Are catcalls are flattering? Catcalling is an issue that many women deal with as soon as they step outside the door. The hosts keep is REAL about their experience, in this clip.
That's a prejudice. Although usually more humble people do catcall (like men who work in construction), I've seen both handsome and young men doing that. And although more educated men usually don't catcall, I've known handsome men with money who are arrogant and rude with women, just in a less evident and more manipulative way. Also, men aren't always dirty and creepy when they scream compliments to women who walk by the street (yes some are gross but not always)... I've heard many men saying really playful innocent compliments such as "wow you're so cute, you must be a fallen angel" or "your smile is gorgeous today, miss, like sunshine!" And also, if someone says a disrespectful catcall it doesn't matter at all if he is beautiful or ugly, young or old, much less if he has money, I don't see why if someone handsome checks you out (in a creepy way) it's ok and when he's not it isn't, that's very hypocritical.
Kinder Gardner no, they're saying that if a man were well educated and professional, then he would not be catcalling, cause they know better than to do that but I also think you need class and self respect.....
Hello. Or maybe they're saying that's unacceptable until they find the man attractive... Idk "they" weren't specific with the point that was being made
R Kelly Innocent it’s been 2 years and nobody explained so I’ll explain it. Yesterday a guy looked at me in the eyes and complimented me as he walked past. That’s fine, a little weird we’re I come from but it was good. A week ago I guy STRUTTED up to me and YELLED sexual remarks and “compliments” humiliating me. That’s not a complement at all and if you can’t distinguish between the two then you sir are the problem.
@@ReasonAboveEverything No, if a man says you have pretty eyes that is a compliments but yelling sexual remarks to a women is embarrassing, unwanted and catcalling.
I hate cat calls. Especially when I'm alone. I actually get really defensive. It's not something that's flattering! There's something called a compliment :/
There is this old deli man at my grocery store who won't stop telling me i have beautiful eyes EVERY time...like damn i get it...brown eyes are hard to come by.
My love, you should know we Ethiopians have beautiful large eyes! I get told this all the time. And a beautiful smile too. If you have ever seen our paintings it's the large eyes that are emphasized! No one has large eyes like us! A couple months back I was serving as a juror and the secretary who worked for the judge kept telling me that they were talking about my big beautiful eyes in their office after we had left! I'm telling we got a monopoly on the large eyes! 😂
+Aksum Princess lmao so true! My mums ethiopian and i totally get that so often. One time in particular this one customer at the store where i work spent five min just talking about my eyes. The next day i woke up and guess what gurl. One of my eyes were SWOLLEN. My mum was dead ass when she told me it was the "evil eye" lol
bah cue how may men have successfully had sex with a woman after yelling at her in the street? Men know it doesn't work and makes us feel uncomfortable. Even if they had the slightest hope, its still wrong. Bore me later
+bah cue if it's not a power trip then why do the majority of men that cat call do it when a male of the victim isn't present? She's unguarded and doesn't have a relative or significant other around. They never do it when she has a male figure around. That's how you know it's wrong.
+BeyoncéVEVO yo i feel like sometimes people dont understand her references or humor, cuz no one laughs at the funny things she says...I'm like where's your hood knowledge???? You ever seen madtv??? Got hit on at a party on the "wrong side of town?"
Yeah it creeps me out! My mom finds it flattering and she even told me that one day when I don't receive any catcall I would be sad. I said um.. I don't think so. I won't miss it.
With all due respect, Adrienne was looking so damn beautiful. From her hair to the lipstick with that her dress, there aren't any words to do her justice.
You know why cat calling is wrong? The majority of men that cat call do it when a male figure isn't around and the victim is unguarded. You know damn well, they won't do it if her father, brother, or boyfriend were standing there.
Alexa Vittitoe well how are they supported to know if the girl has a boyfriend or not and they have freedom of speech and as long as they are not hurting the girl they can say and catcall as much as they want
+Luv4Animexoxo thats exactly why you have that recent story where this man would hit asian woman over the head with a solid object as revenge because they wouldn't respond to him in the past. I guess in these crazy men's mindset they want to be respected and felt good enough. Instead of look down on. By us women ignoring them, its like a blow to their ego.
