Hey Steve: Having A Baby On My Own 

Isn't what she describing known as a 'sperm bank.'

I'm a single mom and its very difficult, my son father died when he was a baby. My son is now 18 and hurts and cried in my arms expressing his need for a father. I'm looking for a male mentor for him.

You might as well just adopt one

Steve is true. Being a single mom is never easy. Even if you can support your child, he will still long for a father. The child will still long for a complete and happy family.

Regardless of how a relationship ends, a child needs their father present in their lives.

I don't understand people these days.

Lesson learned: being intellectually successful doesn't necessarily mean being smart in real life. The School of Life is the best !!!

Sis said single by choice i spit my tea😂😂😂

She could freeze her eggs while she waiting on mr.right 🤷🏻‍♀️

she need a puppy or foster a child

That suit looks so good on Steve!

Okay. So the 1st lady is a successful lawyer because she had the time to put into her career. Once she had a child (on her own), she’s not going to have that time to put into her child without help, that’s where the father is extremely useful. She THINKS that she will be able to maintain her current career momentum as a single parent, and from my understanding of American work culture, that’s not going to be an easy task. She needs to think this through more practically

I am a divorced mother of one. Both of us are in our daughter's life , NO if's and but's. No single parenting for us. Now she is in her 40's and well rounded in her career and social life. We owe it to the children we bring into this world. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

Lesson of today: Face your fears. They might not be as big of a deal as your fear is making them to be.

"Single by choice" 🤣😂🤣

Come to Nigeria and scream your life out in fear... LMFAO We're used to the darkness baby! 😂

I grew up without a father so I know how painful it can be trust me a father is definitely required in the household

So why did they put up the photo of the white girl first about having a baby on my own when the actual person who say that is black

Heck with being scared of the dark. Its loosing internet connection lol

Steve actually anwsering the question 😂

For a lawyer she sure is asking a stupid question. Beat that stereotype just adopt a child then.

Wow thats where we are in society. Choosing 2 b a single mom. I guess.

Excellent advice Uncle Steve. The 1st audience member spoke out of fear.

Steve has a lot of wisdom.

2wks later Alina: hey steve I'm still scared

The lawyer that wants to voluntarily be a single mom, left my mouth agape. I'm a single mom of a 7 year and omg, I'm glad I have my family as support....that is not easy at all. Children are financially, emotionally and mentally draining for someone to want to voluntarily go that route. You don't have someone to share the burden nor the discipline with. Speaking from experience and I'm glad my parents are around to snatch up their grandchild, or my brother who would just come and take him. Omg. For a woman that has her degrees and a lawyer, she isn't making a responsible nor logical decision. First rule of parenting, THE CHILD'S FEELINGS AND WELLBEING, WHICH IS PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL COMES FIRST.

The lady scared of the dark must come to SA and loadshedding will cure her 😂

Sound advice, I've seen personally not having my son's father in his life. Its tragic

Your mum sat outside your door, black mamas ain’t doing that!

Hi Steve, you really inspire me everyday Thanks. Greeting from Benin Republic

Other problem is, any time she feels, she can take the guy to court. Courts will go for any single parent to make the other person pay, the courts will always look out for the child. Also lawyers... You make a lot of money but you work a lot of hours. Any firm makes you work 40 billings hours, which is likely 50-60 hours unless you're really good.

She is just fueling the single motherhood dilemma

When a relationship goes wrong it also goes very wrong for the men given that divorce courts favor the women and the alimony drains the work driven men something that society has taught men to become. No one ever thinks how stressful it is for the man since we have a talent to hide our struggles and might lead to suicide.

It's the single by choice comment that caught me off guard, like come on now . 🙈😎

Once again Steve is preaching the truth.

Presence of a father figure is VERY important for child/children. It has a very big impact on their personalities and their thought process

why are people in disbelief when she said "single by choice"?. I know a lady in the same situation and she started getting marriage proposals at 19!. so far I've counted four or five the most recent being about two or three months back and she still says no to them and she's dosen't even want kids! all her siblings have families and they've been pestering her for years. she isn't badging. just because YOU think all women want to get married dosen't mean it's true.

