And at the end she didn't apologize to him, or care that the room for him didn't get cleaned up. She should have been so grateful he wanted to spend time with her. Then the ungrateful brat gets a marriage proposal.
She’s a very unstable lady. I am furious how she put on a convincing display of a emotionally fragile person, expressing desires to spend time with her grandson. Then she completely denied feeling that way the next day!
I hope her grandson is done wasting time on someone who has shown that he is not a priority to her. The look on his face was just heart breaking. She didn’t deserve his help and support. What a betrayal. 🥺
So she kept her hoard in storage units, got a clean area in her house and a working clean toilet, without putting in any efford, even got engaged and the one thing she decided to 'get rid' of, ends up being the chance to build a closer connection with her lovely grandson. Great job, Debbie.
wont be long till those storage units go up for auction....and some sucker is gonna find alot oof JUNK to go through thats not gonna be worth their time XD
When these people are this old and pass away with a dumpster left behind, they leave it all for their family to clean up. It’s gross, selfish, and disgusting.
I’m not a hoarder, and I constantly declutter my house. The reason is exactly what you said. I don’t want our kids to have to deal with taking care of our things when my husband and I pass.
Your statement is so TRUE!!! 🎯 My family had to deal with cleaning up hoarders leftovers 3 times now! We were so overwhelmed and couldn't finish the job by ourselves. We had to give up, take the important things, and dump the rest! For one house, we had to rent a dumpster! It was THAT bad! I vowed to never do this to my family. When I leave this earth, I want it to be easy on them, not a burden. It overshadows the good memories.
Debbie doesn't deserve to see her house empty because she didn't get rid of anything. And the fact that she said to her grandsons face that he was less important to her than her shoe collection breaks my heart. I'm upset that they finished this project for her, she didn't fix or change anything and the problem is still there.
YET! She went and high fives him with her hand when he was given an opportunity to speak during the first day of all of this- she should be on the street and she can go collecting with a cart and take it to her tent - she’s cRaZy literally
I would feel ashamed, if so many people would come to my house to clean up the mess that I'm responsible for! I can't shake the thought, that people like her, who are even upset about the cleanup or the way it has been done, are hopelessly lost and with them everybody who believes in them 😞
The poor grandson. I can definitely tell that he is upset and wanted a bedroom at his grandma's house. She just dismissed him like he was a piece of the hoard. She's quite crappy on top of it all. I'd pack up and leave her home
His mother should have stood up, and calmly said 'that is incredibly offensive to my son, and until you apologise we will no longer be participating in helping you.'
I could totally see this woman putting all her stuff back from storage back into her house. Seems like this was a total waste of everyone's time. And I felt so bad for her grandson.
same and how awful that she blew off her grandson's work in his own room and stopped it - then gets engaged and none of these people had a problem with that ??? heart breaking 😣
Although I have had the A&E Crew at my house to help me get my house and my Life Back I’ve watched hundreds of the HOARDERS Shows I felt she was disrespectful and Mean to the People Trying to Help Her and I Hope that Tom does not get the same Treatment from Debbie...
@@paulrucker5971 I completely agree, Tom comes off as an amazing person that just wants love at his age. Despite the negative it comes with. Debbie comes off as being so tied up with herself that she has no time, concern or respect for anyone other than herself and her stuff. I think it’s really interesting hearing from someone that has had personal experience with A&E. Are they as kind and as gentle as the get portrayed in the show?
She is going to make Tom miserable. But like that song by The Eurythmics- some want to abuse you... some people want to be abused. I really need to both go to intense counseling. He need to know what he's getting into. Same as if they over used alcohols or drugs.
I noticed that the grandson's demeanor, behavior and expression changed after that confrontation. His eyes lost the "smile" and I didn't hear him speak anymore (at least during whatever that's was aired).
His mother also failed him by not speaking up at the time. Had it been me, I would have calmly but firmly told her that was offensive, that I wanted an apology for my son, and taken him away from that situation to do something fun.
@@mrjfrostbite YES! I watched Hoarders and there was an episode where two brothers shared the same house. Both were hoarders. During the filming of it, one of the brothers died IN his hoard, and they continued with the filming , but extra sensistively for the living brother who had lost his bro just the night before.
