Holding People Accountable For Their Words 

One of the best quotes ever is "Teach people how to treat you".

I go through this with a parent. Im about to use this on everyone who tries me. Thank you Ricky Smiley

YES 👍🏽 manipulation needs to be checked on the spot.

I'm labeled as too sensitive from checking people ☺️

Thanks for this Rickey, I had to leave a lot of people alone for doing exactly what you just said. You're right too, they do try to speed talk and/or talk over you when you call them out on it.

I’m with YOU on this one. I don’t let people get away with thinking that they can say anything to me and think I’m gonna let it slide even IF it IS in a round about way.I ain’t NEVER had a problem with CONFRONTATION! NOPE NOT HAPPENING! 💕

Goodmorning Ricky!!! U are absolutely right!!! I stop playing wit folks YEARS ago!!! Now I call them out straight to their face-NO CHASER!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾U gotta stop playing with these grown folks out here….

EXACTLY 💯...NOT TO MENTION THEY HAVE THE NERVES TO GET AN ATTITUDE WHEN YOU ADDRESS THEM 🙄, IMMEDIATELY!

I realized that you have to get them right when it happens. If you go back later, they will have amnesia, gaslight you.

This a whole word, Rickey! 👏🏾THAT PART!! 👆🏾

Facts! Family and friends always show their true colors.. I started shutting all of then down!

Its not the time to keep letting people (family too) keep thinking its ok to treat u the same ole way (talking or actions). Thank u ❤

That's right. Address it the same time it happens

You are Right Rickey ✅ Smiley ! You must always be addressing GARY🤣

Some once said…don’t come to me apologizing…hugging me and speaking in tongues. Let address it head on!

I’m pretty good with saying miss me with the BS, just In facial expressions. People know their intent and reason for their actions. I consider it as pressing someone’s boundaries. If you don’t have anything positive or encouraging to say. It’s best not to say anything at all. We are all held accountable for our actions at the end of the day.

I agree, because there was a lady I stopped talking to. she said some nasty words to me - one day she tells me in front of a group of women, I didn't talk to nobody. At that time she was referring to she and myself. I made it clear - I talk to everyone who know how to talk to me. Case close.

Preach Ricky!!!!!! Call their ass out right then and there.!

It’s called a meeting a Mofo at the Line. It’s the only way to live. Great Relationship are built around establishing Boundaries and Accountablity.

Absolutely 100000000% Right!!!! Rickey. Keep up the great work 👍

Amen! Don’t let people play in your face ❤️

You are the MAN!!!! Thanks for this one I go through this on the regular!! Much Love!!!

Yeaah! That's old school, and that's Me. You get a reputation of being mean, sarcastic and difficult with some people. And others just know You don't play games, and appreciate You for being real.

Mom is always doing this to me…Great advice !

Yeah Rick man some people say no but don't want to here no . When you say no after they have told you know don't let them fast talk and over talk to get over. Been there and learned that

Thank you Ricky it happened . I usually correct the child but when a adult you have to get them really good You are absolutely right thanks a lot

This is so on point. I just checked a relative for this exact thing. You covered everything I addressed with them. I didn’t raise my voice nor was I disrespectful. If I won’t allow strangers to disrespect me then I shouldn’t let relatives do so too.

Oh yes you are right! And I will put someone in their place too. Yes sir ♥️♥️♥️

RICKEY THAT'S A GREAT IDEA IT'S BEST TO ADDRESS A ISSUE IMMEDIATELY THAT WAY BOTH PEOPLE HOPELY REACH A UNDERSTANDING & MOVE FORWARD TOGETHER OR APART.🤔

Thanks for this message. Great advice to put into practice daily.

One thing I learned about my past I never get in the car with nobody else when I got put out my own mother house and had to call the limo to come and pick me up because the family turned against me for what I don't know but ever since then I never looked back

i appreciate your motivational words.

Thank You Rickey 🌹 I address people with the quickness, I been pissing people off lately ,anyone that knows me know I handle issues on point but respectfully.