+Luv4Animexoxo Reminds me how during my first week of college these dudes try to speak to this girl and she ignored them and they followed her around campus calling her all types of names. I wasn't there for all of that, but I happened to be in the student center when she came up to me crying asking to use my phone to call her mom and she just broke down while on the phone telling the story and saying she wants to come home. I felt so bad for her. I comforted and told her I'll walk her to the rest of her classes for the day. I never seen her on campus again after that day. Poor girl probably dropped outta school after that incident.
Wow, I can't believe I just heard 5 women say they enjoy catcalling... It's a form of harassment, not flattery -_- (Hence the point of the initial news report! Duh!)
Who using this Yeah buddy it’s annoying women don’t appreciate you coming up to them in the middle of a STREET if you wanna talk to a girl do it somewhere more appropriate like a party or social event
the reason I don't like catcalling is because it makes me feel unsafe, especially as a teenage girl. you hear stories about girls getting assaulted or even murdered for standing up for themselves, and you hear stories about the same thing happening to girls who ignore them, and if I say thank you, I worry that they will think it's an invitation for them to touch me. it's a lose-lose situation. and I know not all men are like that, but how am I meant to know whether the guy catcalling me is safe or not? even if you mean it as a compliment, I can't see your intentions I only see your actions.
If it's something like "you look beautiful/cute" okay, I don't mind. But if it's something vulgarly sexual it's so disgusting. And also if I don't respond that is a hint for you to stop. So fucking stop.
Do any of these girls go anywhere alone w/o their husband boyfriend or bodyguard? Because if you're walking through the city alone and someone is calling you in this way, its not fun. I can't be the only one who finds it scary. Maybe I watch too many crime shows but ( on the odd occasion it happens to me)it makes my heart race( not in a good way). Especially if you're alone in an area where there are not many people... some of these men think its harmless and fun and its a compliment to the woman , without stopping to think that you are scaring her.
I am talking about men shouting things and following you around. If someone holds the door for you, says "you are so beautiful", then continues on his merry way that's fine and I wouldn't really call that catcalling.
The fact that we have not only accepted this form of sexual harassment, but now want it, shows just how much power men have over us. In a world where women are already commodified and objectified beyond belief, we need to say no to this kind harassment especially when you're broadcast on national television. It's just a bad message to women and men. Imagine the sheer entitlement men must have to feel comfortable doing this to women in broad daylight. As a women living in NYC, it happens constantly and it is disgusting at best and frightening at its worst. Women: a lot of times we don't feel like we can speak back to these men out of the fear of something worse happening but we should absolutely not delude ourselves and see this as flattery.
The idea of looking at things in terms of "harassment" and the like is relatively new. It has nothing to do with power, but only how heterosexual interactions between men and women. Men like a lot of things women do for them, and women like a lot of things men do for them. Trying to twist it into something with a negative connotation such as "power" is likely you trying to interpret their intentions as bad since you view catcalling as "bad". People tend to conflate negative behaviours as necessarily being driven by negative motives. Problem is, not everyone has viewed it as "bad" in the first place. Nor do the guys necessarily have any other motive than "expressing their sexual thoughts".
I don't mind it if it's from guys around my age, but when the men are driving expensive cars and are 60 years old looking for a sugar baby. I want to puke .
there was an experiment where mothers disguised themselves to see if their son would catcall them (they were known for vulgarly cat calling women daily). They acted like little boys once they realized it was their mother.
I never enjoyed catcalling! It started when I was in high school. It always felt creepy to me when men would turn their heads and you see their eyes scanning up and down your body. Some called me "china", some tapped on the windows as I walked passed a store, some made kissing sounds, etc. I saw my cousin and his friends catcalled back in the day too. They would howl and make animal noises at good looking females passing. Quite disturbing and comical at the same time.
I remembered when the Braxton's went to Italy and the guy cat-called Traci by pinching her on her butt...and she loved it 😂😂😂😂. I heard its flattering if those men in Europe cat- call a woman
Catcalling makes me uncomfortable. Like if I'm walking down the street don't shout at me that I look fine, don't follow me, don't comment on my body etc. If you think I look nice then come up to me and politely say "I just wanted to let you know that I think you're very beautiful." That's a compliment, something i'd prefer. There's a difference between catcalling and a compliment.
