I respect you for that but the others calling him selfish then trying To sell him their beliefs don't understand had he had kids vis opinion likely wouldn't change and the kids life would lot be great and that would lot be fair to his kid people just want to be mad for the sake of being mad.
No one should be forced to have kids. I’ve always wanted kids as well and when my son was born it meant so much to me but honestly a lot of people who have kids shouldn’t be parents.
It's definitely NOT for everyone. I've seen too many neglectful parents out there who seem to keep having kids. It's irresponsible, & the child is the one who suffers.
As a parent myself, I’ll never push anyone into being a parent. It is hard, it is demanding, it is time consuming. If you’re gonna do it, it better be because you’re 1000% in.
Preach. I respect your opinion. There are a lot of parents who aren't 1000% in, and those parents shouldn't be parents. No one should feel forced to have kids. You either want them (when ready) or not. Why can't things be as simple as that. Society in general makes it seem like you need to have kids regardless of how you feel. It's kinda messed up.
If I was 1000% or even 100% parent, my kid would have nothing to eat. She would also have divorced parents because marriage is also something that demends attention. Not to mention a child needs some time for themeselves. Except if you meant a newborn. Then yeah, 1000% it is.
Exactly, it’s such a huge decision and being pressured into it never ends well for anyone involved, especially the kids themselves. Kids know when their parents resent them, and it’s the worst feeling. I’d rather people only have children if they really want them than feel like they’re obligated to have kids, especially with the foster care system as overloaded as it is now.
But the sad thing is that the people who genuinely don't want kids are probably the people who should be having kids. You know what I mean lol? For all these considerations these people make, they would probably make great parents.
it's cause his reasons are all pretty stupid and none are valid. There are enough studies to show that raising kids and family gives men the best happiness in life
People always ask for a deep explanation of why you don’t want kids, but not why you would want kids. Being child-free is awesome. I’m so grateful to have a husband who doesn’t want children as much as I do. We have 2 cats and that is being parents enough for both of us.
Nobody does that. Accidents happen. If the woman refuses to abort it, the man should have a choice to be in the child’s like and pay child support or not.
It seems like the people who decide not to have kids are the most rational ones who would make great parents! Most parents out there are the complete opposite and should NOT have had kids 😅
The reason I don't wanna have kids, is because I don't think I can handle such a huge responsibility. I don't think I have the strength to have kids and I don't wanna mess up their lives just because I wasn't ready for it. That wouldn't be fair for myself or my kids
Thank you for explaining exactly the reasons I chose not to have kids...especially the part about high-pitched screaming in the pool or on the playground! Haha...it's definitely not for everyone. I'm 56 now and have never regretted my decision not to procreate!
I love how honest you are, some people are meant to be parents and some people are not, and if the desire is not there you should not have kids, love ya Ray! ❤
I get all the time “why don’t you want kids? You like them!” And I do like kids! They’re hilarious! But there is a BIG difference between liking kids and wanting them myself.
I'm a single Dad. I'm more depressed, poor, and lonely than I ever been in my entire life. No I never wanted kids, but you know... probably over half of the world's first children were accidents. I know I was.
@@MagulousmousI can't speak for this guy but I know from first hand experience that you can love your child more than anything but still feel sad and depressed. You sacrifice so much for your little one that it can be draining, like everything you have goes to them. Especially if you don't have help it can feel even more isolating.
Not gonna lie, it's kinda crazy to me that people who choose not to have kids have to have like 10 different explanations on the ready, while people who DO want kids, which is the far more impactful choice in the long run, just have to say "I want kids" and everyone immediately supports them
@ahmetbatuhanmusaoglu2208 Of course I don't. Just like no one has authority over people who choose to be child-free. I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy.
@@TurtleTime26 They don’t need a detailed explanation because bringing children into this world is one of a human being’s primary objectives and one of the things that we were created for, along with teaching them and nurturing them.
