Great Expectations 

This is what an influencer ought to be.

He always seems to know when we need him most. His last few videos have really been on the mark with what I’ve been dealing with. Helps a lot.

My grandmother once said that A happy life was achieved by wanting the Things you got, not getting the things you want

Every time you say "maybe somebody needed to hear that," just know that you're right.

A wise man with incredible insight.

This man doesn't miss. These are the kind of guys we need to be listening to and aspiring to be like.

Thank you. You're right. I'm 26 and lonely. I have a good salary, lift weights, dress pretty well. I expected that I was finally ready to date based on the person I thought I had become. I met this girl at the gym, and built some rapport. We had so many things in common. I finally asked for her number and took her on smoothie date. It was going so well at first that I asked if she wanted to hike the next day. She said what a nice time she had and was looking forward to the next date. My expectations were so high. My bliss was so high. I thought it was my turn. Then after the hike, she said that she didn't want to lead me on into thinking we could hang out a lot because she was going to probably leave the area for graduate school and not go to graduate school in the area. I know I must have gone overboard and smothered her due to inexperience because my expectations were so high. I felt dead emptiness and reacted poorly to seeing her at the gym (just ignored her and tried to pretend she wasn't there). I don't think that was kind of me. Sadly, I know that explaining myself to her wouldn't go anywhere, but I could at least be courteous next time. Long story, but I need to drop my expectations just as you're saying.

I'm a 30 yr old husband and father of 3. Moving the wife and kids to a off grid home on about 25 acres up here in Nova Scotia. I fell in the category of young men who were lost. Personal responsibility and good guidance has got me where I am today. I thank you for the guidance. Never touched a horse but I'll be having a newfoundland pony to clear about 5 acres by hand. Gonna trust the process, keep it up. Us young men need old men like you to teach us the way.

The destination is not the reward, the journey is the reward.

I started going through life with no expectations a few years ago, and it's made my life 100% better, I couldn't agree more

As a 24 year old man his videos help a lot, they provide me with guidance and peace, I can apply some of its wisdom to my own life challenges. Thank you Dewayne

"Keep your expectations low and you will never be disappointed." - Kratos, God of War

“The stress is so high because the expectation is so high”. Beautiful quote to learn that I can lower my stress. My intention now is to first, expect less of myself. Now I am studying psychology in babysteps and for the first time enjoy studying🙏 Thanks to the Alimighty who leads me to green pastures of which this channel is an example. I am sending blessings to all of you here🌻

“The days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations - well, I have really good days.” - Ray Wylie Hubbard

When you know who you are, you will see yourself in everyone.

Hey, I just wanna thank you. I’ve had the worst day today and I feel like this applied directly to me. I’m taking this to heart

The problem is that when you are young and get everything from your parents you are going to have such large expectations in life that nobody can fulfil them.

Right there with you Dewayne. At 61 I don't have time for "friends" that are not quality individuals and those that carry themselves with integrity. But over the years I have learned to cut people slack (not excuse bad behavior), and take them as they are. "Expectations" can be a mental trap you can never escape from and that leads to disappointment, as you've said.

My dad always said that some people believe life is a playground, when in reality it is a battleground. For those playground people, they experience much more disappointment and pain because they have an inaccurate view of things. Going into life knowing it is a battleground makes it all so much easier. Great stuff.

I'm just a 23 yo girl but when you talked about approaching life like its a hallmark movie it hited me so hard because i've been living in that expectation for more than 7 years of my life, expecting it to be such a beautiful and soft future, and all i gained from that was disappointment. And its so hard to let it go of that view because i feel like if i leave those expectations, my dreams will not come true... and to accept life as it is right now is such a hard thing to do, because its not good. Living has been a torment. So i get divided by these thoughts :(

I wish someone explained this to me when I was a kid. I learned the extra hard way.

I'm 47 now and I learned this long ago. My wife asks me why I am so negative about things. I'm not negative. I am a realist. I don't expect anything. When things go bad it doesn't bother me much because I don't expect much. When great things happen I get so excited. Because I didn't expect it. I've learned long ago just wait to see what happens.

Just got done working my ass off, 15 hour day and just sat on my couch looking so forward to this :) this is the highlight of my day dewayne talking about life in general

Greetings from Ireland. You are a very wise man. Love listening to you. Thanks.

I'm a senior in college almost done 3 classes to go and I needed to hear this...I really need to adjust my perspective and just think about the journey and be grateful for the opportunity. Thanks for your wisdom!

I appreciate you sharing your life's experiences. I'm 66yrs old & I agree with everything you say. Thank you!

