Beautiful, purposeful, sacred, special. Each time is special, and children arent accidents. We should all practice more self control and stop acting like animals.
@@vivianaugusta3000 if one could learn this, they would have full control of their lives and move through life without distractions this achieving success at a younger age.
Most animals don’t have sex for enjoyment, it’s for procreation. Humans made it so that it needed to be enjoyable and look at where we’re at... people sticking their tongue in assholes. I think the Hasidic view on sex as sacred is extremely powerful and beautiful.
Sex is enjoyable by design, we didn't make it that way. Also, there are many animal species that have sex for enjoyment, like many of the great apes. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex.
@@RowanWarren78 another aspect is where your consciousness is: on material carnal pleasures, lower chakras vs higher chakras, closer to heaven mental stimulation(wisdom)
A Hasidic man would never even consider disrespecting his wife, never mind cause her harm during their intimate time. It’s considered a sin akin to rape.
Some of the things are good, yes, like being relaxed and respectful, never doing something when angry or drunk...but some of the things are just plain ridiculous. Like not being allowed to do it standing up and always having to do it in total darkness with sheets over you...come on. That really takes the romance out of it, not even being able to see your partner.
Yes I agree but the fear of nudity and the very normal and natural bodily responses is not conducive to good mental health. Still, it is better than what most males who grew up during and after the awful sexual revolution are capable of.
I don't understand why people find this weird. THIS IS NORMAL TO ME... this is why i'm Jewish i think... Like some of these comments. we're normal people with guidelines like any other religion....
Yosef B Av what is wierd is when you have done things according to judaism yet you were not raised jewish. Jewish heart i guess. Their self control on everything is true mental & Spiritual strength.
But joseph the key words here are "normal to you". To the rest of the free world it is very bazzarr. Me and my husband have sex in the day or the night. Sometimes in bed sometimes on the couch or in thr shower or anywhere in the house. Sometimes the lights are on sometime candles sometimes just the moonlight coming through the window. Sometimes its a quickie sometimes its a couple of hrs. There is no praying before or any of that. Sometimes its romantic sometimes its just fun. Thats what sex is about. God meant it to be pleasure. Not all this cloke and dagger stuff under the sheets in the dark.
I wonder if the couples who are really in love with each other keep the shades up during a full moon, so they can try to get some glimpse of each other by the moonlight - that is if they - GASP! - dare to throw the sheets off.
Avi Goldstein comments: I know you wrote this five years ago, but i just saw your comment. What the speaker is saying is a very restrictive approach. This is not the normative approach in Orthodox Judaism. I don't see a benefit in being too specific about this sensitive subject, since we are in an online forum, but suffice it to say that no, we don't require total darkness in the room and no, we don't require that the couple be covered.
I agree with you. I talked to one ex-Hasidic Jew about the rule of wearing bedclothes while having sex. He was taught before marriage by his leader that nudity between a couple while having sex was permitted. There are literally hundreds of Hasidic groups who have Rabbis who teach different rules within each group.
I hope this video will be a lesson to any jew to mind his own business and live his own life in holiness and privacy. Talking to media about our life, especially our private lives is wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt. Secular people cannot understand our fundamental rules and will only use them for hilarity and mockery. People need to stop doing this. Live your life. Its nobodys business what goes on in your private life. Thats why it's called PRIVATE. KEEP IT THAT WAY
I guess that’s a personal choice. If you were raised around only your own kind and taught Hasidic laws etc etc, you would be far more likely to find a Hasidic man attractive. Besides, their marriages are arranged and love is learned over the years. I am not even a Jew but I do find a certain beauty in Hasidic customs. They’re not for me! That’s for sure but I respect their traditions as well as their devotion to their way of life.
@@nm6818 It's Halacha. Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 150:5; however, Rambam says you may look at your wife - Issurei Biah 21:4. There are two opinions on this topic.