@@quandaledingle3759you literally can’t help it all the time like parents can do their absolute best raising their children and be as patient as can be and they can still end up being bastards..dawg not everyone wants kids shut up…
I don't think i wanna have kids either, yeah, call me selfish, asshole, dickhead, but i am with Ray on this one, not everyone deserves to be a parent but most importantly, not everyone wants to be a parent
I want kids and it’s as simple as that. If you don’t want kids, cool. If you do want kids, cool. Although I will definitely wait until I’m financially stable.
I don’t want kids either, I’m actively child free. Of course when you tell people you don’t want kids they just bingo you and say stuff like “oh children are such a blessing and it’s different when it’s your own”
see this is why i love your content. you don’t push your beliefs on people, you don’t disregard the other party in a debate. “it’s just not for me.” that’s literally all it is and people shouldn’t get so pressed about someone else’s personal decision and i respect you so much
Wow that's crazy!! I respect your decision and honesty man. Really didn't see that coming from you, you look like you would be an awesome dad. Either way man at least your not bringing unwanted children into this world. Wish you the best bro
I truly admire your decision, especially as someone who has always had a desire to have children. Recognizing that it's not a path that suits everyone takes a great deal of understanding.
I don't think having kids makes anyone any better of a person than anyone else. It's a lifestyle choice. Do what makes you happy, cuz that's all that matters.
@@jordanbarrand1736 societies need a birth rate of atleast 2.1. If not it is gonna face hardships. Just look at japan and korea. Western countries are holding out cause they have immigrants
That "unfair" part hits the most for me. As much i would love to have a son, i just can't. I don't wanna bring a child into the world knowing that he has to suffer and go through tuff times, if not worse. And with how the world is, with all these freaks and weirdos. i definitely won't be having kids anytime soon.
This is the biggest reason for me. I’d love to have a guaranteed legacy and try to make another humans life better than mine ever could be, but that might just not be possible in the coming future.
@Thawne1338 yeah no duh I know that, bucko. I'm talking about *specifically* the "freaks and weirdos" not everyone in general. If I've actually think like that I probably wouldn't even be talking to you
I respect your opinion, but I just want to argue one thing in favor of having a kid. Wouldn't you want someone like yourself to become potentially a better you? I know it is a weird question but just think that perhaps this child could grow up to have your traits but simultaneously be an improved version of you? Wouldn't be so bad. Still do what you want.
I never had the desire , and yes I talked to parents kids are very time consuming , that's even worst than how expensive they are , and the crying omg the crying - I can never do it
I wanted one child b4 but now I want no children it’s just NOT SAFE TO BE PREGNANT or GIVE BIRTH. The mortality rates for my demographic specifically are a huge reason
I respect this guy for not letting society pressure him into doing something he doesn't want to do. People need to leave him alone about it. This is the most important choice a person makes in life, and it shouldn't be taken lightly.
Thank you so much for making such decision. If you are not ready to be a parent, or if you think you won't be able to handle/look after your kid... then pls don't be parent. -From a person who have a father like this mentality 😑
If people say every child is worth having because of personal value, they would be saying that we would have to have every child possible. Anyway just a statement, I thought was interesting
Wish I could give af nobody cares about this stupid thing called overpopulation bc it doesn't exist if you are rlly annoyed by the amount of people in your area go live in Antarctica
respect you for knowing what is important to you and making your decisions based on that. Lots of npcs who do things just because its the “flow”, or “whats supposed to be”
Thats okay Ray. Some ppl don’t have kids but could be perfect parents While there are also some ppl who do have kids but have ZERO idea how to handle them.
I give you a lot of credit for talking about your personal beliefs on this topic! Especially when a lot of people think we all should be getting married and having kids. You guys do what works for you guys!!
Every time someone i know or a stranger demands that i should have kids ill show them this video. I have too many health problems and i dont want to die being pregnant or die giving birth or passing on those illnesses to the poor kid. Hell. No.
