Akua !!!! Like I feel like I gained so much knowledge about how to date a man. Like not get played ,at this point knowing how they think I BE DAMNEDDDDDDDD!
he will test sexually he will test you emotionally he will test you mentally he will test your standards he will test you spiritually he will test your insecurities he will test how you make decisions he will test your confidence or lack there of. Good stuff Tony...
Chrissy chriss the only reason you will hate the test is if your not ready or don’t think you are sound enough to pass. If you do the work they won’t even be any test to you because you’ll just be that person naturally and all the things will naturally be checked.
Chrissy chriss Yes & when you learn how to use the tools of being a confident woman, you won’t stick around for tests...you will realize that he could be a low value man who needs to work on himself & has nothing to do with you.
Hi Ladies, It took me years to figure this out too. I use to give so much and Loved so hard. Then I saw other Women who loved very minimally and chilled/ fell back from a Man and got handed the World.
@ Charlotte, As Women We have to learn to put Ourselves First and Stop putting the Man on an Unrealistic petal stool. I have seen that Woman who do Less Get More from Men.
I’ve been telling people that for the longest! When we meet these men, we want the well put together man, where there is no work involved. We expect him to “know” to open doors, flowers, etc...but you have to teach your husband how to be YOUR husband. God gave him permission to marry you and a few pointers on how to handle you, but YOU have to teach him how to be YOURS!!! Setting boundaries etc, which makes him that man you’ve always wanted. It takes time and work, but YOU have to be willing.
I agree! I had to tell my inconsistent ex to lose my number the last time he cancelled a date with me, and the next day he acted like we never had plans. I told him I’m not the ticket-I’m the prize
Personally what he says I've been taught or I've learned through life however it feels like he's my brother and he gives a different perspective. I listen to him when I need a pep talk
Not me cause soon as opportunities present I forget and have to KIM , until I go look at my notes to make sure I know all the points and why he standing like that 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I just had a 59yr old grown man ask to take me out on a date then followed up with asking me if I drive. When I said yes he said “good we can take your car” I hung up and blocked that man IMMEDIATELY!!!
A term a friend of mine used today that I hadn't heard in a while. That low down dirty sap sucker! He is an old fool with nothing to offer not even a car. You did the right thing. Keep it moving sis.
The best and fastest way to past every test with flying colors is to NOT sleep with him. AND to let him know upfront that it’s not happening until he puts a Ring on it. I know this because I’ve been celibate for almost 3 years & I’ve been drama-free & man-problem free ever since 🤣💜
Yasssss sis!!!! Abstinence until marriage really keeps you emotionally sound and in control making intellectual descions! Best decision I made in dating! Lord continue to give grace in this area. It's a protection all on its own.❤😇🙏🏾
I’ll never forget when this guy tried to kiss me and I said no, then all of a sudden he got busy and needed to get his life together. Boy byeeeeeeee lol
I used to feel the same way but even mature, high value men test us. My focus is to learn the tests and how to pass them because I will be 80 years old waiting for a man that never tests me.
The last guy who was a player disguised in a nice guy, used a lot of emotional turmoil excuses, his last breakup (9months ago!) and having to process emotions, while he was in fact juggling many women from the app! And I felt we had a connection.. It's disheartening.
This grown boy university is the best education i have every received, and there is no student loan attached. God bless you Tony! 😂😂😂 I’m crying with laughter...
I wish I found Tony 3 years ago! I would have avoided an abusive relationship. I failed every test in the beginning, he was my first boyfriend. That will never happen again!! Thanks Tony, you're doing the Lord's work!!
ms judyyyy… i feel u with the failed every test & first bf but just kno to keep studying to kno how to pass every other one tho. cant even let it get to u. gotta stay on your own path !
I had a grown boy test me like that weeks ago. Kept saying he was going to call me and hit me up that night. I didn't hear from him that night nor the next day. I blocked him on my phone. We work at the same store together, so when I saw him the next day after blocking him, he asked me if I was good. That's it..."you good?" So smiling I said, "Yep, I'm good!" lol Well, I left him on block and haven't said a word to him about it ever since. He hasn't said a word either. Done and done. I still speak to him, and I'm always nice, but he will never get a chance to be in my world again.
@@toniwilliams9817 I agree with Lauren, don't block them. That way you know if they reach out or not. And take in the pleasure of not answering back. Just look and delete
A guy cancelled a day before claiming he had to travel due to family issues. Mind u the date was supposed to be an apology for ghosting me earlier this year. I texted back thanks for letting me know on time so I don't have to cut my other appointments short. And that's the last he will ever hear from me
I’m only 23 and I’m dealing with a 29 year old and this helped me , he wait 10 hours to text me back, but was on social media posting,! But when he texted me I’m just not responding back to him
Girl one did this and kept doing it then … why did he wait a whole day girl I went off and left and never looked back… he had every excuse in the world. Nobody got time for that bullshit
TG stay giving us gems. Remember when he said don't give a man a second chance if you're not sure he's changed. Look at Princess & Ray j....she filed for divorce he begged her back..she took him back and a month later he filed for divorce. The man wants the last laugh. Be careful out here. Stop allowing these dudes to be disrespectful to you. Kids nor marriage will make a man love & respect you. Peace, wealth, & wine ✌🏾💵🍷🥰
This video is 100% correct. I failed the first few tests and i ended up getting punched and chocked out. He was a MMA fighter. Dont ignore them red flags. They are always there. He will do it to you, he will do it to someone else. Be safe ladies! Be smart!
💯 They sometimes cancel a date and then turn around and ask you to come over the same night. 🤨 Tony keep speaking the truth because there are grown boys in their 50s still using these tests.