It really doesn't work like the guy in the move described. After this short movie I can tell you that someone is trying to make money not good documentary movie :) Someone got "controversial" interesting topic and looking for "shocking facts" that are little different than "the normal way" To make good movie about the topic you need different type of people. Only in the trailer I see at least 5 different Chasidim groups. You must understand that Chasidim is not a one general description of people with peyos. What about those without Peyos then ? Guy in the movie saying that he wasn't religious, that he become religious 13 years ago and become Chasid... Question: what Chasid? Bobov? Satmar? Chabad? Gur? Skver? Bialy? Viznitz? Belz? Why you didn't you tell people that being Chasidim not from birth is a HUGE difference :) A ok that would make your movie not 100% cool as you want to show, because this movie is about Chasidim right ? and this is cool part. Movie about Baal Teshuva wouldn;t be that cool because in your eyes and other he may not be the "real deal" In his community what he is taking about is a standard in my community is different, in other communities is different story. There is one Chsidim dynasty that allow you to have sex only 2 times per month, there is other that rules are set to have sex hundred times per day if you like. For people from outside Chasid is Chasid, the guy with peyos the lady wearing shatel - the wing. For me there is 200 different chasiddim dynasties. Every single one has different customs, different hat, different suit, different peyos, different shoes. One more time this particular Chasid doesn't mean every Chasid. Just look at the Chasidim woman. Some wear makeup some doesn't, some wear wig some wear tichel, some wear dark color stocking some light color stocking. All this is regulated by "customs of the community" and there is minimum 2000 different communities :) The guy is saying no lights in the movie... I know at least 20 different Chasidim sects where light is not a problem. I'm happy that there is a such movie I just don't like how people see Chasidim as a one group. We are all different it's like making movie about Nativ Americans and trying to tell that it's a movie about Americans... All the best to you !
I don't understand. I see nothing wrong with this. Is Traditions. Although i don't think it's Explicitly stated in the Torah we learn from our great Sages this is how we should live. It's important that we continue to live to the will of Hashem. People outside of Judaism thinks this way of living in weird, but it's not.
It all turns sex into a job not pleasure. Candle light creates romance. The sheets only get in way. I guess oral sex is out of the question? God design sex as pleasure for a man and a woman. As long as 2 consenting adults are enjoying themselves i say anything goes. Getting pregnant is just a side effect not the only purpose.
@@sewforlife5728 You have it all wrong. Where does it say that God designed sex as a pleasure for a man and a woman? Sex is for procreation and pleasure is a side effect, not the other way around.
@@tangokaleidos1926 boy I bet your a laugh in a bed. What a sad idea u have in your head. Are u grouping us humans in with the animals now? Do u think if God didn't mean for it to be pleasure that he would give the ability to have orgasms? Women have the ability to have 2 orgasms in 2 areas of our sexual anatomy. Men and women can masturbate and give our selves pleasure. Do u think God would have create our bodies to be able to do that if we were simply just having sex to reproduce like the animals? The Bible says that marriage partners should offer their bodies to each other in marriage and should not deny each other except for a short season for fasting (1 Corinthians 7:5). God made men and women sexual beings. He made our nervous systems capable of receiving pleasure from the sex act. Sex in marriage is good and holy and ordained of God.
You can enjoy intimacy without being an animal...more so...you have no clue about the beauty of intimacy...you see flesh, while we see a human with flesh and soul...you leave the soul out of the equation so after youre done you have no memories of a bonding experience, just an outlet for your sperm to be deposited in.
Why is sex so ritualised? Why should they be covered? They are two married people in the privacy of their bedroom for God's sake! These Hassidic rules extreme..... Why is sex seen as something almost shameful? Why do women cover their hair in their own house? What is wrong with intimacy and pleasure in sex between a man and his wife.....
rochelimit's hangout Because they study more than the average person from texts...and strain their eyes alot more. Average kid studies 8 to 10 hrs a day..
rochelimit's hangout It's probably the same problem they have in the Asian world, MYOPIA = too much time indoors. 80 % of China/ Hong Kong have it. If they studied outside it would make a huge difference. It's not the reading, it's the lack of sunlight. www.scmp.com/magazines/post-magazine/long-reads/article/2085125/chinas-myopia-epidemic-why-simple-solution-being
Per-Øivind Martinsen there happens to be a very respectable reason for that... Everything in our Torah has reasons and they all work for the benefit of man. And unless you are part of the tribe, you can never understand. If we don't have any problems with it, why do others have?
