Discovering your channel, this is the thing I think I was the most interested in. I really wondered what relationship the kids had to the mothers who weren't their own.
One thing that struck me is the 4th wife being assigned to a new family. In my culture, the woman’s children would take care of her in their homes. My grandmother lived with us most of my childhood. She would kind of rotate between her 8 children (but she liked our home the best😉 so lived with us the longest). I can’t imagine not keeping her close to us! She was like a second mom to me for sure. But we’re more of a matriarch (Indigenous American), so mom’s and grandma’s are very central to the family, the men are important, but Grandma was always consulted before big decisions, my uncles called her weekly.
I love how informative this conversation is. There is a lot of lack of knowledge about this kind of lifestyle and it’s very interesting to me. Not my own personal beliefs…. but intrigued to learn about this kind of dynamic. Keep telling your story!
It’s so interesting how you guys call it “out there”! What was the rest of the world called, when you lived out there? Was it just Of The World? I just think language is SO interesting! Thank you for making such intriguing content that allows us to learn more about what life could’ve been like, if we’d been born out there :)
I absolutely love you two. You're so engaging, interesting, and very respectful. There is quite a bit to be learned from you, both. I think I may have already watched this one, but I must have forgotten to hit the like button. I'm soooo sorry, if so. Thank you for the content.
I thought it beautiful that every child believed that Father loved their mother best. I actually think I would do better as a sister wife living under one roof than have my husband going from home to home, but that’s just me projecting on a situation that I won’t be in.
I love your channel!! How long have you been posting? I have a feeling once people watch your channel is going to blow up!!! By this time next year you will have at least fifty thousand sub's!!!! I'm calling it now!
LOOOL ... that was soooo cute of Melissa, when she said, washing all the clothings would not be HER favourite job.. LOOOL.. mine either darling, mine either, LOOOOOL, Girl, you just had me in stiches with laughter ;-) ..Darnation, just thinking about these big houses I am thinking of cleaning windows.may the Lord have mercy ... I would go on STRIKE .. LOL.. . I know what I would do.. I would be the COOKING and BAKING BREAD MOM or make all the marmelades and jams from scratch and of course my own spouses favourite = ICECREAM.. .. ;-) that´s what I love to do most.. ;-) And I would not mind, watching over the elders. that is my regular job anyhow.. ;-) Great channel you guys.. just came across it a couple of days ago.. oh, yeah.. ELDERS.. Sam, would you be so kind and make a video about the elders? What happens to the elder Mothers (the Grandmommies), when the Husband dies?? and who is taking care of them, with food etc. does the FLDS had a special service, like we have over here in Germany? Cause I am a special caretaker, I work with Elders and with Dementia and Alzheimers Patients and I also work FOR them, meaning I sometimes clean the house, I go and buy their groceries, I cook for them, etc. So, I was just thinking, how is the FLDS handling the "problem" with widows or even widowers, or elders that become sick... ... am real curious ;-) Is it like in some other close communities, that everybody takes care of the elders?? I would totally love THAT.. it is so important that WE give back to those who raised us.. and I just love my job.. cause for sure.. one gets back a whole lot, from them... I at least do.. ;-) So, now.. Bless ye.. ;-) Lots of Love .. you both and the kiddies stay healthy and well and happy.. ;-) and of course the rest of your family too.. ;-)
When each mother got married did they get to go away with your Father for a short period of time to get to know each other? Or did they just immediately move in and everyone went on with life as normal? Been watching your videos. Very fascinating, thanks for sharing.
I’ve read many books by former FLDS, and in those, yes, not only did they have something of a honeymoon, but the men then often spent more time with the new wife at home until she was more comfortable. Things did vary, of course, based on how the man felt about and treated women, in general.
Maybe a vid JUST on what went on with cooking - with the half-sister? I can't even get my head around daily cooking for 25+ people. What did y'all EAT? It's a thing on YT... Big families and their hauls and meals.
I would love to see a video on any new mother’s that arrived during your childhood. Was it a surprise to the children or did you know ahead of time? Did you all go to some kind of wedding or celebration for the new marriage? Also you said some of your older sisters married during this time. Did they seem happy to be getting married? Did you keep in touch with them and if so did their marriages seem happy ones? Just a couple of ideas for things that would be great to learn about x
It’s so wonderful by the way that you reply to questions every time- no other site does that, it’s really rare . Good luck with building your videos as you deserve many more viewers.