Why am I imagining a man saying, "Ciao, bella!" to Tamera, then whipping a coin baseball pitcher-style at her ass and her screaming, "Ow!" XD XD XD XD XD XD I CAN'T....!!!!!!!!!!
Omg I live in NY, and i hate it when old men like in their 50s or 60s making kissing sounds at you or stare you down, ugh its the worst!! I'm with Jeannie, I be feeling violated too when that happens
I like it when guys are like "hey, beautiful" or "good morning, gorgeous". I don't like when the do the cat thing as if they are calling a cat, you know, the 'ch 'ch 'ch thing ? or the whistle or the lips or the cut me off with your car just to say hello.
I learned this from a girl who showed me personally. She walked up to a girl at the cashier after we were done grocery shopping and said "Hi, I really like your hair" and she lit up! Because her hair was unique. So I tried it, the next time I saw a very pretty girl that had green hair and purple lipsticks on and said "Hey, how was your day? I like your lipstick by the way"... She LIT UP and was so happy because she took time to pick that out and it showed. As long as you're genuine, you'll get a great response! Men are dumb, it took a girl physically showing me, for me to understand it!
It depends tbh. If you say someone’s pretty or they look good or they have pretty eyes and stuff like that is okay but the noises, the talking about body types and parts, the grabbing, the following, getting upset after she don’t answer is a no. Two of my friends are lightskin and they absolutely hate when guys catcall them by their skin color. With the baby and shorty and all that it kind of depends on what they say or do- I don’t particularly care for baby and I don’t care for when they wanna try and get you to talk to them but they don’t even ask you for your name.
I'm sorry but I don't think they should be talking about appreciating catcalling in public. Enough men think they are entitled to women. Too many men think that they are allowed to do whatever to women and we are just meant to appreciate it. Have any of you ever walked down the street with a straight face and had a strange man tell you that should be smiling?
I completely agree with Adrienne..I love a Catcall from men,especially if I think hes Cute! Its not about what you do, its how you do it...Like they said, theres nothing wrong with it if its cute and Flirty. Not all Catcalls from Men are disrespectful.
I remember I was sitting alone at the mall and this guy was like why are you sitting alone ? you are so beautiful 😭😭😭😭😭😭 omfg. he was so damn cute. 😂 I wish I would of got his number😂😂
Compliments: “Hey beautiful!” “You look nice today” Catcalls: “Hey baby, spend a night in my bed” “Damn, let me lift up that dress” If you can’t tell, that’s a noticeable difference. I don’t want to be catcalled like that, a simple “You’re beautiful” is not a catcall, it’s a compliment. But asking to lift up my dress and get in your bed is not a compliment.
I wonder how he though "let me lift up that skirt/dress" was gonna go. Ew. I had a guy tell me I was on his "To-Do" list. I asked him how often that pick up line worked for him cause...ew
Julio Chino Martinez yea but do you see how loni discretely shuts down Tamar by agreeing with genie that kissing or hissing at a woman is disrespectful and telling Tamar that flowers is also a way of a man saying you are beautiful.
I don't like cat calling at all... and I didn't know there existed women that do until watching this. And it's NEVER a good looking guy cat calling. Ever. No man with class or respect or actually interested in you would do that. It's always bums. NYC cat calling is the worst. I was walking along the Coney Island boardwalk and this guy legit walked right past me, took his hand and slid it down the entire front of my body while mouthing "damnnn ma" and just kept walking. I was so shocked that I stopped in my tracks but I had to just keep walking even though I wanted to punch him!
If we are looking good and a guy doesn't "cat call you" it's sucks, I need to keep it real. And cat calling is also acceptable when is the right guy doing it, If I find the guy attractive, I would be very excited that he finds me hot. Unfortunately we know better, is ALWAYS those type of guys that have zero chance with you that do that.
What on earth?! I’ve been getting catcalled since I was like 8! It has always felt like an assault! Now as a woman, watch out! Just give me a reason. 🥊