I needed this walk through. Your step by step approach with explanations was excellent. I’m going to teach my sons this in their youth.

Thank you for this tidbit- I really appreciate this because I’ve had to deal with a lot of passive aggression.

I have finally understood this this year and I love using it 😍😍😍

So right on point

Thank you Sir!

In the Psych world it's called passive aggressive behavior! Check them at the moment without anger.

I needed to hear this & will apply it thank you 🙏🏾

You are 💯 correct. I call it "talking wreckless" You can't do that or talk slick... You WILL get, got! 🤷🏾‍♀️

Say That Mr. Smiley 😆 Facts!! You know that’s right!!! Have a Wonderful day and stay safe!!!❤️🙋🏾‍♀️🌹💪🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤣😆🤗👍

So True Rickey

I'm having a problem with a toxic 26 yr old daughter. I try to redirect the conversation about what crap she has said but she says I didn't hear it right, blah blah. I recently listened to a video you made about adult kids being entitled. It's time for her to get on out on her own and let society teach her what's gonna happen.

I'm addressing it then and there. No one has the right to jug at me. And I won't allow them to. Best wishes!

Thank You for Sharing. 🥰

So true ❤

Exactly I will us this

Rickey I just want you to know that this was a " REAL WORD FOR ME PERSONALLY"!.. I'm just an average person that just loves your content without having any status. But this RIGHT HERE, HELPED ME IMMENSELY!! Thank you for continuing to be a super real person. Thanks again , I'm going to make adjustments in how I allow folks to deal with me.

Thanks for sharing

Great advice !!!!

Love and appreciate the advice Ricky! Hold em accountable and cut em off if they continue to play mf games❤️

CONFIRMATION! It's called "shady/shade." You have to let folks know; you felt some type of way and you're calling them out on it. Hold them accountable for the words they speak. Ultimately, people know what they're saying and doing yet they try to deflect and wiggle their way outta the situation. Nah, I'm addressing it whether you like it or not. All boils down to RESPECT.🙂

And if you said it, be a woman or man to admit to the actions. Because you don't have to do anything for them. Yes I stay away from those kind of people. I cut them off entirely. No coming back .I smile, wave and keep it moving. You won't get another opportunity to try and steal my joy. That's on everything 💯

That part!!!! I Love it🔥

I sounds like it's a matter of accountability and about boundaries. Sometimes people you barely know expect you to behave in a way as you would with someone you have a history with. They see your comfortable with one person and expect that same kind of energy for no valid reason. It's a sign of the times we live in. Everyone moves so fast and skip steps that shouldn't be skipped in the name of instant gratification. You have to learn to protect yourself and be comfortable in doing so.

Yes l have had people to do that

I am not going to allow ,anyone to use me as their garbage receptacle. We will talk/speak correctly or not at all! 🤷🏾‍♀️✍🏾

Yo yo rickey smiley you is one of a kind laughing 😃 😀 😄 😁 and I completely understand what you are saying and they are out there

Rickey Smiley.! I see your point.. I love your Point… I just Call Uber or Catch Bus & or Trolley..! I keep my Bus Pass Fresh/ even though I Drive.. I still ride the Buses & Trolley’s because of Parking Down Town..Folk dont know not To Ask me For Rides Im Busy….😄

Yes you're right Ricky. Absolutely

Good morning great advice.

Thank you Rickey! This is really good advice for handling these kind of people. I know now how to deal with it.. I've had this happen to me a few to times and I let them walk all over me.. not anymore. That's like control. Thank you for sharing this advice and your wisdom. 🤗♥️♥️♥️♥️

Never let people play in your face 😈.

💯U are a grown A** REAL MAN! I love you for keeping it 💯.

It took me wayyy too long to learn this lesson in life! I was always the type to let it go and just shake my head. It NEVER got better...it got worse! People start thinking they can just do that to you all the time and say what they want to you. That "pecking order" crap happens the moment you meet people -- and it always starts out with a backhanded comment followed by, "...just kidding!".

