I wish you had more on this attachment style. You deserve more subscribers. I just got dumped in an email and then blocked from an avoidant, and I've been watching your videos all night long.
Ooh Charlie you read me like a book! I have been consuming avoidant attachment videos to get closure and to hope I can get another chance with my ex knowing the information I gained. But watching this made me look at things differently and actually this is the first video I’ve watched speaking on my anxious attachment. Thank you so much
Dear Charlie, thank you for sharing this! I finally can give a name what I’m living in right now and sharing your journey opened my eyes and helped me a lot. Maybe it doesn’t help to save my current relationship but definetly I can be ready for the next one and it just brings me sooo much relief ❤ thank you for that!
Excellent! Thank you so much. I have had a similar journey. I have been in the place where I realize now how my behaviors have hurt others. It is truly eye opening, challenging and empowering at the same time. I appreciate you saying that we need relationships to be apart of the healing process. It is hard for me to believe I am not broken beyond repair, that I’m better off not getting into another relationship. Even when I want to give up, something deep down keeps me hoping, and therefore, doing the work. Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward to more videos, especially, ones with more tips regarding healing while in a relationship.
Thank you for sharing! It can feel intimidating at first but healing is totally worth it in the end. Relationships can be a great opportunity to grow if you’re with a supportive partner. I hope you’re able to find that one day. I’ll make more videos on how couples can heal together soon :)
Just WoW I dealt with this dance now for almost 7 years. You Charlie just blew my mind. Yes I push them into avoidance. My heart aches And prays I can keep him despite my protest behaviors.
Great, great, great stuff. Way better and more constructive than all the DA stuff I've been watching lol. Waay more healthy to just try to understand oneself than to theorize what the other party may be thinking. They're not the problem!
Hey Charlie may I just say the protest behaviors you listed such as silent treatment is not from anxious end it’s from the avoidant end… I hate the silent treatment I can’t do it. I prefer to force a conversation which I realize is my personal protest behaviors in attempt to regain connection or gain clarity but seemingly I cross boundaries and create more discomfort and disconnection
Hey there, new follower going through intense all things. However I had to break away from the moment to compliment you on your Opeth album in the back. ♡ I had the chance to see them a year or two ago. And they're an all time treasure. Had to give credit where it is due. -I do not have the skills to give you proper credit for your comforting conversations. But you deserve it much.
Thank you very much! Opeth is one of my favorite bands, and Ghost Reveries is my favorite album by them. Haven’t seen them live yet but I will the first chance I can
Is it possible to have anxious attachment but only towards one person? I’ve always been fearful avoidant. I cut people off without explanation, quickly and don’t think anything about it. But with my spouse I have anxiously attached while he is avoidant. I really wish I could use the same avoidant tendencies I’ve always had towards him but I don’t, I can’t seem too. Feels like it would be so much easier when things get tough!
