Facts that’s what happened to me! 20 yrs down the drain 2 kids as well….. all so she could see if the grass was greener… well she found out it was Astro turf. Now after 2yrs she wants the family back…. That’s a no for me.. I was literally dying of a broken heart.. crying for months, mourning the death of my marriage.. all because she met up with her ex. I can’t go back..I would be disrespecting myself. But I’ll love my kids and be there for them.. but a relationship with her? Nope, not even a sneak link… amor fati.
@@OnTheDailyy it’s all good now.. but just be careful. The women of today are not brought up with class and respect.. only a small percentage of them are out there. Make sure you get therapy if there’s any issues you might have that need sorting out…same goes for her. Also if she has trauma in her family let her figure it out DON’T SAVE HER! If she has issues with ex boyfriends…. LEAVE HER! Because please believe she’ll leave you.. that trauma bonding is real. Get your money up, stay focused and if you choose to get into a “long term relationship talk out all the things you want and don’t want.. plus look into your boundaries that’s important! Those are some keys… Godspeed fam.
Stay strong. All that damage she did, make her reap what she sowed! Stay strong and do not give in. You’re worth way more than she is and you’ll find someone who will love you like you deserve.
@@elizabethandrade8865 thank you 🙏🏾. I just forgave her for the sake of my health and my kids..but her world is crashing and that was her choice. I can’t go back and I won’t.
Well, psychologically, men are more into the physical, women more into the emotional. However, the emotional is what makes a relationship serious to a man, while the physical is what makes it serious to the woman.
@@beatsintime I've been married for nearly ten years. It's not the sex that keeps me here. Never was. She was the first who wouldn't let me go, who needed me, and loved me. That's exactly what I needed from a woman. That emotional stuff is what keeps men and women married long after the sex stops. Men are interested in it. We just don't express it like women do. And why would we? We're not women.
I'm 25 and I have no social media. Only youtube. It's unrealistic for me to ask for someone to not have it but it's kind of a non negotiable for me at this point it might change but social media is so bad.
Your not alone I'm the same way if your not running a business or if your not using social media as a stream of income there is no need for it if you feel you just have to have it than you are not for me stand your ground.
@@yahirzavala4353 exactly! I come by new people all the time. And if the vibes are right someone says something! I also play games on the ps4 so I meet people on there too. But yes to answer your question.
My wife and I are 40 and have no social media. We’ve been together since 98 in high school. Have two grown children and a granddaughter. I own my own business and my wife takes care of the family. We ain’t worried about everyone else that’s why our relationship and world isn’t tainted
@@Love-hx6nb unpopular opinion but I’m the same way. Late 20s and I deleted all my social media. My closest friends I will call from time to time to see how they are doing, I don’t need the fake illusion of updates from social media anyway.
Honestly social media is only good for comparing your live to others and hurting your own feelings. I believe that’s the reason everyone is depressed these days. They are too busy looking at other people lives, they don’t even enjoy their own lives anymore
And so do his children... a lot of people's fruit on their tree is dead and rotten and making everyone sick that eats from it. Good news is there is water to help pass and cleanse the illness caused by the rotten fruit.
Last year my bf of 4 years started talking to a woman he met online across the country. He was so infatuated with what he “saw” in pics and what she said to him , that he broke up with me and wanted her. She then asked for money of course and then ghosted him forever. A week later he was apologizing and begging, crying …you name it. Never again my dude.
This why I deleted my social media when my relationship got serious with my wife. I don’t need temptation in my face on a daily basis. You can be perfect for years and lose it all in one day.
1- Do not accept a partner who still talks to their ex 2- Gave a talk regarding social media and your relationship 3- Do not reach to your ex when things are not going well 4- Cheating should not be an option to you and should never be an excuse 5- Do not forgive cheater because guess what, they will most likely cheat again.