I'm almost 70. And have learned a few things from this Wiseman.

I'm 44 years old. Absolutely love watching this guys videos. Very smart and the wisdom shows.

Damn this really hit home for me. Been struggling with this for a while and tend to get very hard on myself if things don’t pan out the way I picture in my head. This video was very helpful and appreciate the wisdom.

I am 26 years old man and I needed these answers so bad. Whenever I am confused I come to your videos and I find my answers. I am blessed to have a voice like you in my life. I have changed so much little by little taking your words to heart and I am so much ahead from the depressed bottom I was at man was I down but not anymore.

I needed this, going into an interview tomorrow after 15 years with my old company... I started to create unrealistic expectations in my mind about what the new job could be, but this reminded me to go in humble and with no expectations so I'm not disappointed if things go south. Thank you.

38 and in a place where everything is falling apart, this 100% nails three our four things that just aren't working right now. Wish I heard this a decade ago.

It's strange, y'know. It feels like right when I'm dealing with a problem, this man releases a video talking about something that seems unrelated to what I'm going through. But when I sit and listen to it, I mean REALLY listen and think on what he's saying, it explains exactly what's wrong. These videos are a blessing, truly.

Man just dropped some of the best knowledge of my life, followed with a "I don't know"

I think it is great your sponsor items are at the end of the video. I find that pretty cool and shows how much pride you have in your content.

I wished that I had heard this when I was 19, I'm so grateful for you being here to tell everyone the wisdom & knowledge you do good Sir DeWayne at Wrangler school. Sincerely, ~Paul

Dewayne, what a God send you are. Thank you for taking the time to share your experiences with us in such a warm and very effective manner. 🙏

Thank you once again my good sir, for your sophisticated "old school" teachings. I developed low expectations of others but high expectations of myself through life experience. I don't get let down that way for better or worse. I'm responsible for my hapiness, no one else. I've become very independant as a result of having "great expectation" of others in the past. I know I won't let myself down. I live life on an even keel. I don't get too high or too low. Sounds boring and perhaps is, but I feel better overall as opposed to riding the extreme rollorcoaster of emotions.

I from from a little village in Poland (Europe) and I really appreciate your thoughts about life. I am very grateful. I feel like I got advice from my father (who I don't have). Have a nice day.

Yes sir. It’s easy to get caught up in expectations, best to just go with the flow and take em as they come!!! 💪🇺🇸💯

👏🏾 I’m beginning to feel guilty about how much I look forward to Dewayne’s videos. This is one of the only men that my husband doesn’t mind me and our son listening to💙

Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed.

The Word of The Most High is an excellent base line & foundational point for establishing expectations of this life

This guy knows the seceret and meaning to life, love your videos, every single one of them resonates with me and by the looks of it, all your other viewers. You are literally the most real and wise person on the whole of RU-vid, you deserve a medal. Keep up your good work and spreading your wisdom and helping people like me look at our own problems differently.

Thank you for your podcasts and videos Dwayne We appreciate the time that you spend for us

Greetings from Germany, glad i found your channel! You are spot on, thank you! I used to have expectations of others, jobs, etc. but as a 50 yr. I only have expectations of myself.

Nowadays it's called Minimalism or going with the flow. It's better to accept things as they come and adapt to the situation accordingly. Live with what's necessary and you won't be burdened by expectations.

Just the video I needed at the time I needed it, I'm going through a lonely stage because I walked away from people I consider toxic in my life, I had expectations placed on these people that were never met. I've been training my body with calisthenics and weights for about 6 months and going out for a run every day, and I don't see big changes, maybe they're there, but my expectations don't let me see them, because of these expectations I live with fits of rage and a lot of anger accumulated, I'm going to work on it, I'm 19 years old and your videos help me a lot as a guide, it's nice to see you speaking with that calm, wisdom and honesty, thank you very much.

Hey Man, i just discovered you at 2 am, but you gave the best motivation and advice I've heard in so long. I've heard the same ideas and thoughts from streamers and influencers, but most are in their luscious homes and rooms, all in their mid twenties and thirties. It never really hit home. But seeing you relaxing on a lawn chair, no editing, with raw and pure thoughts straight from the heart. With looks and stories filled with experience, I feel like I can full take in everything with trust. Thank you.

These are wise words. Just don’t lower your standards and get those confused with expectations.

Unrealistic expectations has been an issue for me for a while now (long while). Thank you for helping to bring light to this!

Im not even from your country, also we probably "differ greatly" religiously (or so we're told), but I have genuine love for you. Thank you for your wisdom and advice.