Ok. So I'm not wrong for taking someone telling me not to comeback in their life literally. Not even one word and I stand on that!!! 10 years going. Now this person is asking for friend request from my best friend on FB.

Amen

Good talk 🖤

I don't let them try to talk fast to me I try to talk fast over them because they will do you that way

Good Morning Ricky you're sure right

I agree 💯

I like this.

I seen some people try to do me like that I ask what it was they said before they said something like yeah you can ride with me but the whole time I seen them acting funny to me

True! now, Mr. Rickey stop focusing on other people wants and start focusing on Your need and wants Peace Eating baby carrots while listening

Yes Rickey I almost got the holy ghost this morning. I do and then they say I'm arrogant. I don't let any grown person slide. 😘

I WANT TO TAKE THIS MOMENT AND SAY THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEOS IT HAS GIVEN ME THE COURAGE TO DEAL WITH MY CHILDREN MY FAMILY MY SO CALLED FRIENDS BUT MOST OF ALL MYSELF I AM DEVELOPING A NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH MY CHILDREN SOME ARE RESPECTFUL OF THE NEW RELATIONSHIP AND SOME ARE NOT THAT SAME PHRASE IS ALSO FOR FRIENDS FAMILY COWORKERS AND ALL OF THE ABOVE THOSE PEOPLE WHO DECIDED NOT TO RESPECT MY BOUNDARIES HAD TO GO BUT IT IS BECAUSE OF YOUR WORDS AND VIDEOS THAT I NOW HAVE THE COURAGE TO STAND MY GROUND AND SPEAK UP SO ONCE AGAIN I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU AND KEEP THE VIDEOS COMING I ALWAYS LEAVE WITH SOMETHING NEW TO THINK ABOUT

You're so right and I guess I get so angry not only do o address I cuss they ass out at the same time ion play anymore I use to let what ppl say slide not anymore then once I address it I cut them off

Hello from NY

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Good morning Ricky and you’re absolutely right.

How come yall don't see Kim Burrell as addressing things said to her. I've had church members say stuff to me, after they have spreaded the rumors and gossip, and literally had to address it across the pulpit so all involved could hear

Real talk 💪🏽🖤

That part

We call it slick talking…

Good morning, this is true and when I say something and it’s out of pocket I want it to be addressed, I don’t mind correction, I don’t normally say things that’s out of character but I’m a imperfect person , people make mistakes, not intentionally but it happens. I’m not one to manipulate words , but I’m a person that will speak my mind and say what I mean and mean what I say , I don’t like having to apologize for anything I’ve said JS.

Passive Aggressive is what that is.

I’m going to use this on my mom!

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Omg I had to do this at work because this person don't understand that i get tried of him waiting for me to get a ride don't understand no so i don't talk to him anymore

Good morning Rickey 😊. Great advice and you're so correct. It's 5:30am my time and I'm actually so thankful for sound advice first thing this morning 🌞. Have a blessed day 🙏😊 to you and to All.

Thank you so much for sharing this message. I needed to hear this. I had to deal with this past weekend with someone.🙏🏾

Fast talk, out talk , equals word salad. Signs of a narcissist.

Lol!!!!!! Rickey you telling the truth but its still hilarious! The look on your face! Lol !

That's why you're loved, I'm sorry I love you, Chris and Ms. Janie. Especially you and Ms. Janie I'm a senior citizen and oh my God sometimes I think is that how I act. 🤔 LMBO

Thank you Mr Smiley, really appreciate your videos, it helps a lot. You're are truly blessed

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Thank you pop Ricky. I start my life with you every day!!!

You are so right Mr. Smiley. Everytime you drop videos of Knowledge it's right on time. I call it conversations with Rickey. 💖

See I don’t play like that, if they say it they mean it, it’s not a joke or a metaphor or cliché. What most don’t understand is people speak without thinking and that slick shyt the say is meant. I stop em on key, I don’t allow them to fast or over talk what they say.. People are slick but I pay attention and listen for word for word…