Heartstopper - Nick Comes Out to Mum || Season 1 Episode 8 CLIP || Netflix 

Let it be a masterclass in parenting.

It is, actually it's very close to my coming out to my mom, when I watched it I felt exactly the same I felt back in that day

When I came out to my mother, at first she told me to be 100% sure with my decision. But after a day, she finally picked up that this was a forever thing and, she accepted me so well, that for pride month, she placed a sign on her bedroom door with the Bi colours saying, "My son's Bisexual, and im proud of it!"

@@annefrankgacha1942 i absolutely could never:(( congrats on coming out though

Não tive tempo de ter essa conversa 😭😭 mas sintia por pequenos gestos e olhares que ela sabia e me amava incondicionalmente. ❤👩‍👦❤

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The most important line in this dialogue.

Her character could a case study in how to accept someone coming out.

Well said!

Year++ late to this party, but this is precisely how I came out to my parents as a 26-year old. I said Mom/Dad, I've been seeing someone....and I'd like for you to meet him because he's very special to me. It wasn't about saying that I was gay, just that this is a person important to me and I'd like you to be a part of our life.

She already knew I'm sure!

It was so adorable and good that Olivia got wrapped up in the moment and forgot her lines.

This is the EXACT kind of support that demonstrates the unconditional love of a parent to an LGBTQ+ teen.

While he was talking, as soon as it cut to her face I felt a deep sense of empathy coming from her and lost it. She conveys so much sincerity with her soulful eyes and facial expressions. I started crying immediately the way she looked at him and how she responded. Olivia Colman is amazing. I was also disappointed she wasn’t used more until this scene. It was the sweetest ending.

I wanted to cry when she reached out and hugged him!❤

@@lloydtxw I agree so much

She is. We see in her the reaction we all want to get and her eyes speak so much love it just makes you cry. Gosh ♥️

Do you have a link? I'm afraid I'll watch the wrong one and then forget to find that moment 😅

i saw that too!! so sweet!! ❤😭

That's basically what Darcy's parents are like in the show unfortunately and also Nick's brother David

that's so wholesome what😭

There is also the ever present gray zone. Parents who fail by having a fearful reaction because of ignorance, or parents who try to crack a joke because of their nervousness but it's at best akward or homophobic, hurtful... (cf love, simon and his dad's reaction when he comes out). But they can still love you and want the best for you, and you can go together on a (sadly hard) journey to understand one another, where each comes from and how your love and family relationship makes you move past that... or not sometimes, it's a sad truth.

​@@quelquunparla824 yeah. When I told my mother I am gay her first reaction was surprise/shock. The next 3 days she was ill, then we talked about it again she said it was wrong( christian) and 15 minutes later she came back to my room crying telling me she loves me no matter what. But after that we never discussed it, she never asked anything. I get it might be awkard for her so I never brought it up again. But its been 3 years ever since so yeah... it's not as bad as being rejected, but it's definetily not as good as being supported.

​​@@The_Memorial I think a big part of it (at least in my experience) is just the acknowledgement on the parent's behalf, and the fear of what might happen to the child (ridicule, bullying, hate crimes, etc). I came from a fairly conservative and religious upbringing, and when I came out to my Mom like 18 years ago, she mostly just seemed worried for me when I think back on it. She already knew before I told her (as I'm sure many if not most parents do), and said she "wondered" or "had her suspicions" since I was like 4 or 5 years old (before anyone tries to come for me or her, yes I know stereotypes can be harmful, but they do exist for a reason...). Everyone in my family already knew before I officially came out, and my Mom as well as the rest of my family (including those who are still quite devout Christians) are all incredibly accepting of me, but I think there's a bit of fear and worry in the back of their minds, because there are a lot of _other_ people in this world that are hateful and disgusting and have no problem (and may even delight in) causing harm to us, or anyone they see as "other," if that makes sense. (Edit: I realize your comment is from a year ago, and I hope that you and your mother have spoken more about it and come to terms with things. I know it can be hard if not, because there are so many factors that play into the situation, but not talking about it at all can't remedy the situation or bring you closer together. It's sometimes better to speak uncomfortable truths, and maybe even argue for a bit, than it is to say nothing).

@@J_Mock92 yeah my mum said she had her suspicions too and that she only wanted me to be safe. Funny thing is she found my STD receipt from a clinic a few months ago and panicked. I had gone home for the holidays and was ready for an interrogation😂💀 but I told her it is just something everyone should do once in a while regardless of their sexuality and she kept going on about wanting me to be safe. “Well taking these tests is for my safety”

@@The_Memorial lol the same thing happened to me one time like 10 years ago, after I got tested and my mom saw the receipt on my bedroom floor 😂 I was like "Mom, I'm not fucking a billion people, but I'm sexually active... (I think I actually had a long-term boyfriend at the time lol), everyone who's sexually active should get tested regularly.... Including you" LMAO

I mean yeah, that's like so true, parents should be, I mean, ought to be supportive

For us who grew with things like Brokeback Mountain (without undermining or diminish it) this is so refreshing, it shows that LGBT people deserve happiness and not just have to aspire to a tragic love story where someone has to die to be understood and accepted.

@@hbb5613 I'm still young, so I didn't really "grow up" with Brokeback Mountain, but I've watched it before watching Heartstopper. And honestly, even if I loved the movie, I was terrified that all LGBTQ representations would look like that. I don't know if I could watch it again, it was so painful, even if I love the actors who played Jack and Ennis.

@@lounabrf6914 I recommend the film 'Boys don't cry'. Impactful. Harrowing. You will only watch it once.....

@@benjaminreynolds5068 thanks for the recommendation!

As an 18 year old the show definitely made a difference for me :)

Colly is the best!!! She's also got her own children in her real life so I bet she is prepped for it if either need to come out to her

You and your husband seem awesome! I'm an 18-year-old Brit and this show definitely makes a difference. I'd never seen teen love between boys presented so tenderly and unashamedly before, and so it means a lot. Also, yes, Olivia Colman is fabulous

@@brownproductions8391 Yes, she is indeed! You are coming into adulthood in a far better and more open world. Far from perfect -- and your generation will, I trust, "move the ball forward" into greater freedom, acceptance, and inclusion. But the life that my husband and I have now was unthinkable in high school (we actually knew each other in high school, though we did not start dating until I was out of law school and he was a fourth-year medical student). It was unthinkable even to come out in high school then -- now it is not at all uncommon. So wonderful! I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.

@@douglasduckett3438 Wow, what a lovely response! I'm definitely grateful to be coming of age in this era rather than any other before me. It's people like you from your generation who have helped pave the way for the more accepting world we live in now, so I thank you for that. Thanks for going through all the pain and discrimination so that so many of us don't have to! I wish you love and happiness too :)

❤️❤️❤️ sending you a hug

That's a huge step! Awesome.

You had the courage to come out; that in itself is extremely brave. That's a HUGE step toward self-acceptance! And the fact that you came out at all to your father is very admirable. You're a good person. xxx

@@8FLiX Thank you for your kind words! Means a lot. ☺️

Don't feel like you have to but know it's liberating. We love you either way buddy

Same.

Me too

Coming out takes time. Only when you’re ready and on your terms. Regardless, you’re all supported, loved, and seen. You guys got this. ❤️

Good luck!! You can do it

@@brownproductions8391 thx!

Same, everyday I feel like I'm dying cuz I never get to be myself

That's very courageous of you.

Me too, I know how you feel. Watching something that I wish happened just warms though my coming out was one of the most traumatic and painful experiences I had.

Same

i love this line

Same.