One of my very best friends is AMAZING with our daughter...just great with kids in general. And he does NOT want any kids of his own. And I cannot imagine why anyone would have problems with that. He's a great guy...and it's HIS LIFE!
It's often the case. They get on with some individuals but they don't want kids themselves. I suppose because with having kids you never really know if you're going to have a perfect connection. Society dictates that all families bring love in every case, but not all families are happy ones that get along. Some people have better connections with people they're not blood related to. It just happens. And some people just don't want kids but they're perfectly caring human beings. P.S. if you have a lovely connection with your kids and you're happy then that's great 👍
@@IAmPegasus Exactly. I have a brother and I love him...but my closest friends are my closest brothers, if that makes any sense. There are teachers who are excellent, wonderful with kids...and they have no kids of their own. I knew one...and she loved kids...but said she gets enough time with kids when teaching.
YES!!! I do not have time for kids. Nor do I the emotional balance to do so. Just babysitting and see how you feel during/after the job, its the best way to know if you ACTUALLY want to/can deal with child.
While I can say that I'd do my damnest to make sure a child in my care would have the best possible life that I could provide for them, I also can admit to myself that I'm neither financially nor emotionally stable enough to maintain that life, which would lead to the relationship falling apart. I've seen that end in various stages of badly, and I would never wish that upon my own child.
@@mutethemic68stop with your fear mongering. The usa is actually healthily populated, the usa could healthily support up to 1.2 billion residents, we are at about a fourth of that. The earth could support over 20 billion people
I never had the desire to have kids either. And I think it's really smart and responsible of someone not to do it just because that's what everyone else is doing. I applaud you for your self knowledge and honesty. 💕
You do you, Ray. I have a kid and while I love him very much, it can indeed get tiring. It’s not really for everybody and I’m not one to push other people to have kids because I know the struggle firsthand.
Why can't people just respect other people's freaking decisions? If he doesn't want to have kids, that's his choice, period. There is no discussion to be had here, let him live his effing life.
As I child myself, you're correct. I don't want to have children when I'm older either for all of the reasons you just described. I can't imagine being tasked with taking care of one of the nut jobs I see every week day. Ugh 😖
I think adoption is actually the most special thing out there, kids are actually *chosen* by adults, the love is normally incredible, its something I think is really important for kids....so if I have any kids, I'll put them up for adoption.
pets, adopt, volunteer, start a business etc. etc. childfree doesn't mean selfish. there are so many ways to help others and the world if you choose to. and if not, that's ok too. it's YOUR life
I always tell people this. If you don't want kids don't have them. They are alot and if you are not financially stable or mentally stable for it, it will kill you inside and I've actually met people that tried to kill themselves because of the mental strain of kids. I would rather someone who doesn't want kids to live thier life thier way instead of hiw society tells you to.
Im a parent, and I love my kid, would never change it. However I fully understand and support your decision. Anybody else disagrees with you on this, they can kick rocks, and eat a bucket of cow manure.
Very valid points! I'm 26 (soon to be 27) and have zero desire to have kids anytime soon! I just feel it is unfair to bring a child into this world when the world is so messed up!
we understand Ray and we stand by your choise.Keep doing what is making you happy and keep making that amazing content that actually makes my day a lot better.😊
I personally don’t like children either, and I have a lot of mental issues I do not want to pass on to a child. Everyone says „oh, trust me ur gonna have kids!“. Not to mention have a pretty wacky family, and prefer not to mess up a child’s brain with the family I live in. Children are to much work to begin with, and I also have no desire to have children. I‘m also one of those people when someone says I’ll do something I will purposely not do that thing, cause they told me I’ll do that thing. Anyways, welcome to the no-kids club.
I always wanted kids, but if you don't, then don't. I have a child now and the first three months was the hardest thing I have experienced in my life. You do end up loving them more than anything else in the world, but you will need to give up a lot of things. Personally, I think it's worth it, but maybe not all people would see it that way.
