We all make mistakes in life. When we do it's important to take appropriate responsibility, feel the "wince," and make amends as we can. But after we've done that...then what? Many people find it easier to forgive others than they do to truly forgive themselves, and it's not uncommon to be burdened by excessive shame and guilt that has outlived its expiration date.
On this episode Dr. Rick Hanson and I explore forgiveness, including how we can forgive ourselves. This includes common myths and misunderstandings about forgiveness, the difference between healthy and unhealthy forms of shame and remorse, coming to terms with what we've done, and a roadmap to achieving (self-)forgiveness.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:05 Assumptions, approval, and what forgiveness is and is not
7:55 What does healthy remorse look like?
10:15 Forrest exploring a dream about appropriate remorse
13:35 Our internalized justice system
17:35 More on dreams and internal parts
24:05 Aspects of unhealthy remorse
28:10 How to move through a recurring cycle of shame and unhealthy remorse
33:25 Proportionality, defensiveness, intention, and owning your mistakes
41:45 Clean pain and dirty pain
48:35 Some concrete practices
53:55 Recap
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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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28 июн 2024