So we came to the point that having relation with wife/ husband in modest way (that’s why light are of) in natural pose (as you can see even body were made for that one) without animal lust but with some prayers (ussualy that there will be successful conception) is wierd, terrible and bad..... this is too bad.. if it will be some transgender describing act with another man/ women you will be all: “awwww wishing you the best” or “if they are happy that’s fine” And now tell what is exactly wrong on normal relation in most natural way between husband and his wife??
There are many of us who wish the best for the people in both scenarios. I'm happy for the Orthodox couple in their marriage, living according to their beliefs, and a transgender person who has found a loving partner. We can live in world where we respect each other's choices and identities. I choose to live ethically.
Gosh no wonder they get compared to Saudi regarding sex rules Don't get me wrong I have respect for Jewish people but my family are Quranic Muslims who reject Hadiths like Torah Jews who reject Talmud etc So we don't have such issues
+mattl44441 : where I work in north London is a very high Jewish population And it is there I met people who identify themselves as Torah Jews . Torah should be the only reference for Jews as they put it so I'm only going by what they said . Just as Quran forbids any outside references to it. So like there was no segregation of men and women during Muhammad's time . Hajj is the only place they couldn't stop this . No veiling or hijab in Quran either
+mattl44441 please don't be rude by saying I don't know what I'm talking about I am merely telling you what I was told So it's not my opinion . I suggest you put ur negativity towards those who contradict you
+mattl44441 these Jewish gentleman were the only ones who bothered to talk to me ( others didn't ) I told them first that my family are Quranic Muslims as we reject Hadiths and it was then that they told me they were Torah only Jews but regardless of who they are they are clearly Jews .
Ok I understand now . But I was only going by what they said . But I get it now. Actually I would like to ask u a Q My bosses are Ashkenazi non orthodox One boss who keeps a kosher home says you cannot mix dairy products with meat .... Is this in the Torah? As I know of Moroccan Jews who make an exception if nest is chicken or fish
+kishmish64 They were either very ignorant or in the 1% chance they might be Karites. But I don't think there are any Karites in London and they were never recognised as Jews in history.
It's unclear whether you are genuinely trying to learn about Hasidic customs or poke fun at it. I'm inclined to think the latter. If I am right, I certainly will not be seeing a disrespectful movie like that.
@@EnterTainment-vv1qs This isn't true, you cannot force your wife to have intimacy (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 154, Eruvin 100b) Also, Jews have this commandment to pleasure their wives (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 150:7, Issurei Biah 21:9).
This isn't true, you cannot force your wife to have intimacy (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 154, Eruvin 100b) Also, Jews have this commandment to pleasure their wives (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 150:7, Issurei Biah 21:9).
This isn't true, you cannot force your wife to have intimacy (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 154, Eruvin 100b) Also, Jews have this commandment to pleasure their wives (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 150:7, Issurei Biah 21:9).
Thats really respectful love and bonding...whips and chains...the way G-d intended it to be.I guess he forgot to give them to Adam and Eve...what a shame
@@23Dawnay I dont..you are listening to a report and I lived the life. Thank G-d I have all the freedom I want and choices to do WHATEVER I want within the confines of the Torah laws. Take your ignorance elsewhere.
@@23Dawnay That's not true, any hasidic woman can leave the community whenever they want. I know jews who just have one-four kids and are hasidic. If any woman is forced to do something by her husband, the husband will be halachicly punished (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 154). Just because they don't agree with your gentile secular theology, doesn't mean they have no "freedom" in fact, in jewish communities marriage is at a very low rate.
@@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv "within confines" is not freedom. Apparently your sexual needs (the right to enjoy sex) don't matter if they are outside the prescription.