I did last week after a horrible experience and it’s like I don’t learn. I just want to be in a good relationship but I just feel like I lack confidence in saying no. So I end up doing things I regret then it doesn’t work out. Dude wasn’t even over his ex and now I feel stupid. After about a month....I just left him alone but still
I’ve heard all this. Guys will make you feel so bad about not sleeping with them or “We should know what it’s like together before we get married” omg I’ve heard this a lot lately. The dumbest excuse. Being sexually assaulted and thinking it’s your fault because “you look so good”. It’s terrible.
I can’t help but think that if men today had integrity, women wouldn’t need constant coaching sessions. I’m not saying that we as women don’t get it wrong at times however, I find men are looking for a woman who has the stability they cannot provide. This is not the balance God intended and I will be single my whole life before I do for a man what he should have been planning for his whole life for me. This is my belief and I stand on it.
Omg yes! My dad stayed on us about making sure a man has integrity. He would also preach to me over and over about keeping my dignity, which I have found a lot of young women lack. That is why these men get away with so much and I seem like a lot work to them compared to what they are used to. At this point I don’t even care anymore. My peace means too much to me.
It’s crazy how Tony literally scripted out my life by what a guy has said to me and the game he played. This man knows exactly what he is talking about.
No its a test of truth .... He's messing with other woman and with one of the dancers that he been spending money on to make her jealous😂 dumb but truth. If you have a three and the relationship didn't go anywhere you played yourself
@@yeahthatsme921 I never said any of this happened to me personally ...but I’ve heard several different stories from other women, where that was the males intentions.
Tony, you said in your video that Grown boys love shortcuts. As soon as you said that i received a word in my spirit. It goes as follows; The shortcuts will please his flesh, but the Work will please his spirit. This is where we as women can make a big impact‼️ His flesh might not understand the work he has to put in, but on a subconscious level, his spirit is being impacted positively. This brings about real change in a man's heart, when our words and action feeds his spirit first. Thank you Tony. This is confirmation to me that you are indeed anointed by the Holy Spirit. I'd also like to add, that this proves that when we lay on our backs/ fornicate with the man, we bypass the opportunity to feed his spirit. So he continues to operate in lust. Makes complete sense‼️‼️
This is such a great comment. Like I feel like I’m going through this right now with my now ex boyfriend. He was my 1st bf ever and I had no clue what I was doing but I knew that these “tests” that I definitely failed were to teach me a lesson. He wants to get back together but presses sex and I absolutely refuse. I don’t want a man operating in lust but have been positively feeding his spirit from a distance
He didn’t call...What had happened was... Who knew we had to go to school to get tested in dating and relationships Tony. Thanks for the real education.
Cancel a date on me that first time and he'll never hear from me again. If it wasn't an emergency and I spent 2+ hours getting ready, I'm blocking his number on the spot. I don't play that 🙅♀️🚫
Ladies, they will certainly try you. I tell them all that there is nothing they can do that hasn't already been tried and done, nothing they can say that I haven't already heard, in one way, or another. I will check them every time. Believe it or not, men appreciate a woman who does not let them disrespect her, in any way.
I wish I had seen this sooner. This is absolutely the game! And Tony has the playbook. I may not have passed every test, but now I’m restago. Tony is like the Uncle that’s going to get you together! We need someone to talk candidly like this. Gems 💎
I had a guy cancel on me twice, first was a family emergency than an urgent matter with a friend 🥱🤔 I seen right through them games and told him I'm sorry but I don't think this is going to work out ✌🏽
I like the way he gets into character and you get the message clearly . If a man cancel 2 times ladies don't let him waste your time , time is precious and once its gone you can never get it back.
Tony, man you just blew my mind. I feel right now like I am at a truth serum night club. I am 71 and live in senior housing. A beautiful little place. I hope I don't get complaints about comedy club laughing. Man you are 10,000 percent so right. I'm repenting right now. The half and half friend that I have had for the last six years, I am to done. I will do a complete work on myself for me. Thank you Tony. No my pastor can't talk to me like you do. Anyway I am old enough to know better. I am closer to 100 than 40 years of age. I will take care of myself so that I can make it to 100. My morals, standards and standing on the Word will get me there.
I’ve just witnessed Tony the Actor Comedian & Truth Teller. I’m showing this to the Single ladies & men at the Church. These tests are real & have consequences as well. Thank you Tony for identifying them. 🙏🏽
If you take a lion to a gazelle market, he’s gonna want to pounce. -TG Translation: You can’t play into these grown boy games. We women have to learn to think with our heads, not our emotions. We would win more on relationships if we listened to our intuition. If something doesn’t feel right never let a grown boy talk you into it.
I’ll say just take it as an experience, you had to experience something different that hurt you but that also show you something you didn’t know , so now you know how to protect yourself when someone will come with the same behavior. Not that you’ll stay guarded but open and careful
Tony you’re hilarious !! I literally laugh so hard at your videos which is another reason why I tune in . Thank you for sharing and for being authentic ❤️
I literally fell asleep with my phone and just woke up upset again to find It at my head. I looked up the dangers and of course Google said there is no link to cancer. I used to be able to find out how bad it was online as well as om RU-vid but they are hiding the information now. Where can I find the information, anyone know?
So much truth ladies. Listen to understand, stop debating....it's best to know about these test than to experience it and fail. Trust yourself....God will keep you but you have to listen to the lil "wait a minute now" moments and block immediately....you're worth it JUST WAIT
Thank you Tony. No you did and said exactly what I needed to hear. It never fails when I come to listen... I learn just what I need to know in the way I needed to hear it.