This is totally relatable! Maybe she got out of a toxic relationship and is choosing to remain single at least for a while. That’s where I am in my life and I just turned 30. My biological clock is also ticking so yeah I can definitely understand where she is coming from. I do think that she should look in to adoption though

If you are an attorney, why are you asking Steve about legalities?

I'm a single mom, it's hard but I wouldn't trade it for anything. People don't ask him where his father is thank goodness. He's 5, maybe that question arise when he's older, maybe not.

Steeeeeveeee !!!! I loooovee youuuu ❤❤❤❤❤ 😭😭😭 i wanna see you before i die lol 😂❤

Me: My fear is hitting the ground at terminal velocity. Steve: you gotta face it. (Pushes me out the plane with no parachute)

There are great women out there, and great guys if everyone should fight hard to find someone before calling it quit and speak nonsense like that. *THE ONE WHO SEEKS, FINDS.

The woman at the back at 4.00 rolling her head like "white peoples and dey prablams"

The best way to overcome a fear is to face the fear

Love STEVE’s answer!!

The second girl - scared from the dark - needs a spiritual cure. !

I had the same fear untill I was about 10. My father knew eventually about it and took me to the basement with the lights off. He taught me that night through darkness, he yelled att me and told me to repeat him. ”I’m not scared of the dark, there’s nothing to be afraid of”. I had to repeat that verse for about 20 times and he left me there alone untill he came back again later on and braught me home. Now I’m never afraid of the dark anymore. true story

Adoption is her best choice.

you did a good job talking to her instead of saying she's crazy!

That first lady was trying to have a baby for selfish reasons. Firs off, a father has rights unless he signs them away or a judge takes them away. Second of all, even though she is doing well now, things can always change. Something out of her control can make her lose her job like a company buy out, an economic rescission, or an illness can happen to her that can make it difficult to work or something could happen to the child that make a finical strain on her life.

Watching from Guyana I'm big fan of Steve

To the lawyer lady... if you want a baby, go for it. If you have love to give, give it to a baby. He’s not wrong. Sadly most kids don’t know who their dad is and Mom doesn’t always know either. She’s not wrong either. Finding a partner worthy isn’t that easy for women (or men) who have standards.

3:53 that was hilarious 🤣🤣

so my question to you all saying she is selfish....so what if she never finds "the one" is she supposed to give up on her dreams of being a mother? Single parent homes are not negative situations, the negative part is the immaturity and drama that the irresponsible parents create. If she is able to provide a safe, loving, financially, emotionally, and physically stable environment WHY NOT? Some women will settle for anything just to have a man sad smh. I'm glad she is strong enough to stand for what SHE believes in even if most disagree.

If she is scared of the dark she needs to see somebody about that.

I totally get where she's coming from

0:33 that "yes" in the background though...

I know it sounds crazy but I understand her completely. Thank God I'm doing great financially. I want to have a child myself. But I feel like it selfish because I have friends that grow up without a father. Which is what stops me.

Being a single mother is so hard I wouldn't wish it on anyone ..days I just hurt for my kids most of all

Mm, I had a fear of the dark happen to me as a young adult. For me, the fear would flare up whenever my depression and anxiety were peaking. I'd be willing to guess that she also suffers from generalized anxiety, and if that's the case--and if Steve's suggestion doesn't work lol--she should consider going to therapy, get tested for anxiety disorders, and try treatment and/or medication for at least 6 months to a year (or get some anxiety workbooks if therapy isn't an option).

A fatherless home is the #1 predictor of criminal behavior

We love you mr steve from morocco

Just adopt a child

Steve always have great advice. Real stuff. #RSA

For some reason as you grow older you can't sleep with a light on it's annoying...that's what got me over my fear of sleeping in the dark...😁

whats wrong with having a sperm donor? i thought about doing it myself , just for the simple fact i never had a man and dnt think i will..everyone is different

Every child needs a loving mother and father. Do not start your child's life with a screw up like WILLINGLY choosing to be a single mother.