Once a cheater, always a cheater! My ex wife twisted me up in abuse and cheating. When I reached my tipping point, I projectile vomited, for 45 minutes straight. I was putside on the phone with her, and my soul felt like a wet towel that was twisted for years, and it finally released. Every second I puked, the towel unraveled and I am telling you, I felt my soul literally untwist itself. This sh*t is too real. That is what proved to me, we have souls. I felt like such a new person, after I finished throwing up (seriously, I felt like I just unraveled!) That I was finally able to easily tell myself "yup, I'm done," and the impossible became simple. Since that night, that awful (but looking back, amazing) night, I have been officially single, and happily divorced. I will NEVER get into another relationship! She wouldn't let me have any hobbies or anything. I had to focus on kissing the ground she walked on, (even that was never, ever, enough for her. When I say abusive, I mean, she was abusive) she isolated me from my family, and so much more. I worked my a** off, for her to party, and eat, while I lost weight, because I gave her everything. She wouldn't let me eat even. (I am 28 now, and was with her from 2012, to 2019.) Now, I am free to do whatever I want. I decided to buy an xbox one x and a playstation 4 pro together, just because I never was allowed to do anything (I used to produce music, until she commanded me not to anymore) and now, I can do what I want. I can now be alone with my Lord Jesus Christ. She is in trouble with the law (saw that coming) and I think it is hilarious, because she falsely accused me of domestic violence (she was the one hitting me, cutting me, throwing stuff, breaking what little I did have, and cheating/lying while using drugs and drinking while I was at work.) I'm pretty sure she also brought this guy Mat to our house while I was working. It hurt me so badly, and when I think about it, I still get sad just because I could never do that to someone else (any of it) but, I remember that she wasn't worth my tears. Especially not now. Happy new years! Sorry for the long comment!
@@Ahriman216Oh my goodness wow first of all HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU! You are a strong individual, and I am so happy for you coming into your own after that experience. You deserve to be happy, and do what you want to do! God bless you on your journey for the rest of your days!
They say the club is the devils playground, now it’s the feed is the devils playground. It’s been over 2 years with NO social media and I can’t tell you how freeing it is. The enemy wants to rob kill and destroy and destroying is last because it’s the most powerful tool he uses. MEN TREASURE YOUR WIFE AT ALL COST! Even if that means you you gotta cut out everything for the sake of your marriage 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Dawg! I’ve been preaching this for over 5 years now. Social media gives people access to your significant other who shouldn’t, which causes temptation when y’all not on good terms
So true! Everytime we had a fallout he ran back to his exes, so I'm done! Getting a divorce in February 2023. He's a dawg! I wish I could warn the future women and give his name.... Save future victims of his narcissistic personality.
It was always natural that some people would come in and out of your life and you'd never talk to them again. That all ended with Facebook. It's not natural.
Forgave and still ended up in that b situation... let go and let flow. I love the quote that ask "How many times are you going to let someone tell you they no longer want you"
My girlfriend and I made a deal to drop social media. Fast forward 8 years, we were engaged...I find out she has started a new Facebook. 6 month later she's cheating. We are done.
@@Last-Lap-Lando4 well hey its a good thing u didnt marry her because most times that ring an paper is not enuf to make them loyal 4 a lifetime. I hope u find the right 1... bro fb has the game messed up out here
People can't solve their relationship issues. They always have to have outsiders involved. *Talk to your spouse, not your ex, ladies and gentlemen.* Don't hit up your homeboys to talk about your wife. Don't hit up your girlfriends to talk about your husband. Your relationship is your business, your responsibility.
The only instance where talking to other people about your circumstances is to see if its normal especially if you marry young. I had a dear acquaintance whose black and her mil was racist even though she married a Brazilian. Her husband was 10 years older and treated her Ike a maid but also wanted my acquaintance to make the money because he was a lazy prince who was waited on hand and foot by his mama and he didnt want to work claiming his lil sign painting buisiness every other month was to much "work" and she should support him even though he barely had work and wasnt hustling to get more gigs .she tried to work it out and was bending over backwards but still treated like garabage by the whole family. My good friend and I helped her realize she needed to leave her verbally and financially abusive marriage and inlaws. Because thats what it was. Not everyone wants you to be happy and successful in your relationship. But we wanted her to be successful because we always wanted that for each other clear back in college.thsts why it important to surround yourself with people who want you to succeed in life not tear each other down like crabs in a bucket.
@@ah5721 That case is different, but in general, married couples should solve their issues among each other. Also, it's best for people to get to know potential mates before settling down.
