People don't talk on phones anymore, all they do is text, or pretend they're talking on the phone to from saying anything to anybody that walked by them.
@@tahira.7914 I totally understand what it's like to feel pressured to use a certain sort of technology just because lots of people use it. I've been there. You don't have to be a slave to whatever technology is common in your era. If something doesn't serve you well, you have every right to cut it out entirely. I've had my share of texting and text communication with friends and prospective dates on social media and dating sites, and it really is alienating. It doesn't carry the same sort of time and energy commitment or the same level of engagement that voice conversations have. I'm 31 and happily married. No, my husband and I were _not_ highly compatible according to the OKCupid algorithm, just FYI.
It's a problem that you even call texting a "game". You people play mind games with texting instead of just being natural. I text EXACTLY what I'm thinking. I'm too real for this world...
Then why don't girls have good text gaming and initiate instead if it's that bad? Also, I think the problem is that a lot of girls think of this as a "game"
When a man texts me "hey" or "hello" on a regular basis, I just ignore it. Or I respond ONCE and say something along the lines of "please don't text me if you have nothing to say. It's not my job to entertain you"
@@arc8696 Actually I am! But only with people who aren't socially lazy 😏 How can people just text "hi" everyday and expect the other person to carry a convo with them? I used to text "hi" right back to them in response, but got nothing back in return until the next day, then its "hi" again. You don't think that's annoying? They're certainly casting out a proverbial fishing rod to see who will bite. Its weird.
Remember a lot of men need to be trained. Men also don't communicate that well. My husband was never a texter or talk on the phone type, he still isn't, but he can talk my ear off face to face.
"Hey" is the easy to text. We live in this texting society where some people literally do not like personal interaction. I say move on sis! Fine a guy who can actually have a conversation with you besides "hey". This guy sounds immature.
@@showtime8968 Not always the case.. I use to always send thoughtful msgs to guys like this and still got dry responses. Ladies if a find yourself putting in more effort it's time to MOVE ON!💯
Some guys prefer texting over talking because it allows them to keep certain things private. Things like having a pre-existing relationship(I.e., girlfriend, wife, or child) Some do it simply because they haven’t learned the art of conversation. 😉
New potential tried it..on second day of not being able to talk for longer than 1mnt but wanting to text back and forth...i hit me with "let me get to cooking ..my man b home soon" he was OHHHH ..i dont block...i ignore yo ass and bin without schooling u...i aint yo mama nor yo therapist.
This shouldn't be limited to just men. This happens in both genders. I'm 47. Texting has taken the place of communication. Images has become such a big issue now. Ppl are afraid of being themselves. So they hide behind emails and texts. Face to face or hands-on communication. Is a thing of the past. Courtship maybe ole fashioned. But it's effective and still works. Everything NEW doesn't always mean it's BETTER!!
In most cases it applies to men! If a woman is doing this, she's not interested or attracted to the said suitor... most women can communicate.. if she struggles either you move on, or have patience and teach her... taking the lead in getting to know someone is a great quality
@@vanessacopland DAM! That's true. I forgot, she may not be interested. Hopefully after the third text. He'll get the message. Thanks for the knowledge.
Exactly. Recently got two numbers and texted back and forth. After a few texts, I suggested we meet for coffee or drink, something. And no reply back lol. I know if you text too much, too often comes off as too thirsty. But if text a lil and suggest we meet up, then I'm guessing it shows not trying too hard or not that interested. Its confusing. I admit my text game is weak lol.
Exactly, if a man wants u , we will come to u and find out if u have free time to have a cup of coffee or r u available for relationship, If u r not then we r gone , u will never see us behind u any more , its so simple 🥴🤢
Someone tell me if I am wrong but when someone message me "hey" I don't have an issue with it cuz he's simply saying hello. What happens if you don't like him like that or you do like him but it's kind of weird starting out a random conversation in the beginning. He is just simply greeting you. Don't you have to respond hello back before you can start more of a conversation/meaningful conversation? Starting with a "hey" is leaving room for conversation it's waiting to see would you actually even read that message and if you do read the message and reply then they can go further. I think some women over think it. If he always says "hey" and no response after you reply to him then I see the frustration.
Most women don't call back they'll text back if interested. She can entertain multiple dudes like that. There's not always gonna be some clever wity line that intrigues. Could you just text her setting up a date straight away lime that? Women aren't that direct with you.
