My husband and I first date was at Applebee’s. Didn’t bother me one bit! He was the sweetest, kindest, most attentive, respectful gentlemen ever. We had a ball that night! He proposed 9 months later, We’ll be married 14 years on May 24th of this year. Now, he takes me to any restaurant his wallet can handle because he’s well off in his career, now. Ladies, pay more attention to the character and heart of the man, rather than what type of restaurant he’s taking you to. God blessed me with the best husband a girl could ever have!
I dated a guy who took me to the classiest resturant, valet parking and some of the best food I've ever tasted, I know his bill was nice. Then afterwards he tried to come on to me physically. I'll rather go to Applebees with a man who respects me continuously.
He triend to come on to you physically? Were you really surprised or shocked? And is that a bad thing? Do not take date offers from any guy you are not interested in beyond the meal.
“Look deeper👀❤️. I have a brother that was very humble. He would go to places like Applebee’s for a date, drove a used car that probably cost less than $5000. A lot of young ladies overlooked him, but he had a plan. Fast forward 16years, he recently made partner at the largest law firm in his city, can drive any car he wants, go to any restaurant he wants, and lives in a 3story house. Happily married to a woman that looked beyond the superficial, and the Lord blessed her😊.
When I first met my husband, we didn't even go out to a restaurant. He cooked me spaghetti and meatballs, we walked downtown ate outside. He was honest with me about not being able to afford to take me out. When he was able to take me out, he took me out to Broadway diner when we went out. I didn't care about where he took me. I only cared about the quality time.
I am not eating no cooked food from anyone’s house on a first date...it seems like it worked out for you but that’s a no for me....if you can’t afford to date as a man get your life together vagina is not going anywhere...people born everyday to replenish the earth...
if your in your 20's thats an okay date...only been to chillis once..i prefer mom and pop places..I am in my 30's no applebes for me in NYC thats a test grown men play here you go along with that you will never elevate to a better meal once you do applebees 2for 20,coffee date,buffalo wild wild wings etc.The time i have had applebees was on break from a meeting and a grab the specail because i eat one for lunch and i take one home for dinner...If your not int NYC you might not understand but if you work in certain parts of the city thats like a lunch break meal or snack so a guy invite you there it wont end well because their are other other options but they want to embarasss you here, it might not have the same stigma outside of NYC.
I like to go on simple dates in the “beginning”...coffee, pizza, ice cream etc. There is less pressure, less expectations and it allows you to really get to know the person.
women have to put themselves together for a date ,hair makeup,nails,clothes so for me to leave my house for coffee which is less than $5 and ice cream which i have in my fridge...even in highschool my first date was Dallas BBQ in Manhattan. If a highschool guy could take me there you think I am going to go on a date as a grown women for coffee ..we were 17 years old in 00's
@@helena3631 A woman should always look good whether she’s going on a date or not. Why not have coffee with a man you don’t know? Nothing is wrong with going on simple dates in the beginning to build rapport and to see if you actually like him without the glitz and glam. Glitz and glam can take your attention away from the potential red flags. As you continue to date overtime, the dates should improve. But hey, your entitled to your opinion. I suggest you watch the video again.
@@helena3631 You clearly didn't watch the video lol. First of all, women should put themselves together whether they're on a date or not , same for the men. Something standard like that shouldn't be entitled special treatment. Second, you don't need an elaborate expensive date to get to know somebody. Especially when it's the first few dates. As you build a better connection to the person the dates should get better as time goes on. Whether it's a high school guy or a grown successful man, he doesn't know you from a hole in the wall. His main objective should be to get to know you, not impress you financially.
