Did I ask that question? Sure sounds like me...great answer. Your answers always reveal to me the depth of relational communication I had no clue about...and the difference it could've made in the conversations I never knew to initiate. Your channel is a goldmine for the relationally challenged.
I relate to fixing someone else leading to resentment. You do it for them, because you are preoccupied anxious, but they don't do it back, because they are one of the 2 avoidant styles!!! Yep discovering that the hard way!!! 😅
@@conscioustheatre8412 I understood her to be saying that "fixing" or sacrificing for the painful emotions of another and expecting reciprocity is what's not respectful of either side's boundaries and leads to expectations/resentment, whereas caring/supporting/empathizing with another's painful emotions is fine and okay to want reciprocated. I think we dissolve our own boundaries when we feel we're "sacrificing" and then feel "owed" and that only leads to disappointment when it's not reciprocated...whether by an anxious or avoidant. At least that was my take on it.
_"Expectations are resentment in the making."_ I never got why women choose to talk with pretty much anyone about anything but *_in_* their relationship they expect me to ✨🧙🏼♂️🔮✨!