I have a question about after. I tried to watch as many vidoes before asking this. Since you left in 2008. So obviously over a decade.. but at the beginning of when you left did you need any therapy to help you? Or have anything kinda like ptsd?
Great question. I didn't have anything like PTSD or really need therapy because I got to choose to leave so it wasn't traumatizing in any way. I just didn't go back. Having it be my choice I think made a huge difference in the way I viewed the whole thing.
Father and his first wife are pretty similar in age. The next mother would be mine, and she is about 20 years younger than him. The third wife is similar in age to my mother so about a 20 year age gap, and then the 4th mother came into the family as a widow so she was about 15 years older than Father.
Hey I got a quick question. How was the travelling scene when your family would go on events or visit extended family did you guys use a big bus or separate cars or vans or what? Did you guys travel as a big family all the time or you would travel as single family units of kids with each separate mothers?
Ps One of the great things I took away from this was, the fact that everyone seemed to come together for the sake of your 4th mother. That's so kind and thoughtful. That is one of the reasons why I find this so interesting, because in some ways.... polygamy got right.
Oh man the first mother has father alone for 15 years and wasn’t from there👀that had to be hard on her at first. Even if she knew what she was getting into.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy Hey after 15 years of marriage did your father decided he needed another wife so he approached the elders or did the elders came to him him and thought it was time for him to get another wife or what? Maybe the first wife was getting old and drying up or what?
I think you for normalizing the idea of polygamy. I really like the concept and wish to institute it and incorporate it in my personal life. It has more pros than cons when designed properly. Yes, you had had negative experience but you also light up during your positive experiences with it. I want to start mine without using the structure or the mental manipulation of religion. I seen putin, the Russian President do it to. Your channel is amazing, I just wanted the both of you to know. You two have inspired me
Yes, both of those would happen. A lot more men started only having one wife after Warren went to prison and no one was allowed to get married anymore.
I love them like a mother, but there is definitely more love and connection with my biological mother. The best way I can describe it is for people who have an aunt or grandmother in their lives that are constantly around, helping to raise you, and always there for you.
Do the husbands and wives love their wives or just feel like it’s gods will to be married and he choose them to be together?! I have always wondered due to the marriages being arranged and not the individuals choosing each other.
Hahahahaha MomX 4 is just so funny! Love that you keep the non-bitter aspect of this all. Hugs. Even though I disagree with the plural wives thing, I appreciate that you respect their beliefs and their honesty about it all. They believed they were doing the right/best thing and we can honor that belief and appreciate the goodness that they did have. Clearly, some nice kids came out of that situation. Glad you "escaped," however, and found your one love. I am so happy that the two of you are just a couple! and not a group. ha
You said in another video that if a woman was already pregnant, she wouldn’t spend intimate time with her husband. How does it work when a woman has past the age of having babies? Does she get to have sex with her husband? Especially your fourth mother. She came in when her children were grown. Would they never consummate the marriage?
I was raised in Hildale Utah/Colorado City Arizona. I always lived on the Utah side but they are like one town just with the state line down the middle.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy I wondered. I have read a lot about Hildale/Colorado City and it sounds like a very wrong place to grow up. God must have told you to leave even though you were unprepared. I'm glad you found good people to help you.
What did you call each mom? Was it just your biological mom that you called "mom" or did you call all three "mom"? If so, how did you differentiate one mom from the other when trying to get their attention?
We started the channel as a way to record my unique upbringing for my posterity and as a way to answer questions of friends that had asked. We can't believe it is growing like it is!
I have seen videos from Kingston Members saying the wives get very jealous and competitive. Is it similar in the FLDS or the the wives mostly get along?
What does Sam do for work now? I have heard that the FLDS doesnt educate the children past grade school. Did Sam go to college? how did you take the education you have and turn it into a productive way to provide for your family outside of the FLDS
Does the Warren Jeff’s followers marry “blood” family members like “The Order” polygamist group does? Would love to hear how the Warren Jeffs following is different from other polygamist groups.
There was no keeping the blood "pure" from what I have heard of "The Order". We are hoping to make a video soon with someone from "The Order" and compare what it was like.
My kids KNOW better than to make huge messes. Other than our rotten 8 year old daughter. She's the princess, and dad always over rules me. Irritates me, but I only put my foot down if it's beyond reason. I own a cleaning business. I clean other peoples messes, and don't want to come home to a huge mess. I wear the pants in my family. If not my husband lets it descend into chaos. It's an OCD thing. Lol! You know your mom played favorites! As a mom I would. Lol!