@@breanna7245 you might be from a different part of the country 1. I am in NYC 2. I am not leaving my house to meet a man or friends for coffee when I have a perfectly fine Keurig at my house 3.A women should always look good but if i am going on a date i get my own hair done at the salon,eyebrows done,go to a nail salon to to get a fresh set of powder if it has grown out a bit..I dont know how yall go on dates but when i go on dates i am not wearing jeans or a sweatsuit I am wearing a nice dress hair done and heels...looking polished takes upkeep..I am not dressing up to meet for coffee since the shops here there is no dine in at those type of shops so iam going to dress up leave my house to meet a man at a coffee shop pay for my own coffee and walk around manhattan then go back to my apartment when i have a coffee maker at home...if yall desperate just say that i am good on all of that ..I will pass I have never been offered coffee...
@@calm_cam I watched the video and I have very good comprehension..I expect when you ask me out your trying to show me a good time..I dont have to date men for food or money because I have both of those things..you just have to put some effort forth asking a women for coffee lol seriously i really think some women desperate..I really think your a man trolling because if you asked Beyonce or someone similar to her on a date you not going to ask her on a coffee date so please stop it ..men put in energy into what they want mnetally ,physically ,emotionally .If your asking me out on a date i am not 20 yrs old or a desperate women ..everyone and everything seeks its own level what might work for me might not work for you and vice versa..too much cap on this app.
My thing is why you want a person to go all out . You should be able to do that yourself. Don’t expect a person to do what you can’t even do for yourself . 😩😌🤦♀️😱🤔🤬😳☺️
Some of these women that are saying this, probably cannot afford to take themselves to fancy restaurants, so they are waiting on their dates to do so. There are some decent things on the Applebees menu. Sometimes as women, we need to treat ourselves to nice restaurants and not wait on others to do so.
Yeah Thats Why I Got Him Cause He Does What I Can't Do ? Duh ? I Love Me & I'm Good With My Own Company Just Sitting At Home Cuddled Up Watching Videos & Writing. I 💓💝💞 ME Some ME !!! I Treat Once In A While, But Don't Be Looking For It !!! I Have Goals.😊😁
So you're telling me women are really going this hard over Applebee's for a date yet will put up with a man who isn't sure about them or a relationship,who cheats,lies,screws up their pH balance,along with other toxic traits but Applebee's is a deal breaker gotcha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@MakeupTiffany lol I didn't want to go there but I'm like come on ladies we need to do a lil self evaluation here if a choice of dining is a major no no
You standards aren't low you just know that the quality of a man doesn't come with how much he's willing to spend on food. Keep learning & growing young Queen
Chipotle is lovely... and I'm 40. What you like is what you like. There are other ways to assess a man... how does he treat the workers and the cashiers, and how is his spirit about paying for THAT? How is the connection over the meal...
I can't lie I was a lil shocked at first. I must have missed the previous video cause I was thinking he was going to say dont let a man take you to Applebees🤦🏾😂 The comments have been hilarious though lol
Agreed Sis !!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽Why ??? Think about it Sis .....🧐🤯Do you really think if a man is head over heals and goo goo over a woman, would he would bring her to Apple Bees ??? 🧐The answer is .....Hell No !!! 👊🏽🤯 I get it. No one wants to be used for their money but by the same token a woman wants to feel desired and special. ❤️👩🏽❤️ P.S. I happen to love Apple Bees and happily eat there. One thing has nothing to do with the other. Blessings to everyone on the thread. No hate. 🥰🙏🏼❤️Just my opinion. 🤷🏽♀️🥰
My daughter that is 7 doesn’t like Applebee’s and it has nothing to do with boogie... the food and drinks are horrible and we are not burger eaters...we rather go to a mom/pop restaurant than chain restaurants...The cheap place we go to in NYC is BBQ since my Daugther like ribs....I am a parent that if I have steak my daughter eating steak and the same for seafood she’s not eating chicken tenders and fries... we West Indian do we not into burger joints we like rice,chicken,spring salad etc
When I met my wife I offered to take her to ANY restaurant she wanted. I was in the NFL so I could take her wherever. She chose Applebee’s. I knew she was a winner. Lol
You know it's gotten bad with us, if Tony doing videos on Applebee's and Chilli's 🤣🤣.. we definitely gotta do better 😂😭😭😭...I said, I'm staying up for this one 🥧🍴🦉
🤣🤣🤣This comment...women just be wanting to say a man took them some where expensive. Like their worth is wrapped up in restaurants, clothes, cars and gifts. We must do better 🤷🏾♀️ All I'm worried about is are you saved, living for God and have Christ like character.