Why is it so hard to believe that a woman chooses to be single.

There's a lot of successful women and the men nowadays are intimidated by them. Rather than embracing the woman who has worked hard; the men would rather label them as a feminist. So those men then find a woman whose standards are low or not there at all, and puts them down for not doing enough. It's extremely rare that you'll find a man whose not intimidated. I see why she's doing what she's doing. She's getting older, time is not on her side, and she's running into men who are most likely intimidated by her success. She'll become submissive to the right candidate.

I was 40 when I got married a 2nd time after being single for 15 years. Thank God I had had a boy from a previous relationship. Personally a child gives my life meaning. To each his own, no judging...ever.

It is so hard to find a partner. I feel her pain.

this woman has seen a lot, broken relationships, relationship wars, dysfunctional family relations . her greatest fear is bringing her work home, thinking she would fall in the same cycle as the cases she has fixed. this is failure of imagination

any psychologist will tell her - confront your fears... you don't get rid of the fear ... you become braver

Who left that much beard liner on Steve? 😯

Same can't sleep in the dark, it's scary and creepy and it somehow feels so suffocating

Having a child on your own is fine it’s everyone own choice. I never had a father and it has NEVER bothered me. Here’s a question how can you miss what you’ve never had???? All that father daughter stuff was never an issue as I had the most fantastic mum who raised all 4 of us

There's certainly a phobia that somehow triggers individuals mentality & psychological

I disagree with Steve on this. I'm 34 years old and have 2 wonderful sons that I'm raising 100% by myself by my choice. As for answering the question, "Why don't I have a Dad" I tell my boys, you are special and your family is different. I am both your mom and dad. I'm the one that goes to all the Dad events my boys are involved.

Just having a ring and piece of paper doesn't mean that child will turn good

So what about adopting

Nooooo Steve, I tried that with spidersssss... NO IT DIDN'T HELP!!!!!!

My girlfriend has 2 girls without the father and the children answer when asked where is your Daddy - they say he is a test tube. They are all a very healthy family.

THIS IS ALOT OF BULL PEOPLE JUST WANT TO DO JUST TO MUCH WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT BE BLESSED

That’s just selfish 🤦🏾‍♂️ makes me glad I’m single with no kids; smart enough for a degree in law but dumb as bricks

I am just wondering the legal ramifications for the man. Is there any situation where he's forced to financially support this child?

Everybody is talking down the woman who wants to have a kid on her own but i don't see the problem. If she got the cash to pay for it , then go for it. Steve was talking about the tough questions the kid may face but life is full of tough questions. Being a single mom is tough sure but it's not impossible nor is it a bad thing. My parents were divorced when i was 8-9 and my mother moved out of state. Did i get the "where is your mom" questions? YES. Did it bother me even a little ? NOPE! I was fine as a kid. On average i was happy. I was even happy that they were not together..... And don't get me wrong, i love my mom. I will always love my mom but i know I would rather they be divorced. So this lady wanting to find a sperm donor speaks to me. I don't have a kid, but if by the time i turn 35, if i don't have a kid by then i will probably do that. I know how growing up with a single parent is , and it is not nearly as bad as people claim it is for the kid.

I'm here single not by choice

At her age I'd go for it.

I loved his response!

Why was the cover of this video a white women?? If it wasn't her question

The old system usually when it's dark, it's bedtime.

Single By choice ... maybe because you don't have any other choice

A woman can raise a boy....mentoring is a whole other beast. A man help brong balance and mentoring children

Being a single mum BY CHOICE is one of the most SELFISH things a woman can do. She is DELIBERATELY DENYING the right this child has to his/her father. Circumstances which lead to Dad not being in the picture is a different situation, but BEING DENIED A FATHER BY CHOICE.... that is a gross violation of the human rights of a child

Good question. Many women think of this. Its important it's addressed.

Single by choice? Oh ok.

this woman is crazy ... in steve’s voice

I diddnt have a father growing up and I’m fine and it diddnt effect me. Lol my mom was enough, I love her so much!

The only way to over come a fear is to face the fear.