Every now and then we stumble upon some gold. This man is that gold.

I work with horses in argentina. Also my dad has given me the same Rudyard Kipling poem years ago, when I turn into 18 years old. I think good horse people is the same everywhere. I feel very much conected with all your videos eaven not beeing from the country side of the USA. Once we had a texan here, he came to buy some polo horses. He was just like us.. very similar mind set.

Afternoon Dwayne, thanks for the video. Always enjoy seeing your face pop up in the feed. Going through a tough period in the relationship where we’re giving one another time and space. Big expectations have been the single biggest factor in my mood during this difficult time. I’m learning that curbing my expectations doesn’t have to be a bad thing and it makes things hurt less, right now.

One thing my granddaddy always said was it's good to dream, but you have to follow through. You also have to be adaptable to life's bumps. He also said God gives you the ingredients, but it's up to you to make the cake.

I've learned not to make predictions the hard way. No prediction = no drama! helps me keep my peace.

A little late to the party on this video but man, this is good advice. It's timeless stuff coming from a man's man who seems to know very much what he's talking about. Thank you sir for taking time to give the rest of us some of your wisdom

Thank you for this life lesson video. It's something that I do need to hear, since so many young people (including myself) can easily fall under the social pressure of unwise adults.

I wish someone just told me this earlier (though I understand I'm still pretty young), to not sub consciously expect your life to play out like a movie, but be adventurous in your pursuits, instead of expecting things to work out say "Let's see what's around that corner", it's so simple but not doing this has caused me immense pain time and time again. If you have presumptions about a situation your judgement will be clouded and if your lofty expectations are not met you will suffer unnecessarily.

This one hit close to home. I as well had high expectations the way I treated people and selfishly I expected in return. People call me their friend and how good of a friend I am but they're always too busy to go out for lunch or throw a ball around. They say they're always too busy but they're hanging out with the same group of friends without me. It caused depression and made me insecure. Exactly as you said sir I show up to my job to work and not make friends. They aren't paying my bills. Be the best and do the best you can. Be the man and let Noone bring you down by their bs. Everyone take care

I will never lower my expectations or my standards. However, I also live in the world of reality. I never expect anything more than what I would expect from myself. If things go south I walk away and most of time don’t look back. When I’m done, I’m done. I give more grace to people than they deserve, but there does come a point that I have no more grace to give. There’s a saying I kinda live by. “If I cut you out of my life, chances are you handed me the scissors” if I have something worth saying I say it. I was raised to be independent but I also am not afraid of asking for help or learning new things. But in this world there are only two people I rely on, and that is myself and God. I have learned if I don’t have confidence in myself no one else will either. Life is hard, it’s a daily struggle. The joy I find is few and far between but I am grateful for it. No one ever said life was gonna be easy, but they never said it was going to be this hard. I appreciate your wisdom and the exceptional ability you have of conveying your philosophies.

Damn man, this is called reframing in therapy, But this is the best way of explaining it I've ever personally heard.

13:01 Yeah... I needed to hear this. Your wisdom won't be taken for granted. Thank you.

"They didn't read the same books I read."😂 I've been there. These videos are great, and I have to say I'm really enjoying the podcast lately. It's great for those of us that gotta drive long distances to work and whatnot. I thought it would be all repeated stuff or filler, but there's value there. Loved the one about Great Men vs Good Men. Cheers.

Mr Dewayne You are the jam Sir, absolutely addicted to your videos daily

I agree that expectation management can reduce disappointment and take off the pressure, but, on the flipside, you can also set high expectations for yourself and it will give you energy and motivation on a daily basis. The danger is if you don't reach the expectations. But then again, you may reach higher if you expect higher even if you don't achieve 100%. This is only for expectations of yourself, not others. Expecting little from others is probably a good bet.

You and your wife are like the parents I never had. Thanks for sharing all of your wisdom.

Brother you are spot on. So much emphasis is given to movies, books, and music as the guide to life; it's called fiction for a reason. Ideals are not the same as reality. Have a blessed day and a safe trip.

I have smoked cigars 50 years. Watching you tought me the proper way. Tks much.

I most definitely needed to hear this, what an absolute blessing this channel has become, I praise the Lord for this channel this man is the definition of a good man, a wise man someone worthy of listening to.