@@JesusisKing1285 exactly and sometimes these women aren't dining at Michelin star restaurants themselves yet they require a man to live that lifestyle its ridiculous I think in this day and age the fact that a man actually asks a woman on a date is commendable versus a man who asks to hang out or chill idk some women are confused lol
I make six figures...someone I was dating makes six figures and we went to places equivalent to applebee’s....and on special occasions we went to expensive restaurants...And some of my favorite meals are at Diners...people focus on the wrong things...Start focusing on your partners values and morals.
Yass..thankyou for the tip on (deleting)..I understood exactly what you meant!! A couple of vids ago, TG said if he could figure out a way to spell the way he pronounces the word "now" he would put it on a t-shirt. I'm not sure if he was serious or not! However, I started cracking up (1st)..then my mind started tryna figure out how he could spell it..😅😅😅...So when I noticed your comment, I was like okay, Dr.Elaine got it!! (that was all)..😊
You can go to the fanciest restaurant and counting the minutes to leave or a regular spot and it’s like there isn’t anyone in that restaurant but you and him. Simply because the conversation is so amazing and you’re so into getting to know each other. Remember that!
Some of my best first dates were at IHOP where we went out for breakfast. The man paid. You can't buy class and character. Focus on the man and not the price or the name of the restaurant
The truth is the richest men don’t wear their bank account on their sleeves. So be careful judging a man based on the place he takes you on a date. You can be eating dinner with a millionaire at Applebee’s and be thinking he’s broke just because he didn’t take you to Ruth Chris. I’m speaking from experience too. I think this just goes to show how superficial we can be sometimes unfortunately.
@@Trailblazers323 it was the first few dates, in the very beginning....if she let the restaurant mean more then the quality time, she’d still be single💯
I live in a city, I like when a guy takes the initiative to pick a cool, unique spot in the city. This is a good workaround for guys because some hip and trendy places in your city might not be expensive, but will have a cute vibe and that's what I like. Any chain restaurant is really not a vibe unless it is super high end. Would rather be at a less expensive place with a unique stamp
Exactly! I’m not into chain restaurants like Applebee’s, Chillis etc., but I’m fine with most local restaurants. The food at local restaurants is usually tasty, unique and affordable.
If you don’t like Applebee’s just kindly say, “I just don’t like their food!” Can we go somewhere we both will enjoy? If he’s a man of good character I’m sure he will respect you spoke your mind...😉
This is EXACTLY what I would do! 💯 I would simply say "Sorry, I'm not fond of that place. Can we pick another option?" Not judging the man for his selection. That very well may be his cup of tea, just not mine. And that's OK.
Tony, I just got you and your wife's book today in the mail. I read the introduction in my car and it was so good. I cant wait to read the rest. Thank you. 🙂
Listen ladies....My ex boyfriend took me to the Hamptons for the weekend, we always went to fancy restaurants, he bought my groceries and put 2K on my car payment....he was a manipulative passive aggressive boy. My boyfriend now...I am so happy to ride go karts and eating hot dogs from a cart. There’s a difference. A big one. Just seeking what a man can do for you can have you in a tough spot.
