If You Do Something Wrong To Someone 

Sounds like my relatives that's why I no longer deal with them.

Narcissists.

No, they gadlight you and somehow their actions become your fault.

Gaslighters

@Mike Nice That's my mother and it's sad because I want a relationship with her but she just keeps pushing me away.

Ricky I'm glad you apologize to that girl because when I was in high school I had a handicap and had to wear braces on my legs I was tease bully and wanted to stop going to high school back in the early'70s girls could not wear pants to high school it was either a dress or skirt and of course I had braces on both legs but I have family members and a few friends that supported me reminded me you have to wear these braces in order for you to be able to walk someday you will not need them but right now you have to wear them don't worry about these idiots but Ricky it's still bothering me today because none of those young men and ladies never apologize to me and I have seen a few of them in class reunion of course I'm married had children and move on but still those memories hurt

AMEN MIRACLES PEACE FAITH AND BLESSINGS 🙏🏾✝️🙏🏾

I so agree

Amen and amen same here everyday 🙏 🙌 ❤️ ♥️ Mr. Rickey Smiley ☺️ 😀 😊 blessings to you and your family 👪 ❤️ 🙏 💛 😊 💖 I love you so much ☺️ be blessed and nothing less and be blessed and safe 🙏 ❤️ 😊 💖

Amen and amen same here 🙏 🙌 ❤️ 👏

Me too, im good for staying in the house & keeping to myself... people always wondering why I dont want to go anywhere. Just dont be wanting to deal with people & their shit. I love being at home to myself. It makes me happy.

Same here.

@@Lolalee87 Me too! I think I am going to document my peace with being a homebody.

ME TOO! I haven’t had this much PEACE in my WHOLE LIFE! I spend most of my time in my house or my yard AWAY FROM ALL THE BS AND PHONINESS and I’M GOOD! Just like that church song “PEACE BE STILL.” Enjoy your summer and stay safe everyone.💕

@@TheJourneyofGeminiandNoble me and you both! I love it!

That's RIGHT ✅

Truth.

I did a revamping of my life and cut off all of my "friends" cold turkey, without any explanations. They have done andxsaid some insensitive and condescending things over the years that I should have checked them for a while back. But I didn't do that because I didn't want them to think that they hit a nerve with me, just in case that was there intent. But I realized that whether or not they intended to hurt me was not acceptable and I was exhausted from being in their company. Plus, I used to get a strong feeling that they would talk about me to their other friends. So I just went off the grid one day and haven't looked back. My niece is the only person I call a real friend now and I'm content with that. I feel like God was pushing me to go this route, so I listened.

Yes some ppl

Scripture tells us for man is w/o excuse, for GOD has given all a conscious. Food for thought.

I can relate to your story for sure.. I was bullied in Elementary School..I hated to go. 😥

Amen💜🙏🏾

Me too and I’m 31 years old and I still remember

I was picked on to, but I told my kids never ever be a bully. I thank God that my kids despise bullies.

Yes...it could be years down the line ... You're human and you don't forget how they made you feel.There was a movie like that.. called him Gordo the Weirdo..he made that guy and his family pay for how he was treated in school..

Amen God Bless u

Mrs. King you are so right. We need Prayer each & everyday of our lives. I recognize energy, if it's bad I stay away & remain away.

LESSON LEARNED 💖

Bingo! 🎯

Exactly how my uncle wife uppity attitude and always quoting the Bible ass self thinking she could say whatever she wanted to me when I finally stood up for myself and told her how I felt I stopped talking to her blocked her and everything don’t nobody got no damn time for that mess want to push out your crap onto people but don’t take your own advice my peace of mind is everything to me if I got to cut blood relatives off to maintain that I will

NAIL ON THE HEAD!

You said the truth

That true too that happened to me.

@@nancybreaux9684 this happened to me by a family.

I always say if people start acting funny towards you with out cause you have been the topic of discussion!

@@derrickstancil6821 Yep…and like Ricky said, I’m gettin the hell outta there. I’m not giving anybody an a opportunity to take their ish out on me. 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️💨

@Robyn…Yep weak, spineless, mindless cowards. They all stick together because they’re nothing by themselves.

Thank you!!! I forgive, but stay outta my face! I’ve apologized when I was wrong, but it was never reciprocated. People forget that they hurt you, but expect you to crawl up on a cross and crucify yourself if you hurt them…and some of them deserved it. I guess I made the mistake of ghosting them when I saw who they really were instead of calling them out, but now realize that was wisdom, cause like Ricky said, you never know what’s going through someone’s mind.

@@Naymichelle76 agreed people just think that if your the one that’s apologizing then they shouldn’t have to reciprocate it. When that’s a lie, because there’s been situations where I’ve apologized and received nothing back.

And if they refuse to make it right when you offer it let it go. You’ve done your part by trying to make it right

I know the feeling. I went through hell at a job I had years ago. I wanted to quit many times because the mess just continued year after year. But my mom would tell me that I'm going to give them the satisfaction that they want if I quit. So I stayed, thinking that my presence there was pissing them off because they wanted me to quit. Eventually, things came to a halt and I was fired for standing up for myself. The job was in Washington state and I hated the town anyway, so I had a good reason to move, which I did. However, I wish that I did quit and not stay as long as I did for my own mental sanity. But as karma would have it, those that made my job hell ended up getting fired and going through much worse than I did. So because of that experience and so many others similar to it that I've experienced, I learned that there was no need for revenge. Somehow God, the universe or whatever you name it, sends the same negative energy back to those that sent it to you.

Yeah but u cant quit every job

@@ceceprincess4758 Yeah, your right but people need to do what's best for them and not anyone else! I did what was best for me and my health, so you can say whatever you want!