I always said it's just h a be to be some bum that want to slip into the nibble of a relationship,damn bum want to have sex with another man wife/girl.
I did the work of physically disconnecting myself from an ex that wouldn't let me go when things ended between us. He had a history of hanging on to his exes (I later learned) while I was with him. I was 24 years old at that time.. best adult decision of my life.. . It's the cut which I had to make in order to uphold God's standard for my life.
In my case it was the opposite he got to contact her after so many years, propose marriage and once I told him that I would be filing for divorce he broke up with her and told her that he could not marry her because he was too involved with me for so many years but I told him to get back on the phone and tell her that they should continue their plans. My divorce went through on January 3rd 2023, and he still has the audacity to be calling me as recent as yesterday January 7th 2023. It is also a fact that many do regret their adultery and want to go back but you want to make sure very sure that once you commit such a betrayal you wish to stay where you put yourself in because it will be excruciating what you will be going through once you realize you will not be taken back. Now I'm happier and at peace and moving forward to whatever plans God has for me. God bless you all in your journey of love and happiness.
I mean maybe but emotional cheating can't give you herpes or outside babies so which really is worse? I think they can't be compared, they're both bad in their own ways
Due to people starting relationships on the internet. I have social media and never cheat on my husband. I don't go looking for it. I also stay away from anyone online that does. If you can't handle social media don't have it but if you can then you should. If someone is going to cheat they will cheat no matter what. Anything should be in front of them and them not use it to cheat. They want to cheat internet just makes it easier
The emotional soul tie is stronger than the physical. My father reconnected with an old flame who dumped him, she called after 35 years, and he married her less than one week after the divorce.
Never be with someone that still talks to their ex’s OR with someone who has a lot of dudes flirting with her and she says “ it’s normal, I don’t like them as men “
Yep, this was what I have had to learn, except it was my ex-husband. He never stopped pursuing others. “I’m just helping her out - she’s going through a tough time”
I married 1 .had my baby with her. She was always on fb. This was before I found Jordan Peterson. And get red pilled, by then it was to late didn't know she was still 304ing with dudes
I don’t want to become those woman who married someone saw signs but stuck around & then years later I find myself paying for it. I just left my ex. We was together for 2 yrs and ready to start a life (marriage) coming into this year I found out he cheated with something he consider a “fling” everyone like give him a chance it’s mistake …his family and him all begging me to come back , but I stood my ground. I left. I’m going to be the example woman in his life to never treat someone you claim you “love “ that way. Now his next gf he will think twice. It’s a hard decision ladies but I believe God has person for everyone & that person will choose me EVERYDAY no matter what💕
I was surprised to learn that 5 to 7% of affair relationships lead to marriage, but most end in divorce because of trust issues. Some people should just stay single…
Most marriages end in divorce but we keep shaming ppl for not being married. We keep encouraging our daughters to get married. Ive been saving money for my lil girl's college not her wedding.
@@yunggpacinoYou definitely made that up. I see single, childless forty year olds living much happier lives than many married women I know. It's the married one's needing all kinds of counseling because of the toll those marriages are taking on their mental health.
Marriage is overated! More time should be invested in being committed rather than getting a ring. Being married doesn't guarantee not being lonely. The spouse can die or ignore you in the marriage....
They end in divorce because we don’t show people what successful marriage is. We don’t show that it’s a struggle and work goes into it. It’s not always butterflies and rainbows, but a good marriage is for life it’s a partnership. A piece of paper on the wall won’t help you when you’re sick or when life gets tough. A loved one will. Nothing can or will replace true love, when you love someone you will have a beautiful journey together. Encourage your daughter to be a good spouse and then we won’t have so many divorces.
Social media wrecked my marriage. In this day and age relationships are struggling. Easier to find something new than to work on something. Working on a relationship will help anyone in becoming a better person, leaving at the first sign of trouble you’ll be stuck as the same person
About 8 years ago, my marriage was going through a hard time. And I did this. Biggest mistake of my life... BUT, it saved my marriage. We learned how to communicate, put each other first, not take each other for granted. We just celebrated 15 years together, and I've NEVER had the desire to look outside my own marriage for any kind of validation since.