It seems the man character as well not only money but u not taking me to Applebee’s on a first date respectively.. and these brokeboys will want to control you too.. the circle I run in we all have good careers. So If you give me money you try ur luck I will give it back he saw you needed help so he exploited that
Agreed !!! 💪🏽👌🏽🥰❤️A man that respects you and himself won’t feel comfortable having you pay. Period !!! 🥺Why are people on this platform playing games ??? Signed a woman who gifts her husband trips around the world. Let’s not make this something it is not. 🤷🏽♀️Blessings !!! Nita J. NYC 🥰❤️🙏🏼
I can’t even go anywhere without a men asking for xxx at the end of the night and I’m dressed covered and that’s why we don’t want to deal with These grown and their cheapness
When I saw this I HOLLERED because the guy I’m dating now suggested Applebee’s when we first went to lunch and I did say “how about somewhere else”? LOL 😂 BUT! BUT!!!! It was because at the time I no longer ate at Applebee’s personally. And the place I suggested wasn’t Cheesecake either. I suggested a place called “Flower Child” because it’s healthier compared Cleaner and overall nicer. AND it was right across the parking lot from Applebee’s so I’m no way inconvenient or excessive. But I still did NOT want to go to Applebee’s LOL He actually makes six figures too! LOL Now he takes me to some of the BEST steak restaurants in town by his own suggestion. So I agree taking a woman to Applebee’s does not mean he doesn’t have money. Cheers ladies and thank you for the personal chuckle Tony!
They want Ruth Chris and some of them don’t even finish the plate ! People go to the restaurant to get mash potatoes and chicken they can cook up on the stove. Not knocking the restaurant it’s decent but it’s over hyped. Now cheese cake factory ? Oh yea that’s some good food !
I did have a man take me to TGIFriday once. Then he asked me if I had a coupon. That was our first and last date. We drove our own cars. When I walked outside his car had so much junk in it. Just pure chaos. Never again...lol.
In Atlanta , they’re are waaaay to many local restaurants to choose from besides applebees for the same price ,but better quality ... it gives lazy vibes😕. I wouldn’t necessarily be upset though, I would just suggest a different restaurant.
Exactly! We have Jamaican restaurants, Italian restaurants, Cuban restaurants etc. If you can’t find something of better quality, but in the same price range of Chillis, I’m going to assume that you’re lazy or just dating to get to the finish line as quickly as possible.
Sherri really a real one, she looked past your exterior and worked with what she saw in you/your character. That's the help meet God made us women to be, if the man's already got it made he might not need a woman's help. She and her Nigerian friends roll deep cos I've seen her post sthng to support a Nigerian and when I commented, she responded that her closest friends are Nigerians , I was like oooooh more reasons to love you. Nigerians can be bougie especially the ones with monty!!!in Tony's voice 😂🤸🏾♀️💃🏾👌🏾 we don't even really have these who's paying for what problems cos our men be paying for EVERYTHING okay!!! that's how they were raised,with provider mentality👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬...but real ones pitch in because you feel bad that they are balling out on you, but they really got it like that ...big professionals.
Tony is hilarious!!!! He be like "if you can't afford a $10 date, then you really need to just sit down, take more showers, read more books, take ya Ibuprofen more frequently, study the sound of water a little more...." 😂
I know y'all remember how Applebees Bourbon Street Steak use to hit hard back in the day ! 🤣When they brought that steak out sizzling to the table ! 😋😅😂🤣😆Lol. 🤔
I was talking to a guy that wanted to spend all his money on our first date. Long short, he was terrible with his money and was literally transferring his last .30cents from one account to the next to buy food at the grocery store. He was broke trying to act like he had it like that. Smh.
This one had me rollin! "Momma, where yo purse at?" 🤣🤣.... I'm thankful that I'm married. It's amazing to me that it seems from the many emails Tony reads, restaurants are more important than standards with many of these writers 🤔. Require much where it matters the most. But hey.... don't mind me. Lol My husband tested me a few years ago on our 11th year wedding anniversary. He said "We are going to pull into Popeyes and grab a bite... Is that cool?" I said "sure". He started laughing and said, ""I'm just playing with you baby... we're going to Bonefish". It was a good laugh. Reality tho for women.... most of the time, if you get married, you'll be eating fast food pretty regularly with him and your family together.... So why is it an issue? 🤷🏾♀️
Applebee's makes my stomach hurt. Any man taking me there is a terrorist in my book 🤣 I'm literally in tears 😭😭😭. The *exact* moment I said I'll rather eat Chili's, here goes Tony talkin bout y'all would eat Chili's, nah it's the same! 🤣
Whats nice is when you talk on the phone and he has listened. You meet up and he has groceries for you to take home. The stuff he hears you cook or eat while conversation is popping.