I was really sad how she disregarded her grandson. She basically said he wasn’t her priority because their closets were more important. How many people would just give everything to have a grandson like him.
She also had many boxes of new shoes she had never even worn and wasn't willing to give any of them away. She was getting thousands of dollars worth of free help yet wouldn't even help others. Her poor grandson. He looked so hurt. She never said another word to him. A good, loving kid like that is pure gold. A treasure. And she threw him away without a second thought. And she didn't solve a single one of her problems. Her hoard is now in storage boxes. She had someone die alone in a hoard and she is well on her way to doing that, too. This was one of the most distressing episodes I have ever watched. Very very sad all around.
Reminds be of a former coworker, complained about wanting more hours but didn’t want to stay past 2:00pm(store opened at 6:00am and she opened) and didn’t want to work weekends but still wanted these hours to magically come from somewhere.
After she showed her rejection with hurting her grandsons desire to visit and have a room, she just lost me from there. You could see the pain and hurt in her grandsons eyes. Even towards the end, they don’t talk about it again; her making amends for her behavior in that one decision alone, and all while he’s there to help her have a better life! That’s horrible. Just breaks my heart for him.
i hate how they kept blatantly lying on the text cards. "with debbie making good progress at the sorting table" right after she flat-out refused to donate ANY shoes from her massive hoard. "with the storage problem solved" it wasn't solved, she just insisted on renting storage units she can't afford. there are people on this show who got in over their head and are willing to get rid of stuff and then there are people like debbie who just need to be put on a boat for 2 weeks while everyone else empties their house. they won't even notice 90% of the stuff is gone because they never use any of it.
So she gets a marriage proposal and the grandson gets totally shafted. By the end of the episode, they just completely forgot about the fact that she said her stuff was more important than him. His mom didn't step in and stand up for him, and the crew was just like We didn't get to the room meant for you Josh, oh well! He showed how much he cared and helped as much as he could and then got treated like that. Like wow... everyone failed this boy.
I would have taken my son and left her there. I am serious - this woman is clearly manipulative - as most commenters have recognised. She doesn’t deserve people helping her. Also, it is enabling and rewarding her behaviour. Awful.
Moving her stuff into storage for her is the absolute worst thing they could do, bc now she'll have storage payments she can't afford AND she will definitely rehoard all of the space they cleared in her house. This was sickening. I hope the grandson is okay. Some people would be so grateful to have a grandchild who wants to spend time with them.
And I can almost bank on it that Tom will be picking up the tab for those storage payments, along with other things. Note how when he asked her to marry him she paused and said, 'Well, if you wanna drive,' which I took to mean 'deal with everything.' She even had stipulations on him!
Did anyone notice the tears in his eyes when she cruelly ejected doing the grandsons bedroom. I think that she is one of the worst cases of being so ill I have seen. Good Luck Tom I think you have taken on a lot I hope it works out for you all.
She has such a precious grandson and yet goes out of her way to make sure he understands that he's not important to her. What a tremendous blow that must have been for him to hear that.
Was anyone else wanting Matt, or Cory there to give her a reality check about all that stuff?! What she said to her grandson about his room was unforgivable! And then to find out that the grandson was diagnosed with a brain tumor after this episode!!! She definitely needs a reality check on what’s really important!
Old friend of mine is a hoarder. It's a compulsion, and parting with her stuff is emotional; like going through a breakup. The idea of getting rid of her things, definitely makes her irrational and irritable.
Her grandson seems so loving and smart, can't believe she's not prioritizing a space for him, especially when he clearly wants to be part of her life. I hope he understands that she's not well, and that he's loved by other people in his life. So upsetting to hear her say that.
This was the first hoarder I've ever seen who was greedy. For most of them you constantly hear "this is for my grandson" or "someone can use this!" But Debbie is literally losing her mind over the prospect of anyone else having her stuff.
None of the bigger issues were solved here. She just got a free house clean out. Her hoarding problem was not addressed at all. Her grandsons room should have been the top of her list. So sad.
