Homemaking Practices to Start TODAY! 

Keep doing small things around your house bcus it is rewarding as you said!👍

You are spending money on yourself when you invest in your home 🙂 I went through the same thing--from buying myself things like perfume and shoes to replacing the blinds that annoy me, getting curtains, a new doormat--whatever. It feels good to come home and enjoy a space that you have cultivated.

Embrace homemaking at your own pace!!

Exactly

schmeichelkatze My mum doesn’t let me cook at all. I’m 17, I live with my mum (single mom) and I also work. I buy my own groceries because my mum isn’t really healthy (my mom just throws frozen chips and nuggets at me). She doesn’t allow me to cook anything, (my own healthy meals etc.) and whenever I do, she get extremely mad and then shuns me out. if my sister enjoys what I cooked, my mom gets angry at both of us and shuns us both out. My mum works all night so she comes home at 7 am and sleep until 12 in the afternoon. So she isn’t able to cook during that time of day. I ask to cook for myself during that time of day but she still says no and gets angry - and then tells me to just have bread and butter or frozen chips. She threatened to kick me out because I argued that I don’t understand why I’m not allowed to cook my own meals since she **my mom** can’t do it. Am I supposed to starve? We live in a council flat in the UK so I understand if it gets crowded in the kitchen as it’s really small, but no ones ever in the kitchen. I’d also like to cook my own meals because my mum is very unhealthy and I don’t want to go down the same route. I look at my mum and all she eats is processed foods, cereals (for breakfast, lunch and dinner) or store-bought sliced bread and butter. She’s suffering several diet related issues because of her health and yet my mum is still trying to push that diet onto me even though she knows how damaging it is. Somebody please help and give me some advice, I can’t move out because I’m still in education (sixth form) and my sixth form has a policy about students who live on their own (it’s not allowed because to live on your own you’d have to work full time and working full time in sixth form is nor allowed or possible)

Natural Body and skincare hey just read ur comment. My mother was exactly the same. She is very Controlling and I guess that’s why she didn’t want me to cook. She probably doesn’t like the „competition“ I suppose. Do you have your own room? Maybe you can buy yourself some cooking appliances that you can store in your room. Like a mini stove, a pot and pan. You can easily hide it under your bed for example. And Cook when she is asleep. If the smell might bother her just light some candles that smell very intense 😊 i Hope i could help U

Natural Body and skincare I would suggest starting out by cooking simple dishes after she’s gone to work. Something like spaghetti and sauce can be filling, nutritious and easy to make. Make enough for a couple of meals. Then leave her a note saying her dinner/breakfast is in the fridge and just needs reheating. But don’t leave a mess in the kitchen. If you’re going to cook, do the dishes afterwards as well. Get your sister to help if she can reach the sink. It’s possible that she doesn’t want to teach you to cook because then, on top of having just worked all night she then has to do the cleaning up. Maybe if you can prove that you can help with the cooking and cleaning she won’t be so upset about it. Then maybe you can start working together on meal planning. I don’t know you or your schedule, but spending time watching tutorials about cooking and cleaning will give you a good start, as does watching this video. I grew up with a single mother, and 2 brothers. But we were expected to help out. My brothers did the lawn mowing and firewood cutting and stacking, and I was expected to help with the cooking and cleaning from a young age. I have memories of helping cook pancakes and eggs and washing dishes at 5 years old. Needless to say, my upbringing was quite different. But, I find it hard to believe that she doesn’t want help, but, I think she might not want more “work”, as in having to tidy up after your experiment. I hope I've said something that will help. I don’t want to say anything offensive or off putting. It’s obvious that you’re reaching out for help, and this is just an idea. A possible jumping off point. But I feel like this is another example of why Home Economic's needs to be brought back to schools.

I'm sorry your Mum isn't being supportive of you. She sounds quite narcissistic and childish to me. If you can find a way to make her think it's a benefit to her for you to cook she might accept it. You do have a right to eat healthy food and stand up for yourself. In the meantime eat well outside of home as much as you can (at lunch in school, at weekends), at breakfast and snack on healthy fruit and veg (no cooking :). Make a plan to well in school and you can find your own place soon.