Real message delivered with humour- it’s important to hear this from a man’s perspective .It’s definitely an inspiring reminder. I know that i had the opportunity to inspire a glow up with my late husband. I didn’t realize what a privilege that was then.! Great message Coach and timely.
I had a guy choose olive garden he must have gone there often because he called it straight O.G. when he text me lol we ended up splitting the bill and he had an extra drink but what eves 😂
@@thesimoneshow2608 no ma'am. I mean not focusing so much on the expense of the date and thinking more about the quality of the man. A fool can spend a lot of money and use you at the same time. A quality man may not spend hundreds of dollars on a date, but he will treat you well. Look at the man's character and not so much at his pockets.
Great message, the most important is how a man treats you, the time, attention, respect and care he offers you and how much work he puts in to see you happy. It takes nothing for a rich man to pay for expensive places and things, but that doesn't say anything about his character or care for you, so don't be impressed and captivated by the wrong things while missing out on the important ones. Any man who will care for you and will want to make you happy will do his best to improve his choices of restaurants and food as he gets to know you and your taste; and that effort to please you is more attractive than any stack of money a rich man could spend on you. Please understand that a person giving you something that makes no difference for them if they lose it, means nothing, while someone doing his best and giving his all even if that means $20, means so much more, but don't expect him to share or guess your taste from the 1st date, just teach him what you like and pay attention to the real important aspects.
If God sent him, your no Applebee’s standard won’t keep him away. Lol jk. Dating has become a total circus. I feel like as women we have to jump through too many hoops to win the “ultimate” prize a loving and faithful husband. I don’t think it’s enough of those to go around to be honest. I love these talks though they make me lose more faith in men. It’s too much trickery going on, on both sides. Thanks Tony for helping us see the light. You have given me the courage to be happy and satisfied single. As soon as I see the flag, I grab my purse and keys a little faster everytime. ❤️
@@nidzaboricua3294 I said it. FYI my kids have father and let's not get ugly here. I am very humble ..... I don't care what you got to say about me.....but don't talk crazy about my kids.
Haven't been to Applebee's in years, but the mozzarella sticks appetizer were the best!!! I'm a health-concious, hypergamous woman whose had dates at various kinds of restaurants around the world. It's not about the restaurant per se, but rather knowing how to read the menu for the best drinks, appetizer, meal, and desert, which regardless of the restaurant is a nice bill in and out itself. My spirit has to feel right about the man, which is more important than the namebrand restaurant that is typically overrated anyway.
If someone is paying I am grateful. If I do not care for the food I am especially grateful I did not have to pay for food I did not like. But I will eat almost anything.
Tony you’re right. You have to give a person an opportunity to show you their character. It’s not so much where you go to eat, but let me listen to you talk. Let me see what kind of Spirit you have, let me see if I want to get to know you.
It is that simple, and has always been that simple. It's so fascinating how people think and evolve. But I know it feels good to tell our girlfriends what some Man did for us. It makes women feel special. Ohhh girl he took me to Ruth's Chris on our first date. It's like who cares? Where is he now?
Sometimes some men will test you by taking you to McDonald's, KFC, Popeyes, or other fast food restaurants just to see what your reaction will be! My personal opinion is, I would go to all 3 restaurants cause I just may miss out on my Boaz being too high maintenance! I'd order from fast food menu sooooo fast his head would spin!😂
Two of those three tend to make me ill and I would say that straight up... but while I could eat all the rest for an occasional quick bite, fast food is not what I need in my life as I am working to get healthier, and I wouldn't be interested in a man who thinks that's what you eat as a major part of life. Applebee's has lovely salad options at least...