Real sad that strangers on RU-vid care more about her grand son's feelings than she does. Quite a despicable character overall, at 68 it's too late for a wakeup call or change so imo she can stuff it
I dont understand why a 68 year old woman still has a mortgage! She cant afford it, shes spending her money on things she throws on the floor. Now she has storage unit fees? Tom is nuts to hook up with her.
@@queenbee3647 she's been in the house for 37 years so she must have either refinanced or taken out a second mortgage or something at some point. my MIL had 10 years left on her mortgage then lost her job and had to refinance for another 30-year term. she'll be dead before she pays that house off, but she was too proud to sell and use the equity to move someplace cheaper.
It's sad how sick this lady is and how easily she can choose her stuff over her family. She's got one foot out the door to homelessness yet she wants to rent more Storage Boxes??!! Wow.
Such a nice house. I'd be so grateful for a house like that, and she turns it into a dumpster. Not even grateful for all the help she received. Just made it difficult every step of the way. And worst of all she made it clear to her own grandson that he isn't a priority to her. Smdh. I understand that this is a sickness, but it's really hard to understand how anyone can be so selfish
I know!! I think about that every time I watch the show. People with endless amounts of money and a nice house that they've completely destroyed. I wonder how people from 3rd world countries would react if they saw this?
He's probably thinking that once the hoarded stuff is gone that everything will go back to normal but he doesn't realize that she really is obsessed with accumulating stuff. I truly hope that things work out for them.
It's always this way: my life is awful, tears, I'll be homeless, remorse, my kids mean EVERYTHING to me...well, with exception to my STUFF...I'm not giving THAT away...yes, I'm keeping that- oh look how beautiful my place looks because everyone else did the work while I pouted about giving away trash.
She is most unpleasant. A controller and a drama queen. Her partner sees something, so she is lucky in that way. I could never say my grandchildren are not a priority in my life.
In all of these I’ve been able to found compassion for these people. But this woman is insufferable. That poor grandson having his grandmother sit and throw a tantrum over her wanting her wardrobe done because her grandson isn’t a priority. Such entitled behaviour, this team came to help you lady because the state YOU let YOUR house get into. Get away with it lady
I like this show, but in my opinion they do everything backwards. The hoarders need therapy before they go in to clear everything out. The hoarders also need to spend a good amount of time clearing a space on their own before people try and do it for them. It’s like throwing away every bottle of alcohol in the house of an alcoholic and hope they will never drink again once the alcohol is out of sight. Mental healing takes more than a rip the bandaid off approach.
Exactly there was one episode where a lady had had months of CBT prior to the clean up team coming and she did amazing. The uK show at least does it over a 6 week period with counselling and therapy to address the underlying issues and work on getting the hoarder to change their mindset.
Her grandosn really seems like a lovely emotionally intelligent young man, you can just see the disappointment on his poor face. She unfortunately seems like a narcissist.
Poor Tom! If he has any money or savings he better lock it up or she will make him destitute. My heart goes out to her Grandson whom she treated in such a cruel way. I realize this woman is ill but surely that shouldnt be an excuse to treat everyone around her in such a horrible manner!
After the grandson thing - I'd leave her in the dust and not look back. Mother or not. The way she said it too. NOTHING IN HERE IS IMPORTANT TO ME ! ( grandsons potential room) and I am NOT working in here (grandsons room) WHEW .. I'd be done - she wouldn't care anyway - for those who would maintain "she's your mother!" Believe me I know from experience when your close relatives including your parents say you aren't important to them - THEY MEAN IT . You just need to move on to not let them take your entire life away ..
Not to judge, but I was not only pained by the dismissal of her grandson, but the reaction to her boyfriend’s proposal. There’s a big void in this woman’s soul.
Ok Brandon is going to become a councelor or organizer himself in a few short years. What a wise young man he is. There are few hoarders more stubborn then this woman. Ugh
Someone in the comments here said he was diagnosed with a brain tumor right after the show. I don't know where to find that information but how horrific if it's true! 😥
the child who first spoke for his grandmother was extremely mature with the situation and was very understanding of her safety and things that should be a healthy environment for her.