@@abbyroach205 Ohhh you cheated? I didn’t catch that lol sometimes I get caught up in “men suck” and forget women cheat too. Glad you were at least able to learn from it and better appreciate what you have but does suck I don’t think I’d ever get over something like that it would really ruin me mentally
Never get in relationships with people who make other people responsible for their happiness. The foundation you build on is bound to be weak, unpredictable, and conditional. A healthy partner is one who has mastered happiness before even stepping into a relationship. Therefore your partner will not put all of the responsibility of them being happy on you and allow the slightest things to interfere and be a reason for bs. A person's true happiness is only their responsibility.
You’re telling my story, bro. Ex left me after 14 years together, 13 of that married, with 4 children age 7 and under. He did marry the side chic and has proceeded to cheat on her as well!
@@vanderumd11 I was too cranky and demanding. In my defense, I felt like a single parent of 4 very young children. My ex was totally checked out. Would lay up in bed til noon or later every day that he could. We got married very young and I think after a while he just felt trapped. He didn’t want the responsibility of a bunch of kids. Also, 1 of our 4 children has autism and the other went through a battle with cancer as a baby. I just don’t think that he could handle it and I was angry and frustrated all of the time, which didn’t help.
@@crazeekids9744 absolutely makes sense. You were dealt a very tough hand of cards. The accountability, focus, and awareness you just displayed was amazing. Be blessed 2023.
My ex was living with his parents when we met, he was 26 at the time. He started living with me, no rent. He bought groceries but mainly just for him. Found out he was messaging his ex. He said it was just to say happy birthday... a couple years later my dog of 15 years passed away during the pandemic, i lived alone in a whole ass house and he just left me when i need him most. Turns out his ex was going through shit so he was there for her instead.
Just because you don't have Facebook don't mean your boyfriend don't 🤣 he could still be cheating and you will never know it that's how slick these men are nowadays
Unrelated but your dance like no one’s watching vid just cheered me up after this video got me in the feels hope 2024 is the best year yet for you 🙌🏾😁💚
What’s the worst is when the spouse lies and marries the very person they claim they had no interest in side chicks are getting married y’all. My ex and his new wife are happy. It did have to be at the expense deceit What I say to this is just be honest do not lie it’ll save everyone heartache.
You can't blame social media for someone that isn't loyal. You can't run away from social media it's everywhere and old forms of communication are disappearing. So I say instead of blaming take accountability and resist infidelity. Be disciplined and please have some morals. Love isn't hard people make it complicated. If you love someone and you know that cheating would hurt them don't do it.
I deleted Facebook, insta and Twitter 5 years ago because of said above and also the amount of Narcissism I saw before it was a taking point on places like this. I’ve never re-opened or thought about re activating them. It’s a tool that’s used to kill our imaginations and also to dull our core. Get off those platforms and I PROMISE you that you will feel a weight of anxiety be lifted off your shoulders.
Yep my neighbor went thru a divorce because her husband started cheating with her former friend then divorced my neighbor and started dating her former friend and decided to help my neighbor's former friend raise her children......My neighbor's ex husband told my neighbor that he never wanted children....my neighbor married her ex at 22yrs old and he divorced her at 47yrs old, sad part is she always wanted children but didn't because he didn't want any..... I'm sure it hurts to see him help her former friend raise her kids....
Literally happened to me and the worst part was the person was a fellow church member and I was ostracized and scrutinized for being the woman who’s husband stepped out on and then married that person instead. They then stated a smear campaign against, committed fraud, and gained full custody of my children from the marriage. I’m still fighting to get them back and it’s been 3 years now. But to God be the glory I’m on my way out. I’ve started publishing childrens books and mentoring young girls to steer them away from jumping into marriage like I did
What's not realized is, the emotional is what intensifies the physical, because the mind controls the body, 80% metal and emotional, 20% physical and that's facts.
A dj I use to work with told me Facebook almost cost him his marriage. He claims he never did anything with the woman but whatever his wife saw was enough to consider walking away. Luckily they didn't divorce but he had to delete Facebook.