Your comment is so true!!! It's too long for me to type everything regarding this matter, but my mom is the ultimate victim. If I bring up something that she did to really hurt me, she gets mad at me for bringing it up and says with an angry, disgusted sounding voice "You are just holding on to stuff from years ago. You need to let it go. I didn't do you anything. Get out of my face." Yet, she still whines about what my father, her former co-workers, siblings or neighbors did to hurt her from over 50 years ago when she talks to her friends. So it's like the pain others caused her matters and the pain she's caused me doesn't. I gave up trying to resolve these matters face to face with her and started writing a letter that includes everything that has not been resolved. I started it a few months ago and take time to sit with each thought I write, in order to edit it as needed. Also, this way, when I decide to give it to her, I won't go through the "I should've said this or that.", like what happens in the heat of the moment of most arguments we have. She can read it and I don't care what she thinks. It's about her seeing my pain written out and getting it off of my chest.

Toxic Narcissistic gaslighters. Way too many posing as Normal people. They ain't normal! They are incapable of accountability because they lack feelings and are sociopaths who only care for themselves and can't love they obsess.

@@moonsyoungestsun6550 Your not alone. My mom is the same way.

Im being bullied on the job and off the job called gang stalking

Same here 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️

Amen and amen same here 🙏 🙌 ❤️ 👏 ♥️ ☺️ 🙏

Ok pastor lol

Thank You for telling the whole truth. Love u

Hi Bob. I’m sorry you or anyone else has to experience that as an adult. Cassandra Mack has a lot of helpful resources available on RU-vid about the toxic work place.

@@Naymichelle76 These workplaces are detrimental for Black Folks, and their mental health.

So, sorry to hear that Bob! Contact your Union or Hunan Resources Dept! They should open a case on them and refer them to the EAP!! No one should disrespect you without your permission!!

Omg. Im going through that now being bullied at work and harrass.

Hell u can be pretty or just dress good or skinny and ppl can be jealous

You are so right

So many marriages would last longer too ❤️

I totally agree with you, make it right.

I agree. My mom is this type of person. She gets defensive, angry and starts telling me ""You're just an instigator. You always have to bring up old stuff. Let it go. You're ruining my day." Or she'll yell at me to get out of her face and then ignore me if I continue to try to resolve issues. Basically, she gets mad at me for trying to resolve things she's said or done to hurt me over the years. So she caused my pain but I'm supposed to just overlook everything and forget that it happened. Meanwhile, every chance she gets when talkingto her friends, she brings up all of the times that people have hurt her, including stuff my father did going back 50 + years ago, her former co-workers, siblings and neighbors. Now I'm in the process of writing her a long.........very long.........letter that addresses everything that she cuts me off mid sentence with, when I try to bring them up. I don't care if she gets angry when reading it (because she definitely will), as long as she can see, in detail, all that I've tried to get off of my chest with her.

I have not attended a class reunion either and don't plan on doing so for the rest of my life. A lot of them were condescending, judgemental and humiliated me just to appear to be superior to others. I don't care how small of an action or comment, I still remember how it made me feel and how they took pleasure from it. Now that time has passed, I guess many of them have forgotten (or pretend to have forgotten) what they did or said back then because they requested my friendship on FB and/or inboxed me nice messages like we are long lost friends. I rejected all of their requests and messages with joy in my heart. They can burn in hell for all I care.

They really are. U have to love no matter what. I realized no one is gonna be like you and how you feel

😂😂😂 I know that's right

Yes we have to become what we want and beware of our own behavior a mild answer turns away wrath

Yeah I've had people who never apologized to me but want to strike up a conversation with me.

Always Follow Your First Mind. Wish I Would Have.

@@sexyscorpio8087 Me too! Especially dealing with church folk. I forgive, but it’s hard to forget. Church hurt is very insidious because they are liars and so sneaky. They do things in a way that makes you question your sanity, but you know you’re right. I wish to God I followed my first mind and trusted myself.

No apology. Just stay away from me. If you are doing something me that you feel might be a reason to apologize to me for, dont do it. I dont accept apologies. Fk off!

U right. But u can still apologize to ppl and they still mad

@@ceceprincess4758 you’re right about what you’re saying, but if you apologize and they still mad , well then that’s on them, at least you tried and made an effort to make things right JS.

Agreed, it's damaging.

Not really. We grow and learn

agree

I'm sorry about your aunt but your comment made me laugh out loud, literally. I think it's because of how descriptive your anticipation of what might take place at the service is laid out. I have felt exactly like you for different scenarios. It's as if you are so fed up from the BS that you almost wish that somebody would try it, just so you can have a reason to get it off your chest.

@@moonsyoungestsun6550 Thank you. Just got back home from down there... Just got a text from a friend, of a pic of my deceased aunt and uncle on a tee shirt! They are really trying to provoke us! 😡

@@aliciarobinson4107 Well at least you made it home without having to go off on anybody. Whatever they have done, that they know would piss you off, will be taken care of via Karma. It always does.

Beautiful blessing to admit that u was a bullie that young lady now u have daughter an grands of ur own ppl will understand that when it knock on ur door

I go through this everyday!!!! The light in me exposes them

Exactly Pam! Tell me what I’ve done so I can apologize. That’s how you know you haven’t done anything wrong…they can’t even tell you what you did. They’re just hatin and miserable trying to find somebody to take their ish out on. Give ‘em the gift of goodbye 👋

@@Naymichelle76 absolutely and I was told that people are really not mad at me, they are really jealous of how people flock to me…..when I looked at it that way….I was like okay….I haven’t done anything to them personally…I just bounced back real quick fro how they tried to destroy me and my character!

@@pamelajohnson4709 Continue to let your light shine!!!! 🌟🙏🏾

Absolutely