Mr. Gaskin I don't like the food there...it not about money. I have taken brothers out, I have offered to pay my way and even offered to cash app... a brother when I knew there was not going to be date 2#. I didn't want a brother to feel a way. I have packed pinics , had subway lunch dates. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 My kids are a little spoiled.
I mean... The root of it for me isn't the food.... For me, their floors are so dirty that you can slip and slide all the way to your booth (you know that's our preferred seating🤣) Issa NO for meeeeeeee. Stay blessed tribe 🤍🙏🏾🤍
After a snowstorm, the guy of my dreams and I ended up eating at Applebees🍎. I do not remember how we ended there but all I cared about was our conversation. It was a snow globe moment for the both of us. It is a special memory to me. He paid and I thanked him for the meal and his company. ❤
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣you ain't never lied. However I don't eat meat but I'm really going to try to take one for the team. The last time I went the mozzarella sticks were cold and my food was cold like it came out the microwave too quick.
I believe first dates should be coffee and conversation. The more expensive dates should come later. I don’t want to be stuck at an expensive restaurant with someone I don’t like.
If it's not your birthday or a special occasion then the average woman should not really be expecting some random man to take her to the most expensive place. If the man is honestly able to afford fine dining the woman should know it before she even takes him up on his offer of a date. First date should be whatever the man is comfortable with, because in a sense he is suppose to be showing you his world or things he likes.
It’s not about the money. If Applebees, I will only order a water. Applebees, doesn’t agree with my stomach. I ate there in my 20’s and 30’s. I prefer a walk in the park, tennis, or hiking. I can feed myself. I am really concerned about the conversation, not the food.
I guess I kinda see both sides, a female friend of mine said we should meet up at Applebee’s and I kindly declined and suggested green turtle- I wasn’t about to put an outfit on and do my make up to sit in no Applebee’s 😂but I guess from the dating side of things, if the guy takes you to Applebee’s and the date is lovely & you both enjoy each other’s company, he’ll probably ask to take you out again & probably to a nicer restaurant or maybe this time you suggest a nicer restaurant
No sis! If you wouldn’t accept it from a friend, don’t accept it from a man. Accepting what he’s doing NOW in hopes that he’ll do something better in the FUTURE is what keeps women in relationships with chumps for too long. If you start making exceptions for men you barely know in the beginning, it could set the tone for the rest of the relationship
I told someone this and they said I was a gold digger lol.. if I am going on a date my hair is done ,makeup on, a nice dress and heels and you can expect me to leave my house and meet you for Coffee or Applebees not I, in my street clothes I am out together no sweat pants or hoodie so you meet me looking great and expect Applebee’s.. I have never been taken to none of those places in a 1st date so I guess it’s true dress for job you want ..🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@thesimoneshow2608 mind you this man is in his 40's and has roommates and he pays over a 1000 a month for bills..I am in NYC these men struggling here even the ones with good job careers have rent,student loans,credit cards etc but I am 35 and i have my own place so it if its possible for a women to do it a man can do it too,its just laziness in my opinion.
@@helena3631 you don’t sound like a gold digger, especially because it sounds like you’re likely not asking him to do anything that you don’t already do for yourself or with friends. He’s probably looking for an beautiful insecure woman, so he can feel like he pulled a baddie, but still convince her to settle for the bare minimum. I asked about where he stays though because, I noticed that men staying with somebody in exchange for just paying the cable bill usually have the most to say about what women are doing professionally/financially
I’m in my 20’s and good first dates are chipotle, Whole Foods, shake shack and Starbucks because it’s easy and low pressure . It’s still a good environment and good food.
Our first date was at apple bees, we did the 20 and then we both asked at the same time (did your kids eat). Then we did 20 for the kids. Went to our separate homes, fed the kids while we talked all night long. Long story short this guy was around for over 10 years, emergency etc. No Matter what. He said because of acceptance and just thinking of his kids.