I understand what he is saying. I agree social media is tempting but if someone wants to cheat they will. Grocery store , gas station or walking down the street they can bump into someone that peaks their interest. The love and respect that one has for their partner/ family should outweigh temporary thrills. Roaming eyes…
This is exactly what happened to my sister. She left school 2 weeks before graduation and married a man (he was really a good guy) then, they packed up and moved to Maine from Alabama. They were happily married for 2 years then moved back to alabama. My sister reconnected with a guy from high school and started cheating on her husband. This went on for some months and my sister accidentally left her Facebook open and her husband saw everything! Obviously, they ended up divorcing and she went on to be with and marry the guy she cheated with, turns out he was a junkie. They now have two kids, she’s been through hell with him. They’ve split up because CPs told her “It’s either him or your kids” clearly she chose her children. They are still together and he’s still a loser.
Exactly! The integrity and character of many of these men are the worst. One of my good friends texted me a few days ago that her dude of a year (who she’d reconnected with after 30 something years) called her when she was getting ready for work and broke up with her. They’d just spent the holidays together AND the past weekend they’d gotten a hotel room and ate at IHOP just to get away from their apartment. The day after he broke up with my friend he posts on fb his engagement to an ex girlfriend! It was a huge mess-my friend’s son and sister posted mean comments on his fb page. And he was on his page bragging how his NEW fiancée’ was his warrior! Crazy!
Got off or FB, Instagram Twitter because I started to go look up pics of women. God straight up checked me one day while reading scripture. Confessed to my wife and got off of those platforms. Best thing ever.
My ex came back after 7 years of not communicating, her man was cheating on her so she sought revenge through me. I'm happy im healed because I turned her away and tried to put her back on the right path. Cheating sucks, dont do it everyone
No matter how much you love someone, you always need a personal savings. God forbid this happens to you...but if it does you are able to leave immediately and continue with your life.
This is why I can’t understand why some women throw their marriages in single women faces or shame the single woman….like sis you’re a single married woman, but go off! Married men are always in a single person dms…and don’t @ me with your bs! I said what I said. Check the night bars….filled with “married” men lurking 👀 🙄
I've always told people everybody cheats it's a matter of when and where and how but most cheating spawns from the 1st moment you are attracted to that person by simple calm soothing conversation and understanding. People don't believe in that but it's powerful.
This happened to me. I was engaged and my fiance reconnected with an old friend from college that he was once intimate with. He was willing to end our relationship because I asked him to let her go. A woman who lives in another state recently divorced with kids. I was told no. He can't and will not do it. He said I will either have to accept their relationship or move on. It was hard to hear but I'm glad it happened. I would have married this man. I Thank God every day he allowed her back into his life. I dodged a bullet 🙏🏿
I'm trying to stop an emotional soul tie that my husband doesn't see and he won't stop because he keeps saying it's not like that. it's painful because I am trying my hardest to fight for a marriage while he looks around. hurts so much
My husband made me get rid of my social media, and I fought him really hard at first (cause well damn it’s addicting.) he later explained it was so no one could get in between us during moments of conflict or weakness. Our lives have been so much better ever since, and I don’t miss it
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt When people start comparing their spouse to other people they see on social media (and/or comparing their marriage to other marriages they see on social media), it begins the downfall of that relationship for most people.
This stuff is so deep and true! The truth is the women are guilty of this too. Most women even while married cannot share her social media password with her husband because of the filth she entertains in her DM and she likes it, she doesn’t want anything interrupting that euphoria.
That’s the incubus and succubus spirit. That’s how those things you struggle with inside destroy you. Talk to someone you can trust because it won’t over power you once you talk about it. Learning to control your emotions.
Facts...I tried to connect with an old friend on FB, actually connecting with her was my ONLY reason of creating my FB account 12 years after I left it...she accepted my request, she had a family now...as I was looking at her pictures, I even questioned myself as to why was attracted and attached...I started having sexual thoughts of her because of our past. I ended up unfriending her, even though I told myself I wouldn't take things there, I know myself and didn't want to have any involvement in hurting her marriage, if we managed to end up meeting. Leave the past in the past, dont even look back at what could have been or making a fantasy a reality, because the reality can be more than you bargained for.