She is more overwhelmed that her stuff was gone than the real beauty of her home. That poor grandson, you don’t get over words like that when your young. That stuff not only stings to the core but that memory is forever engraved in his mind.
I love Hoarders and usually am so empathetic to the hoarder because I know it’s an illness. This episode was very hard to watch though:/ Debbie seems like a really mean person.. they she acted about donating ANYTHING made me cringe
I really wished they got the young mans room done. After living in that he deserved that. I could see his disappointment 😕 I was disappointed for him 🥺
Me too! If you want to live like that THATS FINE BUT DONT SUBJECT YOUR GRANDSON TO LIVING LIKE THAT! THAT JUST SHOWS YOU THAT THIS WOMAN CARES ABOUT HER STUFF MORE THAN HER OWN GRANDSON! ITS JUST SAD!
She clearly has no desire to get rid of anything. I would like to see an episode/series of helping the same person over a course of 6 mo or so... so that a person like her (resistant to the process) can take the baby steps needed and move forward.
Frankly, they did this woman no favors. They should have stuck to their principles and told her, “Nope. This isn’t what we contracted for. One of three things is gonna happen here - either we take this stuff away as planned (option one) or we take it back into the house and dump it back in your bedroom, living room, kitchen and wherever we can find room (option two). If you don’t do either of those and you don’t want your stuff put back into the house, then we’ll unload your stuff into your front lawn and you can make your own arrangements to deal with it (option three). What we are NOT going to do is unload this stuff into the lawn and then pay our people to transport and then load it into storage for you. That would be your choice at your expense. You have 5 minutes to decide. If you don’t have an answer after 5 minutes, the default will be Option three and we’ll start unloading the trucks onto your lawn.”
I've seen SOOOO many episodes where they have been asked to move things into storage and this is the first time I've ever seen were they have allowed this.
What a horrible selfish woman. My heart broke for her sweet grandson, having to hear his grandma say he wasnt important enough to clean a room for him to come visit.She makes me sick.
Now, she’s got costly storage rental fees, unless Hoarders is enabling her by paying her storage fees? I thought she doesn’t have enough funds to continue paying her mortgage?
They set her up to lose her home. Storage fees are such a scam, paying hundreds per month and the fees will quickly exceed the items value. They did this woman dirty imo.
She did bring it on herself. She said it's what she wanted all along. I bet they end up auctioning off her stuff. I hope she thinks about it and changes her mind. But she won't. 😢
One of the most selfish hoarders I have ever seen and she actually made me angry. The way she got outraged at donating unused shoes to charity is despicable. I have a hoarding problem (not on the level of these people) but I donate stuff all the time, used or not. She will probably never wear those shoes, let someone else have the opportunity to wear them. And the way she spoke to be grandson was horrible, he took time out to help her. Just leave this crone to her 600 shoes and cut her out. They don't need that toxicity.
B.S. 😬😧🐯😒 not one true statement was said, she walked all over the " experts" in charge. The grandson was told by his " Nana" he wasn't a priority in her house. This episode was useless to the viewers. 😕😶
I think the mistake all of these hoarder programmes make is to tackle the whole home in one go. She has forgotten what it was like to have a nice home, so even seeing 1 or 2 rooms transformed should give her the desire to carry on.
I agree, her answer to that propsal was horrible, 'Well, um. if you want to drive'. And her declaration that her grandson's room wasn't a priority was horrible too.
Debbie is mean and ungrateful. She should appreciate all the help. She also owes her grandson an apology. If I was him I wouldn’t even want to go over there.
Poor guy... He fell for a narcissistic woman... Even in that state... Hope he's going to free himself from that tremendous hoard, physically and psychologically 🙏🍀
This woman needs help because all she did was move the clutter. Now she will go sit in her storage sheds. Its ridiculous. She hasn't solved anything. She hasn't even cared about the kid. sickness.
Her grandson will NEVER forget what she said to him. The mother should have taken him by the hand as soon as Debbie said what she did. I wished they’d both left the home right then and there. And, Tom, good luck buddy, you’re really gonna need it with her. Selfish, selfish, selfish woman