Thanks, helped me reflect on a recent outing, I havent gone out and been to the city much and my imagination can run from me a bit. I should just appreciate the moment, being with my friends

Greetings from Mississippi love the content you're touching not only your own race but blacks also

As a 21yr old I really appreciate this channel. It’s a great guidance channel 💯

Thank you very much for passing on the advice. This helped me calm down and better collect thoughts I was already having and helped me understand that I've been doing pretty good so far despite my own faults

Unvoiced expectations are planned disappointments. Communicate, compromise, and set realistic expectations. Its a 2 way street Thank you kindly for your time and efforts.

Needed to hear this. Thank you and God bless

As a middle age man 40 lbs overweight- I needed to hear this. Thank you for the message

Dewayne, thank you for just simply putting your true self out there and pursuing your calling. A lot of folks need to be having these kinds of discussions more often - and at 27 years old, I've really needed to hear the things you talk about. I'm glad I can listen to you on Spotify now, great decision.

Thank you brother…. Wisdom can be funny! Love you

Really what I needed to hear today. This won't be my last time watching. Thank you so much for your experience and wisdom.

Young men and women can learn a lot from us wise ol' souls. Thank You You just said my Mantra. Disappointments are the direct results of expectations. I tried to help my son realize that, while he is making plans, so is everyone else around him. So make plans and set goals with the idea in mind to be flexible. And remember... When you come up against a wall... Be the ball. In my personal life , I do practice the law of intention, by envisioning a desired result. Then holding that intention in mind as I go about daily life. The trick is not to push., but rather be aware when opportunities that align with my intention are presented. And they always are... *If* we pay attention. The same principals apply for manifesting. Life will bring you what you need if you are willing to be 1. Patient 2. Aware 3. Greatful

I needed to hear this man because nowadays my expectations always get blown down. I'm learning I can't control as bad as I want to I can only control me and how I react to things. It's so hard to walk away when you know something could be so much better. I just subscribed as well.

So, so true about expectations!! Dont expect then you'll never be disappointed. Very wise words to live by.

I enjoy these philosophical videos especially. Thanks.

People in relationships and in business do not nail down the expectations for each party - and the inevitable occurs, since more missions fail. Out of the rubble ... bitterness and fretting. And lawsuits. This really clips people's wings in life. Always build a reserve - in financial life - and in your character. Detach and discern. Take your time before you decide. But ensure you know what you aim to get, and what your collaborators expect to gain - and that all parties state these things. And lastly, life is preparation for problems. There is often no outright solution, only trade-offs.

Im 23 and a wife with 2 sons. And i love your videos. Helped me so much with my mindset and just wanting to be a better person all around. Thank you.

He's absolutely right. Expectations are landmines you lay for yourself ahead in your timeline.

Thanks Uncle Buck

He duwane long vriewer. Just hit 23 years today. Thank you for all the tips and gems you leave for us. may god bless your soul for hekpn me see between the crack

Really needed this today ✨❤️

For awhile now I felt like I needed to come back here and get some wisdom and I'm so happy that today I sat down to watch this one. Man, it's difficult to manage expectations when you are tired. So here's my 2 cents to this one: if you are tired, you may develop higher expectations. If you do, prioritize yourself so that you can recover, so that you may save yourself from being disappointed. If you are worried about people not understanding, then trust in your relationships. Because if those people don't understand, then why have them in your life to begin with? We all get to be tired sometimes and that is normal. And I hope that this helps someone out there, who like me, felt like it isn't normal to be tired.

expect nothing and you will never be disappointed

Cigar Video!!!!! I dont do any riding myself, one day I'll appreciate your horse and equine knowledge and teachings - but for now, you're my Cigar Cowboy Coach. Thanks Dwayne! Cheers - Jake Z.

I like your dogo🤙

i'm on my second college semester and I've never felt so lost, exactly what you said it's hard to not feel hopeless and not have any expectations. When I know I'm spending all this money and all this time for a degree that I may or may not even use for a job that I am not guaranteed to get in a world that I am not guaranteed to live in. I really needed to hear this and I'm sure a lot of other people did. Please never stop making these videos you're like a father I never had and I need this wisdom more than you know.

Bean cuisine Expect the worst, hope for the best.

Dog gone good advice I appreciate hearing today!! Temper your expectations... Safe travels and happy trails!

“Got a new girlfriend and she’s just a disappointment” 😅😅😅

Hello Mr. Noel. My name is Brooks Clooten. I am 19 year old from South Dakota. I have been listening to your videos for a long while now and recently your podcasts. I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate the content you produce and thank you for the effect you’ve had on my life. I recently listened to your podcast on If by Kipling. I’m sure you have heard of it but the Man in the Glass is my personal favorite poem and wanted to hear your thoughts on it. Thank you again. Hope all is well.