The soul ties suck. I knew nothing about her and he impregnated me to move her out. I couldn't follow through once I found out. I knew this man and loved him since I was 19. He was my first. We departed because I thought we had run our course because of his job and my sexuality. Years later he loved me the same and said he was willing to do what it took to keep me. I did not know what that meant. Beware of soul ties. They can destroy so many people.
my relationship just ended over a text. a rated G text, and he broke up with me. some people really do give up that easily. it hurts at times but most of all I praise God for removing and and all things and people that are not for me. Only he knows what later danger, hurt or negativity that he protected me from. Amen
I lost my sons mom after being together for 5 years because she started communicating with her old high school boyfriend that lived halfway across the country and had 3 kids and his wife or gf had just found out she was pregnant again. That was 6 years ago and it hurt me so much that I have not been in a relationship since. I’ve had other girlfriends in the past and although I cared for them I could never 100% trust them for one reason or another but I fully trusted that she would never do anything like that so when I found out that it was happening it hurt me worse than anything else ever has (besides my parents deaths). He abandoned his kids and moved across the country to where we live and they are married now and have a kid together so maybe it was meant to be for them but it doesn’t take the pain away from what she did to me. I cant help but think about his kids that he left that he only sees 2/3 times a year and how much pain they feel because of his selfishness.
@@robertsheets8021 such a heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry they put you & all of the kids through this to be together. They should've stayed together back then if they loved each other so much instead of getting all of those innocent people involved. Just sad. 😢
This is why I’m very careful of how I support male friends who have significant others. If I see you post about a hard day, I am not offering a shoulder or an ear. Yes we are friends, have been for Years, but I understand they have someone and that’s simply not my place nor my job. And please don’t try to come to me interested and you’re tied to something else🧐…… no sir. If you’re disrespecting me by thinking I’d reciprocate the interest, I can’t imagine what it’d be like in a relationship with you and we haven’t even addressed her yet😂💀😭🤚🏽🤚🏽🤚🏽🤚🏽
Too much temptation on the web that’s why it’s best to just delete all social media if you ever plan on getting married you don’t need that you have a cell phone and texting unless you use your social media for like your business or some thing then that’s different people just really need to learn how to have self control and to respect their marriages
People in happy marriages don't engage in physical or emotional connections with people outside the marriage inappropriately. There are a lot of people who push away and/ or sabotage relationships unknowingly (i.e. selfishness/ lack of self awareness/ denial/ toxic behaviors). Unfortunately, most likely the relationship between the two people in the marriage was over way before the new person came into the picture.
Today’s view on marriages makes me afraid to ever have a guy ask for my hand. I’ve never been married nor birthed children so I think I prefer to keep things that way.
Exactly why I don’t have social media. I have RU-vid and that is LITERALLY it. No need for some grown ass adults to have social media. All it is, a form of validation. Sad that the world basically revolves around social platforms now. It makes you lose the opportunity to truly connect with your significant other due to time.
This is why my husband and I deleted everything except RU-vid. It’s insane the amount of people that will message a married person to shoot their shot.
If she has social media I walk away. Good men and woman aren't on the internet they're too busy living their lives and not being miserable like the vast majority of people behind a keyboard.
@@Oll_704 the tool tells me about the person, tells me you seek attention. The only attention I seek is that of my family, friends, and whomever I'm with not the world. Unless my job requires for it (which I would never become an influencer) I'm not spending hours of my day trying to get hits of dopamine from complete strangers, I have more than enough...thank you very much. To each their own, that's my preference accept it and move on not everything is a bout.
Facts! He left a 10 year marriage for his workwife. But when she finds out what he is really about, she can have him. Let's say, I kept God in my circle and kept it moving forward, and never look back.
I deleted all social media besides RU-vid 6 years ago and definitely don’t miss them. If you want a traditional relationship you have to meet people the traditional way.
Nah my wife is a good person however she cheated on me I know my father wants me happy so I’m not gonna suffer trying to make something work with a person when I can work on myself for that future women
My husband detests social media and I am careful of who I accept as friends online. I must personally know you. When I first got on social media, as a single woman, all the past high school and college male friends were shooting their shot or trying to meet up alone for coffee to "catch up on old times" and having whole wives and families at home. No thank you!