@@naturalbodyandskincare9965 My mother didn't let me cook because she constantly feared me burning myself. I burnt my hand very badly on an electric fire when I was a baby and had a lot of operations for skin grafting. She wouldn't let me cook at all! My brother tried to teach me when my mother was out but my mother's fear was imbedded in me with her fears projected onto me. One time I tried cooking chips as I was hungry and nobody was home ( I was 13 at the time) I nearly burned the house down because the chip pan caught fire! When I got older I lacked the confidence to try cooking. I got a lot of criticism for my cooking, it was bland, burnt ect. I resorted to the pre made stuff like microwave meals and eating badly. My current partner is helping me learn to cook and boosting my confidence to try new things without burning anything! Your mum may feel like she's not doing her motherly duty if she doesn't cook. Sometimes when mums get into a routine of doing something and then that routine is thrown off track by someone else it's hard to adjust, especially when a mum is so used to taking care of the family. Some mums are so proud that they refuse help from anyone. Try to say to your mum, "Mum, I love you. You work so hard every day to take care of me and my sister, please let us show our appreciation for you by taking care of you once in a while. We love you so much we don't want anything bad happening to you due to your health." You could even point out that by feeding you and your sister the same unhealthy diet that she would be subjecting you and your sister to the same health issues as your mum already has. Try your conversation on Mothers day. She might be more receptive to listening to you.

That’s so cool! I’m sure your food is delicious :) Me too! Once I stopped consuming a ton of salt my cellulite faded as well! Still got some, but hey, who doesn’t!? 😘🤣🙏🏼

Mrs Midwest 🥰

Eastern European women definitely know how to be amazing homemakers 😉 they definitely understand the importance of being hospitable and making everything from scratch. I was so amazed !

The Birch Tree well... I would not generalize 😉 Just like women around the word Eastern Europeans have different approach to life style, values, believes. Some girls are wonderful homemakers and some are carrier oriented professionals. But, it is true that the majority are raised in family and home oriented tradition 😊

Alina Ivanchenko even those who are more focused on career know how to cook and run the household, that’s what’s so amazing. I think it’s a great thing.

Yes! I agree. I would LOVE a guarding tour. I love gardening, it's creative, active, productive, therapeutic, a money maker (lol) and most of all, FUN!

Yeah I'm a guy but I'd watch the hell out of that. I like plants and that type of stuff. My grandparents owned farm land. I'd do with my grandmother when I'd vist.

@@animenerd453 YESS that's amazing

@@lzsutw Thanks. I appreciate it. It's funny I joke with my friends that I used to be a farmer in a past life.

Yes

Yes please, I'd love to see that!

I was going to make this request as well!!! 🥰 would love to watch a few different recipes to get inspiration and ideas! 🙏

Лидия Мигун omg yesss I would love that!!

Camila Negron same girly

Same!

Me too! I’m 16 :)

Same!

PS: could you please consider doing a video about recipes you make or even bread recipes?! Or maybe even quick and easy hostessing tips you have for unexpected guests? ☺️

Ikr !

They’ve been singing your praises over here too! Thank you for watching and subscribing!! I love your energy and thoughts! 💓😌

Jennifer I watched this and thought "Jennifer would like her!" :)

I told my man I wanted to have a family and be a stay-at-home-mom someday the first few days into dating. We are still together. I would say don't be afraid of sharing your heartfelt dreams because the right man will respect and even appreciate you for that 👍🏻

Being honest is the surest way to not waste time or become heartbroken in this. I am the opposite of you and when I was dating it was imperative that my partner did not want children and would be accepting of my career. For you I would be up front in saying that you would like to raise a family and that your values are aligned with a mother being in the child's life full-time. Be clear that your goal isnt to strip (future husband) of his worth, but to add value and stability from the home. If your potential partner does not agree then you would not be a great match anyway.

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me i agree

My husband says that food is love language for him.

You are everywhere

LalitaLoves I feel the same about working outside my home, which I did for years.

I agree! I grow a lot of our veg, herbs and fruit.

I washed my hair right before recording 🤣 thank you!! Xoxo

I would also really like to find some podcasts about things like that. I only recently discovered podcasts, so any ideas would help. Thanks!