman don’t fight for anything, except to be “free” while being oppressed by jobs and college debt. Make it make sense. Gladys was telling the truth in this song.
Please stop judging past behaviors on what 2024 tells you not to put up with. Its not toxic on trying to fight for a relationship,it's not toxic for it being hard to let go of someone you cared for and love. Too many people are quick to give up on things and quit now and not fight for it. I wished you would've focused more on the singing instead of giving a psychology lesson of what toxic or what pc is
Thanks Mama Ashley. I needed your words today. Really striggling with a situation like in that song. Id be listening to your heartbroken playlist on shuffle repeat.
First of all Ashley, love you, but you giving her a lecture in the middle of the song. She's saying goodbye;finally. It wasn't toxic, they had a mighty love and they both can't bear the thought of losing this once beautiful thing, Been there, it still hurts and the love remains. She is the Empress! A song can not be phrased, arced, filled with passion better than this.
I actually agree with you, Ashley. As I’ve observed your reactions, it is clear that you are truly able to employ mindfulness in every aspect of your life. I truly admire that self assurance in you. Not everyone felt as good about themselves, especially in the 70’s. I had very low self esteem in my marriage, not in my career. During that time, and sometimes even now, companies were forced to hire Blacks or lose Federal funding. More often than not, females were hired to kill two birds with one stone. That often meant she was the breadwinner. The husband had a lesser salary or none at all. In my case, he resented me, but we stayed together. I was hoping, praying things would work out. Eventually, after playing this song so much, and enduring his infidelity, etc., I did as you suggest 40 years ago. He passed away last year married again for many years.