Just sayin ladies ... does go both ways. I noticed whenever I’m dating a girl and she starts just giving me the one word texts or just a emoji I just stop responding lol not worth wasting a mans time 🤷🏼♂️
If the woman answer after he say hey.. Yall can start a conversation... Why is it such a violation to "hey"? Gonna throw a good man away just cause a text appear and he say "HEY"?? smh
Have u ever thought he might be shy and that he might be waiting for you to start a conversation with him in that way hell feel more comftable. Once again is always the guys fault
I had this same thing happen to me. It was a turn off. Day 1 he says hey. I responded back saying hey and I didn't hear anything back until the next morning when he said good morning. After a couple days I told him to feel free to call me for a conversation. He said ok, but never did and continued to text so I ignored him. We are grown, I don't want an elementary text exchange. A 40 year old shy man isn't cute.
I'm in Africa n' 'em ladies like it texting than actual talking. I on other hand take issue with that bc I believe in verbal communication, it sucks tho, really
He was just saying "hey" like, I woke up and thought of you, what's up. I used to get a "hey" text every morning that turned into us texting back and forth all day until one of us passed out at the end of the night. It was like we spent every day together in a sense. She's just 37 and confused about this "new world", probably talking to dudes way younger than her. Can't date way younger unless you understand how they communicate. She over-complicated the whole thing. Steve should've asked the age range of the dudes, not just her.
Some people text hey or Hello because they are texting that to a lot of people at the same time. They don't want to get anyone's name mixed up with the others.
I dated a guy who always texted me hey. Even after weeks of not talking to me. Needless to say I learned that lesson and we are no longer together. THANK GOD
Honestly, he's just not interested in anything more. Women complain all the time about "online" relationships not moving forward, even when the texting is more elaborate and/or when they skype. Some guys just want someone to communicate with (for whatever reasons) without having to commit themselves "FULLY" to a real relationship.
Lol, when I text someone I say Hey Hello Wassup He doesn't mind, well actually he does. He prefers talking on the phone which I hate. We make it work though but for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker
I see some dont get it. Its cool to text hey. Gets your attention. You say hi hey hello back. The conversation should ensue. But dont just randomly keep saying hey and nothing else. You say hey back and then nothing? Hey again from them and you say hey again. Nothing. They say hey hi hola wussup wyd. Im just staring at the screen like tf you want? Say something else. Ive even tried to start the convo myself and got nothing back then hours later. Hey wyd? Fool get the hell off my inbox. #delete blocked forgotten.
What she says has exactly been happening to me at times. Just a hey every once in a while and disappearing. I cracked up with the way she described it, (he says Hola to mix it up 😆😆) this I have seen too. I feel her 😆😆
In my opinion, we all are guilty of this, even myself. I think the problem is that people don't actually take the time to learn conversation openers. People taught and told us that talking is important, but never actually took the time to break down the whole "world of conversation" to us. We as men and women start learning the art of conversation after high school on our own; forced to go out and learn it ourselves. That is why people usually ask advise from professional date doctors, purchase books on the internet, go on RU-vid and have RU-vidrs give out tutorials and exercises on the matter, and even worse they spend money for either online or face-to-face tutors.
brandon ralph It’s not hard to communicate. It’s only difficult when someone does not understand themselves and then the opposite sex. Communication will be so easy for men and women alike and healthier once we get a better idea of who we are and what it is we want, need, and desire from our future spouses. And, of course other men and women outside of our future marriage valuing us as the men and women we were naturally born to be. Hope this helps.
I agree I hate texting so bad mostly because no matter how careful I put my fingers on the keys it types the letter beside it above it and I'm sick of correcting it. But mostly is rather hear your voice. People can take you wrong through texting.
You have to understand that a lot of men are trying to see several women and once, and trying to develop something with several other women also. They might be mass texting and messaging any number of women on Tinder also. They will put something out to a bunch of women and see who responds.
For me hey or hi is s greeting word I say it once then I ask the women thing or compliment the women but never mind men, women message with just hey too what’s the difference you can’t judge people when you can’t even do any better yourself
So just putting "hey" gets responses, but carefully reading through a woman's profile on a dating site, and responding with something related to that, doesn't get any responses.
That gives a "stalker" vibe . You'll get a positive answer if you listen DURING a conversation AND answer accordingly. Then you leave some time before asking that woman out. I'm not into online dating but so I can't tell you what you won't but I can guarantee you that this " I know you" vibe given will scare away people.
You crying over a text message. We not in the 80's and 90's no more. You can get to know a person by texting them. Steve complaining about texting and saying use verbal communication but he's okay when women save screen shots from a text message to make a man look bad when they go off on a dude for whatever reason.