Some of the ppl in the comment section mocking & ridiculing Jews for their religious practice of sex, are probably bastards born out of glorified fornication that happened out of wedlock. As a Muslim I respect them (Jews) more for having a guideline & although our religious practice around topic is different, it shares some similarities. Example the prayer before hand, even if what we pray for isn’t worded the same, children being intended & blessings & protection being asked for them is in there. Islamically all positions are allowed when it comes to sex. & lights on or off doesn’t matter. What’s prohibited for us is anal sex, & sex during menstruation (wife whilst she’s on her period) However even when she is on, foreplay is allowed, kissing, & sleeping in the same bed is allowed. Pleasing her husband & him his wife in any way except actual intercourse, or coming into direct contact via touching where she bleeds is allowed. They sleep in the same bed & all forms of life I.e eating together, wife cooking, hugging the husband, sitting together etc is all allowed After her period is over she has what we call the a ghusl, bath, & then they can commence as normal. And after general intercourse both husband & wife have another kind of ghusl/shower which the one specific for after sex. There is nothing wrong with ppl having guidelines. I find men who stick it into a menstruating woman disgusting, or who partake in anal sex. Not Jews who have self control & their own personal guidance. We live in a world where those who worship their desires & ignore all of the degenerate ills it’s caused in society to be strange. The arrogance they have to mock others whilst they think themselves sexually liberated is astonishing.
Hogwash. Cannot for the life of me believe there are people in the middle of the most advanced and modern city in this world who live and believe such crap.
Some of these rules are not from the torah, so take those with a pinch of salt. GOD LOVES SEX and wants us to have loving sex . Sex is to be honourable to God first and a blessing to each other. No drunk sex , drugged sex, bondage sex, anal sex, oral sex (diseases), covered face sex, lustful sex, hurtful sex, and only within an exclusive marriage between one man and one wife.
Zeroing in on one snippet in a vast library of customs and laws, without providing any context, is just bad journalism. What is the purpose of this video other than to make fun of this religious man's beliefs? What was the motivation? I admit I do not know much about Hasidic life, but these people do not bother anyone, and laws about sperm and ejaculation (unless you're a 7th grade boy giggling right now) are followed in private. No one gets arrested for masturbating. The laws are about as hilarious as the Islamic rule that says a woman must be 45 before she can sleep in a home other than her father's or husband's. To that culture, the law has merit. No one is hurt. Honestly, it's like a preadolescent bathroom joke. In the real world. ISIS is tossing homosexual teens off buildings (with their heads covered) and beheading hundreds of people for who-knows-why. They're terrorizing movie theaters and cafes, schools and neighborhoods. They're terrorizing the entire world. Yet it's important that we laugh at a man who believes that sperm is sacred? Not much of a service you are providing with your documentary, from what I've seen of it here.
In real life ISIS is sponsored by the Israeli state, and supplied with weapons/medical supplies by Israel and the United States. Comparing "jews" to Isis is a little ironic, and quite stupid. You should stop watching TV so you can learn to think for yourself.
There lile wahabi muslims .. Just less violent .. They dont follow the old testament they follow the commentaries of rabbis of the past and present ...just like the saudi wahabis follow there supreme sheiks interpretation of holy text
Lmao sounds like a really gratifying sexual experience, not. Shame yourself! Lights off, completely covered, say a prayer so you don't jump the gun..... seriously. If the last one worked women would be shouting that prayer for the rooftops.
Jennifer Orr our experience is deeper and more satisfying than you will ever experience on any level. G-d was smarter and had a keener sense of how intimacy is established, compared to your base nature and frivolous experiences!!
Harbird Boo one does not preclude the other...I first have to see what its about to know that it isnt the right thing to display publicly...common sense.
IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT THE HECK THE POSITION IS! THE THING THAT MATTERS MOST IS BEING SAFE AND NOT DOING IT IN A JEWISH WAY BUT DOING IT FROM THE SCIENCE AND NATURE PERSPECTIVE BECAUSE YOU NEED IT!
i don't think you understand the true motive behind a jewish man and woman and sex. it pertains to man being above a woman or being in control of woman - man rules woman she is lower caste than man and must obey man. in the most simplest description i can offer